1.Honestly if you’re going live with a man that has other kids then you should expect to help take care of him when he is with you. Idk why you felt the need to go on about how much you look after him when he’s over at your house. Sounds like he’s almost a pain for you. Does he help with your kids that are around all the time? 2. You have no right to interfere with his time with his dad. It might just be for “one weekend”, but this is the only time he gets to spend with him. When you say you don’t want him to come over you are messing with his childhood memories, and with his relationship with his father. 3. What an awesome dad for putting his kid first, you don’t see that too often these days. I grew up in a blended house, and I have a blended family now.
I don’t know if it’s been said already, but… instead of asking for him not to pick him up, maybe ask for him to take a day off, leave the child with a babysitter, go on an intimate date (just the two of you) pick up the child when the date is over. You get your one on one and he doesn’t sacrifice what little time he gets with the child.
I get where you are coming from, completely. I also see why he was upset. If he really only gets his kid one day a week, I get why is was upset. Moving out is extreme it seems though.
I seem lucky to have the relationship I have, with all parties. We all have our time, but we can switch days, if someone has something going on, wanting with or without kids, we just communicate and no issues. But I know it isn’t like that with everyone. Took awhile with my son’s father, but we are there now and it’s so nice.
Wow I hear alot if hissing in this feed. Maybe you approach to the situation could he different. If you need a break you need a break. But you did choose to have children and that is part of the package. Maybe ask for a day not for him to give him up on his days for ever. Ppl still hissing
You were beyond wrong for asking. What if your kids dad told you he didn’t want the kids?? If you have a partner move in and they have kids, they are a package deal. My ex NEVER takes our kids, partially because of his wife. Do you have any idea how that boy would feel if he knew you felt he was a burden??? Do not say you didn’t because you want your weekends to yourself, if you want time alone with your boyfriend then get a sitter and go on a date. I would NEVER stay with someone who felt my kids were not welcome if I wasn’t home myself. I hope you learned a lesson here, if you are unwilling to accept partial responsibility for your partner kids, then find someone who doesn’t have children or stay single. No kids should EVER have to have a potential step parent like you!
Personally I think it was very selfless if you have those kids every single day and every weekend. you need a break take the day even if he’s not there take the day you deserve it, don’t let him push you around because if you give an inch he will take a mile. You did the right thing he needs to take all those kids and give you a free day, good luck
My brother in law has 3 kids with his ex wife. He usually gets them every weekend but my sister told him that if he’s not going to be at home to spend time with them to please not bring them over. All the do is eat, sleep and play on their devices. They do not participate in anything. I don’t see anything wrong with it
I truly believe your in the wrong… he only sees his son once a week.
When you got into the relationship you know he had a kid.
If you need time maybe you need to plan ahead and take days off when it doesn’t require you to not have a visitation! That time’s precious 
The child comes first. You have room for 4 kids but not 5? I am glad he chose his son.
It sounds like you have Sundays off together? Did I read that wrong? I’d have left as well. He never planned to be without his son, and extending that time without is selfish. Shame
Yeah, sorry mom, you are kind da in the wrong. He gets x amount of days… maybe you can ask your ex to take yalls kids an extra day or two.
While you may not have had bad intentions, you cant ask him not to get his son… need time? Make arrangements for your kids. That’s all you can do. And be blessed! Most dads wont even see their kid let alone get mad someone asks to skip a day. You got a good man there.
