Most abusers have seen or been a victim …
We are who we are by upbringing , childhood , was both his parents in his life? Look at his family dynamics, dysfunctional can be the normal , especially to the person, trauma can change us .
What’s his relationship with his mom?
All factors… our actions can also trigger them especially if it reminds him of his past , ptsd is not a brain injury , it’s an event that effected us , and sometimes can change us …
He knows your not leaving . It’s a game to him … do something out of the ordinary, stop enabling his behavior how he treats you , giving entitlement by us is the problem
Scare him , show him how his life would be without you.
Just disappear , don’t answer your phone , find a safe friend , hotel , give him a taste of what it would be like without you …
If this doesn’t change him Nothing will and get out!
Wait till he goes out and change the locks?
Pack his things and put them outside and change the locks
Like a alcoholic you will know when you hit rock bottom. Just don’t wait to long so many don’t make it out
You have to just get up and walk out the door with just the clothes you have on your back
You have to love yourself more than you love him.
People use the word “love” when they mean dependence.
How could tovcollect all of these words???
Listen to the song "50 Ways to leave your lover "
Go to a woman’s shelter. This will be the hardest thing you have probably ever done but I believe in you. You are strong and you can do this. You deserve to do this. 
pack your things when he’s gone and just leave. if he won’t go- then you do it.
Talk with a professional psychologist. Get help to build yourself confidence and do what needs to be done
Help yourself! Be strong
Pack up don’t tell him shit and disappear
This is abuse. You need to get out. Praying that you find the strength and resources. God Bless You
You know your exhausted, and you need to leave him…that’s the sign you need to listen to!!!
He will never change!!! he is getting away with it!!!
THE FIRST STEP IS THE HARDEST YOUR GOING TO HAVE TO DEAL WITH! STOP MAKING EXCUSES, NO MONEY SO WHAT?? FAMILY OR THAT 1 PERSON U CHOOSE HAS A COUCH…GO …DONT LOOK BACK!!
IF YOUR STRONG ENOUGH TO WALK OUT AND NEVER LOOK BACK, KNOWING YOU DESERVE TO BE LOVED, CHERISHED AND PUT ON A PEDISTOL…YOU CAN DO IT!!! IT WILL GET BETTER FOR YOU I PROMISE! YOU WILL FIND YOUR SMILE AGAIN! YOU WILL LAUGH AGAIN! YOU WILL LOVE AGAIN…YOU WILL FIND YOU AGAIN!!!
You need to stop making excuses why I can’t leave, pack a bag and walk out that door, and never ever get in touch with him again!!!
Silence from women hurts them so much more…so block him, on everything, tell 1 family member you are going to visit them, tell Noone else where you are…
(cause when you don’t answer him, and haven’t seen him a few days, trust me, he will go looking for you to cry put on his tears, and get you back with him, because he’s comfortable with you, you let him get away with his ugliness, he knows Noone else will put up with it!!)
A change of clothes is all you will need for a change of life…good luck xox
Sounds like he may need some help…medication maybe. 
But you definitely need to leave. You are worth so much more than that.
Love yourself first and foremost. Then the rest will work out.
All great advice. Just go. Before you know it, you will feel free and happy.
Read about NAS. Your post sounds like my past life. After 15 years of abuse I left. Good luck!
Stop the excuses and just leave.
Call a woman’s shelter. If you can’t find one call the police and they can give you the info. They will help you with everything. 
How sad to live that way it won’t get better, walk away from it all and start your life your sanity,happiness and life is important, YOU ARE VALUABLE 
Just leave It will ever change and not easy Go to a shelter
You don’t need a man to be happy. Move out
I left with a few bin bags of clothes a baby and two young kids. The domestic support worker told me… you will never leave until one.day something will click. That day came after being accused for the millionth time of cheating and getting called every name under the sun. I said if I walk out of that door right now I will never come back and I never did.!!! You can have all.the advice in the world but people are already telling you what inside you know!!! Its dealing with the reality and loss that they don’t love you and they will never change. No matter what you do or say… they don’t think.you are good enough… BUT YOU ARE!!!
