My so and his ex do every other day and weekend
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I personally think thatās great . Shows them they get to have both parents full time . Sorry but 3/7 arenāt that lil . Kids need both parents if possible
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Heās just as much their parent as you are.
That is what usually happens. The custodial parent is the one they will live with when they start school. The other parent usually gets every other weekend and 6 weeks in the summer. Which can be split up at 2 weeks at a time.
Courts simply screw up peopleās lives.
My son had 50/50 then ex got child to lie about him and child stays with ex 100% of time. Judges do not enforce and most are a scared to lose their jobs.
Ask for shared custody not joint .
Likely to be 50/50 because its about the parents and not the kids.
Why wouldnāt you want shared custody. Isnāt she as much his child as she is yours?
Children need there dads just as much as there moms joint custody works .!
your post made me so mad. If dad is fit, he should get 50/50 & my guess is he will.
Pretty damn good as children deserve BOTH parents.
Joint custody with you being MC
Who has the most money (lawyer) gets what they wantā¦ sad
My experience in CA is that 50/50 is the expectation, and for small kids, the 5-2-2-5 strategy ensures that the kids arenāt away from either parent for too many days at a time.
You r selfish what makes u think u r better than their dad its 50/50 like it or not
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Stop being selfish. If hes not putting the children in any danger then them children deserve their dad as much as you.
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My ex and I had joint custody and it worked out just fine.
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I have given up trying to predict what the courts will do. I am tired of mainly old men, who never did any child rearing anyway, decide whatās best for kids
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If u live close enough to be in the same school district itās the best option for them as its fair and equitable parenting especially if both are also fully capable ect. They prefer u two to work it out and do whatās best for them. They definitely favor the split in favorable circumstances.
What makes you more important than him.? As long as hes agood parent 50/50 should be standard. Give your head a shake
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Both parents are required! Children are not pawns. Kids learn quickly they can put you against each other, so beware! Hopefully you can find a solution that fits everyone
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You donāt have a chance of full custody unless you can prove heās an absent father. They will award 50/50 and you will have to split time if you live close.
If you donāt live close. Youāll get full residential and youāll share 50/50 legal custody.
What state? SC is generally going to be you have custody and he has visits. Mommy state is what we call it.
It will be shared custody so just accept it and do what is right for the kids.
Unless there are circumstances that would prohibit that,the chances are it will be 50/50,as long as both of you are responsible parents. I donāt think it would be detrimental to the children as long as you both agree on ground rules,meaning you both teach them and guide them in similar fashion. The rules need to remain the same at Moms and Dads homes.
50/50 is not as great as it may seem unless each parent is extremely mature and great at co- parenting
Its been my experience they scream they want 50 50.When they actually have to do it?Different story.
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Been there done that unless your husband is proven unfit each state is a little different but I believe itās going to be 50/50 even though theyāre young they still need to spend time with their father.
Equal timeā¦ works most Awesomelyā¦
My Son Does that with his Daughters and 2 Separate Momsā¦
Most likely 50/50 it will be decided by the court
To young to go back and fourth like that, that would drive me crazy!
Most likely it will 50/50.
Let there be consistency in their approach to thimgs they are used to,
Now days, most of the time.
In Illinois mother wins unless she is a slut
Donāt do it weekly. Too much interruption. Do 2 weeks at time if possible!!
Thatās a great idea
Prays you have a good lawyer
Wow what great answers!
We have it where holidays weekends and summer if not doing anything to their dads
My grands did that 1 week with dad 1 week with mom never any issues
Depends on the judge
Why primarily with you?
Are you from New York city?
Pretty much always 50/50.
If it is the same schedule each week/month, that is consistency too.
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Why would you think they should be with you primarily?
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Depends on the state. In WA it is automatic shared custody unless parents agree or unfit can be proved. Hopefully school and stability will help you and ex work things out well. Co parenting civilly and kindly and well is the priority. Not winning. Working. Together. Good luck. 
to those kids.
This is what worked for the children and the parents every other weekend and any week day that work for our work schedules.,If the children were sick I would ask to switch days so they can stay w me until they got feeling better!Prayers Blessings for you and your family!!!
Excellent in Florida
My daughter has share custody and it works out just fine if he wants to be apart of there life let him shared custody is better than no custody heās not asking for full custody he just wants to be apart of there life and he is there father unless heās a threat to them go with shared custody
Be thankful you both want to spend the time with the children. Some children never have the privilege of both parents.
