kick the hubby out and co sleep with the babies. It’s what I would do lol
I would schedule a doctors visit. Explain to his doctors what’s going on and ask for a diabetes test.
Try changing his mattress if it makes noise they will wake there selfs up. Lites and music always put mine to sleep.
Lay down a mattress right on the floor then you don’t have to worry about him falling out of bed. I had a sound machine my daughter wouldn’t sleep without it. It had a nightlight with stars on the ceiling also. Lastly get a gate and it will keep him in his room. He will cry hysterically likely for a few days. Not ideal with your newborn but I promise you eventually he will stop.
Maybe give him a sippy cup for bed, that’s what we do with our daughter (19mos).
Maybe you have a ghost?
It happened to my husband when his son was only one.
Screaming at night inconsolably until someone came and saved him.
You could try a white noise machine (shusher), check if teething, keep his room cool
at night or maybe even a sleep sack may help. Good luck to you guys!
Stick to a strict bedtime routine. Ex: dinner, play, bath, a story, bed. Keep doing this over and over. My daughter did the same thing. It’s exhausting but you’ll get through this💛
You said his tantrums have progressed to more than bedtime. You need to not give in to him. It doesn’t take long for them to learn he screams and gets his way.
Be a parent…he playing you…kids learn quick and he learned that if he screams and throws a tantrum he going to get what he wants because you give in to his BS…let your no mean no…not let your no mean yes cause I can’t deal with your BS so I give into you and let you have your way. He holding you all hostage and you paying the ransom and as he gets older it is only going to get worse. Let him scream in his crib. He will finally fall asleep and learn that his screaming and temper tantrums won’t work. Oh and get ear plugs for your ears they won’t fully drown out the noise but will tone it down enough to be bearable
Im going through that with our two year old she doesn’t sleep in her crib. She will climb out of it. We even turn her crib to toddler bed. You’re not a failure.
My youngest hasn’t slept through a single night since she was born. She is four… Every child is different, but try to rule every issue out first because if not nothing you do will matter and only make it worse for the child. Outside of that, try different tricks to see if any work and if nothing does, just know they will eventually grow out of it… God willing lol.
Look up sleep regression
Have you had his blood sugars tested extreme thirst waking at night multiple times can be do to diabetes. Id have him checked to make sure that’s not the underlying issue
He is only a baby still you know what he’ll only be small for a little while so for your own sanity let him sleep with you . When his sister or brother is older they can share a room . I have an almost 3 year old and he still sleeps with me and it keeps him happy. Happy child happy mom
Jealous of the 5 mth old maybe? He’s not the baby any more awe hope you find out, sleep is so important.
You’re not failing at all you’re doing the best you can. My daughter started waking up alot at night as well and it was exhausting. First it was teething, then it was she was afraid of the dark, she unfortunately seems to take after me and gets nightmares pretty often
Maybe see if the pediatrician has any suggestions??
Accept the fact that your child is going through different stages of development, and that his needs change.
Do not let him cry it out. Comfort him and be there for him. Don’t give in when he has tantrums - don’t teach him that he can have his way if he does. But don’t leave him alone with his feelings. He needs your help to navigate them.
Also, he is a big brother now, and that is a big change in his life. He is entitled to have feelings and a reaction to that.
You keep telling yourself “this, too, shall pass” all my children did the same around the 2 yr mark…
Tara Brady few tips for u to read
So if u don’t want to co sleep try putting like a little bed by ur bed
Be the parent , set the rules and abide by them ! He’s not the boss , you are !! Explain what you are going to do and stick with it …, let him cry it out … put the baby in your room temporarily and shut the door !
Maybe let him cry, instead of giving in to what he wants I suggest you let him cried but put him back in his bed! I would rather him wake the baby a couple of nights then to have him continue his tantrums! There is also a prayer of the holy prayer making a cross sign on his head to keep bad dreams from happening to him! It worked for my girls! They always slept alone in their room!
You may have to implement a super nanny technique and keep putting him back in his own bed over and over again until he accepts it
Have him be checked for diabetes
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Hear me out…never would’ve believed it until I tried it. My son HATED his crib (he’s 2), I got him a toddler bed & he absolutely loves sleeping in his own bed. He’ll even lay in it without me in the room (I have a baby monitor) & watch a movie when before he would’ve been crying constantly because he’s slept with me since the day he was born litteraly. I guess it feels more similar to my bed & he doesn’t feel so trapped because he can’t get up if he wakes up scared in the middle of the night.
First of all… you are NOT a failure. You got this.
I know it’s rough, I had the same problem with my first… but you have to nip it now.
