I’m surprised your mom hasn’t said something! Do not second guess. Had your mom walked in and you had continued to hold a conversation with her while she was in her underwear your mom would look at you like a predator
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Why are you sexualizing a 16 year old. You’re the one with the problem, dont make it hers. A woman can wear whatever she wants.
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No! Males can walk around practically naked and no one bats an eye. Stop telling others how to dress.
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Yes you did the right thing
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Yes.i still do when I see someone a little underdressed
I cant stand to see grown men wearing their pants to their knees or showing what kind of undergarments they have on.i made mention one time this guy walked with his pants to his knees.i said good gosh man looks like you got a big one in their.he pulled up his pants and I mean fast.never saw him wear them that low again
She should be decent enough to respect the home. Your sister should of told her it was unacceptable. Your Mother also should of set some ground rules. We had a 15 year old move in with us and she knew had set standards. She went through her clothing herself on arrival and took out all of the skimpy clothes and they were stored out of the house. She knew I set high standards for a girl. The women in your family are being controlled by a tart.
She can do whatever she wants but not in YOUR moms home. Especially if it’s not something your mom would be okay with. She can do as she pleases, but you can also say what you feel. Teens now a days are just… something else to say the least lol. I woulda done the same🤷🏻♀️
Wow! You sound like a very good child for still listening to your mom at age 20. And your mom, she sounds like a very great mom to have your boyfriend live with her. 
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Was I right or should I have minded my own business?
I’m going to go against the flow here and say that no you had no right to say what you did.
No one does
She is a 16 year old and has the right to dress however she feels comfortable, if men feel uncomfortable or unable to control themselves then they need to leave as they are the ones feeling that way.
The real issue here is why are you sexualising her? Why are you feeling uncomfortable about a female showing skin which you believe to be too much or inappropriate?
Consider this a good moment to self reflect on what happened here and not a reflection on someone else’s choice that could have had no impact on you but you chose for it to, why?
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Yes you should have. Children need to know boundaries and when they cross them.
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The parents who are letting her stay at there house should have set the rules from the beginning period! End of conversation
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Good for you for having the maturity and common sense to speak up. She obviously does not have any respect for herself and will end up in a position that she will not want to be in one day if she continues this behavior. I would hate to see your sister to start acting that way too. Please keep an eye on your sister and help her to understand self respect.
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You have the right to say you are not comfortable with the girls attire… you may be saving her from some sicko out in this world. You were not rude…you were concerned! I think I would talk to the parents when the returned to voice your concerns
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Yes I would have said something. Not only is she disrespecting herself but she is disrespecting your mother. Who has allowed her to stay during this time. Your mom needs to speak up and set some ground rules. My kids are grown but they know when they are in my house it’s my rules.
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Silence is acceptance. She needs to know she is beautiful without having to reveal herself to others.
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You did the right thing by speaking up. Theres no reason for anyone to have to be uncomfortable. It’s a matter of respect…for yourself and others.
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Its sad that you had to say something you would think the other adults would have or even her own family. You have to ask yourself why she feels the need to use her body to get attention.
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You did the right thing. This girl would never know there was a problem with her behavior if you or anyone didn’t say anything. Thank you for saying something to her. It takes a tribe to raise a child, as the old saying goes
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It’s something a woman should know so it’s good you taught her. You dress for the occasion. Dinner at the family table doesn’t call for that attire. She can dress like that at the mall or whatever. There is a time and a place for everything
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I think I would put less shaming into this, and more mentorship. If someone sees a kid who needs some guidance, approach it in a loving or kind way. Take her out for lunch, get to know her, get to know her heart. Help it heal
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Good , we can’t keep many men from their hormones.
As a women they need to stop trying to show men their hidden jewels for attention.
This person sounds like a young man trying to keep a young girl Safe and from Regrets.
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She’s a minor, you’re not her mother, it’s not your house, you’re not friends with her mom.
You stay out of other kids’ business unless it has to do with you or your OWN kids.
Turn the tables and pretend someone you don’t know yelled at your child. Yep, mama bear will come out.
Be ready to hear from the girl’s mom.