Why dint you compromise with him and see if he can get the kid when your kids are at home and the kid stays at the moms when your kids are gone… I know he would love it more than being home alone with no kids🤷♀️ but getting a break is amazing and he needs to understand sometimes you need a little break too… it’s good he loves his kid but storming out like that bc you asked is childish…
Everybody deserve to have some me time rather you have kids or not he don’t live there anyway one weekend won’t kill him… YALL NEED TO READ IT AGAIN
O my Lord. You knew all this when you all got together. As parents we don’t get to pick and choose when we get to be a parent. If you need a weekend then you make plans on the days you can find a sitter to come over and watch the children same as you would any other time. Don’t ask a parent to be a bad parent insisting that they cancel visitation for a parent only movie night. Thats not right. The child looks forward to these visits and they’re big on us keeping our word as parents. DO NOT ASK A PARENT TO CANCEL ON THIER CHILD THAT THEY DO NOT HAVE FULL CUSTODY FOR A NON EMERGENCY. IT’S WRONG. Put the child to sleep and create a night with you and boyfriend. There’s your alone time until you can get grandma or grandpa to babysit for a few hours.
Yes I think you were wrong. Kids come first, and you put him in a on the spot… here’s my philosophy on you saying you don’t have room for 5 kids you already have three from your previous relationship one on the way and he only has one if one fits they all fit…
You take on that child as your own! Are you kidding me? It was absolutely wrong of you. Family is first and most important. You should be blending your families together 
. He was right to leave. I would have done the same
You’re absolutely wrong to ask him not to spend time with his kids. If you need a break that’s your time to go do something for yourself but if you’re becoming a blended family its going to be important to have and be able to balance all the children. You can choose another time to do something together.
I’m a single mom who’s kids father doesn’t even see them so I have my kids every single day of the week. That being said, IF my kids father would actually take them for only ONE day a week and then said he can’t take them on that one said day because his girlfriend asked him not to get them I would be livid. Good for him for standing up for his son.
I get you need a break momma but asking wasn’t the right way to go. It sounds like you both have Sundays off together? Even if it is a short time in between swapping the kids with there other parents take advantage of that time on Sunday together.
He gets his son one day and that same day he has to work. Which is a sucky situation to begin with. So on that one day he doesn’t even get to spend a whole day with him. To him it sounds like you basically just asked him to not spend any time with his son, what so little on the one day he can.
It sounds like his son is happy in y’alls home and that you are a good mother to him. His son loves you too and wants to be there with you guys. He doesn’t understand that you don’t have space in the home for 5 kids. Just think of how it would make him feel when he looks forward to that time at your home on that one day and then he’s told he can’t go…Hopefully you guys can figure something out that works for both of you and the kids.
Absolutely in the wrong. This sunday is fathers day. And I see how he thought you were asking him to choose. If you need a break cool but you shouldn’t ask him to give up time because your tired.
Thats like him telling you not to take your kids on a weekend you have them. He sounds like a great father and shame on you for even asking him not to take his son. Its just my opinion, but finding a man that wants to be with his children you should not ask him not to take his kid.
I don’t know. I don’t think you was wrong since your kids are away too. Your pregnant!! Your not his babysitter either. He could have got his son when he got off work to give you a break. Are you pregnant with his kids. What’s up with leaving if it’s his kid. Don’t beat yourself up. I only have 2 at home and I’m exhausted. You guys was making a family it seems. I don’t necessarily see you being wrong at all. I’m sorry.
Mabey set up a date night once every month or so. Make it clear it will be for you two only from now on.
You definitely need together time in a relationship.
Let him know it came across wrong that was not what you meant.
You are most certainly in the wrong… could of asked for a Saturday just the two of you before the new baby gets her or discussed all options instead of saying it the way you did. He is a good father for choosing his child over you.
Sorry hon 
no matter what, the kids come first. If you’re melding your lives together then his son is no longer just HIS, he is yours too. Just as your kids are now his.
I get needing a break but it might have gone over better had you done this on a weekend when you were meant to have your kids and decided not to take them. Show him that you were willing to not take your own kids for a day first. And if that’s not the case, if you wouldn’t give up your kids for a day to get this much needed break as you’ve asked him to do, then it was not fair to ask.
Look, yes you’re wrong! It’s his son and since you’re in a relationship with him, that’s your son too! You can’t pick and choose when he should be a father. It doesn’t work like that! And if the boy wants to move in, let him move in! Maybe you should stop having kids! Or is it just because this one isn’t yours?!
