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Me personally I wouldn’t be okay with it
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Is it your fantasy too? If not then no way… would your hubby be down with completing your fantasy?
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i can promise you that once you see you husband touch or kiss another woman it will never leave your mind,dont get me wrong ,to each is own, buti get the sence that it wouldnt be good for you
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If you decide to go ahead. Get a professional sex worker… Of the gender that you want.
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That will destroy your marriage. You never bring another party into your marriage bed, don’t do it because you WILL regret it
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Husband and i did it but with another man. 10/10 would recommend. We found him on a dating app
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Trust me. Dont do it. It will ruin the relationship.
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Tell him you want a foursome so there’s another man AND a woman, then watch his reaction. If he gets jealous, most likely the “fantasy” was for him and not the both of you. That’s just my opinion personally.
Spicing up your sex life is always brilliant, but I know 3-4 ladies who’s agreed to a threesome, and instantly regret it because their spouse wanted to continue a relationship with the woman or seen it as a gate way for infidelity
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My ex left me for the girl… but honestly was a blessing because I married my husband.
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Alot of trust and communication needed. Also remember that love and sex in a committed relationship is very different than just sex for sex sake
No matter what the intention behind the act is… To please him… To please you… To fulfill a fantasy… Doesn’t matter the intention… You will always have it in the back of your mind that another woman knows what your man looks like without his clothes… Has touched him in places that were only meant for you… Has smelled his naked skin… And has felt him inside of her.
It will damage you in ways you didn’t realize… Way beyond jealousy. It will make you question every motive… Every action… It will make you want to go through his phone… It will make a coincidental meeting in a grocery store feel like you’re being deceived. It will make you question everything… And that will cause mistrust. Even the best of intentions sometimes has the worst possible outcomes. And then… You’ll have regret to live with… On top of ALL of that.
I have dated men, women, and couples. I have also been in a relationship with a man and invited a woman to join us. I’m not uptight… By any sense of the imagination. But here’s the absolute truth… If you love this man and you’re secure in the fact that he’s yours… Tie him to the bed and never let him leave… Because after… You will realize he’s not just yours anymore. And of course people have lives before they meet their husbands or wives… But after you’ve had him and you’ve both committed yourselves to each other… There’s security in knowing that he’s yours. And when you realize you gave away some of the most valuable parts of your relationship… You will ache with regret.
But… There’s a whole lot of fun to be had if he’s just a good time for now.
That’s my my experience… And my opinion. Make good choices.
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Considering that a relative of mine was in a 3 way marriage, not once but twice and tried to be in a long term relationship but it didn’t work out because they always wanted more even after 12 years. Always, cheating, trust issues. But, that’s not everyone… just telling of an outsiders view
If you are not 100% comfortable with the idea, don’t do it. It has to be something you are completely secure about, or it could cause a lot of damage.
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That is a person preference. It won’t ruin your relationship if there are clear boundaries in place. But before you commit to it, have all the conversations that you need to with your husband.
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Escort would be your best bet hun x
Ya .tell him a threesome will be fine… but the third person is going to be a guy.( I’m assuming he wants another girl involved)
Bet he backs down.
Personally I wouldn’t do it…I’ve literally never heard a threesome story that ended well.
Goodluck to you!
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My advise is a big no
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I’m a jealous person. I wouldn’t be able to get the thought process of him and another women looking at eachother and being intimate like that. What’s his thoughts on maybe trying it with another guy?
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I am very jealous person and one night I got drunk as crap I am NOT a drinker so I was gone two shades two the wind lol. BUT my friend was over and ended up all three in the shower some how but I’m legit traumatized that another woman touched “no sex” my man I remember bits and pieces. It’s been almost 10 years and still can’t get it out my head. I felt like I wasn’t enough and not good enough and still do. From what I have seen “in my head” once they get the tease of fresh they don’t come back
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Set rules so there is no surprises and make sure both of you talk it out. There is always a risk I feel but at the end of the day, if you trust each other and follow the rules, hopefully makes your relationship even better and stronger. If your not comfortable with it, tell him that. You have to be open with each other.
