You can live off so and get housing for you and your girls. I see it everyday. I work for human services so reach out if you have any questions.
Did someone seriously write this trash and who do you think wants to hear it? Sick, sock people!
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Oh, those poor children. They will make all these same mistakes if she doesnāt figure this out and raise herself up to adulthood. Was this girl in the system, you think? What leads to people making the types of decisions sheās made, if anyone knows. Iām genuinely curious and concerned. A product of abuse perhaps? I want to understand.
I know itās hard but get to a shelter. They will help you apply for social services, jobs, etc. Call 211 or the domestic violence hotline to find resources in your area. You and your girls deserve to be physically and emotionally safe.
sounds like your decision is already made, even if yours isnāt he already said he wants out. take the kids and move on. get a job and donāt rely on any man to take care of you, especially some wife abusing jail bird. fuck send his ass back to jail. this isnāt the life you want to teach your girls to strive for.
Ask your self this. What would you do if your girls got married and their husbands were doing that to them.? Would you want your girls going through the same thing your going through or would you want them to get out. You would want them to leave And if you stay your telling them that itās ok to live like that. That itās ok t ok be abused and they are more likely to be in that kind of relationship. So GET OUT NOW show them thatās itās not ok. That there is a better life out there. Go to the cops get a restraining order ask them about a domestic violence womenās shelter. That will get the ball rolling and everything else will come into place. There is people out there that will help you. Churches will help you too. There is some that give you food and help pay bills. And most importantly PRAY. Pray for God to give you the strength to do it and get through it. Pray for comfort. Just pray. I will be praying for you
LEAVE! It will be hard but your life is worth so much more. Iām sure if you reach out to a family member they will help some way.
You know where the underlying issues are and what the are.
You stated it all in the post.
Call a DV shelter, call a help line and get assistance, call the police and have them help you and your kids out. They will put you and your girls up in a hotel till you can get on your feet etc.
There is a lot of help just ask the right people babe.
It only gets worse, he is power playing you and if you keep giving in it will get worse for you and the girls. You need to get out now.
If you donāt, then your post was for norhing. Best of luck
You need to leave girl!
Call 211 when by yourself they will know lots of resources at least in Tennessee.
Please think of kids , momma you are srong and brave . But what if he gets drunk and blows your head off . What if your kids see it. What will happen to them .
With that said there are women shelters, churches, domestic violence shelters, and homeless shelters all over America in every small town . Check out help , blessing, paying it forward pages on facebook .
I have watched communities come together and repair cars, furnish apts , feed families. Help is out there you just have to ask .
You have said geyt on housing assistance leave him make him pay child support your worth more than that
Get out while you still can , find a shelter and leave him.
Call a shelter and see if they can relocate you get away from him . Heās a SOB and your girls need to be away from that and be happy
Go to a woman shelter they will help you get into subsidize living where you can pay rent thatās affordable heāll have to pay child support but please protect those babies and yourself and explain to them that it is better that they stay in their bedroomļæ¼. And a little FYI learn about birth control quit having children with men that donāt wanna have children.ļæ¼
When that bitch gets drunk And starts verbally abusing you call the police donāt leave your house make him leave
Kick this but. Out ? Get well fair.
Do the right thing for you and your kids pack your bags donāt look back get protection police family shelter s no money homeless shelter or just have him removed on for your owe safety
I am so sorry u are in this situationā¦please go see your local police discreetly and seek help from a womens shelter. Take your girls and run and make a new life without him. Its possible and you can do it. Goodluck.
PM me If you would like, i am in Fl. i will help if i can do so. You need to leave!
