I’m all for CIO, but I think 1 month old is way too young. Right now he’s working on building attachments. You showing up when he cries shows him he can trust you.
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I let both of my girls CIO. They would cry for maybe a minute or two then fall asleep. I talked to my pediatrician about it. He said its actually good for the babies lungs and its good for them to self-sooth. We are not co-sleepers ethier. My girls are 3 and 5 now and they go to bed in their own rooms and fall asleep. They fight me more now that they are toddlers. To raise independent little girls is hard work. No, I don’t have a clock out time, but my kids are more self sufficient than most their age.
1 month is newborn. Too young.
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So, studies prove that it actually harms the baby at ages less than 5 months.
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My granddaughter was a terror, I was at the end of my rope. Then I remembered my grandmother saying she would put a clock that made the ticking sound almost like a mother’s heartbeat…it worked soothed her.
No way 1 month is too little. Enjoy your baby. They grow quickly. Id say maybe after 6 or 7 months but dont let them cry for more than 5 minutes. But, rn your baby needs you. Could have reflux, colic, many things…maybe he isn’t taking to the formula, maybe constipated. I get all new moms are tired but, 1 month is way too small. Also, be sure you are not overheating the baby. Check his temperature.
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For 1 minute? Probably not. I an not a cry it out mom. Breaks my heart. But one minute probably not. My baby turned 4 months yesterday and I finally (yes finally) know when she’s tired. It sucks but she fights sleep and gets extremely crabby so I rock her. It’s like she knows it’s nap time. She will scream for a couple minutes then calm down and be out like a light. But if she cries for more than a few minutes then I see if she’s crying for a different reason. Usually I Ann right though. Babies aren’t meant to cry it out as young as yours is. A cry is their only form of communication. But a minute probably won’t hurt him if he’s falling asleep right away.
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If it is only a min. Won’t hurt him a bit.
1 minute of crying isnt crying it out method
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Ok people stop being so harsh she said the baby only cries a minute so thats not crying it out. To original poster i dont see nothing wrong with letting ur baby cry for a minute but not any longer til they are atleast 6 months old. If you pick your baby up right when they cry they will never learn to self soothe
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Well you’re going to get slammed here. Smh crying it out is bad enough but a NEWBORN!!! Smh baby shouldn’t even be sleeping more than 2 or so hours at a time right now anyway and they fall asleep so easy at this age I see no reason why anyone would think this was a good idea. I don’t ever come here and judge another mama but this one is just ridiculous
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No its totally fine i think. If you dont let them have a good cry they become clingy and wont end up going to sleep without someone holding or rocking your baby. All the ones saying no dont do it. Stfu
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Crying doesn’t do any good for their lungs. He’s 1 month old if he wants to be held, hold him. He’s only this small once…
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One minute of crying isn’t the cry it out method, but no I wouldn’t do it with a one month old. More like 6 months
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I wouldn’t worry about just a minute, but if it makes you feel better maybe just have your hand on their chest or cheek until they fall asleep.
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I think if your newborn is only crying for a few minutes that it’s fine, but in my opinion to let them cry for long periods of time and not giving them nurture or care can effect them negatively. That’s just how I feel though.
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My daughter is almost 4 months old. I let her cry it out sometimes, but I always check her over to see if she needs anything before I do, and usually that’s only if I really need to get something cleaned up or if we’re on a time crunch and I have to do something. If I don’t HAVE to do something right that minute and she wants to be held, I’ll sit there and hold her for a bit. She’ll usually fall asleep and then I’ll do whatever I need to do. It won’t hurt them any, but I feel like only a month is a bit too young… I didn’t start with mine until 2.5 months, and that was only because she literally used to freak out any time I was more than a foot away from her. It sounds bad, but you say that until you’re trying to shit with a squirming, screaming infant strapped to your chest🤦🏻♀️
I don’t think cry it out is bad but at one month old though seriously it’s a newborn what do you expect then to come out and sleep 8 hours a night?
One minute is nothing…you are lucky❤
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Cry it out method is not supposed to be used on new borns !! Hold your baby until falls asleep !
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No… he’ll be fine 
My son had terrible colic and screamed for at least 18 hours a day. We went through drs and meds and multiple ER visits because I was sure he was dying.
He had severe acid reflux and even at a month old I would have to literally place him in his crib make sure he was changed and I would have to rake a minute for myself while he screamed because not only did he have colic and severe reflux I had PPD. So severe I eventually had to be hospitalized.
So I had to let him cry to gather myself at times.
He is now 10 and perfectly healthy. Well he has IBS and asthma but kid is 5 ft tall and 100 lbs. well built and very well psychologically.
Your baby is only a month old and he’s probably not ready to fall asleep yet without you holding him. Make sure he is swaddled nice and snug. If he only cries for a minute here and there he will be fine. You are doing fine honey.
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Check with his pediatrician there may be a reason hes crying. My 3 almost 4 month old was diagnosed with Gerd.
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Asking for advice is fine… but we’re talking about a NEWBORN here, not an 8+month old.