Amazing man bravo to him shame on you for even asking him to give up time with his child that he doesn’t see everyday just for you my god I’d love for my sons dad to put him frist
I honestly think you shouldn’t be together because his child does come first and I do understand your needs too. I am sorry but what it comes down to is the kid comes first.
One day is fair but asking him what he thinks about it and making sure he knows the situation is good.
Part of parenting you shouldn’t have had kids or got with someone who already does it’s called REALITY!!!
Definitely wrong to ask. You have your kids, the kid on the way with the boyfriend but have no room for his son? How do you think that makes him feel? Sounds a little selfish. You knew what you were getting into when you started dating him.
You don’t know what kind of life he has in his home. Probably not good if he has asked to live with you. Sounds like Instead of having another child maybe you should have let his son live there.
As a mother of a son who’s dad did put his then girlfriend and any other relationship after that before our son I applaud your boyfriend for being a really good dad and stepping up and putting his son first as any father should do. I’ve seen the impact this has on a child when they are made to feel second best and it’s heartbreaking. So shame on you for asking. Sorry I agree with most of the posters that child should come before anything it’s so damaging to them how would you feel if that were one of yours and their father denies them on the one day he is meant to have them, then have to have to break to the news to the boy ( mentally how do you feel this will affect the poor child?)
This is so sad but all so common now a days. If you cannot accept and respect their relationship then you should not be with this guy, because he and his child deserve someone that wouldn’t be so selfish. Children grow up so fast stop thinking of yourself and think about the impact this would have for his child and how this would ultimately affect his future or doesn’t this matter to you?
You didn’t ask the father of your kids to change anything…you asked him to…that’s not fair to him? He gets one day a week with his kid. Which is your kid if you choose to be with him…You saying you don’t have room for five kids, but you’re pregnant? His child is not the 5th kid, the one in your belly is. I understand that you feel like a break. But, being a parent and choosing to be one means you don’t get them as you wish. That’s just life. You can’t tell a man not to get his child. You tell him you need a break and ask him to help you figure it out. He might change his work schedule or something before not having his kid come. Intention was understandable, tactic was off…Be glad he’s so dedicated. As much as you have done, sounds like he provides for you and yours too!
This shouldn’t even be a question. Take a vacation day from work. You’re punishing a child who didn’t ask for split time with their parents. That’s not fair whatsoever to him.
But now it seems you’ll have all the time in the world without HIS son it sounds like. Good for him to put his child first.
I can’t help but feel like you are complaining about mothering a child who is pretty much your stepson and to me I can’t even imagine that. I love my stepkids and love being their mom when they are here and even when they aren’t. If you don’t love your stepson like your son what the hell are you doing with his dad?
That packing up and leaving is already a red flag and you expecting he’s baby . He could have communicated in a more mature way rather than run off the q was just you wanting alone time , and he packs up for that ? What incase feathers get ruffled for something that makes more sence what will he do then ?
You choose to date a man with a child you, take the child as yours now also. He deals with your 3 all week long 
I think his one is fine.
If you can’t have an “extra kid” on weekends, when you don’t have your first three why are you having another?
Good for him for choosing his one kid over a grown ass woman with 3 of her own. Hopefully nobody askes him not to take your child after that baby is here cause they “want a break from kids”
If he only gets to see him on Saturday’s then I wouldn’t have asked. I understand needing a break and time for just you and your boyfriend. It’s essential to have alone time with your significant other to keep things fresh.
I would have approached it a bit differently and asked if you can work with his ex to come up with a different visitation schedule, one where you both have alone time together and time for him to see his son. That’s what my boyfriend and I recently did and it’s working out wonderfully.
I also don’t think it was right of him to pack up and leave his pregnant girlfriend. I’m assuming it’s his child. Seems like your relationship might benefit from some couples counseling.
- You Yes you did ask him to pick!