“But I love him so much….”
Pray, find a good church, talk to a Christian councelor. Put God first place in your life and he will help you. I attend Mosaic Church.
He is fighting demons get out before he really hurts you.
Talk to a domestic violence organization and come up with a safety plan.
It’s hard. But just leave. It gets worse.
You need help, get some professional help
Big hugs look up the cycle of abuse. Then leave. Realize you won’t change him.
You want him because you don’t love yourself
It will definitely get worse. Just plan it and leave!!!
If you cant leave get a soliciyor to grt him out
Leave. It is hard, but you deserve better.
You know what you have to do. Do it.
The police need to remove him charge him
My marriage to a T! 
Narcissistic behavior. Educate yourself on YouTube! You can recover.
Go to a shelter! Just leave! You are strong!
Id rather be alone nd concentrate on my kids can’t entertain the bs cry baby status life is short find your happy place just saying
If you don’t go you will not survive. This is not love.You must stop .
Become independent, stop on his money. Make your own.
Women’s shelter ASAP
You have to stand up for yourself
It’s your house grey a restraining order
Run as fast and far as you can not tomorrow now
Go to a womens shelter they will help you with resources.
It doesn’t get better it gets worse.
Go to a women shelter
Leave before you end up dead, sounds nasty but it’s the truth
It probably won’t get better with him. Trauma bonding is a real thing that keeps abusive relationships together. You will be happy again, but it won’t be with him. The best thing you can do for yourself is to leave. Just disappear one night. He doesn’t need to know where you went if you don’t want to tell him. Pack up what is important to you, and go.
" Sleeping with the Enemy "
Get out before he kills you.
Get out of the cycle! Start over New! You deserve it!
Look up Gaslighting. He won’t change.
It took me 19 years to find the courage to walk away… Be strong.
1 day you WILL find your strength
I hate to say it but u will have to be the one to leave he will most likely never leave. I left my husband at the first of the year. I had to leave most of my stuff and take my kids from our 3 bedroom home to live with friends then my parents. And even though life is nothing like it us to be I’m okay with that… I’m so much happier also with so much less things.
I don’t want to sound harsh but is loving him worth the price of your life? What if he snaps and kills you? What kind of life are you living now in constant fear of the next time he gets angry? Call a crisis line, any crisis line and they will help you. Get far away from him
No where to go for me
No you will never be happy if you don’t leave. He is messing with your self esteem. He never going to change. Love your self
Just go… before it’s too late 
IT DOES NOT GET BETTER!!! This is the typical cycle of abuse!! Abuse comes in all forms… verbal, emotional and physical!! Get out!! Only 3% are able to get help and change. Your life is too short to spend it in this vicious cycle of abuse. It is not your responsibility to treat his mental illness. And it IS mental illness. I believe his tears and remorse are real to him. That does not change the fact that he is emotionally ill and incapable of having a healthy relationship. You must save yourself and do it safely. If the Police aren’t helping you then seek help from a domestic abuse advocate so they can advise you how to safely remove yourself or him. I know its hard…unfortunately, I had life altering effects but got out alive. Starts out very subtle and in time changes from emotional to physical. No matter how much we think we love someone we cannot fix them. This is only their responsibility. ALWAYS REMEMBER THESE WORDS…Real love NEVER hurts the way an abuser hurts the person he or she professes to love!!! NEVER!! If you need help or someone to talk to, feel free to PM me on msngr. Stay safe!!
After one abusive incident, he took me to the doctor. He spoke for me, I wasn’t allowed to speak. He made the excuses. And as I sat in waiting room, in the corner I saw an old frail grey haired woman. Her face was black and blue. Right then and there I knew, if I don’t get out now, that would be me.