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Get out before its too late,there are places you can go
While this man is working get all your resources together have a plan and go by this plan right down the line. If you have a friend you can trust with your children so you can get out there and get yourself on the road to recovery. First thing is to get your restraining order ready to go into effect next establish where you can move, there are so many nice apartments or even duplexes that except families who are on a fixed income and you pay them a percentage of what you get and a lot of them the utilities are mostly included. No one except the person you can totally trust is to know of your doings even best to keep it from the children from the start its not really anything they need to know right away anyways and definitely safer for you and the kids to keep it totally under wraps !! What would be really wonderful is if you have family members that can help you out of this situation. But there is no other option you have to leave this abusive relationship quietly and quickly. Get your ducks in a row and when itās time, thereās no talking it out no fighting you can be escorted by law enforcement to help you make your final move. But listen sweetie it will be so much better when you do finally get away from this little boy trying to play the man role and controlling everything you do and name calling is a serious type of abuse and whatās worse is heās not just doing it to you heās doing it to them babies which absolutely cannot continue. Iām sure them babies are already damaged enough over that but that can be fixed by showing them that this is not to be tolerated and that mommy will not allow this to go on. Show them all the love you can give them babies and assure them that everything is going to be just fine, cause you got this girl !! Take the reins and run as fast as you can in the other direction and never look back !! You and those babies deserve so much better and by you reaching out for advice is step #1 to getting your life back and trust me once you get out there in your own place and the children are happy and you get your independence back honey you wonāt want to ever look back and youāll be asking yourself what the neck was you thinking staying with someone like that !! I know once I got myself established in a nice safe p!have just me and my babies I had no more worried and you wonāt have anymore either. Take care of you and those babies and donāt just let anyone just walk up and start to run your stuff itās your stuff your place your option your prerogative, no one will ever run you or your children without you having something to say about it. I.so excited for you sweetie cause youāve made the biggest move right now by just accepting that you are the only person that can save you and them pick yourself up wipe you butt off and go get you a life a happy life that yāall deserve and youāll be better for it !! God bless you sweetie and remember donāt look back just look at the wonderful life your about to give them babies and you. Be proud of who you are nd never let any man step in and try to run anything of your ever again. Your home your babies your rules of you donāt like it go home cause this is yours and yours alone. 
Good luck honey and please let us know some updates on how things are going and if you need anymore advice were always here to help !! 
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Womens shelter they can probably help you hi d housing in rental that goes by income
get out!! now before he kills or hurts you or kids. a womens shelter?
Next time he starts a fight, separate yourself by going to the bathroom and hit 911. Once the police come, tell them what happened. Exaggerate if you must. They will help you. You are in a life or death situation. Please choose life.
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Go to a womenās shelter get local support put kids in a respite home til you figure something out
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Please make a plan and leave do it now
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Kick his ass to the curb
ā¦ this is not normal behavior to deal with. He pulled a gun on you and threatened your life. DO NOT WAIT AROUND FOR HIM TO PUT HIS HANDS ON YOU. HE PULLED A GUN ON YOU AND THREATENED YOUR LIFE GET THE FUCK OUT OF THERE IMMEDIATELY
Iām sick to death for youā¦Iām so sorryā¦run, go to a shelter just for women, they will really help.
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Take the kids and leave
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Being out of prison he shouldnāt have a gun. Go to a shelter,take out a restraining order on him for you and the kids. If your kids are school age apply for free meals at school. Then get a respectable job no matter what kind,cook,maid etc. Them save. You must do this for your kids. Itās not going to be easy but youāll be free of abuse and disrespect and the kids donāt have to be afraid. Good Luck
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Your reaching out to us means you still have the power inside of yourself 
Your self-esteem has been altered, thatās all. Safety of self and mind are whatās important here. For you and your children. Neither of you are going to forget this abuse, but you can start today. A shelter for battered women and children are your best option for now. Mental abuse is a severely underrated act! The effects last longer. Wherever you choose to go, DO NOT TELL/IMPLY to him the location, please. I donāt suggest family or friends he knows either. Centers have protocols in place for safety. Change your childrens paperwork at school solely with you as the custodial parent. Then change their school. NONE of this will feel good, at first. But your life will start to. Your life wonāt change unless you change your life!!! I hope this helps 
may God bless you and your family.
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Oh girl, call the police and have them escorted out. If his name is on the lease/mortgage then you have to explain that. File a restraining order against him and protect your children and yourself. (Domestic abuse survivor)
LEAVE RUN LEAVE. call a domestic violence shelter they will come get you and your children while heās at work. Get out girly your babies should not have to see or hear anyo of that and neither should you. Respect yourself love yourself. You are worthy! You are strong you are capable. Get out darling. Run away fast.
