Well , I would have a test done to make sure the baby is his . U just never know
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If you supposedly love this man SO deeply, why wouldn’t you stay?!
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Girl wait for a DNA test then Repost this 
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Hello the time frame is 5 months… omg
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Ewwww nothing worse than a side dish who had something to say LIKE IT MATTERS. OK MASHED POTATOES
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So you don’t want himm to have kids by another person but you have kids by another person? If having to share him with another child other than your own two children is too much for you then by all means leave because children don’t deserve somebody that’s not going to be there for them whole-heartedly (and by what you’ve said I feel like that’s going to be a problem for you) but if you love this man the way you say you do then you will accept him and his child because they are now a package deal
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Yeah! Continue to love and support him.
This is messy idk what to say
Maybe he should leave you for having kids before him🙄
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Well apparently y’all haven’t been together that long for u to be this obsessive… just my thought and yea u should prolly leave right after your sure that’s his baby !!! Cause you seem to be having an issue now and just wait till his FIRST child is born your gonna feel like he treats yours diff and all kinds of things !!
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I think he has fed you a line of bull. Who told you she couldn’t get pregnant? Him? If he was so unhappy why hasn’t he left her before? You came along and saved the day because he was unhappy. Baloney.
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Sounds like you where a homewrecker, and are mad because karma came back. Get over it, what is done is done. Acting self centered like you seem like you are is just childish. How do you think his ex feels. smh you only been together for a few months of course everything is so great.
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Get a paternity test. It may not even be his baby. You’ve got the man and there is nothing you can do to change things. Look ahead 5 or 10 years. Who had the first baby will not matter any more.
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The drama this will bring is not worth it.
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Don’t wait for DNA test if he admits it his he was cheating on you long before you even found out that he got some other chick pregnant. Just leave. You’re not about to stress your beauty. Hahahaha! Say thank you to the girl, he’s now her responsibility. Lmao 
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You wanted to have a baby with him more than life itself ?? slap yourself for saying that ! girl you have two kids give them meaning to your life as well besides you were the sancha he left his ex wife probably because he got caught and got kicked out by her she probably took over business and house as well afterwards no man is gonna leave all that for a tiny apartment wake up and smell the roses and if things didn’t go down like that and he actually left everything for you you’re still the selfish and immature one its ok for him to get in a relationship with someone with two kids but you can’t handle him when he got someone prego before you wow 
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He bought a house and had a business with her…left her and approximately 5 months in he’s moved in with you and you guys are madly in love?? You seem very young and naive and I think you need to sit back and look at the situation. It seems like your getting played and if he was so unhappy he wouldn’t have had a house a business and been having sex with her. I bet they had a big fight probably about you and he’s going to go back to his family. Sorry hun but this isn’t like he stepped out on you once and got a girl pregnant they have clear history
I’m curious how old you are because you sound like a teenager! Either way, I think you’ve got a bit of growing up to do. Good luck!!! Oh and remember that your 2 children should be your priority, not someone you’ve known for less than 5 months!
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You haven’t known him that long if she is 5 months gone. He has fed you a load of bs and excuses and you have fallen for it. Stop blaming her. You sound very immature.
My thought. First make sure he is actually the father of this other baby. I would get him to ask for paternity results. Then if it is his, be there to support him durrr.
“He gave up his business, house, etc for me” nah he got caught and booted by his woman.
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He didn’t love her but owned a home & business together … yeah honey it’s not adding up.
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If he left her for you…in a few months when she has that baby dont be shocked if he leaves you for her or for whatever shiny new thing walks his way. I’m sure she will come around near the end of the pregnancy and she will call him for what she needs and you would have to be ok with that. Just seems messy but thats just me. So many other more available men out there.
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Shes just a jealous hypocrite. Wow. I cant believe people think like this…shes the town bike askin him to raise somebody else’s kids but Is upset he has his own kid? This wouldnt have happened if she’d left the other lady’s man alone. Sorry chick but your mans on lone, you stole him and are now afraid you wont be able to keep him.
