Ask him to do it with a dude first, see if he still wants one then. 
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My husband has been asking for one BUT he’s the most faithful man I know & he suggested for the girl too eat me out while he screws her from behind & he said he also wants too give me one but I don’t want one lol he likes when I even walk around other people wearing ‘‘sexy’’ outfits it turns him on so honestly my point is it depends on the relationship you have with one another so if you wanna do it go for it.
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If yoyr man is amazing with you than nothing can change that but your concern about not being around after is right . can cause jelousy when they think that he is theres too so choose wisely if you want to do this for him sometimes it just heals a frustrating relationship so if your not at that point DONT DO IT
The idea sounds fun but I never would do it I don’t want to share my husband
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There are a lot of close minded and judgemental people on this thread. Because a husband and wife are close enough to share their ultimate fantasies with each other doesn’t mean the husband is already cheating. It doesn’t mean he already has someone in mind. It doesn’t mean he plans to cheat, at all. It means that they have an open and honest relationship where they trust each other and love each other enough to lay bare everything. Maybe some of you should give that a shot. I commend you (the OP) on your willingness to listen to your husband without judgement and to consider and discuss his fantasies. Even if you never do them the discussions will ultimately bring you closer if you allow them too. I hope you share yours as well.
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You as a couple have to be on the same page and set rules! And if either of you break the rules be ready to end it right then not when its over! The women should only communicate not him and if his intentions are good he should be on board with that! We have in the past but I’ve realized why I wanted too do it and decided to take another direction in life! If you have questions message me I would be happy to offer my experiences! But start forsure understanding each others intentions 100% set 5 ground rules! Yes 5 and believe me there are more than 5 that can be set! And NEVER do it if you both aren’t into it! Ultimately the experience is to bring you closer to one another on way different levels! No judgement here because we are all DIFFERENT AND HUMAN! 
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You don’t say how long you have been married?
Hire a man or woman don’t do it with someone you know…
you need to set boundaries… there may be something you don’t want your husband to do…
Threesomes never end well,just don’t.
You first need to sit down and think about it really hard. Will you be okay with it after it’s done & over with?
To find someone I’d say y’all go out somewhere, have a good time, try to find a woman (if that’s what y’all want) that y’all both find attractive and hang with her, then go from there. I’ve never done it before so I’m just guessing.
Or you could both make a tinder account together, and people will get what you are looking for!
You said can’t be a friend so must be a stranger. You would likely need to go to a bar to find someone else willing and yes one of you has to be brave enough to ask that stranger if want to join us in a threesome. The worst they will say is no. Beware that threesomes can wreck a relationship. What if you all choose another girl and he does her more than you. There comes the ugly head of jealousy. Most men fantasize about having two girls. Doesn’t mean should ever become more than fantasy.
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It sounds fun and all, but me or my hubby wouldn’t be okay with it or after it’s done. We have such a great relationship, we’re open and honest, but we are both SUPER jealous. The after effects are what’s going to hit hard. Are you going to be okay after, is he? Will it cause trust issues, intimacy issues? Will it happen again? Are you okay with sharing, could you stand to see your husband having sex with someone else right in front of you and enjoying it, is he? Fantasies are great and it’s even better that you two can share them with each other without judgment. But are you both really ready for it to become a reality? No shame here, so please don’t take it that way. These are just some things that ran through my head after reading your post. For me, it would be a HARD HELL TO THE NO! But you both have to decide what’s best for y’all.
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You have to be open to him starting to drawl more towards the other female because it’s new. Also a mans mind works different so if you give him a taste of someone else it could go both ways like he enjoyed it or he was so uncomfortable
If you’re a jealous person, no. Some couples genuinely like doing them, but they’re not for everybody. Both people have to be 100% on board or else you’ll have issues after. Don’t let him talk you into doing something that you’re not comfortable with.
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I will say many yrs ago i knew asked his wife, the love of his life to have a threesome. She finally agreed She left him for her !! 