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Get rid of him leave him you will be glad u did and your kids can be happy again cause they no what is going on mine did after 21 years I left him and kids were so happy cause they were afraid off him and thought he would hurt me all the time. He was a dunkerd and abused me and was mentally abusive to them and me I had 7 kids now thank god we are free I divorced him in 1984 and we have not seen him since then
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You no she may not have any way to call the police once he is home she may have snuck and posted this to get help some how someone needs to look into this and I help this woman and those babyās before itās to late !
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Get out of there before it is too late.Wait till he goes to work then clear out.Good Luck
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Get away from him and go back where there is family to support you in your choice. Get a protective order and child support
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Get out as a former paramedic ,I have seen it it will only get worse, leave now
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Girl Iām so sorry u are in this. Sad how we look back an think ā¦ How did it come to this. Jst start today. Say no more. U say u only get ssā¦ well get outta there. U have that to start. Go to a shelter. I know itās not the best but it will be only for a lil bit. They will help u especially since the situation an u have kids. Girl ur worth more than that. I feel bad for u. We all on here telling u the same thing. The things we may have already been thru. Donāt be scared jst do it. You will be alot better an the kids. I canāt imagine what there little minds think love isā¦ that jst made me cry. I imagine they feel as unloved as u. 
. Girl get outta there if not for u. For them! Bless ur heart
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Sounds like a narcissist to me. Be careful.
girl call the cops, take your kids and run and never look back cuz unfortunately it wont end well. Also do whats right for your kids and leave and have them be safe. Kids always should come first
This is an old post Iām reading and Iām hoping and praying you got our. But to anyone in this situation: Get out while you still can! I am a domestic abuse survivor. Itās hard to go it alone. Especially in the first few weeks/ monthsā¦ I promise you it will be the best thing you ever do for you and your children. Do it for the childrenās sake if not yours. It got to the point in my relationship where I just thought āif he kills me or something happens where I canāt look after the kids, who are they going to end up been ācared forā by? Legally it would be the abuser. And I was never going to let that happen. I was empowered by my health visitor to move to a shelter. Just please even if your not thinking about yourself, think about your kids and leave!! It will not get better only worse and you and your kids donāt deserve this life. This might sound harsh and I donāt mean it toā¦ this was how I rationalised leaving - I had the choice to stay in that relationship. My kids did not. They were relying on me to make the right choices and protect them. If you stay and the authorities eventually get involved who will look after your kids then? I certainly wasnāt going to run the risk of my children been taken away from me over an arsehole of a man!! It was hard. I still thought I could change and be good enough and that he would change and he loved me. You are good enough. You can move on eventually. Time is a great healer but you canāt be healed when your living the same horrible life day in day out. And your kids will never have there childhood again x
LEAVE!!! Protect yourself & your babies. 
FOLLOW THE ADVISE GIVENā:arrow_up: It will only take one time for him to be in a mood & one shot with that gun, you wouldnāt be able to protect those beautiful babies from him anymore. Get out!! Youāre not alone. You will have help. Been in your shoes.
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How did it go??
You have to care enough for yourself and your kids to leave. Before he hurts someone or worst. You have to find courage.
IDK where you live but here there are a lot of resources to get help. There is housing that goes on your income. Sounds like you are unsafe and need to get you and your girls out to stay safe! Iām sure itās scary but I canāt imagine living like that! Iām sure the kids can feel it and are probably scared of him and for you. Getting out sounds like your only option as hard as it is. Good luck!!
Please find that inner strength to take your children away from this awful place.
devorce him and leave his ass, get restraining order on him put you and your kids on the paperwork at the courthouse and make sure if your kids go school theu have copy of restraining order too and esscort out by cops telling them you want him out your house for good protect you,kids girl been through this a longtime ago i have restraining orders on my kids dad
File for divorce, custody and child support. Kick him to the curb. Be kind to yourself. Abuse is a horrible cycle. Abuse victims often think they deserve it, and are often mistaken that they canāt support themselves and their kids.
