Get out as fast as you can or he will kill you. You eventually heal.
When he leaves, make sure you have a new lock n key. Change your number and donât look back.
Run away as soon as you can. You deserve someone who truly loves you back.
Contact womanâs refuge tell them your side
Get the help now
Also, please pm me if you want to talk.
Oh honey. He is a narrcisstic asshole. Please, please get away from him as soon as you can. It will only get worse.
Just go anywhere huni I wish I could help you my experience it eventually got physical everything else can be figured out after you leave xxx
Leave him or get a PFA
Just read other comments there is help out there âŚreach out NOW âŚRIGHT NOWâŚ
Hugs to you 
itâs called Trauma Bond ⌠for us it feels like love but my friend when you get out ya look back and go holy fu*k ! he sounds like a narcissistic mofoâŚ
I was in a 5 year abusive relationship and I was finally able to move last March 
but it wasnât easy - same thing I had very little money so I went and got myself a job and slowly put some away it took me a year! I had to get everything for my place (I have no credit cards or anything) when thereâs financial abuse on top of everything else itâs that much harder BUT WORTH IT
Iâm here for you girl if youâd like to inbox me ~ Youâre not alone
You need to start making plans to get out before you end up like I did - 5 staples to the head and a concussion from one of his assaults (I called 911 that time and he was charged with assault with a weapon)
They say theyâll change BUT THEY NEVER DO ⌠something I highly suggest is counselling specializing in domestic abuse they can help you get a plan together as well as help you to build boundaries for your future self
Please reach out to me if youâd like Iâm so broken hearted for you I so remember how it feels 
but thereâs a much better brighter future for you and you so deserve it xoxo
It is hard. Extremely hard and scary.
You need to pick a moment hes gone. Take a card with money on it if you have to. Stash it somewhere he wont look. Then pack ur bags n run.
Mine used to lock the front door with a deadbolt key so i couldnât leave. So i made him think i was getting electric. Had my bags already packed. And my bank card (he would keep it on him) and ran.
Havenât looked back since. The amount of freedom and relief you get is so worth it.
One of my best friends recently left nearly this exact relationship he would give and take and then do nothing else but expect to be waited on hand and foot and she had two kids in the house as well he treated badly she packed her and the kids up and came to stay with us sheâs now got herself a place for her and the kids and is loving every minute of the freedom! It was so hard for her sheâd previously came and stayed with us but ended up going back it will be hard starting over and leaving and being able to get freedom because her ex was driving past our house, rocked up at the kids fathers house, called her family members and would loiter around her work but eventually he got the hint and left her alone once they realise theyâve lost control theyâll lose complete interest and will try to find someone new to control and manipulate
I was in this situation, it took me to realise that I deserved better, I knew what I wanted and needed and he couldnât ever give me that, the only difference between me and you is because I realised that I grew to stop loving him and even then because of familiarity and routine I found it hard to leave but I stuck to my guns and went through with it. The tenancy was in my name so he had no leg to stand on when it came to who went where. When he came to get his stuff he sat on the step and asked me to marry him, in his desperation to âkeep me sweetâ I laughed and rejected him. Best thing i ever did. I know itâs hard but you will get there, itâs so worth it to leave a situation where youâre being abused, manipulated, gaslighted, controlled and neglected. So so so worth it. I hope you find the strength you need.
Best thing I done was move away, trust me on that!
Dont ask. Just leave. If you feel abused and that you need to ask ots clearly not right so best thing to do is just wait until youknow you are alone and just leave asamfp
Please look up its not normal itâs toxic with Dr. Heidi, she helps women like you leave situations like this every single day. She truly is an angel
Itâs really hard to break the cycle when you go through something like this you become trauma bonded to the other person. Trauma bond is a form of physiological addiction, you become addicted to the high highs and low lows of the relationship which is why people struggle to âjust leaveâ Going no contact is hard but when you do it explains why you feel like your having a withdrawal from drug. you have to re learn yourself all over again. keep yourself busy, anything that isnât serving you is hurting you so remind yourself that whenever they twist things. walking away is hard learning about what youâre going through will help you , there is still grief in letting a toxic person go and thatâs okay, realise your partner is living in their own world constantly rationalising their bad behaviour and then convincing you, you brought the abuse on yourself. You canât heal in a toxic environment which is why your struggling to leave, when you do leave accept that you donât need closure from them or need to hear what They have to say, your closure is the disrespect.