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So he was with her when y’all got together and he left her to be with you??? What is that old saying…how you get them is how you lose them. SMH.
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A baby does not better a relationship, if he wants to be involved then let him. Believe me I been in those shoes before but I would go for a paternity test also just to be sure
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5 months is a while and your madly inlove with him and want to have his baby 
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Experience speaks. And if his ex is bitter and hates you more than anything I’m telling you now save yourself years and years of stress and leave, and for God sakes don’t have children with this man because she will do everything she can to ruin EVERYTHING every single time. Please lady. I repeat. Run. Blended families just don’t work anymore sadly. The ex runs your life 165%, and courts let it happen, the only child allowed to do anything, or have anything is the child going thru the system no one else matters to them or exist. For real. Run 
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Wow , ya lost me at your justification of him leaving someone else for you lmao I can’t even continue this charade.
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At first she made it sound like this first women was just some random hook-up he wasn’t in to. Then as I read further I see he left her the house and a business. That means he was apparently in a long term committed relationship with this woman, going through a rough patch, was a coward and cheated with you.
Proceed with CAUTION here. I’m not going to judge your role here, but he’s certainly a red flag. There’s a very high probability that when this baby comes he & his wife (ex wife?) will work things out.
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I wouldn’t be able to do it 
I mean let’s be real you haven’t been together for awhile it’s been best 5 months…… if it was me I’d stick with him and help him during this chapter in his life because you “love” him right. This happened before you guys got together. You can’t get mad at his past… but if you know you can’t deal with the situation then just leave and move on with your life
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You sound very immature. I’m not trying to sound rude but considering you have 2 kids with a deadbeat… Falling “insanely in love” in less than 5 months is foolish. Then your more upset your not the one having his baby… Girl, get your priorities straight. There is more to worry about than who is giving him his first baby in this situation. Please, grow up for your kids sake
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Yeah no 
you sound like you’re very young. Don’t have a baby with someone after 5 months. You aren’t madly in love its infatuation which doesn’t last.
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5 months pregnant and yall been together for 5months hmmmmm
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This is just wild and selfish you cant get in between a relationship like that and think you will have a good outcome. Men lie about things just to keep the best of both worlds. Ill even say hes know the whole time hes gonna be a father. And instead of wanting to bring yet another child into your mess take care of the two you already have what about them!
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Your going to have negative feelings and jealously towards that child after it arrives.
Do yourself and that baby a favor and leave now.
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My God, some people have no common sense.
If he’ll cheat with you, he’ll cheat on you. Guard yourself & your children’s hearts & leave before he can do damage
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You having children with someone before him obviously isn’t a deal breaker. So, why is it for you? Shouldn’t you give his child the same unconditional love he gives yours. It would be different if he cheated on you. Or is this just one sided. Just some things to think about…
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I believe you should stay support him if he is this good to you to question leaving him is a little odd especially since he gave up everything for you he didn’t know she was pregnant when he left for you to question leaving him when he now needs your support but I understand wanting a baby with him but it doesn’t mean that won’t happen with you this will make your bond with him even stronger it will take work and effort from both of you but it can happen
First rule of relationships if he will leave someone else for you it’ll happen to you later on in the relationship doesn’t matter if the man was miserable or not you should have waited till the man was single. I feel like you being upset over him having a baby with someone else is a bit childish. It would be a little different if he cheated on you and got someone pregnant but that’s not the case here… if you decide to be with him don’t through this kid in his face when your mad.
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You have a lot of growing up to do.
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Funny that you are asking random FB people for permission to do what you want to do. I suggest seeing a professional for counseling.
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You haven’t been "together for awhile " if he got her pregnant 5 months ago. And if he really broke up with her he would not be present for medical apps or the birthing or be so excited about it… Her mother or best friend can be with her. He still belongs to her apparently.
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You didn’t have your first baby with him so what is the big deal.