There are resources out there to help you. Food stamps, medical, even help with housing and utilities. Your local department of human services should be able to provide you with a lot of those resources.
I wouldnāt suck anything for him. He probably is cheating and you donāt want that in your mouth. Iām sorry you have had this life with him. You and your kids deserve a peaceful home.
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Get out of that situation! Itās gonna be tough at first but contact shelters or your local police department and they can advise you of shelters or organizations in the area and help (somewhat) with your situation. Itās only going to get worse! But I wish this person all the luck in the world!
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I have a few friends who have packed their kids and driven as far away as they could!
I know the laws are different in each State but there must womenās shelters who can help and protect you and your children.
Churches often have good resources to help you if you go and will help you start afresh.
I hope and pray something will change for the better and you will all be safe and free very soon! Xoxo
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gather your strength and just GO when its safe for you to take the kids. you can figure out bills and the rest later. there are programs and organizations that will help you but you have to get there first. so GO. asap
Omg! You need to run! If he is this way, he just might go on his actions.
Do not stay! Donāt make excuses abt money nothing, run! You need a safe house!!! ASAP! And plan! And the best time to leave is when heās at work. Put your kids b4 him. You HAVE GOT to get them tf outta there! And NEVER go back and go file for a p.p.o!
Can someone plz give her the hotline# to 
call for help and an escape plan?!
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He is abusive. You need to go to a shelter and get help for you and your kids.
They should have a shelter there that helps you get out of the situation and on your feet. Prayers for you. Getting out of an abusive situation and unfortunately Iāve been there to. Dont wait though it could be too late.
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Please leave before he hurts or kills you or all of you. There are shelters who can help you till you can get a place of your own. You deserve to be happy and live a stress free life. I wish you and your girls the best life ever. Also keep your head high donāt let him beat you donāt mentally or physically.
Iād leave in the night or while heās at work. Get assistance from the state,and never let him know where I went. Avoid arguing and fighting,just pack light and go. Thereās places for women in your situation. Make some calls.Your kids will Thank you one day.
I know this is easier said then done, but you need to get you and those babies to a safe place. I have been in your shoes. I had two boys. It started off like yours, I went to nursing school and came back and my 1 yr was covered in bruises from a belt. I snapped. Reach out to family and friends. Youdont want it to get to where mine did. My boys are now 17 and 15. They know everything. He still carried it on even in visitation. We have lived in the court system because of his abuse towards them. Never give up on your kids. My boys will tell you that their momma loves them so much and will fight hard. Those girls are watching and you dont want them growing up thinking that a man treating them like that is ok. Hugs and prayers for you.
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LEAVE NOW the peace youāll eventually find is well worth the struggles youāll face but there is victory in having faith in our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ Iāve escaped 2 abusive relationships one was almost EXACTLY the same as yours until he started to hit me I left after the second time I realized that the love was gone I went to a shelter in DTLA it was humbling the grace of God is greater than the hate of a degenerative piece of shit man GET ON give them babies some happiness
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Please seek immediate help please donāt stay itās only a matter off time before he physically hurts you or the children ,your not stupid your extremely terrified with every reason too be so , call the police if you need too please look after yourself and your children
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Get out now. Take your babies and get out! There are resources available to help abused women and children and thatās what you are. Praying for you and your children 
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Look for a woman and children shelter. They can help you in ways we canāt. I prey u will listen and get help to get you and your girls away from him. You are worth it.
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Donāt even tell him youāre leaving. Pack up your kids while heās gone and go to the police station. They can get you an order of protection and connect you with abuse counselors and support.
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Find a shelter and leave. How can you sit by and let him treat your children like that. I donāt know how to be supportive or offer advice when it seems the person doesnāt put the safety of their children first. Run!!! And donāt look back
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Please find a way to leave and find a safe place for you and your girls. There are lots of places where you can get help.