2.He is a father 1st! - What real mother as tired as we may be would ask something like that?
- If yours is gone…its ONE child y’all will have over take him with yall and find something family friendly!
- Personally I think it’s something else deeper with you but…
Good for him! Yes, that was wrong. Sorry to say, but how would that make you feel? Why are you living with him if you aren’t willing to care for his child? You should be loving and wanting to see him just as much. Imagine how his son would feel if he told his son, “sorry, I don’t want to see you this weekend because my girlfriend needs a break.” If your kids are gone and it’s just him, I would consider that a break. Spend some one one one time and make him feel special. I would think that if he only gets to see his son on the weekend he probably really looks forward to his time with his son. My kids are with me ever day. I don’t get a break unless they are sleeping or we pay for a sitter. Our alone time is when the kids go to bed. We watch movies, and spend quiet time together. You should never make him pick you over the short time he gets with his son. I know I would ALWAYS pick my kids over anyone.
That is absolutely wrong. You could have your day together another day. When you chose him, you also chose his son. As a parent, you make sacrifices. That means NO alone time. Have time when the kids go to bed or get a sitter for a few hours so you can go out for date night. If you love the guy youre with, you should love his children just as if they were your own. Would you ever tell your biological child that you dont have space for them.
Your wrong. Plain and simple… Would you appreciate it if your boyfriend told you not to have your kids because they’re inconvenient for him? He’s taking his time with his child and that’s more important than a day off. If you’re wanting to take a vacation together maybe you hire a babysitter for all of the kids on a mutual day off.
90% of y’all on here are twisting what she’s saying and making her to be a horrible selfish mother which I don’t think is the case. She was just asking for some time to spend alone with him before the baby comes. She never said he had to choose between her or the kids.
I agree that it could of been worded better but hopefully you guys can talk about it and figure something out. It’s important to have time alone together and it’s part of caring for yourself also. If he isn’t willing to talk about it then maybe he was looking for a reason to leave…? I don’t think your request was wrong but they way you said it obviously wasn’t received well…
if you didn’t want the extra child you shouldn’t be with said father.
the father has absolutely every right to be upset with you.
Theres nothing wrong with that. Kids growth old and leave!!! He will understand one day. Love each other every dayy moree… Have fun!!!
If he only gets his kid on Saturdays and has Sundays off - can you just plan a day for the 2 of you on Sunday rather than asking him to give up what little time he has with his son?
You should NEVER, EVER ask a parent to not have their child when they already don’t get to have them everyday!!! Why have kids if you don’t want to have them around? You crossed the line, big time. Yes as mother’s we all need a break sometime. But there were much better ways of handling it, such as telling him you need a break, talk about finding a time to have a day together. But don’t get mad when you can’t make it work either. I have 3 kids with 2 dad’s and between switching schedules, baseball, softball, jobs, etc. My bf and I are lucky if we get an hour to ourselves in an entire week. So we do what we can, give each other the solo time we each need for sanity and look forward to the days the kids are old enough to stay home alone and we can at least go out to dinner alone.
What if he asked you to not have your kids on certain days…be different then…dads have just as much rights as mums…and this is about to be your baby daddy also and you asking him to choose…
I feel like you two are just miscommunicating . If you can’t talk without getting heated and twisting meaning of words then try talking it out through text where you can be clear with each other. Also maybe you can find couples time on another day. Even if that means requesting off. Try to find common ground to get both your needs met.
See I don’t get why he doesn’t change it so his day off is a Sunday he has his kid then as he should be helping with looking after his own child as that’s the point to access and the day off during the week he also has the kid for few hours it really shouldn’t be left to her to look after all five kids on Saturday with no help unless it’s changed after work on Saturday he then has access cause that’s what he is going have to do now that you guys aren’t together
You have no place to tell him not to take his child that he doesn’t see on a daily basis. If what you wanted was a night to yourselves, you should pay for a sitter another day. You see your kids daily. He doesn’t see that child except for weekends. That’s so selfish of you
Sometime is not what we said is the way we say it and that’s what gets people mad . I don’t see anything wrong by wanting a day off without the kids plus you’re pregnant . Next time just try to find out better words .