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Umm pump the break pedals a little and slow the fu*k down! You barely know this guy and he got someone pregnant right before you two started dating? Sounds sus.
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How can you say your madly in love with someone and be so selfish? You said yourself he was there for you and supported you. Now he needs you and you don’t know if you can be there for him? He’s helped.you with your kids but you don’t want to help him with his? Sounds like you would be doing him a favor by leaving him alone.
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You sound like me a few years ago. Biggest mistake of my life btw! Same story except the ex wife wasn’t pregnant but they had a child together. No. Just no but you can’t be told that when you are in love or think you are anyways. You will have to live and learn. No one can really tell you. The being in love blinds you. Good luck!
Ridiculous …you just gave a detailed explanation of how much you love this man, how he has changed your life, etc, etc, but then conclude with the question of whether you should stay with him because you wont be the one to have the first baby with him…what would you do if he was holding the same standard for you? .
Stop…get a grip…love is hard to find, but once you find it, never let it go…
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So it’s okay for you to have Cg already with someone else, but not him!? Y’all need therapy. How can you love a man who you’ve known for 5 months or less… SOOO deeply…. Someone sounds off their rocker
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He was in a relationship with someone else and ditched her for you? People don’t change… what comes around goes around… he’ll eventually do the same to you regardless…5 months is absolutely not enough time to even know someone. Karma
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I can’t get past the “ we’ve been together awhile now” “ we have an insanely deep connection “ and it’s been like …5 months . I’m sorry , you’re in lust not love . Move the hell on .
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If you truly loved him then you’d be there for him and support him. You should want him to be apart of his baby’s life and where you have children of your own why would it even be a deal breaker?!
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You need to grow the fuck up, and this is coming from a 22 year old. You’re being selfish as fuck and and right PETTY. You haven’t been together for awhile if this woman is only five months
Slow down and give your head a shake
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No judgement but I didn’t fall in love with my husband until at least a year into our relationship (been together 5 years married for 1 coming up). You may be experiencing “lust” not “love”.
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It’s only been 5 months. You didn’t have your 1st child with him. I don’t get why your so worked up here. You sound very immature.
Why are you asking if you should stay with him?? If you are so I’m line with him, how is that even a question?
He owned a home and a business with another women and left her for you? He sounds sketchy as fuck!!! Homewrecking vibes here.
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Sad. You didn’t have your first kids with him…thats his baby…if you 2 were not together at the time…why would you even be asking that…let the man step up and take care of his child, and obviously yours too.
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You had 2 children with someone else before him soooo. Stop being soo self centered and support the man you love soo much. Is he not there gor your children. Be there for his. Vise versa. 50 / 50. Good luck
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I feel like 90% of these “questions” can be answered with “GET TO THERAPY ASAP”
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He gave up his home and business to move into your tiny apartment? Sis he didn’t give it up, baby mama took that shit back from a cheater. And here you are just loving on all the red flags in the world. Ma’am you have a man you barely know living with your children!!! Why are you trying to become the next Lifetime movie?!!
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5 months is not a while. That’s a very short time to be putting all your eggs in 1 basket. You have kids by another man so you cannot point fingers. He probably wishes he was your first. That’s life . He’s been supportive of you so return the favor if you really love him.
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You’re questioning a new relationship because he got a girl pregnant before you got with him, and want his first child to be from you, while you have children from a previous relationship??? Sounds kinda selfish to me, maybe HE should run!!
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If it’s before you got together, and you love him, give it a go!! Don’t punish him for his past, you wouldn’t want him to.
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If you actually love him this wouldn’t even be a post let alone a question in your mind. You’d be excited to get another baby to love on when he or she is with their dad. People are astounding honestly.
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You said you been together for a while but she’s 5 months pregnant. So you guys have only been together 5 months or did he cheat and you didn’t make that clear? Cuz 5 months isn’t a “a while”. You honestly sound like a psycho. Sorry for being so blunt but you sound like an obsessed teen.