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Thank you for saying something. Did you embarrass the girl? Probably. Will she hate you for awhile, as your little sister? Probably. Will they appreciate it in the future? Yes. You are a big brother looking out for family and their friends. Keep coming over and when you see her dressed in something nice tell her. My mother & brother both told me growing up I didn’t need to show everything, let the guy use his imagination.
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It would not be wrong to tell her to have some respect for her own body and stop dressing like she is out for something. Maybe she has had no adult to help her understand what is appropriate and what is not. And maybe she only has those types of clothes. Some of them really do not have any respect for themselves or others.
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I honestly don’t get what’s so difficult about the situation. She’s a guest at someone else’s house, what she did was inappropriate, do it at your own house. But she should have taken the issue to her mother so a private conversation can be had with the girl. Dressing inappropriate is a huge problem nowadays.
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Actually the mother should have addressed it knowing boys were coming in and out of the house I have a 25 year old daughter and a 27 year old son I would have addressed it before anyone became uncomfortable my house my rules I pay the bills
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Sounds like someone needed to address the situation. Your mom needs to sit her down and send her in the right direction. So many kids don’t have parents that care.
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Sounds like she needs a good role model. She’s still a kid. And she’s probably looking for attention since she’s obviously not getting it from her parents. I think you did the right thing.
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I would have spoken up but not made it about me. It’s not about making someone else uncomfortable or comfortable, it’s about dressing appropriately and showing respect for yourself. I would have also discussed it with whoever’s house it was, since this friend needs to follow their house rules.
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Good for YOU!!!
You were right to CORRECT her. And she needed to hear it from a MAN.
Notice I used the Terminology; Man.
No shade, but unfortunately the woman around don’t understand “how” Men perceive girls, young women, and grown woman, who carry themselves that way.
The Truth is the “Truth.” Whether people get mad 
about it, or not … is None of your business.
But it is your business, to DO, what YOU know is right
According to God.
If you don’t subscribe to God … then act just like Satanist I’ve talked to … and do whatever you want! That’s their creed.
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She was dressed seen the guys walk in and takes clothes off down to bra. This is her looking for attention the wrong kind of attention. ThT is uncomfortable .
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Sometimes Girl’s who’ve been assaulted seek out the attention from older guys and dress more provocative in order to grab the attention of older guys. Not saying that pertains to this situation but maybe talk to your mom or sister about it. I don’t think you did anything wrong.
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She obviously has some type of trauma causing her to act like this to seek attention she might have been assaulted
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Yes you had the right…these are kids…evidently she has not been taught some things…your mom must be trying to help this child, but discipline is needed…some young girls today are just alittle too aggressive…just my opinion…
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I would have talked with your mother and let your mother have a private talk with her. The way you handled it caused embarrassment and could have long lasting mental health issues. Remember that she is living at your parents home for a reason.
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My mom would have killed me…and my bros would have to if I walked around like that…plus their friends (more like my bros) would have to…so yeah, I dont think you were in the wrong. It made you feel uncomfortable so you said something.
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You did no wrong! Kids need to be told this and not think it’s OK to dress like this! Parents shouldn’t be buying young girls outfits like this either though.
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Not her house, not her comfort zone, and unfortunately when u dress for attention outside the home, she has no control over whose is gonna show her that attention, therefore giving away her power,
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I feel you did the right thing. It’s not her house - she is a guest there and needs to show respect to those who are in the home. And respect in this case means dressing appropriately.
Someone needs to say something to these young girls. I see this every day. My mom would have never allowed us girls to walk out the house like that. My mom was old school. Everything was to be covered up! At all times!!
It sound like Somebody needs to she evidently has no self respect. You did the right thing. She should be ashamed. Hopefully she got embarassed and learned a lesson. She is going to attract the wrong kind of attention. Your parents should be extremely proud of you.