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My daughter tried 50/50 and it was horrible! Exactly as you say, no consistencyā¦ it was changed so he has them several weekends a month/holidays etcā¦ soooo much betterā¦
He made the child. With out him you wouldnāt have that child and quite frankly if heās always been there for them then why shouldnāt he see his children. No wonder the suicide rate is higher in males than females because thereās woman out there who seem to think they have the right to play God with there child. If heās going to put them in danger thatās another story but if he isnāt stories like this make me sick to the stomach and there are dadās out there that do a better job than the mum! So yes he will get 50/50 because we live in 2021 and judges have realised the power women have over there child and actually the effects its having in the child for the parents selfish reasons. Well thatās my opinion anyway 
the fact he also went through the trouble of court is ones step further than most scummy dadās that are out there.
Most places now push for 50/50 Iām sorry as a child I wish I had this option to choose because only seeing my fatherā every weekend ā was a complete heart break at such a young age .
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I canāt speak on this because I have 2 kids by 2 different dads (17yrs apart) & my oldest childās father had visitation & he failed to ever do so. My grew up to be a wonderful young man, he talks to his father occasionally, but, has no use for him. My other child has never met his biological father, only my husband, who has been there since I was about 5mths pregnant. There is no father listed on birth certificate & father has never tried to get visitation or anything else in 15mths & Iām glad because I donāt want him in our lives. Iām not āselfishā, his biological father is a pos & he has a dad. I tried with my oldest son, it was his father who failed.
If the father is a good dad & wonāt let the kids down every week 50/50 is probably good for them 
Do you realize how many men donāt fight to even see their kidsā¦ if this man wants 50/50ā¦ then let him. Their age doesnāt matter. It can become consistent as long as you both act like adults and co parent. It can and does work.
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Cgances are youll end up with 50/50 one will be listed as residential gardianā¦but unless there is a reason dad is unfit you are being selfish for thinking you deserve more time.
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I certainly wish I would have been able to see my Dad more than I did.
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Is there any reason as too why not because the court will push for 50/50 unless his a danger too them or thereās a reason then you shouldnāt stop the children from seeing there dad
Coming from a kid that would have done anything to have my dad more in my life, your kids will blame you and it will affect them. I still have issues with my mom. You cannot bring your issues with him as a partner into him as a father. This is about your kids, not you.
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He should have 50/50ā¦ Maybe he should get full custody if you canāt think of whats best for them and not what you want.
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Itās hard on the kids doing week on week off
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You and your ex find different dwellings, leave the kids in the home they are in now, you stay with them on your week & ex stays his week. Now itās like the kids have shared custody of the exās.
50/50 most likely. And as it should be. Donāt be selfish.
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They will do whatās right for them not the parents
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If they really push for 50 50 ask about extended stays like not every other week but every two weeks maybe monthly. If they are in school or day care/education center and one moved from the district that might make a huge impact.
Nowadays itās very hard for one parent to get full custody unless one parent is proven unfit most courts and judges will do 50/50. Itās not about what you want or see fit. How is that fair you get them more? Because itās easier for you? So them not seeing there father who they would of normally see everyday is okay? How would you feel if the father got full custody and you only got to see them part time. Just because your their mom doesnāt give you more rights. Kids need equal time with both parents.
Most likely it will be 50/50, this happened to a friend. Good luck 
There are many ways to do shared parenting just Google I mean u can have it set up like standard visitation would he just get some say in the decision making process but Google there different ways
If both are good parents 50 50 is what is best for your children. It shoukd not be abiut whatās best for you. I have been doing 50 50 with my daughters since they were 2 and 3. They r now 9 and 12ā¦no issues at all they are fine. Why would u want to tske away that precious time from their father. 50 50 is definitely the way it should be if everyone is on board. Good luck
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I have no clue what comments have been made so far, but I feel like you marriage ending is unfortunate enough. Thatās a completely separate transaction and has nothing to do with the 100% commitment that EACH parent has in raising good kids. I think that in trying to āprotectā them from one hardship, youāll only be exchanging it for less time with their dad
If he can provide for them, he will get 50/50. I got 51/49
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Some people have no idea how lucky they are to have the father of their child wanna be in their lives. But yet Iām sure itāll be a whole different story if they didnāt want to be in their childs life! A father is just as important as a mother PERIOD!!!
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It can work 50/50 if both parents want it to work. I feel that both parents have equal rights to the child that they both made. Prayers to both parents and children.
Thatās just selfish of u. Kids need both parents. They need their mom and dad. And where does it say that need more time with one parent than the other. I hope he wins his 50/50 custody
If he is a good father and there are no issues s ā¦he should get 50/50 ā¦heās their dadā¦and be great full that he is involved because so many are not!
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The judge will most likely take all factors of the case into consideration. If heās a good dad and is doing his part then it will likely be shared custody. If the judge sees that heās not doing his part and not doing whatās best for your children then you might get full custody if thatās what you have asked for. Itās about burden of proof and not what a person feels is best.