I personally havenât gone through something like this but I know there are lots of hotlines with experience and educated people who can give you the steps to get out of this unhealthy relationship. Love is very different from infatuation. I think these two are getting mixed up. Loved doesnât do these thingsâŚ
its really hard. I literally had to move 5 hours away and stay there for 4-5 mths to break the cycle. I only moved back home and in with my own family members once i thought i was strong enough to not fall back into patterns. Fast forward 7 or 8 yrs?? and we now have a healthy co-parenting relationship. Good luck.
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. To those who have been in an emotionally abusive relationship, how do you leave?
You donât understand the meaning of loveâŚ
Thats obsession/infatuation what you are experiencingâŚ
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. To those who have been in an emotionally abusive relationship, how do you leave?
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Those tears to come from him or called crocodile tears. Children get them when they canât get what they want. He is psychologically abusing you. Whoâs name is on the lease or mortgage? If itâs only yours, call the police and tell them you asked him to leave and now he is trespassing.If he is on the mortgage or lease, you may need to take legal action or contact the landlord of the situation. Get help. His next step may be physical abuse. Donât let it get to that point. God for bid, if it gets to that point, press charges, press charges, press charges. Donât try to let him use crocodile tears. Remember the term when you see him cry. They are only crocodile tears. He doesnât mean them. Go to a womenâs shelter and find out what your options are. They can lead you in the right direction. I donât know what your exact situation is but there are ways of getting help. Good luck. God watch over you and may he give you the strength to fight back.
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It wonât get better it will get alot worse Iâve been their loved him so much but things didnât work I had to move away in the end with kids you need to be ready to do it and mean it because youâll keep going back not going go lle itâs going to be tough and when I say u really need to mean it and leave do it no turning back
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Men like this will never get better. They will drive you down until you have absolutely no confidence left and ur whole world is about them. The only person that can change any of it is you unfortunately, and although we can tell you all this its you that has to make the change because it will never end well when it has got to such a poisonous state which it sounds like it has. My heart hurts for you going through this, I have felt your pain for 13 years of my life. But I broke free 2 years ago after he laid hands on me and I have never in my 31 years of life felt so free. Life is so beautiful when you break free and I promise you when you start loving yourself you will find a man that loves you just as much without all the heartache. Just remember we never know just how strong we really are until thatâs all we have left. Good luck 
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Honey I was there many years and it donât get better and I totally understand you its like a black hole you canât get out of âŚbut trust and believe that when you get that gut feeling your done your gonna be done people can give you advise things you already know IT HAS TO CONE FROM YOU TO BE DONE AND BELIEVE YOU CAN AND LIFE GETS SOOOOO MUCH BETTER AFTER!!!GOOD LUCK DONT WAIT TOO LONG MAKE THAT MOVEâ¤
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It wonât get better, only worse. You need to believe in yourself and that you can do this on your own. You also need to believe that you deserve BETTER than this. Make a plan, carry it out safely. Godspeed
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Iâm sorry you are going through this. For your safety I recommend making a plan in secret to leave. Contact a domestic violence shelter for advice on making the plan. Do you have a family member you can go stay with? Once you are gone itâs crucial to break off all contact, because leaving is dangerous. Itâs scary, hard and lonely, but I believe you can do it.
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Been there and itâs extremely difficult. I ended up getting an order of protection on mine. Luckily I had some family support so was able to move out of his house but then the stalking and harassment started so I got the OFP. Things came to a halt after that. Saw him in public twice after and he only approached me the second time when he thought it expired. Once he learned it didnât and I could call the police, he bailed. Sounds like you have enough evidence to get and OFP. Also, try a place like the YWCA that helps women in these situations. Best of luck!