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This reminds me of the Netflix show Vigin River 
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My only question is why is it ok for you to have had 2 kids before you met him, and he takes care of them without a second thought, but you can’t wrap your head around him having one with someone else because you want to be the only one having his kid? He had a life before you, and you say he chose you and you are so in love with him, either you are all in or not at all. You don’t get to pick and choose what you want about him, he is clearly not doing that with you. If you choose to leave over a baby he knew nothing about till now, and wants to be apart of that child’s life, that’s on you. That shows you don’t have a deep connection and you are not as in love as you say you are. You don’t run just because you are not the only one having his kid.
He didn’t know and he is doing the right thing, you should be backing him 100% and being proud of the man he is! You should just help him thru it and love that baby as much as he loves yours, it’s not a 1 way street! If you can’t do that then you should leave for his sake not yours, he will have enough to deal with, and won’t need your poor pity me I didn’t get to have your first kid on top of it! Blended families can be awesome, but both parents need to be involved. That baby is coming weather you like it or not, so either grow up and get ready for it, and love it like he loves yours, or get out of the way and let him go be a dad!
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Being that he left her for you I’m assuming he was cheating on her with you. That is not a man of integrity.
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Sounds like he might have commitment issues,good luck
Why is everyone so focused on the 5 months? I was with my fiance for 2 weeks and I was in love with him 9 years strong next week. 
just because it didn’t happen that way for you doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen for others .
Itll take a bit to get over the first baby thing, but he’s accepted your babies as his, and if he wants to be with you and be a father to the baby, Stand by his choice, support him.
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Red flag: the Facebook post
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Is he sure she’s really pregnant? Women lie about that just to try and trap a guy or get him to come back home to her. So, if I was him, I’d make sure she’s really pregnant and then make sure it’s his baby.
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I’d say stay with him if you truly love him like you say. You’ll love that child just the same as yours at some point, tho it may take a while for you to be okay with the fact that his first baby isn’t yours. But please for the love of God become friends with the other girl or at least someone you can be around and communicate with so you can coparent in a way that’s good and healthy for the baby. Don’t punish them and the baby for their past. He doesn’t punish your kids for having a different dad. He loves and cares for them
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Yooooooo 5 months lmfao I was thinking at least a couple years. 
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Sounds like your in a good place with him, I would try to work through it. And give it a shot
I didnt even get halfway through this post. honestly u sound crazy obsessed with guy and jealous of the other girl. U have 2 by another guy hes taken under as his own. That’s a little hypocritical dont u think? U can’t want 2 leave him just because hes going 2 step up for his own kid if hes willing 2 stay with u and still take care of the others. hes more of a man than most. Ur going 2 let what sounds like a great guy go over nothing. He will have some attachment 2 the ex now for life but if he isn’t at all interested in anything other than the kid u shouldn’t have anything 2 worry about and trust ur partner.
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I know you have to think about your kids first, personally if I really loved him I wouldn’t care because the situation is out of his control. I think it’s wonderful that he actually wants to be there for the baby, that’s a lot more than you can get out of some people. 
I’m getting strong 
home wrecker vibes he left his business home everything for you and you can’t get over the fact that he has a kid on the way from another woman when you swooped in sounds like stole him and now your upset ? You got two kids from a previous relationship… Idk I’d like to hear her side lol sounds like a soap opera. Normally more sympathetic but I’ve been in this type of situation before and I wasn’t the home wrecker
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From the sound of the post he was cheating on his wife with the op before he moved in. So probably more than 5 months, I doubt they met by chance and he immediately moved in. So what kind of man cheats on his wife, while still being intimate with her AND carrying on a serious relationship with another woman? This is a toxic situation from the get go. She has no business judging the ex wife or even the man because she’s just as dirty as he is in this. I feel bad for all 3 kids involved because this is going to be a hot mess. The op needs to accept the baby or leave because I speak from experience (my dad cheated on my mom) she’ll have anger towards that new baby.
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If you love him support him as hard as it may be!