Id say no since your already a jealous couple. Imagine your hubbys thing inside another woman and u see it n get mad… awkward …
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Please give your life to the Lord
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Not just no, but Hell No!
i couldnt ;wouldnt do it
No…just no. All men want one untill you enjoy someone more then them 
My friends did this as it was his fantasy but he regretted afterwards and wished he’d kept it as a fantasy their relationship didn’t survive it x
Well been there done that. Run baby run
NO. Never. I could never personally. I have known married couples who’ve had threesome’s. They always end badly and someone always catches feelings. Hell no.
Done it twice here. No issues before, during, or after. 
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When all the old women who can’t even get laid anymore come commenting about God/Jesus. Did yall miss the part of Sunday school that you’re not supposed to judge others and that God doesn’t love ugly or yall just gonna pick and choose what’s acceptable?
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Suggest that the third be another man and see if he still wants to do it 
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It’s adultry in gods eyes
In marriage u commit to each other. So no that’s not right. TROUBLE
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I think if you know you have jealousy issues then it wouldn’t be the best idea. I would say if you took the time to work past those issues and get to the root cause then you could consider it. Ultimately ask yourself how would your life improve? Is it something you NEED to do? Could you live without it? Do the risks outway the benefit? Is it a novelty idea?
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Hell no. I am 100% Faithful and my fiancè better be too. I’m not going to allow him to do another woman and neither will I. I don’t want STD’s or even COVID now.
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Absolutely not! I wouldn’t do it, threesome is cheating, if u need another person to add to your relationship then there’s no relationship!
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I’ve seen marriages end in divorce after threesomes. Maybe there was already something broken in their marriage prior, hard to say. You could be treading on dangerous grounds. I would definitely say a stranger is the way to go though. You don’t want an awkward dinner party down the road. Just think long and hard. The jealousy is very REAL and not always easy to overcome. Feel free to pm me and I can share more.
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I am poly and this is very toxic and you would be hard pressed to find a female ok with whats called unicorn hunting. Don’t play with the persons emotions be straight up that they will be used and thrown away. I have 2 husband’s and a wife and my husband’s are best friends and my wife is my husband’s wife. My husband loves me but im not stupid enough to think they him or I would never be attracted to someone else and im completely secure with our marriage and we are happy. To each their own but just warning yall people are gonna jump on yall for looking for a girl to treat like disposable trash to be tossed out when your done. And also if your jealous then No matter if this is a friend or stranger its gonna be in the back of your mind that he still has contact and drive you nuts
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Threesomes are fine as long as you guys are on the same page. It’s not cheating if it’s agreed on, you and your partner just have to make all the decisions together and be honest with each other . You gotta be doing this also not just for your partner also for you. If your even a slight uncomfortable with it , then don’t. But if your comfortable with everything as longs as you guys do it together then go for it!
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But are there any insight on this in any comments? Lol. Other than “tossing the girl like trash” afterwards? It’s a fantasy for BOTH of us and I just dont know where to look or who start conversations with lol
If u a jellyfish then Nahh cause I’ll get into ur feelings about sharing n whatever he does.
Yup it hurt a relationship in many different ways and you already started with conditions it’s in the start of toxic lust kills but as a joke get another guy let’s see if he likes it 
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At this point your both crazy and need counceling
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It opens a door that can never be closed all he way
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It will not work believe me if u r jealous u will end up hurt or mad. Especially after the alcohol wears off and the feeling never goes away its constantly in ur head wondern if he likes her better etc no matter what he says the thoughts will be there
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No way read your Bible.
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It’s not my cup of tea…
Some people like it, some people don’t.
Lol the focus is on you. Surely not falling for that now? These men…
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If it is taking that much thought out of your day and concern then don’t even bother. It’s something you do and get passed or you don’t. Better to not do it then to do it and regret it. I am
Not the type to be able to do that as I don’t like to share but everyone different. Based on your post I’d say it’s probably
Not for you.
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Don’t do it. You are playing Russian roulette with your marriage. Especially that you are the jealous one. Would he do it with another man???
IT’S A BIG NO …
Once you do it you can never close that door again.
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Your relationship will never be the same again.