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It never gets better. It will eventually turn physical. Mine also broke everything in the house we went through TVs and Xboxâs holes in the wall EVERYWHERE I thought I had to stay because we had a child together he ended up hitting me and breaking a bone in my face and I had to get stitches. Knowing he had a warrant got him to leave thank the Lord. Iâd say if he wonât leave then you do. We all want to think theyâll get better or we can âfixâ them and you canât. They are who they are no matter how sweet they can be sometimes. Itâs easy to stay with someone you know even if theyâre a horrible person. Mine wouldnât leave so I felt stuck so donât be afraid of asking for help because you deserve so much better then all that stress. See about getting an order of protection and they will remove him from the home for you. Iâm serious when I say that HE WILL NOT CHANGE itâs an act to get you to stay or get in your pants. Please take care of yourself
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You arenât feeling love for him you are feeling concern and many other things but believe me it isnât love feelings once you realize it isnât love you are feeling you will be able to do what you need to do
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I secretly set a date, and packed up my stuff and kids and left when he went to work. Never looked back. No regrets. It is wonderful not walking on eggshells and being demeaned. A load off my shoulders and happy
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Youâre the one that has to choose. Iâve heard that if a situation doesnât change, that must mean you like whatâs happening.
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Love is not abusive is any form. You have to want peace more than a turbulent relationship with someone who continuously shows you how you donât want to be loved. Starting over is hard but staying is even harder when you began to lose who you are.
Pack your things, leave, and never look back. Starting over will be a blessing in disguise.
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I started slowly hiding money, I reached out to a trusted friend and set up a place to stay, I sent all my important documents and copies of âreceiptsâ to my best friend so there would be copies in the cloud, then I wrote up a generic custody agreement. Then you pack your stuff one bag at a time and slowly start moving what he wonât notice. Then one day, youâre justâŚ.gone.
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Please, girl! I did, I had to trust in God! I thought you were writing my life story! 20 years and he didnât change. He told me that no one would want me because I was damaged goods, especially with a crippled child which is his son who has cerebral palsy. I stayed single for eight years and then a beautiful man walked in my life that treats me like gold! Please go! Pm me, there are resources, The sad part is we are not unique but there is help! Please go!
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Until u say enough is enough and mean it nothing will change. He knows he has this power over u. He knows he can sweet talk u. Go to ur family. Ask them for help. U need to leave. Wish u the best of luck. I hope u are brave enough to leave him
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Girl I been married 25 years now and I am going to be the one to walk away. I have asked mine to leave many times as well but he comes back while Iâm at work. I had 3 dogs and 2 have passed when the 3rd one goes it will be bye bye for meâŚI pay all the bills so I know I can take care of myself!
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I was in an abusive relationship. It took me 3 years and for me to be at my absolute lowest to realize I am WASTING AWAY staying. I finally broke it off. But when you do it, you have to mean it. You have to stand by it. Let him say whatever he is going to say, but stay strong. Remind yourself that you deserve better!
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It will keep getting worse, then heâll start beating on you! Then cry and say heâs sorry, wonât happen again! And itâll happen again,and again,and again!! Run, run as fast as you can! Iâve left with nothing before! And everything was mine to begin with!! I let them have it. Go to a shelter, live in your car, go to a family member! But you definitely need to get out! Iâve been beat on and left for dead. He broke into my house after being arrested, only to be let out!! My prayers are with you! No man or love is worth them breaking your spirit or your heart!!. Thank God I got out! Iâve been with my now husband for 14 years!! Itâs possible to find real love!! Good luck 
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Love is never enough to change someone, get out. If he wonât go. You have to. Reach out to friends and family, and even though u feel alone, they were once your friends and when they realise u need help you will be surprised. If that doesnât work then walk into the police station and tell them u need to go to a womenâs shelter. Plan a day when u will do this in ur mind, and stick to it. Make that day sooner rather then later x
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Contact womenâs aid in your area, they will help and advise you best. They did wonders for me and my children, almost 3 years free⌠i wish you the best honey.
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Iâll tell you what my mom told me⌠grow a back bone and stand up for yourself. Youâre not a door mat, do not let a man walk all over you. Love comes easily. Heâs not the only person youâll ever love. But you do need to LOVE YOURSELF enough to walk away.