I applaud him him, he has his child for one day and you expect him to miss that one day, ever thought how that would make his child feel, if the father chose the one day he has with him to spend with you instead, it would break his sons heart. I’m assuming your children go on Friday with their father, plan to spend time with your partner on that Friday night, or get a sitter the weekend you have your kids and go out with your partner. Well done to the dad. Relationships come and go your kids are for life.
As a mom, if my ex husband said he wasn’t getting our son for his one day a week because his girlfriend needed a break I’d be furious and my son would be extremely hurt.
You should never ask him not to see his child! I have spent 15 years trying to get my childs father to be a part of her life and he just wont. I say good for him! Its gona be crazy when that baby comes but you signed up for that by having the number of children you have. Im not trying to be mean or make you feel bad! But the fact that he doesn’t want to miss his allotted day says a great deal about the man he is, and you are really kind of lucky that he is the way he is about that subject. Just food for thought.
I think you just worded it wrong. Instead of" hey, lets not get him this week" ask if he thinks you guys can have him Sunday instead of Saturday. Or whatever day of he has throughout the week. It’s the same thing but the wording does make all the difference. And no matter what anyone else says, you do need alone time with him to reconnect once in a while. Being a parent is a 24/7 job, yes, but that does not mean that you are never allowed to do something for yourself.
My boyfriends son turned into my bonus child. I love him like my own and I’ll always do what I can for him. Maybe there was a different way to word it that would have gotten better results…
Nothing wrong for asking for 1 day kid free with your man. Kid free. Free of your kids and his. 1 day. Not asking for much. But I don’t agree with not letting him live with y’all. One extra kid when you have that many doesn’t make much of a difference.
I think you are both feeling pregnant and moody. No it wasn’t wrong to ask, but also try to understand where he is coming from. I feel like details are left out, but I don’t want to dog pile. Good luck to all of y’all.
you shouldn’t ask him to not take his son, that is definitely wrong yes, but you could go somewhere and let them have the house to themselves so that he has to take care of the children which is something that should be getting done anyway it should never all just be you you are both raising the children
Hey if you need a break send all your kids away for the week. Think u got the point that you were wrong w just the few comments I read. Sounds like you already have more than you can handle, should be fun once new baby comes, where would they go if no room for his son now!!
Sunday’s aren’t an option. It sounds like you didn’t ask properly and made it seem like his son was in the way. why not take his weekday off and spend time together. Or send all the kids to your parents house? There were ways to do this without it escalating.
Yes you were wrong. He has such limited time with his child and you just asked him to pick you over his child. Whether it’s 1 day or every day it’s not ok. Also if you don’t want 5 kids don’t date a guy that has 1 and get knocked up again.
I have 3 kids with my boyfriend and 2 prior I would never pick him over any of my kids including the ones we have together. Kids come first why wouldn’t you ask if maybe one Saturday in advance you make other arrangements for the child and do that once in awhile. I get having a break but you literally have a poor choice in words and act as if his kid is less then.
Listen every mom needs a break maybe there’s a different way to ask like hey baby I’m exhausted and just really need a day for us to recoup before baby is born id there any chance we can skip one weekend kid wise
You are definitely in the wrong and I think you know it . Happy to see a man pick his child for a change. That is his quality time with his child and you should never try and get in the way of that . Just because your children get picked up doesn’t mean his shouldn’t be dropped off . His son has a great father . You are worried about no time alone but hunny you are not new to the mom life… you have multiple kids alone time has been a thing of the past lol.