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This is a power play, mom. Come on, youāre angry at him for whatever is going on between you. Divorce and dissolution are very different. If youāre going through a divorce, then thereās some disagreement and likely some anger and resentment going on. My advice to you is thisā¦ whatever is going on in your relationship with their father, thatās their father, and your relationship with him is nothing like your childrenās relationship with him. Put your feelings completely aside and let him take them as much as he wants. Be grateful your children have a father who wants to take care of his own children. Bravo to him. I hope you can come to peace with him for your kidsā sake. And if heās not a good person and youāre concerned about that, as long as heās not abusing your kids, itās still none of your concern. They will have their own relationship now, unfortunately very separated from you. You need to get over it quickly to protect them. You need to be their rock and the person they trust, so focus on your relationship with your kids while you have them. When you donāt have them, find a life and rediscover yourself.
Speaking from experience, my child doesnāt have a good father, but I let her find that out on her own. I never said anything bad about her dad in front of her and let him take her as much as he wanted. Sheās 16 now and refuses to speak to him again (Iām sure itāll change eventually), but sheās angry at him because of THEIR relationship. She tries to get me to intervene between them when they argue, and I refuse. Itās really not my place. He respects me and my relationship with her in exactly the same way. And we never fight or argue anymore, least of all about her. Whatever happened between him and I had nothing to do with her and I never involved her in it.
Again since this keeps being posted why not let kids live with dad full time and u get wknds
Fathers have a lot more rights now.
I have 50/50 and I pay child support.
Itās not like the 90ās.
50/50 care works, if the parents are on board. One week about with each parent. Kids get use to it very quicklyā¦
If the Dad is a good caring parent ? Why would
you deny your children equal time with him ?
Even if one parent lives out of the school area , it can workā¦
Most Dads love their babies as much as the motherā¦
5 and 7 isnāt to young. Some kids have shared parenting from babies.
If thereās no threat or danger, heāll probably get 50/50. Thereās absolutely no reason why you should get more time just because you feel a mom is more superior.
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Itās not what you feel or think, itās what In the best interest of the children, if heās a fit father then he should get 50/50.
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Be thankful he wants shared custody. Children need their mothers and fathers equally. We need to start normalizing joint custody and stop with fathers just getting visitations and weekends. (And I totally understand every situation is different)
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Dads arenāt second class citizens.
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Honestly, any family law attorney will tell you, itās about who has more money. If he doesnāt get 50/50 and wants it, he can keep taking you back to court until youāre broke. Thatās the way our legal system is. So best of luck to you.
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He should get just as much time as you do. If itās that you wouldnāt get child support than thatās the WRONG reason to keep them from their father. At some point you have to remember itās NOT about you but abiut your children with this man and you need to raise them apart TOGETHER!!!
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Your lawyer should argue the point.
If both children were under 3, I could somewhat see your reasoning. But reality, if the father lives close and the school/daycare situation isnāt compromised then 50/50 is ideal, especially since the father seems like he plays an active role considering he is asking for joint custody.
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HIGHLY likely!
Justify being honest
They are his kids too. He should have them as much as u doā¦ āmothersā are not and should not be treated as if they are better than the fatherā¦ its sad they these women have babies with a man then want to take the kids away once the relationship is over. Sadddd
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Typically the courts will do what is best for the child. Since he wants shared custody having both parents equally is what they say is best.
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Most of the time I the kids are school age, theyāll stay with one parent during the week and the other will have weekends unless both parents can bring the child to the same school without any difficulties.
My fiancee has full physical custody of all 4 of his kids. In Pa. You gotta be a real piece of work to not get atleast 50/50. And age doesnt matter to the courtās. Pa also is a mothers state so they usually try to have the mothers keep the children but 50/50 is there specialty. Good luck
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If heās a solid parent with no history or issues heās likely going to get 50/50 3 and 7 are not so young that they need you for everything and if the dads willing and able he could and should get 50/50
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Depends heavily on jurisdiction. Make sure your lawyer knows your desires and can advocate for them:
My daughter is 7ā¦ If we could do 50/50 Iād gladly do it. He helped make her every child deserves to have their father in their life. If he stabled give it try if it not the right fit then talk with your ex work out a game planā¦
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Fathers are just as important as mothers!!! I wish my ex would spend any amount of time with the kids. I told him a million times I will take him spending time with our kids over a dime. He refuses to spend time with them and chooses to send money instead. It breaks my kids hearts. My fiancƩ is going through a custody battle atm and we have the kids 50% of the time and she says she is okay with that, but wants full custody.
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