Absolutely did the right thing. There was no reason she should have unzipped her jacket and threw it on thr couch the min you came in. You had every right to speak up and say something. I do recommend maybe not embarrassing her in front of everyone and pulling her to the side next time. I have a daughter and if she ever does that or had a friend over at my place and unzipped the min a guy walked in only wearing a bra I would be making them put the correct clothing on too.
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Itâs not ur house , nor ur child. Which makes it not ur business how she dresses⌠
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100% agree with you. Little girl is male attention seeking and that is obvious. She needs to be taught to be modest and that a guy needs to like her for her not because her body.
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Some kids donât have parents that give a shit (let them get molested in their own house kinda parents), some kids have no guidance and ALL children need guidance! I believe bringing it to her attention is good BUT maybe not the best situation to have addressed it right then and there. Sometimes pulling someone to the side might be the more appropriate thing to do, I wouldnât want to hurt her emotionally. Remember these young girls are trying to fit in, trying to find their place and a little pep talk from an older girl/woman is what they need 
a role model so to speak 
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You shouldâve really minded your business, especially since you didnât mention that your mom had an issue with it. Maybe youâre insecure and jealous of her body? And before yâall come at me, yes that happens some adults get jealous of kids. You purposely embarrassed her in front of everyone and thatâs honestly something that couldâve been handled in private if you had that much of an issue with it. and who cares how she dresses to go to school? Why was that even relevant to the incident that happens?
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So an underage girl stays at a friendâs house and sits around in a bra in the presence of older males? Someone ( parents) needs to set boundaries and make the rules. No one should feel uncomfortable in their parentâs house. The kid needs to cover up
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I think you did the right thing although maybe you should have talked
Yes!! U did the right thing by speaking up
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You donât get to gatekeep how other people dress in other peopleâs homes especially. However if the child needs help in some way, shaming her wonât get you far.
Why does this girl do this? What else is going on
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Sounds like youâre insecure. 16 is when kids are figuring out who they are and some of us look stupid doing it. Any âadult maleâ that makes you uncomfortable around a child (lewd or not) is an âadult maleâ you need to be removing from your life, not giving little girls shit over.
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It would have been your mother or sisters place to say something. However, everyone over sexualizes everything. We all need to teach our children right from wrong. Everyone should be comfortable in their own skin, but have respect for others at the same time. The question for you is to ask yourself why you were so angry? Was it because you were taught it is wrong for a girl her age to dress that way? Was it because she didnât have the appropriate figure? Was it because it turned you on? Sorry to be so blunt. Thatâs where the problem lies, itâs that society blames women for what they look like ( most of the time), no one is born with clothes on. Now, I am not saying we should all be nudists! I have 5 kids, 4 daughters, and 1 is a rape victim, if a person is going to do to someone else itâs not going to matter what they are wearing. My then 13 year old daughter wasnât wearing anything inappropriate in the middle of January in Western Maryland.
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You did the right thing by calling her out at the moment it happenedâŚNo he said she saidâŚThe mother definitely has to set boundaries with the girl and rules for her to follow so long as she is staying in her house!
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You are not insecure and you did the right thing! God what happened to common sense and decency!
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I would of spoke up. Sometimes kids need to hear it. However just make sure you explain to her when dressing like that it leaves herself open to rape and being taken advantage of. Iâm sure her parents would be glad you spoke up. I mean of that was my kids I would be. I tell my daughterâs friend all the time and I make her cover up of o donât like what she is wearing. Sheâs 12 and looks 17. She got big boots and a butt. I love her like my own daughter. She calls me mom. I will always protect a child even of they donât like it.
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Wonder what goes on in her houseâŚ
Regardless, that 16 year old child is staying at a family home of a friend and will be treated accordingly. As part of the family. That includes learning about decency, modesty, self respect, and respect for those around her. People always like to make dumb statements like, not your daughter, not your business, if your mom doesnât have a problemâŚman. like stfu with that bs. Itâs so weird not to teach boundaries, respect for other peopleâs homes, especially for those around her. Sheesh. Where has the common sense gone for a lot of people. No wonder why this Society is screwed up if the lot of you are teaching your children that type of dress behavior is okay in someone elseâs home. Sheesh, no respect. The problem is with the girls behaviors behind how she is dressing. 