I had my own kids plus being pregnant myself and working I know it isn’t the same but I ended up with my sisters kids every weekend sometimes all week. Because I knew our home was the only home the nieces and nephews would recieve the attention and love they deserved i never said no and I was the one to take care of them. I think you need to look at it this way if he were to tell you this how would you react? Would you want to be put in that same situation? Kudos for the dad wanting his child. Regardless who his parents are you are his mom when you decided to go into a relationship with someone who has children. I am married for a second time and came into this relationship before his kids were even teens I stepped up even though he only had them on weekends I didn’t complain and when they moved in at 13 I did not complain I did the mom thing working, taking them to school, picking up, shopping, cooking, doctors, learning to drive, teaching them how to do chores etc
I think he’s looking for an excuse not to be responsible for you , so hey let him go girl surprise him he walks out just keep the door shut…after he leaves. Say doing this he can be with his son. You don’t need him… sadly there is a baby here to come but I promise you will be amazing as a single parent… You don’t want a sulky partner hanging round you.
I think it was the approach that set him off…he took it as you giving him an ultimatum which wasn’t your intention. Instead of discussing it with you he stormed off. No one was in the wrong…you needed time before your baby and he felt backed into a corner to choose. I think once everything cools, talk about it…being that there is another party involved (his sons mother) what you are asking may not be possible. Talk to him and tell him what you are feeling and then listen to him and see if you can work it out. My hubby has three sons and I have two daughters…it takes a lot of patience and compromising! Good luck! 
Oh man such a tough place to be. I understand the need to want to have time together. Truly i do. My husband and and I rarely have that with 5 kids. We also have a blended family. But as for your situation I can understand why your boyfriend got upset. He only gets to see his son one day a week. Image only seeing your children one day a week? Would anyone indulging him be able to ask you to give that up? Especially since you get to see him the other 6 days a week even though it’s with the children? So I understand why he got upset. I just don’t understand why he packed and left? That’s seems a bit over the top. Did the question lead to an argument? I think a fair compromise would be for you to find a babysitter during the week when you have your kids there so y’all can have a date night. And that way he doesn’t have to give up his only day with his son? I dunno 
He wasn’t wrong. He only has him one day a week. Maybe let your kids stay with their dad during the week if you want alone time.
If he is off one day during the week, and you’re at work, why doesnt he get him then, so they can have quality time together. What does he do on that day during the week? And to get so pissed off to jump up, pack and leave you while your pregnant., instead of making some arrangements, so that everyone is happy, makes you wonder why he isnt with his sons mother anymore… smh … I’d say bye …
When you have kids and you’re not divorced, you don’t get “breaks”, it’s tiring and stressful but no one forced you to have kids, it’s your job to spend time with them. You are spoiled because you get “breaks” from your own children when they stay with their dad. Your boyfriend doesn’t have that chance, all the opposite, he’s forced to not see his kid during the week, maybe 2 weeks, and when he has the chance to be with his kid you want him to say no? You’re privating both of them of their right to spend time together. You shouldn’t have had kids if they were going to be such a burden for you.
If I had an issue with my boyfriends kids he sees every other weekend, my ass would be out the door!!! However, I don’t have an issue with his kids being here. It’s part of being in a relationship with a man who has kids with someone. It’s a package deal.
I think ppl didn’t understand what this post is saying. His kid is over every weekend and dad only has Sunday off. She wasn’t asking for the kid not to come over permanently she was asking for one day so they could get a day together. That’s not an unreasonable request especially since on Saturday she is watching his kid and hers aren’t even there. He completely overreacted. He could have acted like an adult and had a conversation about why he wasn’t comfortable with that. Also he’s lucky she’s even willing to watch his kid while he is at work. Again she was literally asking for one day that’s not unreasonable
Yes. You were wrong. Would you give up the ONE day you could be with your child?! I understand you’re tired and busy, that is the life of a parent. Your boyfriend did the right thing, chose the ONE day he could spend with his kid. Wow. You might want to rethink this relationship if you are feeling this way.