You just do it. You make the phone calls and tell the stories. You act like your life depends on it, because it does. It’s surreal. You swear people to secrecy. You mail the photos, the proof of abuse to a few different people. You’re numb. Then it happens, you have those 2-3 hours alone and a box truck hurriedly pulls up. You break into the filing cabinet to retrieve your IDs (because he won’t let you have them). You throw your clothes into garbage bags and throw it all in the truck. You grab your dog whom he’s kicked numerous times, to the point of bleeding… And you drive off. The driver of that box truck is your angel and won’t tell him where he took you.
He will call everyone you know, begging crying and then screaming… He will check the phone bill for every number he can get ahold of. He will call you, over and over again. You will cry uncontrollably and barely have the will to not pick up. DONT. PICK. UP.
It will be the scariest and saddest day. And your dog will see you crumpled on the floor of your ghetto empty apartment, surrounded by trash bags, crying. And your dog will fetch it’s favorite toy and bring it to you. You will cry and put it aside. Then your dog will fetch it’s second favorite toy out of the open bag and bring it to you. And you will stop crying enough to realize what your doggo is doing and hug her tight. And you will throw her toy and she will keep bringing it back to you. And as she brings a smile through the tears on your weary and wounded face, you realize something else… It’s only up from here. And every day will be slightly less painful.
And one day you will be happy, and that pain is a distant memory. I promise, one day you will look back and it won’t hurt so much.
You just do it. There’s no magic. There’s no sign. You just get numb and do it. Good luck dear.
Pack your stuff and leave start again
It will Never, Ever Change!!!
Been there, done that!
Pack a bugout bag, and hide it, well. Next time he gives you money, when you’re alone, grab that bag and that money and leave. Have the numbers for women’s shelters ready to hand. If you can’t find a shelter bunk, call that last friend who still feels for you. Tell them you’ve left him. See if they will help. You are being abused in every way. Your love is wasted on him. The abuse will get worse, and then worse again. He could very well kill you. Wishing you dead, to your face, is a clear sign. You must get out of there. No property, no possession, is worth going back for. Try to pack, in your bugout bag, something you can pawn, but don’t go back for anything. If it’s important, pack it. Do Not Go Back. Get any counseling you can. I got counseling, on leaving my abuser, through YMCA. They charged on a sliding scale, and if one had no income, it was free. Study up on resources in your area. Tonight, or whenever he’s not around. But make ready to leave, and then leave.
Sounds like a narcissist. He will never change. The choice is yours to make the move.
You can sit on your bottom and cry all you like but nothing will change until you make the decision to leave and get a life.
National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233): You can tell you where you live and they should be able to advise you of where a Safe Womens Home near you. I will keep you in my prayers. I hate you do not have family or a friend to call for assistance. Even if they do, some women will not call for house do to shame. It is not YOUR FAULT!!! What people do not realize the person you are with probably is the nicest, funniest person in the world to them and Changes to a Monster with you. He probably was Mr Wonderful before you married or moved in with him, then turned to MR Hyde!!! Men like this are a particular sociopath!!!
Wait til he’s asleep, then pop a cap in his @ss.
Better leave now , there might not be a next time 
Four words when police are called:
I DON’T FEEL SAFE
One day you will just have enough and you start planning to leave.
Walk out and never look back
What did you ever do tothink you deserve this crap? Grow some and move on!
Ever think about your just leaving. If you’re that miserable, get the hell out.
He’s a narcissist, and he’s gaslighting you. It will only get worse. Leave. He doesn’t love you. Men like that are incapable of loving anyone except themselves. The real him is the abusive one. The lie is when he’s good to you. You have to be strong and leave him.
Fuck him! The hardest thing is leaving, so worth it
I would rather leave than be six feet under, or wind up in a mental institution, or wind up killing myself just to escape…it isn’t worth it. At all. Look up womens shelters or stay with relatives if you can.
As a woman who spent 2 years escaping a man i loved endlessly but who beat me and stripped me of everything, took my self worth and sanity too…v
It absolutely does get better sweetheart. Dig deep inside yourself and love yourself more. Om the days its the hardest remind yourself you are worthy of basic respect.