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What a loaded question. I let my 3 boys cry it out
My son is 5 months. We give him 10 minutes. If he doesn’t fall asleep, we pick him up and play him out some more.
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1 month is way too young. Recommendations isn’t until 6 months but some people go as young as 4 months.
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I wish I could have used the cry it out method with my daughter but if I let her cry she would stop breathing and go into respiratory failure when she was 6 months old I had her dr tell me under no circumstances was she allowed to cry so I had my hands full cause to be honest I’m not sure just hownur suppose to keep a baby from crying
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This post was obviously meant to stir the pot. 
I honestly had to do it with my 2 year old. It’s fine. It doesn’t harm them as long as they are fed and changed
Yes, before month 6, he will cry because he needs something even if it is just skin to skin touch with mommy or daddy. It will definitely affect him psychologically.
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I’m for it, but not that young.
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No it won’t harm him. It actually allows them to learn how to self sooth! I did this method with my oldest when she was 3 months old!
Nope makes them stronger.
My Son was the same way.
Never ask a herd of Mother’s who are all over opinionated and think THEY are all right.
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I really didn’t do that with my daughter cause at the time i had dick ass down stairs neighbors they had kids also but they didn’t like anyone being loud lol.
One month is too young.
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No, he’s learning to self soothe at an early age. Be different he cried for hours. Good job.
There’s nothing wrong with soothing your baby until they fall asleep. there are claims that they will be a little more temperamental and aggressive when they’re older but I’m not sure if that’s true or not.
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it’s ridiculous and lazy. my daughter woke every 1.5 hours until she was 3 months old. Eventually she started sleeping better and better and now sleeps thru the night. She’s teething so she’s been waking up a lot but I still don’t let her cry it out. I’m not gonna abandon my baby to cry alone in a room because I want to sleep. 
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One month seems young for sleep training with this method. We did not CIO until around six months.
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I let my kids cry it out and it did them no harm
I’m not an expert by any means but I don’t think a minute would hurt as long as it’s only a minute
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Heck no. Soak up every minute with that precious baby you get. Babies cry for a reason.
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CIO can lead to reactive attachment disorder. RAD. Doesnt really show up in full force until children are older usually in their teens. But toddlers can start to show milder signs that worsen with age. I dont advise it. Research it.
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CIO should not be used until minimal 6 months. Try shush-pat insead!
Safe Infant Sleep - Evidence-Based Support Group
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My son’s pediatrician told me & my husband to do it. But my son was like 4 months old at the time
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Mine is a year old and still won’t sleep through the night. You do what makes you sane.
If he only cries for a minute I would hardly even call that CIO. Lol.
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a minute of crying with all of his needs met is NOT an issue. If it was 5-10 minutes I would say he is a bit young but a baby crying for a minute for any age is just fine.
I never let any of ours cry it out esp at 1 month , I would rock , walk or sing to him/her and rub their back and it would put them to bed … IMO they need that touch and feeling of being secure .
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A month is a bit young IMO, we didn’t start cry it out until around 6 months.
Both my kids are fine, 10 and 5 no issues with detachment. My 5 yo is actually too dependent still 
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Hold him? Rock him? Lay him on your chest and pat his back?
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One minute is nothing!
Look up the 4th trimester…
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I wouldnt do cio at 1 month
6 months minimum if you do it at all
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Too you for CIO. At a month old they feed like crazy night and day. Maybe 6-12 months when they should be sleeping through the night with food in their bellies. I did it starting around a year with my first. My 2nd has sleep apnea so it was a bit different.
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If it’s only a few minutes then he’ll be fine but being that young it won’t hurt for you to hold them till they are asleep. It gives them comfort and they are less stressed
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He’s only 1 month old. That method definitely shouldn’t be used yet. He’s still getting used to being outside the womb
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You are doing the right thing. A doctor will tell you it is good for them to cry. It helps expand their lungs.
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I don’t agree with the cry it out method. Just hold him
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My daughter is a bad sleeper. Even now at 4, bedtime is a struggle. My son wasnt so hard, still isnt. I rocked them both to sleep until they were about 1 year old then we did (modified) CIO. It took my daughter almost 4 months to learn to but herself to sleep and it didnt last, in fact I’m typing this as I sit on her bed lol but my son has yet to have issues even after transitioning to a toddler bed
Let him.cry
…will make his lungs stronger. But think can wait till little older
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Lol my 1 month old babies have cried for minute a few times . Hell 5 minutes. Sometimes you gotta do something and you’re unable to hold em. It’s not gonna hurt em. Yea at 1 month old I wouldn’t be letting them cry 10 plus minutes… 1 minute is nothing to shame a mom for… holy cow.
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1 month? I wouldn’t do it this young but it’s not gonna scar him for life either… Your baby, your choice
If its just noises or whingy maybe ok but Id say too early just cuddle him a little longer if u can ! Maybe he still has a little bit if wind or something annoying him could need to sleep on side or moved a bit to bring it up just a thought my baby is 9 days old no.5 and he needs a little extra help for his wind but not too much
A minute? Nope. But alot longer than that? Hmmmm. They are only babies for so long, so cuddle, if you can. My “babies” are all grown & I wish I had more cuddle time. <3
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Your child is learning to self sooth which will be great when they are older and needing to calm themselves down.