I agree with the above advice, no water after a certain time, and do the “super nanny”… keep putting him in his own bed. And yes, you may need to talk to doctor too… it may be an emotional response to the new baby, or could be night terrors (my oldest had those… no fun at all). Could be a number of things. Just be confident, consistent and try to stay calm. It’s hard, but you’ll get through it. Good luck!
My 4 year old granddaughter still does it , they’ve started putting her into her own bed but always ends up going into my daughters bed during the night cause she’s so adorable she gets away with it lol, Paige Louise Dingemans u need answers to
I let my daughter sleep with me until she was 3 ,3 and a half and then she outgrew it on her own ,every once in awhile she will have a few sips of water before bed ,she listens to jazz music every night and I try and read to her or talk to her before bed as well ,no one can give you the perfect advice honestly
Our oldest did this at that age and her bed was in our room and it was out of no where and after a month or two we switched out her bed to a twin bed and she never got back in our bed. I think her crib mattress wasn’t comfy any more.
Music,night light,no water after certain times ,praise for sleeping alone etc ,talk to Dr
Well since no one else is mentioning this…. From what I understand it can be quite common for a toddler to show some signs of regression with a new baby in the house. It may be their way of asking for more attention or voicing how they feel without knowing how to put it in words. My middle child was nearly completely potty trained and when baby came went right back to diapers. I agree you should not let the behavior continue of screaming to get what they want, so please try suggestions above of a different bed or boundary setting. I suggest also trying to find special times or moments for just them and you, though I realize how hard that is with an infant. Maybe make bedtime extra special for them with a snuggle in their big bed and a book or story? Extra special time with mom and dad during the day while baby is napping. Get creative, they may just be feeling left out.
Does he take a nap? All 4 of my kids had to quite naps around 2-2.5 to get a good night’s sleep.
Put him to bed screaming and be firm voiced.Give him a stuffy.Dont worry about waking baby.you gotta be consistent with the Lil guy or he will run the roost.I had same issues.2 boys 14 months apart.I did Pat there back for comfort in the crib.But when crawling out of crib I say no back to bed!
I read years ago to go to the childs bed n get in w/them till they fall back to sleep n then my son got more comfortable sleeping in his bed alone…I think it’s call Separation anxiety.
When my son was about 2 we had to stop nap time during the day cause he would on sleep 3-4 hours at night. Took away that hour and a half nap during the day and he would crash after story time. The first one or two of no nap was a little hard cause he would get so cranky but once he got use to it everything was great
Have you had him checked physically. Is there Diabetes in your Families, I’m asking because of the water. I’d suggest get him checked to be safe, this sound like it is a change, better safe… Good Look
Just know your a great mommy! You care andtry not to stress! I remember singing softly songs while my boy was screaming at 2 am with baby in other room.It gets better.Keep up the good work.Its a long phase till they get older.You know what to do for you already.Dont doubt yourself.Take deep breaths.Read baby some books.Keep on loving snuggles.I was on mommy zombie auto pilot for a long time.
Unpopular opinion… melatonin. My 2 yr old was this way. We tried so many different ways to get him to sleep in his bed. We talked to the dr and said that melatonin was okay to give him and that it may help him to fall asleep by himself. We started with giving him melatonin and letting him sleep in our bed and when he fell asleep we would move him to his bed and in the morning he would wake up and see he was in his bed and I think it allowed him to realize that he slept in his own bed all night and everything was fine. After a couple days we would put him in his bed and lay with him or be in the room with him as he fell asleep and then after that we stopped giving him melatonin and he would be just fine laying in his bed from start to finish. Melatonin isn’t something to give kids EVERY night but it helps in the beginning. Hope this helps.
Hi first of all you got new baybi so his not taking to easy let him stay in your room
Sounds like he may have trouble with feeling regulation
Second watch Super nanny don’t give in
You need to watch Super Nanny on YouTube. To get him back sleeping in his bed. It’ll be rough for a few nights. You need to be firm, is he going to throw a tantrum yes. Nip it in the bud. You never give in when they throw tantrums. Be strong momma. You got this
If he is drinking alot of water there could be a medical prob. Take him to the DR for a check up. Have you asked him what he is frightened of?
Not trying. To be gross but have you checked him for pin worms. Its common in children and because they come out at night, they wake little kids up in the night. And they have nothing to do with being filthy. Children can touch something that was contaminated by another child and stuck his fingers in his mouth. But you’d have to check him at night on his bottom.
Get him a toddler bed and put it in your bedroom That’s what I had to do with my kids also maybe keep the TV on very low but on Disney and as far as the cup just put enough water in there to get him to sleep Don’t feel the cup up. You got this.
Unpopular opinion… let him sleep with you he won’t do it forever and one day you will miss these moments.