I definitely would have had that conversation with Mkm first, then sit down with both girls, and go over decency and house rules. That child is still s guest in the home and will be treated as all other children. Also, maybe the Mom wasnât able to speak up, maybe she was uncomfortable too, but was afraid to overstep.
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This girl has had some trauma in her life, I hope you were nice about âsaying somethingâ sheâs been abandoned by her family she could use a real one
Honestly I feel like your right.thats just not okay and I mean atleast she had someone who is genuine say something to her about it before someone else did and before something happened. I hate that this world is like that but it is and girls need to understand their bodies are to be cared for and respected and that all begins with respecting yourselfâŚ
Speak up. Kids shouldnât be wearing that shit. They should be being kids. And you should NEVER be uncomfortable in your familyâs house
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Dam right someone has to say something
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You did the right thing
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Definitely would have said something
Back up why are you stopping by to get cash from your mom
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If the question is âshould I have done this or should I have minded my own businessââŚthe answer is almost always minding your own business.
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Why are you worried about a man around a child? Sounds like a sketchy man if youâre worried about how a child is dressing around themâŚ
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Yes, mind your business.
Let me start with saying I LOVE how much respect you have for your mums home
I donât think anybody should dress to please another, if sheâs comfortable then thatâs her choice, however if it makes you feel uncomfortable in your mums home then the 2 of you need to discuss it and meet in the middle she could wear something a little less revealing and you need not to worry about others so much but definitely talk it out and meet in the middle.
Donât leave it on an argent when all calm talk about why you felt that way, as you mentioned she is a child and likely feels a little embarrassed about the situation.
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I guess it depends on what is usual in the home. I remember as a teen visiting a friend whose mother was a nudist. We were all shall I say âinterestedâ in the view. After chatting for about an hour, the anatomy returned to its relaxed state and it was just another visit with an interesting person. No one was harmed in the encounter.
You did the right thing. Sometimes a girl or a boy need to hear it.
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Youâre the adult. You did the right thing. 
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You guys know this is not her kid, right?
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She should have respect being in someone elses house and especially doing it when there is male conpany good on u for saying something i would have as well
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Perfect!! Good job!!!
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I mean I donât sexualize children but the fact when she unzipped rather fast right when she saw you tells me it was on purpose. I think you were valid in your feelings.
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Would you have been uncomfortable if sheâd been wearing a bikini? I see females with butt cheeks hanging out and breasts barely covered at beaches. Also seen topless women at beaches while travelling. Not my place to say anything. Nor do I care. Itâs their choice. I remember like 25+ years ago the trend was to wear a bra, blazer and no shirt.
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I would have gone about it differently. Usually all my friends that would beg for male attention had gone through something sexually traumatic previously and were now seeking validation. Understandable that you felt uncomfortable, but Iâd have told your mom to talk to her, not embarrass her in front of everyone especially if sheâs already got issues in her own home.
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It takes a village to raise a kid. I have 7 kids and if they bring a friend over that I think is revealing to much I would tell themâŚif they are acting inappropriate I will tell them. My son had someone horse playing in the band room the other day around instrumentsâŚgot mine to stop and the other kid wanted to keep on so I treated him like my own and told him he needed to stop before something gets brokeâŚif my 3 daughters wear inappropriate clothes then I would appreciate it for someone to tell them to put clothes on. Kids shld be kidsâŚthey donât understand all the dangers that are in the worldâŚ
While yes, they can dress how they want etc, she should have some respect that it makes you uncomfortable, and glad she went and covered even after grumbling. Your feelings are valid. I would have spoken up as well.
Why are you staring at your sisterâs friend, who is still technically a child?
If it makes you uncomfortable, ask yourself why. Iâm more concerned for you and why you think your little brothers seeing a young woman dressed however she likes is a bad thing. Are you upset because theyâll learn that teenage girls have heaven forbid shoulders, legs, and boobs which are all normal body parts? Are you worried theyâll think thatâs normal and just act like civilized humans around her because theyâll recognize thatâs just how some people choose to dress?