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I took my kids and left with nothing started fresh i struggled like hell but it was sooo worth it
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I think you are strong enough to do this. Every time you allow him to come back, you are enabling him to do it again. Now itâs time to enable YOURSELF. Itâs ok to be happy. Itâs ok to smile. Itâs ok to feel pretty. Itâs ok to have a life again. Itâs ok to be with your friends and family. Itâs ok to enjoy life. Be strong, ask for help. Donât allow him to destroy you. You are WORTH IT! ENOUGH is ENOUGH. Itâs time to look beyond what you have now and start smelling the roses of tomorrow.
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My heart goes out to you as I have also been In this situation. Nothing will change unless you make it. I know it feels like the hardest thing to do but trust me once youâve walked away you will feel such a huge sense of relief. Donât look back, donât listen to his lies, trust your gut and look after you. You have one life - this is not a dress rehearsal. You deserve to be happy. Good luck x
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RUN! Run as fast as you possibly can. Pack all of your stuff and disappear. I had to send my son away first and then, I tried to leave. He found out and tried to kill me. It was a huge mess and I barely got out. Trust your instincts.
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It will get worse. Much worse. You need to have a plan to get away. Itâs very hard I know from experience but your life may depend on it.
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Leave and create your own life! This is why we should never rely on another for own happiness and success. You have to create your own life and you will find the peace and happiness you have always wanted.
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It doesnât get better and thatâs the bottom line, he will just get worse, you will lose more and more of yourself, get help, get away from him.
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You are enabling him! Please recognize this!!! Quit allowing this to happen! Get out now and do not look back! Go to your nearest womenâs shelter. They can help youâ:pray:
What he is doing is NOT love!!! Help yourself, love yourself before you canât!!!
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You have to leave him & get out of this abusive hell or youâre going to die. You have to.
If itâs his house, youâre going to have to find someone to take you in until you can find a place. Preferably a place he knows nothing about. If youâre low/no income, contact your local CFS. They can help with housing. If itâs your house, get a court ordered eviction notice & stay with a friend, again a place where he doesnât know, until heâs out. It varies state by state, but they usually have 30 days. You can call the police dept & have them escort you to deliver the eviction notice. Let them know you fear for your safety. They will be there the whole time you collect your things too, if you ask them. After heâs gone, change the locks & get security cameras just in case he decides to retaliate. I would also get a gun & go for CC classes. All it takes is one thing to send these people over the edge. Donât be a statistic. And donât let him manipulate you anymore.
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It gets so much better when you leave. You gotta rip off the band aid but trust me, I can tell you firsthand, that a much better life is waiting for you on the other side.
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Easy, you give in because heâs a narcissist and has conditioned you to believe that you need him. When he goes out or to work, you pack your essentials and you leave. There is no other way to break the cycle, he wonât change because he never has when youâve given him many chances. Find resources in your area and donât look back. You will a million times better off
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Youâll know when enough is enough and when you look back youâll wonder why you never got the courage to do it sooner. You canât get back wasted time. Make a move
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You donât want him. Your afraid to be alone. He has convinced you no one is ever gunna love you again. He is very broken and insecure. And honestly, Unfixable. So stop trying. I get it. Really I do. I have been there. You need to find a womenâs shelter and go. Start over. Donât tell him anything. Take the power way and build your own. You can do this! Itâs very hard but is it harder than what your going through now?! 
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It doseât get better if he cant c how he is hurting u and accept he is being cruel find a way to talk to him in a soft seirous manner if that doesent work time to make that choice to leave money or not u will make it on ur own u dont u could become mentaly ill and thats not something nice its hard to recover from such illness takecare of ur self u get sick man wont have no time with u
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Evict him legally through the courts, file a restraining order against him, get home out of your life even if you live him, he isnât good for you and you deserve the worldâŚlegal is always your best bet! Get a lawyer you need help!