My short response: Yes, it was wrong to ask. Go spend Sat doing something that you consider to provide you with a break. Stay in your room. But to ask him not to see his child? I’d pack up too.
I’m sorry, no significant other has the right to put a space between a child and a parent. You knew of that child’s existence when you entered the relationship. You are the adult, you lived your childhood, do not take away this child’s normalcy for your benefit. This child is already having to live life by the choices of the parent’s. This is shameful. I have been a single mother for 10 years now and I would NEVER do this to a child! This is so greedy on your part!
Did any of you that commented read what was posted? She asked for him not to take the son this weekend. It’s her house. Also, it’s not her responsibility to care for his child. She is not his baby sitter. Period. They are not married, so she is not even obligated to have the child in her home. I am a stepmom so I understand the need for a break. Especially if the birth mom is involved and causes drama. She is also pregnant. So to answer your question, no, I don’t think you were wrong because you were asking for the one weekend. You weren’t asking for the rest of your life. People need to read the whole story instead of saying she’s a bad parent for wanting a break. Every parent wants a break from their kids. People who say they don’t, are in denial.
I’m sorry, but you are totally wrong for asking that. And I’m happy he chose his son, unfortunately you don’t come first in that situation.
No your not in the wrong mothers deserve a break. Giving up a day to spend time with each other is a wonderful idea. I think honestly he was already thinking about leaving he just used that as a excuse. I’m a at home mom so I understand not getting a break. I work be asking for the same thing. He could have came up with a solution with his son’s mother. So your better off. If he can’t understand that you need a much needed break then he’s not worth it. If I had an opportunity for a break right now I would take it. I haven’t had a break for about 4 months now since Covid-19 hit. It sucks so bad. I love my children, and bonus kids just as much. I just can’t take care of them unless I’m healthy also.
No one on here should be telling you how to feel, everyone saying #daddyfirst blah blah not exactly putting his kids needs first when he’s at work and she’s caring for his son. Not on at all, she ain’t his baby sitter, yeah you love and bring your partners kids up like your own but if you take the piss that poor boy will become a burden and end up ruining there relationship. I don’t think your asking for too much, 1 day break. We all need it sometimes I don’t care if your mama perfect especially during these hard times when we can’t see our family we need a break too 14 weeks non stop with the kids it’s hard work. And being pregnant too I feel for you and your doing an amazing job don’t let these comments put you down, ring your other half and try explain what you meant in a different way. Go with your gut instinct xxx
It doesn’t work that way. At most you can ask for a day off to YOURSELF. You don’t come before kids.
There must be more to this story. If he doesn’t stay home and spend the day with his child while she is pregnant something doesn’t seem right. Maybe he comes first and that is why he is not with his first wife. Packing and leaving instead of sitting down and listening to each other seems like there are other problems. Maybe they should have been together longer before bringing another child into the world.
So your 3 kids to his one…and you are pregnant now TOGETHER, and have the balls to ask him not to take his son?
Woman, if you even have to ask…i can’t help you.
Besides, if you want a future with your man…his son is YOUR son now, too!
Want time alone? Stop having kids.
You were so wrong for asking when you date a guy that has kids you treat them as you would yours. He only gets weekends you seem to get your children during the week. To be honest I’d of left you also.
I would of said hun I would really love to spend the day with you with no kids and than planned a day for it! You just said it wrong and he took it as you wanting him to give his only day of the week that he gets with his son up!
He did the right thing by packing up and leaving. That man gets his son 4 days a month and you asked him not to take him on those days? How could you possibly even respect a man who would have stayed and agreed to such a selfish disrespectful request? I’m so glad he chose his son over you.
Absolutely wrong. That is something you have to work around when you decided to get with someone who already had a child. So unfair.