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Well if you guys love each other like you say you do then you have nothing to worry about. Leaving him because he got another girl pregnant before you two met would be like him leaving you because you have two kids. Trust will be the main thing to focus on as you go through this together. Yeah and make he gets a paternity test as well.
You have an amazing deep connection and he even takes care of your kids, lol, but he was banging the last girl FIVE months ago, grow up and act like an adult for your children’s sake, you sound like a teenager in a love triangle that moved in on their relationship in less than five months you don’t even know that man yet, just the bullshit front he wants to impress you with.
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if you love him stay with him, nothing else should matter. it’ll be hard but if you actually love him and want to spend your life with him then why would you end it? you have kids from another man and he sticks by your side so now you need to do the same for him
If he doesn’t care you have kids from someone else. Why do you care?
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I say if you two want to be together then work through it. It’s not really much different than if he had a newborn when u got together. Definitely get a paternity test before he signs anything accepting him as the father. Also, your first child isn’t his first child…i know it hurts that you aren’t the one giving him his first but like i said, it’s no different than if he had children when you got together.
If he got another woman pregnant before he got into a relationship with you, then stay with him if you two truly love each other. I don’t even know why you’re questioning it.
It takes a village. Personally I believe the more people that love a child the better off that child is. If you can love this child and not resent him or her then by all means work through it. But if you can’t get out now.
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Can of worms ,maybe she isn’t the only one I would cut and run ,sounds gullible to me
I say your out of touch with what’s really going on. That’s my 2 cents
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The bond of a person and their child is unbreakable. But that branch can bend. So love him until he fucks up. Then don’t look back.
U should stay and work things won’t maybe u 2 try counseling. He had helped u with 2 kidd that’s not his and that says alot about him. He sounds like a great man. I hope things work out for yall
Don’t be that desperate, leave the guy🤷🏻♀️ your kids need for you to make better choices
#2 becomes #1 do you think their wont be another?? And what number was she??
No judgements, just saying, If he loves you the way, you love him, do you not think he would wish, deep down, you were the first to have his baby?
You are a package deal. Your children need their Mother to teach them, how to enjoy being a child, how to enjoy and learn to be a person, let alone a young woman. Which means, unfortunately, you need to teach then, ‘do as I say, not as I do’ as much as you love and trust this man, you hardly know him, and he has full access to your children.
I know you realize there are all kinds of men, and women, that prey on the vulnerability of others. They know you, a single parent, or a vulnerable, unhappy spouse. The do and say exactly what you want to hear. They know a person, much like you, will look after them, cook for them, after the first year, they get tired not so much as you, but of the daily routine, they start looking elsewhere, for the next crush. The next rush. I hope you really know this man.
If his ex is five months pregnant, that must mean, you have been with this man only four months. Or, we’re you dating him , while he was still with his wife.
What do you call ‘with him for some time?’ If you have known him less than a year you are in what is called, ‘the honey moon phase’, of a relationship.
Is this a real question? You have kids that are from a relationship prior to him, so how is that different from his situation? He wasn’t with you when he got her pregnant. He wants to step up to be a dad to his biological child, as well as your children that you had with another man. What is there to question. A lot of men don’t want anything to do with their kids or the someone else’s, so he sounds like a catch to me.
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This whole situation sounds like the Netflex series “VIRGIN RIVER” I would get a paternity test to make sure that baby is his. I don’t think you two have been together to really know each other.Sounds more like lust to me.Good Luck, hope the outcome is in your favor, because you sound so in love with this man.
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5 MONTHS. So yall have been together less than that. Grow up. You’re still in the infatuation stage of a relationship. If I was him, I would leave you. You have an unhealthy infatuation and YOU are throwing up red flags. Someone needs to warn him before it is too late… in my opinion. You are already jealous over things that haven’t even happened yet. Plus, you want him to be there and support you and your kids, but not his own!? Narcissistic behavior.
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of ur questioning the situation but he gave up everything n accepted u… cut him loose … u dont deserve it
Wooooow!! I see 
!! HE needs to run like hello! 
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