I think everyone has covered the situation but overlooked your choices that you have made , why are you still defending on your mother for money ? Shouldn’t you have taken a path to having a secure adult life where you wouldn’t have to depend on your mother , some of us shouldn’t be throwing stones when we live in such fragile places in life . Ok sorry if you feel attacked but I have a sibling sister at 50 years old and lives off my mother with to sons better than 24 years old that don’t do jack shit for her , my mother has several health issues that age brings and do you believe that you couldn’t get a one of them to pickup after their selves , wash clothes or cut the grass with a riding mower for their use , I have to travel 60 miles biweekly to cut her grass , I can’t give my mother but so much money at a time because I know my sister will not stop until she has begged it all out … So the world gets straight when we get straight ourselves , we only can control our choices , thats how it starts.
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Somebody has to step up and correct the girl. I’d also have a conversation with her, with an adult female present, about why she thought that was even appropriate behavior.
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I would not want my daughter to dress like that ever and I often had to ask my daughter to cover up a little more when her younger teenage brother and his friends were over. I know my son would be embarrassed if one of his friends said something g inappropriate about his sister. Having said that…the way she was dressed is not the compete picture…it’s her behavior when she saw a male in the room. Totally inappropriate and promiscuous. Will get her in trouble. It should have been approached with concern for her rather than his discomfort. Not know the family she is growing up with I can guess she needs her father or brothers to treat her respectfully and lovingly.
Yes, I would’ve spoken up. I have raised my girls that no matter what age you are…always dress to impress in a practical manner. Never show off what you have til you’re married to the one you love. There are so many things in this world, that are constantly worrying me. With all the sex/human trafficking going on. It’s scary. And personally, when you see this young lady again, ask her if you can sit down and talk to her about your concerns and basically watching out for her because she’s your sister’s friend.
You did the right thing. That’s your mom’s house and she’s a 16 year old girl go put some clothes on purposely taking your clothes off when a male is around is a cry for attention and it needed to be handled.
You were definitely correct in saying something. This girl needs to be taught some etiquette and manners. Maybe she doesn’t have anyone around to teach her. It doesn’t surprise me hearing this. Most girls these days dress like they’re working or living in the red light district.
U did the right thing and if shes staying at your mom house she’s the one who have to say something to
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I may not have said something directly to the girl, but I would have said something to my mother. I get it, we want our girls to be comfortable in their own skin, and be able to dress how they want without fear. But there is a line to be crossed. If the girl was really dressed in just a bra, that would cause me concern. It sounds like she is trying to get male attention and there maybe some mental health concerns that need to be addressed.
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Rule for my 3 is always dress appropriately even at home. Best never see underware from sagging pants. 2 boys n girl. Girl best not wear too short of shorts. Same goes for anyone who comes here. No matter their age. Or they’ll get asked to leave qnd come back when right. Daughter had a guy friend who’s pants were to his mid thigh. My ole man met him and while shaking his hand asked if he needed a belt and offered his. I told boy my rule of my home if he wants to visit here. He had his grandmother bring a pair of pants that fit… Otberwise he would leave. I have a boyfriend… My daughter nor her friends will dress inappropriately. It has nothing about not trusting my bogs or man… But respect for everyone… Including themselves. My boys nevet see my butt cheeks or boobs… Always wear a bra ougside of my bed or shower cause kids in home and boyfriends 8 ur old son. If we go to my moms… And kids take a friend… They will dress right or be told our rule.
You had every right to say something to her. It is your mother’s home, and just maybe you did your mom a favor by telling her what you did. RESPECT!!
She sounds like an under age hoochie who has no right to be in someone else’s home trying to undress herself. That just shows how disrespectful she is in someone else’s home if she’s flaunting her junk in front of the kids. That’s your mom’s home. But if it bothers your mom she technically should have the final word. Hoochie girls are troublemakers and are capable of even getting you in trouble. Keep your distance. I totally side with you.
I think he was well within his rights. That girl was just undressing in another person’s home around males she has no business being basically naked around, she’s acting like a little THOT and it’s not appropriate, especially in other people’s houses, and at 16. No self respect now a days, why do “women” think they have to be naked or practically naked to get attention, its sickening.
Is a very hard situation, I can’t imagine my own daughter be like that I am going to church and show her values but must be hard when they are teenagers maybe you can tell her about what happens when a woman dress like that so they can understand all the kidnaps and crimes can be commit for that reason. Is not ok to dress provocative and show too much.