Possesions can be replaced, home is where you make it. Y0ur life and your sanity are much harder to get back once theyre gone.
Two years ago i had nothijg and no one and wished for death every day. I didnt hate him for almost killint me, i hated him because he didnt. Today my life is … amazing. I love who i am. Iv rebuilt the broken relationships with the people who love me that i was isolater from. Im safe. Im happy.
You ABSOLUTELY CAN REBUILD AND FIND YOU AGAIN XXX
Leave before he finishes with you !!! And he will, he chose you as his victim, and you’ll be always be if you’re in touch with him !!! Bite the bullet and save your life, sanity and happiness. I was with an abusive and narcissistic man, but I had 2 kids and I saw what will happen to them. That gave me the courage. It’s been 25 years since I kicked him out of my house and my life!! We have a son together and because of that he tried to keep abusing me until I decided no more !!! Those abusive men are monsters !!!
You need to leave before you die!!! He is a Narcissist and feels nothing but for himself!!! You’re the victim not him LEAVE!!! WHILE YOU CAN!!!
At 29, divorced after 10 years. Managed and made it. Ironically stayed cordial. The happiest years were those just with my son, peace and quiet.
Been there… Except me and him have a child. He was a narcissistic asshole who took great delight in tearing me down.
What helped us was when our landlord sold our house - We were unable to rent anywhere else because of the lack of rentals avaliable. So we moved in with my family. He last 3 months before he up and left me and our child - We saw eachother for a few months after but I knew his true colours and realised I was happier away from him. Soon enough I stopped visiting him and cut contact between us and him - It took me almost 3 long years after we called it off, and him trying to wheedle himself back into my life of fighting but we now have an AVO on him and he can’t come near us. I’m happier than I’ve ever been and its all thanks to my mother for giving me and my son a roof over our heads when we needed it, and helping me see his true colours and helping me find myself again. 
Leave now. Start looking for a house of your own, tell him your leaving and STAND YOUR GROUND! Walk away and never look back. I promise it gets better.
Girllllll… i moved out of my exes and i’s house to my own place. He still came 0ver all the time. Finally on a drunken night I booked tickets to Vegas to have a 3 some and made sure he knew about it. 
I went but the 3 some didn’t happen lol. Instead I called the man inhad been in love with for 21 years and flew across country to see him. We were married 3 days later and we are hitting 1 year of marriage next month. That finally got it into my exes thick ass skull but it was the best decision of my life!
Just leave it’s really not that hard of a thing to do if you are really done with the relationship
The real question is how can you possibly love someone who treats you so so horribly
Good ol police. They don’t do anything until it’s too late. I’m so sorry.
He is a sick individual. There are places out there where you can go. Dump the loser
You know the answer just by what you have written. Get out
Go to a local VPC they will help you figure it all out
YOU NEED TO GET OUT!!! Contact a shelter and make a plan to get away safely! Do it before he kills you!
Put one foot ahead of the other and move forward!
Both of you need help
The christine ann center in oshkosh.
Take videos secretly 
You have to want it to leave. I let my ex get away with so much because he held the kids over my head. Told me he’d take them away forever if I ever left him. Told me he’d kill me if I ever thought about being with another man. I was terrified. He would back me in a corner all the time. He was controlling. Then one day the emotional turned physical. He smacked me so hard in the face I couldn’t see, then when my vision came back and I tried to grab his arm to keep him from doing it again he pushed me out the back door so hard I fell down the stairs. Luckily a mutual friend was there during this argument and he pushed him down the basement stairs. That was my moment.
I was terrified, but I packed up my things and my kids and got in my car and went to my mom’s. I wouldn’t answer his calls knowing he would just try to get me to come back with tears. I saved up my money and got my own apt. Once he realized I had my own and I didn’t “need” him, he backed off. Now I am happily engaged to someone who treats me great and he sees his kids every other Saturday.
They will keep trying and keep pushing you just have to stand your ground, grow a backbone and get out.
I hate the one am with