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I agree. Been doing it since a month old. He puts himself to sleep for bed and naps everyday and self entertains for an hour if not more. He’s very comfortable being on his own (he still wants my attention and of course i give it to him) i haven’t rocked him to bed since he was almost 3 months old. Every now and then he wants me to buy it’s maybe once a month or when he’s sick.
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Completely fine, as long as they are fed, changed, and have all their needs met. If my daughter cried for more than three minutes u would go in rub her chest to reassure her i was there, I never had to go back in a second time. My daughter has been sleeping through the night since she was just over a month old. I have had one sleepless night with her and that was because she was sick. She will be two in July. This may not work with you baby, all kids are different, but don’t let people scare you out of anything that isn’t harmful. The key is experimenting. My daughter is a typical happy toddler with no emotional problems.
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I personally can not do the cry it out method. I feel horrible hearing my son cry. Hes 9 months and we still cosleep (even when i was sick he was in our bed just on the other side of hubby). We agreed to let him continue do cosleep until he asks for his own bed.right now we just use his bedroom for toys to play in
Sleep training is meant for 6 months and older. While there’s no issues with extinction by itself, he’s just too young.
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I will say a minute isn’t anything but if it’s more than that, do what you have to. My son use to scream for hours and sleep training is the only thing that saved us.
Newborns cry to communicate. He just wants mom so he can hear your heartbeat and feel safe. Your baby though, trust your instincts
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I did the cry it out method for both of my kids starting at 5 months old and they are now 11 and 9 and they always fell asleep in their own beds with no issues. I think a month old is way too soon. Id wait to start the cry it out method. Cuddle him!!! Enjoy it while it lasts cuz they grow way to fast.
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Too early it’s best to start at 6 months
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I rocked my baby still about a year old, but he is now 3 and I still lay down with him every night, it a special time for me and my son and I wouldn’t trade it for the world! But that your decision mama don’t let anyone tell you otherwise, but i did let him cry for a few minutes around 6 months old, but that didn’t last long! 3yrs has went by so fast and he growing so fast and only my baby for a little while and I’ll take all the cuddles my boy wants to give me:two_hearts:
I let my 1 month old cry it out, but not for long periods of time. Everyone is gonna parent differently.
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Babies under year should be coddled.
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We don’t let our daughter cry. She’s almost 18 months & we still don’t. I just can’t personally.
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No. Not for a minute.
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He was INSIDE OF YOU FOR 9 MONTHS of course this is wrong YOUR BABY IS CRYING FOR YOU enjoy your newborn it only last a little while
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It’s suggested not to use the CIO method until 6 months at least. This site gives information on the different CIO methods, and research found regarding effectiveness and possible negative effects. https://www.tuck.com/cry-it-out/
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If he only cry’s for a minute or 2 and he falls asleep then he’s perfectly fine… wouldn’t let him go much longer till he’s a little older tho
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He is a month old… let the baby be for love of Pete!
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Do not let him cry it out.
I did it but not that young. About 6 months for all 4.
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I’m not a super fan of the cry it out method but I wouldn’t even consider one minute of crying as them crying it out necessarily.
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1 month old is way too young to start the cry-it-out method
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Do not do the cry it out method. Its very harmful to babies and small children. They need security. If you use the cry it out method, they dont feel secure. Please don’t do it.
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My now 6 y/o would do the same. (Even with a pacifier). It was her way to self soothe. We let her and she has always slept in her own bed. Whatever helps everyone get a good night’s sleep. So for us it worked.
1 month is far too early for that. He wants to be with his momma. You’re all he knows right now. If he’s crying, it might be gas or a number of other things if he’s fed, but now is NOT the time for CIO.
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My daughter, as a newborn, cried to be put to bed, so no, it won’t harm him.
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One minute is perfectly gone in my opinion. I don’t think that’s the cry it out method. That’s baby realizing they are not being held then going to sleep. I have 5 kids, 3 under 5 with my youngest being 2 months. There are times I physically can’t get to her while she’s crying for a moment.
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honestly we do the 7 min rule in my family. its the only thing that worked for us. basically after uve changed, fed, cleaned and everything else when u lay him or her down they can cry for 7 mins before u go pick them up. if they r still crying after 7 mins theres something wrong and check them again…my mom raised 10 of us and me and my brother r currently raising 3 together. none of us have psychological issues, a baby has to find a way sooner or later to self sooth otherwise they cant be a decent member of society when the grow up. if u never let them learn to self sooth theyll never do it and will continue to depend on u for that as they grow up.
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Too little. Hold him til he falls asleep, then put him down
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Idk why some people have kids
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Way too young to even try cry it out
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One month is too young to Ferber him. Seriously. They need that bond emotionally. I didn’t do it until my daughter was 11 months. She’s 20 months now and we had no problem doing it.
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