Secretly I would write everything down and date. When heās at work I would pack up the kids if I were you only what you need and get out of there as fast as you can I donāt know what state you are from, but the most important thing you could do is leave him as soon as possible because it is hurting your babies and as they get older theyāre going to resent you for it if you do not leave and get them somewhere safe, if youāre not going to do it for yourself do it for them. And then make sure you tell someone because that is abuse all the way itās child abuse itās spouse abuse oh, and you cannot let yourself or your children go through this any longer. You need to get up show your girls that their mama can be strong enough to do this. There is shelter for women all over the states you need to go there as soon as possible. Before itās too late and do not look back materials can be replaced but you or the girls cannot be. Your children I mean
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You deserve so much better. There are resources. Go to a church or the welfare office and ask them where your local resources are. There are places you can go that will keep you and your girls together and safe. You are worthy of so much more. All the love and prayers and positivity sent your wayā¤
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I am sorry you are subjected to such a demeaning, hurtful, damaging married lifeā¦and I use marriage, for lack of a word that really is adequate. I can only say what I would do under this circumstance. Record the verbal abuse and threats, keep a journal of the daily occurrences. Report every physical attack, be sure to inform everyone he has a gun. Make an escape plan. Get a restraining order. From experience, it will get worse after he is served with the order. Change the locks if you staying, secure all windows and doors. Take pictures and report any failure. Go to legal aid start the divorce process. Stay strong. You are not his property, you are not the things he calls you. You and your children are superior to him. He is the low life. GOOD LUCK.
. Make a escape plan. Get a restraining order
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,ā¦ Iāll be there person to ask why the hell this is posted on here and not an actual support group. Block me idc I wanted to see things about kids not murder articles n complains of your husband not eating your 
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You need to leave like now! Pack up all yalls crap that yāall need when heās at work and leave google some shelters in your area or even go to a church tell them your story and they will help you find somewhere to stay! He will hurt or even worse kill you and your children eventually
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Donāt let him know you are leaving. Go to a shelter or some place safe. Name calling will escalate to other abuse. Be safe.
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Find a domestic violence shelter they will help you and the girls till you can get on your feet. I pray blessings for you and your girls and I hope you get out of that situation
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I couldnāt get through the first paragraph. You need to leave. Now. Heās dangerous and no good will come in staying with this situation. Once you leave, get yourself and everyone counseling. This will help you all heal and you personally find enough self love to move forward and not accept another person like this in your life.
Well Iād be afraid of what heās doing to the girlās if heās doing this to you and you let him get by with it,your sick to
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I have been in your shoes. Donāt wait!! It could only get worse. I stayed for 5 1/2 years donāt make the same mistake I did and wait that long. Get out and never turn back. There are different places to go. Thereās different shelters to go to. I pray that you do get out now!! I prayers are with you and your girls.
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As an abuse survivor Iād take my kids and go. There has to be something out there.
Take your girls and go to a shelter. If he says it, he will eventually do it.
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You have to put your children first and leave him. If you dont you are no better than he is. That is the blunt reality.
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Why would you stay with such a person? You arenāt happyā¦ leave and please take the kids.
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Look for a shelter get you and your kids out. That is toxic to you and your kids
1 - Money isnāt everything! You can and will figure that out!
2. You have found the strength to live thru this HELL! Then you obviously have the strength to get your children and yourself out of it!
NO IT IS NOT GOING TO BE EASY! But living like you are aināt no cakewalk sweety! Do whatever it takes to keep your kids safe if not for you do it for them! They didnāt choose this life!
Itās definitely time for you and your daughterās to leave and have a better life!! Itās not going to be easy and there are resources to help you!! The mental and physical health of you and your daughterās is very important. Start asking around, calling around and find a domestic abuse shelter or some place where you all can go that is safe and will help you get on your feet and build a life for you and your children that you deserve!!! You need to get a protection from abuse order through the courts to keep your husband from showing up and abusing you or your children. File for court ordered child support so they take the right from his paycheck because heās not going to give up the money willingly. File for divorce and start making a life for you and your children. It wonāt be easy and itās going to take alot of courage, strength and determination along with years to get to where you all will be able to e in a good place both financially and emotionally but you will all be so very happy and you yourself will be so proud of how much you have accomplished and where you are in that point in your life. I wish you all the best of luck as all of you deserve a better life than the one you have. Praying for all of you!!