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Tell him you will but with a 2nd man and not another woman 
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I wouldn’t- and what would he ask for next
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Sounds fun yes but really think about the logistics of it and what would you do if you felt like in the moment he wasn’t giving you enough attention? Or like he was more interested in the other girl? If you say you’re a very jealous person it’s not the right thing to do. Maybe just start by making out with someone new don’t go straight for sex and see how you both feel. It’s a very dangerous and tedious situation when doing something like this IMO. 
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Never share a person you love… The relationship will never be the same!! Been there done that… Divorced within 5 years due to infidelity on both ends!
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Never let another woman in your bed willing nope not a great idea
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That’s some very shaky ground. Fulfilled my ex boyfriends fantasy for his birthday years back with a friend at the time that made it very clear my man was not her type but I was as she was attracted to me physically she always said…
Guess who was broken up with 6 mts later only to find out who his new gf was? Yeah you guessed it. Good luck with alla that. 
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I have had a few friends that a threescore ruined their marriage think hard before you act
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You have to have great trust between ya.
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If you have doubts you already know your answer
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Go to the Savage love archives… Dan Savage addresses this very topic!
I brought up the idea to my hubby and he suggested another girl but he doesn’t wanna be in it he just wants to watch 
(i like both men and women) so im okay with this but i would’ve been okay if he had wanted to join i will just say make sure both know your limits!!!
Honestly that’s exactly how I was asked to partake in a threesome with my friend and her husband. I had declined but at that point we hardly knew each other.
Fantasies are exactly that a fantasy and should remain in your head. It’s like having a theory and trying to put it into practise , sometimes or most it don’t work!!! I think the person who had the fantasy also have a hidden agenda!!
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I’m a jealous person too and there is no way I could do it
Bad idea, I did do this with my ex husband and it killed the relationship, like your yourself I am a jealous person also and after it we were not the same at all.
He wanted more and more and I became very insecure x
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Sometimes I get the feeling I should do meth, but then I think… better not… some ideas are not worth it
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Tell him which one of his buddies you had in mind and see if he still wants a threesome
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I think there is an app for that
You sound like you’re trying to convince yourself- and trying to make it work for him ! Why ? Your husband can’t be too amazing to not pick up on your insecurities of this idea ! Your trying too hard ! Don’t do it - and then to blame it on liquid courage - I hope you both have a better connection than liquid courage. Not a good start and ending !stop trying to please your husband and have him please you ! Wow ! Is this really how marriages work now ! Your husband isn’t amazing !
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It feels like the purpose of this post is to find your third person while playing innocent.
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Personally i couldn’t do it… My partner is for me, nobody else
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If he’s the one suggesting the threesome Beloved I assure you it’s NOT about you, in spite of what he’s saying.
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I have a good friend that loves threesomes and her and her partner would meet girls off dating sites like meet for drinks than if they got along they would get it on and than never see them again unless they all chose to really comes down to what ur comfortable with u would have to be really into it for it not to be an issue and discuss each other’s boundaries and what each is comfortable with
We’ve talked about it, but I know my jealousy would get the better of me. It’s fun for in the moment dirty talk, but I don’t see it happening.
Don’t do it! If you’re jealous then it’s going to eat you alive every damn day with wandering thoughts each time your husband leaves home. Save yourself the heartache.
Never shared my partner. But my best friend shared hers while focus was on her.
Depends if you want to stay married or not .sounds like someone dosent respect or want to uphold to the marriage vows “to keep only to each other” if you do, your marriage will start to crumble just remember that.
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How can you watch ur husband pork someone else 
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I’m assuming he wants another women…ask him how he would feel if its another man then let us know just saying your feelings are involved to and people are crazy I just couldn’t do it cus people are weirdos these days
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First of all, why is everyone assuming that it’s a female? And second of all, why when having a 3sum you have to fuck the other person?? You know you can have fun other ways…? It’s called trust and communication lol won’t ruin your marriage unless you do shit your uncomfortable with… which why would you?
If unsure don’t do it it’s bad for the relationship and feali g and trust
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No no no! When married/having a Family with kids you Dont do things like this.
Experimenting should be Done before marrying and especcially before having kids. Thats My opinion.
I would never ever take a risk that can destroy My family.