Don’t do it
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I don’t share my partner with no one and he always says he doesn’t want to share me guess I got lucky
Lots of men are pigs
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Hire an escort if this is something you really want to do. She will leave right after She won’t be texting/calling after either. It’ll help keep jealousy out of this. She would be way more into you than your husband.
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It never turns out well… someone is gonna get upset in the end. If you already the jealous type do no do it
NOT just NO, BUT HELL NO!!!
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I have known of couples who did this and EVERYTHING went wrong…
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Hell no i dont share. If that’s what he wants go it but I will not be here when he gets home
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Well…play dumb and assume he means him a guy and you. See how quickly that turns to a no. 
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I’ve done it and enjoy it. You just have to trust the people you are doing it with. I would say though if you are a jealous person it probably isn’t for you
If you have a single ounce of Jealousy in your soul and I mean a single ounce…… please don’t do it!
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I want to say so much , it is better if I say nothing.
If you already know you are jealous nothing will make you comfortable enough to have a threesome whether the third person be someone you know or not. The jealousy will only get worse from there. I personally do not believe in threesomes, but that aside being jealous and having a threesome would never work
“I don’t want them around after” - hire an escort.
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Jealousy is about no trust.
Imo…I don’t want to watch my man with another woman. Ever. And I certainly don’t want another man. We’ve actually had proposals to swing and both of us made an emphatic NO!
Trouble in the making
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That’s a dangerous little game to play with your lives. For some people it’s a positive and regular thing, for some it’s a positive bucket list thing, for others it’s a marriage torpedo. No way of knowing unless you try (not that I’m suggesting it, just don’t know how else you could know). Probably takes some very intense communication skills, dedication, loyalty, an insane amount of trust, and a whole lot of self control. 
I would be asking myself if one time would be enough for him. 
All of the couples I know who have done this are no longer married.
It’s just a way for him to have sex with another woman another words cheating but with you in the room so it’s ok …and how is the " focus " on you when he is screwing her …big no in my book
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There are couples bars you can find if you are interested hanging out. As for actually partaking, you already have doubts so that may answer your question? Even if you find a Speakeasy it doesn’t mean you have to participate. There are places that have vanilla nights were nothing happens…Just your typical bar. But if you don’t think you’d enjoy adding someone then don’t.
I strongly advise against it. I have known several married couples that have done this and 100% of the time it ends in an ugly divorce.
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Tell him u will do 2 guys one girl…see how he reacts…
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It’s a no from my point of view.
My ex wanted same thing, ok for 2 women but not ok for 2 men.
Never happened on my watch but we did divorce
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No. It’s awkward. And you won’t be able to look at him the same knowing and seeing him with someone else. Not worth it
Follow your gut instincts, it doesn’t sound like something you wish to do. On the other hand, I admire you for considering it after hearing your husband’s fantasies.
Sounds like he still wanting to play the field…with you involved so that its not being behind your back…a fantasy that most men have…i would say NO…can be very soul detroying seeing your partner intimately involved with another and enjoying it… at least he’s being honest with you about it.
No! This should never be allowed - this will be the worst thing you ever did- please don’t this is not Gods design for you-
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Nope don’t do it the regret will never go away
I didn’t read past I’m a super jealous person. I didn’t need to. if your the type that gets jealous easy please for the sake of your marriage let it go
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Threesomes are for single people not couples/married couples
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Have people some how lost all morals and respect for what a relationship is suppose to be??? It is a very sad time we live in.
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Don’t violate the sanctity of marriage, period.
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How would he feel if it was another guy being
Intimate with you and him watching…
I hit send by mistake before finishing sentence
these comments tho lmaooo.
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Don’t do it. Speaking from experience.
Don’t do it , I never would , I’d leave him before doing that , best kept as a fantasy , that’s where it belongs, you will end up divorced
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I think you are playing with fire. I’ve seen some pretty nasty fall outs from these types of relationships. I’m a labor and delivery nurse.