Iām so sorry to hear that! There are shelters available. Try to find one near you and they will help you and your girls. Get out of there before itās too late. File an order of protection and also a divorce. He could be arrested for having a firearm considering he went to prison already and Iām sure the gun isnāt legally registered? Praying for your future and your safety!!
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Run!! I stayed in a marriage and endured this for 12 years. My children suffered and we all are struggling with the healing now. We are all better for leaving and Iām thankful I did. It took a lot of courage to do it. So just run and never look back, it only gets worse.
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Leave. Your children should be the only factor in every decision you make. End of discussion.
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My heart breaks for you and your children. Start searching out recourses in your area, you may not like it but you and your children may have to go to a shelter for abused women/ children. It will be really hard/ rough in thw beginning but you will be safe and away from the abuse. And shelters can lead you in the direction if more assistance to get you on a stable foundation. Best of luck to you and your children.
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God will make a way love there is no reason he should treat you like this itās degrading and you deserve better. You said heās never hit you but he will. Thatās a scary life you live no one should be treated like this. Get out sweetheart while you can cause itās just going to get worse.
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Itās so easy to say just leave. But the truth of it is thatās a lot harder said then done. Unless you been where sheās at you donāt know.( Yes I have been no longer ) but please know there is help and protection. Youāre not alone there are people that care and are willing to help
Ask yourself if you would want your girls to be involved with someone that would hurt them in that way. Remember you set the tone you provide the blueprint for your children to emulate. As parents we want better for our children so why not do better for ourselves so they no what they can expect and accomplish for themselves. Get you back and everything else will fall into place cause thereās nothing more dangerous than a woman who knows her worth
Please find a safe place for you and the childrenā¦a womenās shelter close to youā¦family, even ask help from faith based churchesā¦just please get yourself and those babies out of there. Praying for you.
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There are resources out there to help you. There are enough stories like this on Investigation Discovery where he killed the woman or the woman AND her kidsā¦why risk that?? Those children depend on YOU for their safetyā¦donāt let them down, put them FIRST and your fears (& sexual problems) LAST. NOTHING should stop you from getting your children out of there. Go to Social Services and get all the info you need. Sign up for Housing, Food Stamps, etc then pack and go to a shelter until you get approved. Iāve been in a domestic violence situationā¦I finally left because I realized my children didnāt DESERVE to live like that! I needed to be their hero, WAKE UP and take actionā¦so thatās what I did. Was it hard? YESā¦but not as hard as living in fear and misery!!
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Get out of this A.S.A.P!! Heāll only get worse. And itās only a matter of time till he starts hitting you and the kids.
There are place that can help you. Talk to someone at SSI ask if they can help you. PLEASE for you and your childrenās safety, get away from him NOW!!
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good lord did u not see the whole thing that happend the chris watts story ??? u needa get the fuck outta there ā¦people r crazy these days u have no clue when heās jus gonna snap ā¦ get the fuck outta there asap
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You donāt have any friends?
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Leave without telling him your leaving or else he might try to stop you or try hurting you in the process. Just find a shelter pack up some essentials and hit the road. I hope you have a friend who can help you
Please leave and get a restraining order. This is no way to liveā¦for you or the kids. Go to a shelter. Anywhere is better than where you are. I know itās hard for you. Think of what this is doing to the children. Pleaseā¦
I am a surviver of domestic abuse may times over the last one was more mental than physical. Its never to late to leave. Do it for them. Leave now before its too lateā¦God will always make a way. Dont do what i did and wait hoping things will get better cause they wont. U got this girl keep ur head up and think about ur children they dont need to grow up seeing this.
It is still abuse. Find a good abuse shelter. They will help you find resources. Get child support to help you support the kids. You donāt need the disrespect
I donāt know what he went to prison for but is he on any type of probation? Is there a friend or family member some place that you can go to? Everyone is saying it, act like nothing is wrong when he leaves for work? And pack your stuff. Ask police for an unmarked car to get you out of there so neighbors know it wasnāt the police. Do you have a car when he is gone? If so get out ASAP