My husband is Maybe one of few who would nog want something like this & also has that same opinion. You van destroy zo much with this
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The way I see it, if he said the focus being entirely on you… he wants to do a MMF three-way…
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NOPE not for me one bit
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The fact that you said you’re a jealous person (so am I) it’s not going to work. I wouldn’t even bring it up to him anymore, as you said… he could care less if it happened…it’s just a fantasy. 
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I said to my now ex husband. We do a 3 some with a girl we are also doing one with another man. He said like f**k and I said that’s what I thought… never had any 3 somes
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No.
You’re already jealous, it’ll cause problems.
No, no, no!
Im bisexual and my man and I have been together for years and love them and will continue to do them.
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My husband’s mine, no one else’s. And in God’s eyes we were joined together as one. NO THIRD PRATY,
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There’s no way on Earth I could do this, as I am a very jealous person. I couldn’t watch or know that my hubby is being intimate with another woman, it would break my heart and piss me off. I guess I understand the wanting to spice up your sex life but it wouldn’t be this. I don’t think it would ever make your marriage stronger either. If anything, it would damage it, especially since you say you are a jealous person. If you love someone, you wouldn’t want to be with another, and your husband wouldn’t want to be with another.
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Sure I’d love 2 guys to only “focus” on me . Be like that’s not a problem right?
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I can’t wait to have one with my husband but it’s hard cus we don’t want to know the person lol I just want another girl and focus on my husband I’m not a jealous person though and my husband has never given me a reason to be jealous or doubt him and his attraction to me
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Men and women have a very different feeling on sex! A threesome is EVERY man’s fanasty…and if they so no there a lier 
With that being said, Men can have sex and not love her or have feelings for her… There just fucking not making love ( very different) Now us women think of sex as love…most of the time we have sex cause we love them! As long as everyone is honest and the commucation is good…it can be a fun experience! Have to have rules…and they must be followed to the fullest!!! It can also make a relationship stronger if done properly (following ALL the rules) I think it should be a one time thing…have rules like no kissing, and condoms at all times! Also I wouldn’t do it if your not 
about it…Think of it as “she” is you and your husband’s sex toy for the night lol 
No time for that nonsense
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Don’t ever do it, no matter what someone gets hurt.
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Simple… twos company…threes a crowd…worst ideal to even consider
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Get a tranny both a guy and a chick if his so keen on a 3sum
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Absolutely not! If you are a jealous person like you said, you would be opening yourself up to future problems, not to mention that if you really want to know what I think, I think it’s wrong. A person can be bisexual but still choose one person to be with. I don’t believe in being with more than one person at a time.
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Yeah, this doesn’t go well for most people from my experience. It usually causes issues later on so it’s probably best not to. I don’t think I could handle that with all the emotions I already put myself thru just on a normal day.
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I’m not really a jealous person, like my partner can look at other women all day long, hell I even point out nice butts and boobs sometimes lmao BUT I couldn’t have another woman actually touching up on him I dont think lmao, as much as I truly trust my partner more than any previous relationships I know for a fact it would bring up insecurities that took me a long time to get over and I would not want to ruin the wonderful relationship I have for a night of fantasy
You can try so many other things in your sex life with out bringing in another person, so many toys he can get to focus on you lmao 
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I definitely couldn’t share
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I wouldn’t, I tried this and my husband was completely understanding also but it did in the end have a lot to do with our marriage ending because of my jealousy and possessiveness and I couldn’t move on without thinking about him near her, if you have doubts whatsoever do not do it!
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If your a jealous person,honest don’t put ur marriage through it…It will cause problems in the end…Nothing good will come from it because your always going to feel like u could never measure up…ITS A FANTASY NOT FOR MARRIAGE…DONT DO IT…BAD BAD MISTAKE
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Lots of judgey people here. If you want to you should, if you don’t you shouldn’t.
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Say ok you don’t mind having 2 blokes at once one night
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Personally i couldnt do it, but i have seen couples on dating sites doit. They are crystal clear on what they want.
Best thing to do is look up threesomes in the unternet, and that will give you ideas of just how intimate people get.
You are talking about a strangers body parts on your husbands body, and on yours.