I understand being uncomfortable if youâve been taught that women are responsible for whatever happens to them based on how theyâre dressed. But again, sheâs still in high school. How you feel about the situation is not her fault. What you said to her basically told her that youâre going to look at her like a piece of meat. Which sheâs not. Sheâs a person. I highly suggest you apologize when you sincerely recognize just how alienating you were to a girl who thought she was safe to be herself in her friends home.
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Hereâs the thing. If she is staying with your mom due to her own family issues then its your moms rules while she stays there.
If your mom is not comfortable with how she dresses and asked you to address it, I totally get it. If you felt your mom was uncomfortable but would never say anything I personally may have said something, also.
But respect goes both ways
You called her out in front of everyone for looking the way she did. She may have done it on purpose, she may have not. But thatâs a discussion you could maybe have off to the side and ask her how she felt about it.
You donât want to be the jerk any more than you want her to be the jerk.
Sometimes a conversation out of love and guidance goes a long way
I would have said something. Little girls donât need to dress like that. And should be respectful in other peopleâs homes. Youâre in the right by saying something
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All these people trying to blame the poster when the girl started undressing in front of the ADULT males as soon as she seen them. Thereâs something not right about that and they have every right to ask her to cover up. Itâs not like she was like that when they arrived, but after she noticed them. Thatâs disgusting behaviour on her part.
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I would have said something, yes. Inappropriate for sure. I understand if shes comfortable there, but a bra? I would never be comfortable in a bra in front of a random person I donât know. And Iâm 23!
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You have every right 
canât believe your mom hasnât said anything 
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If she was just wearing it just because, I wouldâve left her alone. However, itâs the fact that she did all of that on purpose to get your attention that I would have said something as well. But also, you were kinda paying too much attention to her in the first place. I understand being uncomfortable around her for how sheâs acting, but youâre also in the wrong a bit. People need to stop sexualizing children. Yeah, sheâs 16, but you shouldnât be paying any attention to what she wears in the first place. 
I am a firm believer in allowing my daughters to dress how they want but I also have brought things to my 13 year olds attention. Such as, she is more developed than other friends. Even though it may be the same outfit they are wearing, hers may bring more unwanted attention. I told her she could wear it, but would she be able to handle a grown mans inappropriate attention. She said she knew how to handle herself, which I have full confidence in. But I still had to explain what I had pause about. We talked about it and understand where the other is coming from. Also, certain things are allowed at my house that my more conservative mother wouldnât like. So, when we go to her house she doesnât wear it out of respect. Since we are going to her home itâs appropriate to respect her thoughts. If she comes to my house, itâs important for her to respect mine.
I think you shoukd have spoken to your mother., being how its her home and not yours. I see worse on adukts in walmart. I see things that some might consider inappropriate on old & young. Was is really appropriate has how you look at what you see. Your reaction to what is before your eyes, should, what you as an individual, control appropriately.
Ex: an adult seeing a younger teen scantily clad. Should look past and not peer at the person. If they can control themselves.
I think you were right.
Glad you told her off. Sheâs a really bad influence on everyone!
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For the very first time in that lil girls life she probably felt like a person a human and not an object⌠maybe she didnât show it and gave attitude but I can promise you she will never forget your face/voice or that moment⌠kids werenât born that way they are a product of what they see or what they are taught
Hate 2 say it but it sounds like sheâs being sexually abused at home. Regardless u shouldâve said something 2 her because they are 14 - 16. They need 2 learn whatâs appropriate and what isnât at their age. While I understand itâs puberty and the latter half of those ages are probably sexualy active they shouldnât be openly putting themselves in that kind of light at that age. Do what u must but it shouldnât be a public act. Furthermore itâs ur momâs house not urs if sheâs OK with it then so be it Iâd just let ur mom no sheâs subject 2 jail time for letting minors act like that around older men because it happened in her house. This whole situation is messed up honestly. If sheâs being abused at home u need 2 have a private conversation about it.
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Who cares. Stop sexualizing her. You only feel that way because you were taught that it was wrong when in fact it is not. Youâre conforming to societyâs standards. Who says women have to wear bras everybody has nipples maybe look at her eyes instead of her tits. The only reason you feel uncomfortable is because if you were dressed like that you would feel uncomfortable she feels 100% secure on her body like all women should!