Kids come first you have to make time for eachother each other but not taking time away from the children you children you will have your time but you have to charishnthe time you have with children Your children arent aren’t more imporant important then his and it seems like that is what you are thinking what a awesome dad
So if you and your ex. Did not split up. You would have your kids always on all of the weekends. And every time you had another child you would be pregnate with children 100% of the time. So when you decided to get a boyfriend that has a child. That child becomes yours. And now you need to learn how to be a mom 365 days a year. Unless you and this baby daddy break up so that way you have kids. But just during the week and every other weekend.
Us Moms all need a break, I get that (I have 4 myself)… and I’m assuming you didn’t mean it the way it came off. A different approach would be to talk to your new man & reach a decision TOGETHER. Asking him the way you did appears you made the decision for him & that’s not how relationships work. Good luck, lady - it seems you found a good one.
I’m so sorry. I wished I had an answer for you. I’m in a similar situation. My “guy” has his kids every freaking weekend. We never really get time alone, unless I give up time with my kids, and even then… if his ex decides he gets his kids for whatever reason she deems “necessary”, our plans get canceled.
I don’t understand why she couldn’t ask him to look at a day of the week or a weekend that they could spend time with each other; asking friends or family members to watch the children? ALL of the children if need be. I don’t agree with asking a parent to not have their child over if they are not the primary care taker. To ask a parent who has shared custody of their child to not pick up said child for an unplanned day at the last minute, is not okay! She is tired, I understand that but plan it so it can actually happen. Also, it is a compliment if that baby wants to live in the home full time. Clearly he is comfortable around her and he loves spending time with his daddy and her children! That’s a huge win for a blended family. Heaven forbid her children’s father’s woman asks the same. Her boyfriend accepted her children and created a child with her. I am sure he felt like it was a slap in the face. Plan a special day with your man, but don’t ask him to sacrifice his time with his child. I did not miss the part of Saturday’s is his time with his son but he has a week day off and Sunday off. He needs to change that day to Sunday that he has his son. He’s not getting a full day with the son, so she IS taking care of him in his father’s absence. And I’m thinking she’s doing a damn good job if baby boy wants to live with them. Those two need to sit down and have an in-depth discussion before that baby is born.
I actually agree with dad and you should be proud to have a man who cares for his child and wants to spend that day with him. I understand your pregnant but don’t be selfish by asking him to not pick his child up it’s not the child’s fault u r pregnant and have 3 kids already yourself what if he ask u not to have your kids for a week so he could have time. Or maybe you would jump on that wagon. It’s his Son. Way to go dad you did the right thing.
Ask yourself how you would feel if your exs new girlfriend decided that they need a weekend without his kids …
That is a two way street…
You chose to be in a relationship that requires sacrifices unfortunately…
Your wrong sorry … He’s with your kids 5 to 7 days a week and and every other weekend and his kid come every Saturday that’s 4 weekend in a month so that’s mean, he only see’s him 4 days in a month 
while your kids(as in 3) get more time with him than his actual kid(1) WoW a little selfish on your end if I have to say. You should have found someone with no kid to dedicate time to you when you don’t have your kids:woman_facepalming:
and you knew this before getting pregnant
They always ask who comes first wife or kid… this answers the question! UR KIDS ALWAYS COME FIRST! People don’t realize they’re ok with their mate putting them before his previous kids! U owe ur kids before anyone. Now the kid asked can he live there, she said she has no room, now she has no time either… basically she has no room or time for the outside baby… if she’s too tired now she’s gonna be even more tired once the new baby comes… sorry sweetie- with all those kids u don’t have a chance to have a break
You were absolutely wrong. His son asked to live with you both and you determined there wasn’t enough room yet you’re 7 months pregnant?? Kids could share a room!! Do you ever say you don’t want your kids and make her out? That’s essentially what your saying towards his son. Your boyfriend had every right to be mad. You need to do some soul searching and apologize to him.
Actually if you knew he had a kid and that was your choice just like it was his choice knowing you had your other children a lot more then it seems he has his . That’s the life you all choose so you have do be the adult and deal with it. Maybe try and get a sitter to where you can enjoy a night