Have a really good think about it, but i think you already know what your answer is.
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Don’t do it if you feel like it’s will cause troubles. If your a jealous person you will think back on it and have what if’s but who’s to say it has to be another women? 
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Never in a million years would I consider it and I am a jealous woman. I’d never want couples to go through it even if it’s a fantasy. If all three are singles then game on. Otherwise hell no.
I know someone who tried it with her partner and another woman and she hated it while he wanted more - they’re now doing councilling…she regretted accepting it.
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My partner says he don’t share
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no don’t open that door 
especially since y’all are married seems like that’s going backwards in life plus i’m sure they will have a sexual encounter with out you
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I’ve never had one because i prefer being monogamist but I have had friends who have had 3somes and I have only seen it destroy relationships
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Nothing a lil molly couldn’t help with
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i’m not the jealous type at all i just kno human nature an it seems like that lil fantasy should have been fulfilled before marriage i hope the best for y’all
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If you’re this unsure with the idea and have doubts odds are it’s not going to improve your relationship at this time. You have to have an equal accepting and understanding approach to the idea and your husband seems to be by what you’ve shared with us. If a woman isn’t what you had in mind bring up having another man in bed. Threesome winsome. Overall YOU have to want this. Itll only add fuel to the fire if you go through with it and get cold feet later on. I’m sure theres chatrooms of sorts you can find local swingers or single mates looking for a good time with a couple. I live in one of the most secluded states with hardly a large population compared to the size of my state, yet finding those type of like minded individuals is rather easy so I’d imagine in the lower 48 you wouldn’t have any trouble at all. My advice play different types of fantasies first that only include your husband and you. Such as pretending to be other people and “hook up” with one another at a local bar, or play kinky characters in the bedroom. Men usually have more than one fantasy I’d say give it a go!
Don’t do it!!!
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Just keep it a fantasy…trust me it will only make married life more complicated, I know from experience.
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For me - this is a HELL no. Literally HELL no. It’s rude for a man to even ask. It’s basically being told to your face that he doesn’t respect you and is willing to risk your emotions for a sexual encounter. #realmendontshare
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Take it from someone who’s been there , if u want & love the way things are now dont do it . It ruined my marriage not on his part but mine he was like it happened no big deal for me it game changer I’ve been single for 15 years now because of it
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I am appalled by the amount of women calling themselves “JEALOUS WOMAN” for not wanting this. I believe a relationship between two people should be based on respect. No wonder why we have so many failing relationships nowadays🤦♀️
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Jealousy is not trusting and insecurity… if you are a jealous person a threesome will only ruin the relationship because if for some reason you accept , it might put bad thoughts in your mind that don’t even exist in reality… you guys could always talk about alternatives, sex toys, etc.
Goodluck.
Ask him to consider having one w another man first w the attention on him and then you’ll do it w a woman. But be serious.
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Omar Fathallah Sophia Poulos what a u know what
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I caved in with my ex and had a threesome with an old friend of his … fast forward a few months and he was sleeping with her while I was heavily pregnant with his child so I would never do anything like that again as I’m way too jealous!
I say no…
It does change things. The more you do, the more you’re pdesensitized.
It can be just like drugs or alcohol.
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The fact you state you are a jealous person should be enough of a reason to give you your answer- No
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It is not a good idea, it will end up causing hard feelings and possible end a relationship. Will you want more attention? Will it be another lady or another guy? Will he get more attention. Will your stranger get more attention from your husband. Next time this comes up just say no and go take a shower with him - that is fun.
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A friend of mine did this for her husband when they went on vacation to Hawaii. They found someone on the adult friend finders site and set it up that way. She handled all the contact. That way it was a one time thing with someone they wouldnt run into at the grocery store so to speak.
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Set boundaries. If u don’t want him to do intercorse then state oral only. But when u and the 3rd wheel invite him to join then will u feel comfortable. Need to be about u. So the 3rd person needs to really satisfy you then will you feel OK. Got to heat up the moment first. He can’t just jump them or u will definitely want to bash them lol. It doesn’t ruin the relationship if u set the boundaries first.
Fk no, 3 somes are for the young years, his loss if he never experienced one lol
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Should try Swinging first!!
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