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Sheâs obviously seeking attention good / bad ⌠there way more going on here than simply wearing inappropriate clothing (thatâs most likely the least of her problems)
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Youâre in the wrong.
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Um yeah,⌠hey little girl: go put some clothes on would ya
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While I agree that her attire maybe unbecoming and inappropriate, and I do get your point, I would feel the same. But perhaps you could.have asked her to come to another room and talked to her privately about why you felt the way you did. Also why it is inappropriate from for her to dress this way. As another poster noted, maybe there is a reason this girl feels she needs to put herself out there like that. Maybe she has been through some crap. There are a ton of reasons, or maybe she just likes the attention. However IAM assuming you are much older and could be dealing with this in a more adult, guiding manor. Be friending her and maybe trying to understand.
I personally would go.back take her aside and apologize for your outburst, expalin to her why u feel that way. Just maybe you might be the confidant the girl needs. Good Luck
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Youâre right. She needs to have some respect. If not for herself then at least respect the house and the people who live there.
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Youâre definitely not wrong at all
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You did the right thing.
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I mean I understand where your coming from but I donât always wear a bra around my house I mean I as long as she has a shirt covering her boobs I donât see the issue? I mean everyone dresses differently every isnât the same. And I honestly donât agree with her ripping her jacket off and showing most of her bra that part is definitely uncalled for.
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Yah not your house not your body. If youâre uncomfortable walk away. Donât shame a teenager
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I honestly feel that you were right. I know as a grown woman when Iâm around young women who dress scantily I even feel uncomfortable. I donât know maybe Iâm too old for the new generation (Iâm 30) but I really feel younger kids are lacking morals. Thatâs my opinion though 
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Yes you have every right to thatâs your momâs home still your home. Your mom need to say some to her mom about that shit. That wouldnât be happening at my house at all I donât care if their feelings get hurt or not.
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you were right to tell her to go get dressed.
If your concerned about a male round this girl then its the male u should be worried about not her 
sorry but she should be able to wear what she wants
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You were right. Donât question yourself that girl is obviously looking for male attention and doing it wrong.
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Yes more people need to speak up. They are children and sometime they have no one at home that cares one way or the other about them. So they do things that might get a shock effect for attention bad attention is better then no attention. She listen to you and went and put more clothes on so she is willing to listen and change. I think you did the right thing.
She needed to be dressed appropriately for any visitor. Hope she learned her lesson.
Good for you. If she wants to dress like a hooker she can see how they get treated when they arenât around garbage. It IS rude, disrespectful and she needs a wake up call early that itâs not cute. Itâs trash.
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You should have spoke up, thatâs how men get charged for seeing younger girlsâŚ.meaning she can make up lies. So no itâs not appropriate. Kudos to you for speaking upâĽď¸
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Yes no child needs to be dressing like that.but perhaps take her to the side and say it in private saying it in front of other people probably embarrassed her.
A gentler approach would have led to a more civilized and understanding outcome. Ultimately, sheâs a teenager & you are an adultâŚwhich should not make you uncomfortable because a child should never be the object of a sexual mind set. Perhaps the acting guardian of the household (your mother) and not yourself should have been the one to address the girl. Her behavior may have been inappropriate to some (you), but it was not your place to correct her.
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Yes, you did the right thing. That is your home and she is a guest. I wonder if she dresses like that at HER house?
I feel you were absolutely correct in your actions. I donât care whoâs child you are donât be walking around half naked when there are adult males in the house. Kids need to know that they donât have to walk around looking like a hooker to have someone pay attention to you. And when u do get that attention itâs not the kind you really want. Good on you for telling her to cover up.
It would have been less upsetting to everyone if youâd have said your peace in private. Iâm sure it embarrassed her and your sister.
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Yes, you did the right thing. These girls need to understand that dressing or undressing like that is not appropriate. Sounds like your mom is trying to be their âbuddyâ instead of a real parent.
Yes!! Speak up. That behavior is completely not ok. Very deliberate on her part.