Good luck I will suggest pray for wisdom…
You were right to.say something this is why so many kids yes I said kids get pregnet.and they cry rape put more cloths on or get out of this house is what I would of said
That little girl will be a “victim” some day. She is putting out a message when she dresses (or in this case undresses) in front of others. You can look sexy without looking slutty. Just saying.
I would have talked to a woman adult about the situation. If a guy is walking around not wearing hardly anything…I could care less no matter the age. The human body shouldn’t make you feel uncomfortable.
I would have minded my business. And if males family or not are uncomfortable around a young girl they shouldn’t be there period .
Oh look. Another man who thinks women’s bodies need to be covered in the presence of men. 
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The mother should have had enough sense to make her cover up. You don’t slow young anyone to run around half naked. You just don’t.
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I think it shows that you care and want help her. Hope she didnt take it the wrong way and think different of you now. I wouldnt say anything else about it to her though if it doesnt change I wouldnt go around.
When you come to my house it is my house my rules. Not let’s make our own rules because it isn’t my house. 16 is still a minor and a child. I make it clear when kids come to our house that my rules apply sme as when my children go to their friends that they abide by those adults rules and when you go out you act classy not trashy.
The fact that she undressed so fast when a male became present is looking for the wrong attention I would have said something too. Doesn’t necessarily mean she can’t be comfortable like don’t wear a bra fine and have crop tops and whatever but going to the extent of taking her clothes off to be seen is wrong
You did the right thing. Surprised someone else hasn’t spoken up before.
YOU DID THE RIGHT THING!! She needed to know not to expose herself in front of you and I respect you deeply for that.
You did the right thing! Apparently she needs a conversation about decency.
You had a right to say what you did. She was dressed appropriately up until you and the male walked in.
Ok all the people saying this is alright and the guy was wrong for saying something….would everyone be ok if it was a guy dressing in a shorts and no shirt at the table and/or who all of a sudden took off his shirt when females walked in?? No? Didn’t think so. Be appropriate and adults should be teaching young adults that you don’t have to dress like that for attention.
Yes definitely! She’s getting the wrong attention from everyone,she needs to respect her body
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you did the right thing, it let the girl know that she isn’t worth your time.
You did the right thing! Please never forget to trust your feelings.
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Meh you have every right to tell someone you are uncomfortable but she has every right to feel upset and uncomfortable that you feel that way the world is weird now days man lol
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Good for you- You definitely did the right thing!
Somebody needs to teach the little girl to respect herself and stop seeking the wrong type of male attention.
All young girls need to cover up and quit acting like rips
Yes. She doesn’t get boundaries. Someone needs to clarify that to her.
Yes, you did the right thing.
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Yes she should be taught now while she’s young.
We all need to speak up! You did the right thing!
Yeah I think you did the right thing. I don’t think I would have yelled but just said. Hey put on some clothes!
Yep. And the mother should have too
Children need to dress like CHILDREN. Trying to grow up too fast and I’m that sister too! 
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Yes, you were right to say domething
You the absolute right thing!!
Well, I think you handled it wrong but I get it I act out like that too. maybe pull her aside and have a conversation with her about how she’s dressing and why she feels the need to dress like that.
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You were right. Hopefully it will make her stop this behavior!
Yes I would’ve said something.
You did the right thing.
You did the right thing
You did the right thing 
Your mother should’ve said something to her ! You did the right thing
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If you’re uncomfortable, you’re uncomfortable. End of story.
I get what you are saying……but….you arent buying her clothing nor are you her parent so thats a touchy thing. And maybe males need to learn to control their behavior when a female is dressed a certain way?
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Absolutely you did the right thing, girls her age need to know to set limits on their dressing habits and she obviously is using her Sexuality In totally the Wrong way ,somebody needed to tell her
As a mom I woulda said something fuck that my daughters will get their asses whooped if dressed like that
She needs to learn respect she has none for herself or others
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Yes. You did the right thing. She obviously needs guidance.
Yes! I applaud you!