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It will get better when you finish it⌠Iâve had to do it myself⌠hard to break away⌠how will I afford it⌠how will I manage⌠turns out once I wasnât being fucked with in the head I could think a lot clearer and I was better off financially and happier knowing what exactly was going on (or not going on) in my own home⌠home became somewhere I felt comfortable instead of anxious⌠the break is hard but it needs to be done for your own mental well beingâŚ
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That last line there, if you have to ask yourself that, then itâs time to exit. Here is what I learned from being in a similar situation. The key is that it has to be his âideaâ to leave, or else he will continue to act out. Gray rock him, make yourself as boring as possible. Live in sweatpants and wear no makeup, quit washing your hair. Quit doing anything sexy, quit cooking anything tasty. Answer in one or two word sentences, quit laughing at his jokes, wander away when he wants to watch television with you. Eat lots of gassy food, quit cleaning. Eventually youâll hear how boring you are, and about who he finds attractive now. Yawn and say âthatâs niceâ. Other women will be more interesting, and heâll just wander off at some point.
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You need counseling to figure out your self worth issues. I mean that in the nicest way. The problem isnât that he is abusive. The problem is that you stay. You can only control youâŚ
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It will not get better unless he finds Jesus and has a total heart transformation. I can kind of relate to you. Is it you have a thing for the âbad boyâ type? Thereâs so many normal and loving men out there, ones that donât play games. Get out of this situation! Iâm praying for you.
Leave and donât look back. As hard as it is, never look back.
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Sounds like my ex. Go stay with family or friends if you can. Block him on every possible form of communication. Give yourself something to focus on that you have wanted to do for ages but never did because you were too busy pleasing him. Read what youâve written here as if it was coming from a friend or family member of yours. It is so hard but trust me, once you close that door and go cold turkey there is eventually an amazing life waiting for you 
Please donât let him win, your life is worth so much more 
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It will continue to get worse and worse. You decide what you want and if you want to get out you get a support team not sure where you are but there are places for support for domestic violence and they can help you to sort your life and remove yourself from a situation safely. I know ballarat has a service called wrisk who are helpful.
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People love others all the time and arenât together because the relationship is toxic. The longer someone stays away without contact the âinâ love eventually disappears and things become clearer.
Re-read what you wrote fifty more times without emotion like youâre reading someone elseâs story, not your own. What would ask her? What would you tell her? Thatâs your answer.
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Get out. Now. I watched my mother who was completely confident, turn into a woman wâŚIâm not going to continue. You are worth it. Get away while your still sane, alive, and not disabled. Please. Love to you.
Youâre not sick enough of him and your situation⌠and you are still too NEEDY. If you hadnât have been so needy, you would not have let yourself be with him in the first place. It hurts to think of yourself as needy but IF you are honest with yourselfâŚnobody can probably say or do anything to get you to leave-- it has to come from your own mind and realization that only you can CHANGE it, no one else. Get tough. No excuses. Cease just existing or make a change. Look at him without 
rose colored glasses. Get real.
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You need to be smart set up an account he doesnât know about and start saving donât tell him youâre intentions (I did this) when you have the money find somewhere again without him knowing delete that search off your browser history. When youâve got somewhere organised you just go wait until he is out so you donât get the guilt trip. Pack your bags and go leave a note but block his number. Alternatively if you have friends or family you can stay with go now same process but you donât have to save
For me it was just a âsnapâ moment. Meaning something in my head snapped that made me say âyou know what? Jog onâ I wasnât happy in the relationship. At all. She single handedly destroyed my confidence and turned so many people against me.
We were arguing one night and I left. She was texting me all night sending abuse and I was texting back saying Iâve had enough of arguing and wont be talking for night. Yadda yadda. She was threatening all sorts. Queue the snap. I said âyou know what? Iâm done. You arenât worth it and this relationship is overâ She spammed me all night. Came to my house the next day and begged and cried for me to take her back. I refused. I stood my ground. I was scared tbh. Iâll admit it. But I stood my ground. She turned angry. The sadness thing was just a facade. Thankfully my dad was around shortly after so nothing couldâve escalated. She threw a fit, dad got involved. I sent her home and honestly, within within hour I felt relieved. And by the next day it was just nothing but peace.
You need to have the strength to say no. Stand your ground. If youâre scared they might so something, do it in a public place. Or somewhere with security. But as long as you show fear, theyâll hold you there. And as soon as you get the courage and the time and place to do it, leave and donât go back. Even if you end up at a hotel. Stay there and switch your phone off. Then focus on self care. Order food. Have a drink. Watch a good TV show. Do anything that makes you feel good. And know your worth.