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What I did with my kid when he was at that stage was get him tired. Keep him active during the day, let him take an hour nap. Then kept him active up until bed. Gave him a warm bath. Cuddled him in HIS bed til he fell asleep, then got up when he was out. If he woke up, right back to his bed and cuddles til he fell asleep. I’ve never experienced screaming and tantrums with my kids, so can’t sympathize there, sorry.
Almost same situation for me. 2.5 year old will only sleep if he is cuddled with me. Goes to bed fine, but wakes up like clock work at 1am and will not go back to sleep without me. I’ve tired breaking the habit. After consistent 5 days of exhaustion and him not giving in, I went back to his way. I tell myself one day he won’t want me snuggles and I just am dealing with it right now.
I’ve been going through the same thing girl I’m really trying I keep bringing him back to his bed and telling him he needs to sleep there bc we enabled him by constantly letting him sleep with us and I’m pregnant and gonna have another baby in October so we’re trying to get him used to his own bed. It’s been hard that’s for sure. And he used to sleep through the night go to bed just fine some nights even in his own bed now it’s a struggle every night. Currently rn is too
Put him back in his bed and let him scream it out. It will take 14 days and it will stop if you stay strong. Most of all, no more naps! He needs to get super tired so he will sleep through the night.
I co slept with my son for a little over a year. I wanted him to go to his crib and every time I even leaned him into his crib, he would scream like someone was hurting him. We are now on night 3 of him being in his own bed. We took the crib side off and made it into a day bed, put a bed rail on the side, gated his door so if we wakes up he can grab and play with toys (we have completely baby proofed his room) and let watch his favorite movie while laying down. He hasn’t cried for being put in his bed at all. Idk if it’s the same with your son, but mine just didn’t like the caged feeling. He’s going so great now.
My son is 2.5 now and any time he wakes up in the middle of the night I never let him come into our bed. Many times I have given him water but not usually cause he asked for it but I give him a very small amount in a cup and I don’t allow it to stay in his bed with him. If he really won’t go back to sleep I take him down to the living room and put the tv on for about 20 minutes then put him right back in his bed and he always goes back to sleep once he’s forgotten that he woke up upset.
First of all, you’re not messing to be a good mom, you ARE a good mom. Kids go through sleep regression stages. With my first 2 kids I was strict about not letting then sleep in my bed, but now with my 3rd and 4th kids in like . He’ll figure it out. I mean, I don’t know any teenagers that can’t sleep on their own. Personally, I think it’s way more important for momma to get the sleep she needs.
Sounds like maybe the 2 year sleep regression is hitting I’m so sorry that must be so hard with an infant . I don’t havre any advice just sending you love and strength and remember it is just a phase and he will transition out of it !!
My son started waking up like that and we found it was growing pains. The tantrums all I can say is I sit him down and talk in a calming voice and tell him to use his words. And that big boys have to use their words and once he’s calm he will talk to me. If you give in to the tantrums they won’t stop because he will learn you will give him what he wants to make him stop. Me and my husband have coslept with all of our kids until they were around 4. Children naturally want to be close to their parents.
If you aren’t interested in sleep training for his own bed, allow him to fall asleep with a cup of water. My son has always been thirsty in the night. So we allow him to go to bed with a cup half full of water and a size up in an overnight diaper. (= if you want to get him sleeping in his own space again, there’s lots of help for that!
Ur not a bad mom, we all go through stuff like this. Ok so first my kids are now 14 and 18 they don’t sleep with me anymore. Lol time flies so enjoy what u can when u can cause one day u will miss these days. I know that’s hard to believe. Pick and chose ur battles some are worth more of a fight then other. This could be his way of getting along time with u and dad since his sibling came along, it maybe that he feels safe. It may just be him being a pain in the butt like all kids lol. You do what is write for you. They all grow out of it and honestly as I sit and type this I’m kinda jealous lol. I miss those days, the days they just wanted to be near me and cuddle. Good luck momma and remember ur crushing it even when u think ur not. Raising kids is the hardest think we do. To many opinions, to many worries and God know trying to keep the safe is an all day everyday job. Good luck. I’ll say some prayers for u:) the only mommy ur kids need is the amazing mommy they have that worried if she is doing things right:)
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My son is 2 1/2 and I’m due any day for my second. He has never slept through the night. No matter what I did/do nothing works. So to keep mine and my partners sanity I put a queen sized bed in his room and usually just end up sleeping with him. As for when the new baby comes? I’ll just be winging it and hoping for the best. I know this isn’t a logical answer but know you are definitely not alone.
I saw a video on tic tok
Try giving him a piece of banana before bedtime it works like a charm.
I’m currently having well had the same problem.