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My husband asked for the 35 years we were together. He knew he would never get it. I let him fantasize about it & teased him with it. But made it very clear it would never happen. We joked about it never happening on his death bed. He smiled cause I always teased him by saying - how about her & stuff. He always thanked me for being playful even though he knew it would never happen. I also made sure to be fun.
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I was a third a few times I never understood how my friends got the courage to ask me though … Im super laid back and so I guess they felt they could ask me anything… For me as the third it was awkward cuz I didnt want to cross any lines … Personally I doubt Id be comfortable sharing my bf I can get jealous so I try to avoid things that make me feel that way … Ive seen threesums ruin couples Ive seen it bring them closer together… So my advice is make sure you are really ok sharing him… Alcohol helps with nerves… Have fun and be safe 
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I couldn’t do it. I’m too possessive and it would be crushing to my self esteem if another woman was exciting my significant other much less getting any sort of intimacy from them. Definitely not for me.
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So I personally would never! One I will never allow another woman to touch my husband that way and 2 the other couples that I have known to do it their relationships ended shortly after
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Position it with him and another bloke then see if he is still interested. But on a serious note it opens Pandora’s box I have seen too many relationships and marriages break up after having one so I wouldn’t recommend it
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A marriage is respect for each other as well as faithfulness. I pray your marriage is healed and you both but God in the 1st position.
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The Bible says the two of you become one,not three, If he has this kind of fantasy,now just think what he next one could be. I say end this now & get him some help.
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That’s perfect. When you both get aids off some random woman, it will be fun. When he knocks her up, have fun paying child support. protection fails and if you feel you have to do this to make him happy, your self esteem needs some work. Ffffffff that. so sad what porn has done to people’s minds.
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I think it will definitely create a wedge between u and your jealousy will turn into something much worse
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It is not a recommended thing and can really hurt your relationship. Does he want a women? If you are bituminous, that is one thing. If not, then it is his opportunity to have sex with someone else. Ask for a well hung man and see what the reaction is. If it’s negative, you have your answer. Then check into some counseling. Someone’s mind is looking outside the lines.
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But why are you getting married?
Marriage is not an obligation and if you want to experiment you are absolutely free to do so, but not when you have responsibly decided to spend your life with your husband or wife.
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when you are presented with a dilemma to solve, your mind and your body ( your gut feelings) gives you the answer. Youneed to listen to your gut; and trust yourself, that’s how we take care of ourself. Your answer says to me,no; that is not loving you or making you comfortable , nor does it bring you peace or happiness . It s puts his wishes and desires first above yours. Love is not confusing or indecisive . Love is not negative. I felt that,my husband would love & understand me first most. He would choose my happiness and comfort over his.For true love of a husband to his wife is unselfishness, understanding, compassionate, empathetic, forgiving , kindness, gentleness ,wanting only her, forsaking all others, loyalty kindness & many more . Love comes 1st to have a happy and peaceful life.Listen to the soft still voice in your heart. Therein lies your perfect, love to share and give everyone. That is your answer .Love is the only real thing that matters in the world , The love that we give more and the love that we receive. We need to take care of ourselves first in order to love and take care of others.
So much to say,so little time, first he wants a male or female,that alone will give you some answers,and you should also ask if is a lady,what can you get from her that I can give you
I had this kind of relationship with my ex husband. Personally i never really liked the jealousy from my spouse. I gave into his fantasys. But it ended up destroying our marriage. ( Along with abuse and many other things). Its not for everyone
I’m not sure I’ve ever heard a story where that worked out in a committed relationship. But my sample number is only 4.
You will end in divorce. Experience, when another is invited into bedroom then it’s over any how. Sounds like if he wants to add someone he isn’t happy and looking for a way out.
Being in bed with multiple partners bread demons because there would be exchange of spirits from hubby to the other and vise versa,then pass on to wife and all that unless you are not Christians. For the Scripture says our bodies are the temple of the Holy Spirit. Holy Spirit and demons cannot dwell together. This fantasy is ungodly. It may not only affect your relationship but also land you into eternal damnation.
It usually ends in the man liking the other better!
I’m praying for 3 two.