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I canât imagine being in a situation like that. Thatâs not love baby. Thatâs manipulation. Itâs playing on feelings he knows about. Youâre the one that may have to leave. He knows how to work the police, etc.
Yes its hard to leave but you can do it . This is not love trust me you will see . Ive been there if he wont leave you leave I know its scary but it will be worth it The first step is the hardest just take that first step you dont want him either your just set in a routine with him and know nothing else . If you have anyone left family friends ask for help !
Abuse hardly ever gets better. Plan your move, get family and friends to help. Go to a womanâs shelter they are trained to help you and your kids. Itâs very hard sometimes to leave someone we loveâŚlove yourselfâŚbe safeâŚplan a happier lifeâŁď¸
Go get a restraining order issued on him! The police shouldâve already told you that is your best option.
You need to love yourself and have a standard by which you expect to be treated.
Get in touch with a womans support group speaking from experience uou need strong emotional support to leave him-- and stay gone. One way or snother you need to be out of there
It doesnât get better; it will inevitably get worse. You either love the sex or love being abused if only verbally abused.Youget away by walking away and staying away. It doesnât sound to me like you really want to leave. If you stay, donât complainâŚitâs your choice.
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Contact a domestic violence shelter. They will have resources available to help you. Also, cut all contact when you leave and make sure no one can find out where youâre staying. When I left my abusive situation, I was in a long distance relationship and my boyfriend got me out. Weâre still together 6 years later and he still makes me feel safe.
This is what everyone feels, the head games, making you feel crazy. Itâs no longer real love because itâs one sided.
You need to find a way to save your money and find someone that is willing to help you give you a place to go, there are domestic violence shelters, pack your stuff and go when he isnât there. you can pack things he wouldnât notice over a few weeks and ask a friend if you can leave a few boxes in their garage, and take them a little at a time.
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Lady it doesnât get better if anything it will get worse. You have to be strong and walk away. Easy to say so hard to do. If you can manage that you are halfway there.
Did this for 10 years too long⌠One day youâll just leave and be done - i ended up having to call into work without him knowing & when he went to work I packed all my belongings and left itâs much easier when theyâre not there.
Iâve been there. I thought I loved him âso muchâ as well, but then I asked myself why, because life was hell living with him (there was physical abuse as well). I realized that I was actually just in love with the idea of being in love and that I didnât need the crap anymore, and more importantly I DESERVED BETTER. So, I boxed all of his stuff up and the next time he came home (he didnât always come home when I expected him) he found his stuff outside and the door lock changed. Nobody deserves to be treated anything less than like a queen/king especially by the one who claims to love them. BTW, if you want to message me, please feel free. You deserve to be treated with love and respect.
He has made you feel worthless thatâs thatâs why you want him. Iâve lived through something similar and honestly until you somehow find a way out youâll be miserable. Is there no family or friend you could stay with until you sort out everything else
You are in a codependent dysfunctional relationship. The police know the futility of helping you; you will just take him back . Heâs gaslighting you, making you seem like the crazy one. It sounds like you enable one another. Iâm willing to bet you are repeating patterns you were parts of when you were children. Many people have tried to help you, I would guess, but like any addict you wonât change until you hit rock bottom. When you do, you will listen to good advice and accept help. Itâs up to you.
There is something that you are getting from him. I donât think you want him to leave. You need him for something and thatâs why you have not legally gotten him out. You could leave but you choose not to you let him suck you back in with his narcissistic ways. Something about this story is just not right. Do you need his money? You want him to leave but are you capable of taking care of yourself? Something about this story just doesnât add up. If itâs your place and you are a homeowner you have to legally evict him thatâs why the police donât make him leave. If both of you are renters you canât make him leave if heâs on the lease. You say you want him to leave but you still love him! What is it that you love? Is it the abuse? This sounds really twisted!