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She doesnât need to be dressed like that she is way to young I have had to tell my niece to change her clothes multiple times cause she will walk around showing her tits and wearing shirts see through and she lives in a house full of guys that are family
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Yes! This girl needs some guidance and clearly you were the one, however uncomfortable and unfortunate for you, to have to give it to her. Maybe clear the air by asking to talk to her privately about it?
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You were right to address her.
Her home life could tell you alot
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Tough tough situation. While on one hand itâs never a bad thing to be modest. To have respect for your body. On the other hand people should be able to wear clothes they feel good in. Whether itâs revealing or not. I would go into big sister mode and ask this girl questions. Like that shirt is very revealing why do you wear it when your only a sixteen yr old kid. Do you not feel like a kid? Do you like the attention you get when you dress that way? Do you think its respectful to present yourself in this way in my moms house? Yes maybe they are confrontational questions but itâs better to be direct than passive aggressive. It sounds like this youg lady needs some therapy. Good luck to you.
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Itâs not your place to tell anyoneâs child how YOU think they should dress. If itâs your mother house and your mother is responsible for her then itâs up to your mother to tell her something. You probably made her feel uncomfortable by saying something to her. I donât think she should be showing off her body but I also donât think kids should have to change there clothes just because adult males are around. That is just teaching kids that what they wear is the reason adults are perverts and thatâs wrong. The message should have been to respect herself enough to not be showing her body like that. And it definitely shouldnât have came from a adult man, you should have talked to your mom and let her handle it.
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If you HAD to say something, it should have been in private, maybe even have suggested your sister talk to her. Now, every time you see her, there is going to be awkward tension. You were uncomfortable before, now itâs absolute tension.
Keep in mind this girl is 16. She is not in preschool. She is capable of dressing herself, so she does. If your parents have nothing to say about it in their home, then you definitely shouldnât either.
The most current culture, is less of the âoh my gosh cover up,â because itâs HER body. If you donât approve of how she dresses, then you can easily find a different room to be in.
Letâs cancel teaching girls to cover up, and starting educating boys that itâs not okay to be perverts, sooooo simple
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Iâm sure almost all of these mums would not appreciate their daughter taking off their jacket infront of a man, to reveal the fact she was only wearing a bra.
No one is sexualising anyone.
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I would of done the same. She should be showing more respect towards you and your family. I would be so mad if my daughters friend was doing that in my house and I front of other male family members. One would think your mum should of pulled her up the first time she started doing it. She is going to course conflict between you and your family.
Iâm glad you said something to her.
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Iâm assuming that because she was covered up before you arrived and then took her jacket off as fast as possible. She is looking for some serious attention. I genuinely think she needs therapy. It sounds like she has come from a very unloved home and the only time she has ever been shown affection is in Attention from her body. She sounds like she is confusing attention for love. Yes speaking up is necessary but she definitely needs help to understand why
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Good for you. Smart man.
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You did the right thing, honorable young man. But Iâm a 65 year old, maybe a prude.
Yes you were absolutely right to say something. This girl was very disrespectful to your family.
I would have said something. That was extremely disrespectful and trashy. This was your motherâs home. You were in the right.
I have a 38 yro daughter. I still check her for how she dresses.
Props to you!
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Your mom should og said something,but itâs good that you spoke up.
These girls are looking for the love and affection they are not getting at home. Maybe there are some more underlying situations that you donât know about.
Kids act outâŚin ways as a cry for help.
You did right. I am surprised your mum doesnât say anything to her.
You were right. She seems to have an unhealthy need for male attention.
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Yes I would of said alot
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Maybe you should process why seeing a womanâs skin make you a grown man uncomfortable
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I say you did the right thing. Iâm all for womenâs rights and my body my choice, etc. But this is a literal child, not an adult making decisions.
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Something is up, she craves to much male attention and needs to be taught self respect and the art of covering up. Guys respect girls who take care of themselves and guys who are after their skin are not after their heart. She needs someone to explain that to her in a mature way. Take her out for a ice cream n explain self worth.
You did the right thing, donât second guess! Sheâs is looking for attention in the wrong ways
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Absolutely! You are in the right to say something! If she is going to live under your momâs house then she needs to respect the family but most importantly herself! Seems like she has been parented and itâs about time someone let her know what a caring adult is like!
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Sheâs out of order!!!