You are definitely dealing with narcissist abuse, do not wait, kick him out then file a restraining order. If itâs â his place" then grab your things and go, never look back, I understand that this will be sheer hell because youâll never get answers and the " whyâs" will echo in your head for a long time, if it hasnât already itâs very likely that PTSD is working itâs way in. Please, donât choose to suffer. Get to safety 
Please realize you dont love him. You are scared of him. Find a womans shelter and GO. It will never get better, he will not change unless its to the worse. You wont realize how this has been effecting you until it isnt. Stay strong and know you can do this
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U are not ready to leave, idk where u r from but in Australia there is alot of help for ppl in violent relationships they will give u all the help u need. Gather all ur evidence and put a restraining order on him. It will never stop because u allow him bk every time he hits u. Ur parents dnt even hit u like that so y is it OK for someonr else to. There is plenty of dick in the sea unfortunately this oneâs not for u itâs time to move on.
I wish I could tell you how to leave but I donât know what kind of support you have if any. Thereâs always women shelters thereâs programs to help you get on your feet and live independently. It took 5 years for me to leave my toxic ex. Finally my dad listened to me after the second time he took me to the ER for a panic attack. Mind you I had been asking my dad for years to help me get away from my ex. Itâs up to you to do it though. You say you are miserable but yet you love him. I donât think you love him, I think you love the thought of him.
You decide when enough is enough and you go. You leave and NEVER look back. Itâs tough but itâll be worth it! You are worth it!
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Itâs very hard to leave but as long as you stay itâs telling him that what he is doing is okay.
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Youâll never be happy and he wonât change the abuse only gets worse until you find yourself have dead in a hospital room saying thank you God for saving my lifeâŚ
So ask yourself do you love him enough to lose your lifeâŚ
Iâm pretty sure in marriage till death do us part is not ment being murdered and abusedâŚ
When youâve really had enough you will make the way for your freedom TO SAVE YOUR LIFE!!!
Get an appointment with a marriage counselor and everything over with him. If you need someone to back you or go to court with you he will be with you. You might ask him to talk with him privately so he has the full prospective before he tell you what would be in your best interest. I did this and it gave me strength.
The first thing you need to do is figure out what is wrong with you, not him, that you would want to stay in this bullshit and be treated the way you are being treated. This is not love, it is drama. Either pull yourself up by the boot straps and walk away or get some counseling. If you keep staying and thinking you love him, one day you will end up dead at his hand. Who do you care the most about, you or him. He obviously doesnât care a thing about you.
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I left a relationship just like this 2 years ago I was finally done I knew there was nothing left my divorce was final 2 weeks ago you have to be ready you have to want to leave only you will know when itâs time but you must go just get out if he threatens you in any way verbally you can go to your family courthouse and get full restraining order its what I did to get him out
Iâm living in same condition and same situation with three girls little on is just four months old, he tells me sake of girls stay and give me a chance, forgive me, in front of him I say okay but every minute Iâm regretting to be with him, he tells me Iâm selfish if I think about myself I should think first about our daughters, Iâm not happy and I donât trust him and donât want to get hurt by his cheating or lies, I have no strength to leave him just becoz he pays for everything, and I stay and look after kids house, he made me believe I worth nothing without his help,
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Iâve had to do this before a couple of times.This is what Iâd doâŚ
If youâre only renting, then pack up and move out leaving him no forwarding address. If you own your home, change all locks, pack up his shit and leave it on the lawn. Get a restraining order. Send him a text telling him to get his stuff from the lawn by a certain day, then you will throw it out. If he comes by, donât let him in, and get the cops back over if needed. Good luck!
I have found that when I had a moment of clarity I realized that it was the thought that if I hung in there long enough he would change for me. It did not happen and it never would. Love your self enough to want better for you. Imagine a brighter future, a good job, waking up HAPPY instead of crying. Pack those bags love and get out. I did and I am much better off, I have a life and have had love. It is not worth this much pain, I wish you well and a happier future. You can do this
He sounds like a narcissist. You need to speak to a therapist or counselor to deal with your underlying self esteem issues that would allow you to stay with someone that it clearly bad for you. Iâve been there more than once. Work on yourself and find out what makes you happy. You are worth it. Once you truly love yourself, you can attract an equal partner. God bless you and keep you well.
Iâve been there done that and i promise it will not get better. I donât know where you live, but most towns have a safe house and will help you get your feet settled. Privately ask a police officer and they will help find you a place.