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Honestly after 3-4 days and if you stick to what you want him to do. He’ll settle and accept it. It’ll be very hard but it will happen
If he still has a crib for his bed that might be the problem. You could try getting him a toddler bed with his favorite character blankets/sheets. That might get him excited to sleep in his own bed.
My son hated sleeping in a crib from the start so we co-slept. As soon as he was about 15 months he was sleeping in his new toddler bed. I started off by slowly moving him from my room to his own room by first placing his toddler bed right next to/near my bed. Once he was comfortable sleeping in it for a couple weeks, I then moved his bed into his own room and he’s been sleeping on it ever since. He’s 4yrs old now.
If he is two years old it sounds like he ready for a toddler bed or a twin size bed instead of a crib. With a bigger bed you can cuddle with him until he falls asleep in his own room. It could also be his second molars coming in. I always found night time was the worst when they are teething. Try a light up teddy bear that plays music to soothe him
My son is just about two and we are right in the middle of this as well! This stage is ROUGH!
Maybe instead of having him in your bed, sir with him in his room at night so he goes to sleep in there? And slowly move towards the door the next night etc. I hope it gets better soon
Lovely hot bath is a good idea before bed.
Also, make sure that his tummy is full before bed.
Try giving him a banana or mix 1 tablespoon of porridge.
I realised that sometimes, they wake up because their tummy is not full.
Hope this helps Mama
You are NOT a failure as a mom!! U r a great mom! Now for the bad news! Lol. I’ve raised 3 bio kiddos and helped raise several others and there is ONLY one way to fix the problem. Trust me! It’ll be so hard for you cz u r a good mom. U HAVE to allow him to cry it out. Make sure he isn’t hungry and has a sip of water and he’s dry and place him in his crib and GO TO BED. He will prob cry himself to sleep for 2 nights ± and when he sees that u WONT give in, he will stop. I promise u that. This too shall pass! Here’s a hug. O
My seven year old did that when he was 3. He out grew it after about a year. He was having night terrors so only being bed with us made him feel safe… please do not give him melatonin. It will only make his screaming worst because he won’t wake up while screaming.y sons Dr told me to try it to help him sleep… and I only give it to him once.
Could be going through a sleep regression. My son started waking up recently and scream/crying like he was terrified and I just bring him into bed with me. Some say that’s bad, but personally I believe we are a safe space for our children and when they cry, we need to comfort them. Im unsure about the water situation… but just know you’re a great mom and do what YOU feel is best
This sounds like 2 year sleep regression. I had this after having a baby that slept through from 13 weeks. It’s all about sticking to a plan and repeat until you get there. For my son, I let him cry it out but incrementally. I would let him cry for one minute… then next go, 2 minutes, next 4 minutes… then 8 minutes. I found by the 8 minute mark he would go to sleep most nights. It’s tough as no one likes to hear their child cry but they are ok and they soon adapt and within a week or so back to normal. At 3.5 had a similar issue after a traumatic event at childcare (mishandled by a carer so feared being left alone). Switched it up, got a night light then sat in a chair next to his bed until he falls asleep. This takes between 5-15 minutes depending on how tired he is. Sleeps right through. I am also adamant if it’s before 6am he can’t come into the bed. So we have a digital clock in his room so he can watch the clock til it changes…. And that is calming and 9/10 times he goes back to sleep until after 6:30/7am. If your child is scared I’ve had friends that have a spray bottle with a little bit of lavender oil in it. You call it “fairy spray” or “superhero spray” whatever would appeal to your child and get them to spray it around the room before bed to keep them safe. Being a mum is tough! Your doing a great job. Good luck.
Huggies overnight diapers can help with the leaking !! They are a game changer. My 3 year old still wears them instead of a pull up at night because they hold so much more.
I’m in the exact same boat with my 2.5 year old son
completely normal and i wouldn’t say that was terrible 2s coz he wants his mams attention and that’s obviously why hes doing things lol
Won’t hurt to get him checked by the GP (bloods/urine) to rule out any medical issues first.
Tuck him in bed beside you up against your chest hum some, rub his little for head, say your prayers and go to zkeep!!!
He is jealous of the baby my oldest did the same thing
Do you know why he does it?..because it works…simple as that.
My kids are 11 and 9…looking back, if I could do it again, I’d just let my babies snuggle with me every night and not try so hard to “fix” everything. I always tried to go by “the book” but my babies were trying to be with me and needed me. That’s my opinion. Your toddler needs you thats why he’s seeking comfort from you. I know it’s draining xx
Check out big little feelings on Instagram. Definitely helped me when my son we went through that around the same age
Take him back get a refund
Try melatonin gummies if you’re okay with it, they make kid ones that are small doses. At least to get him back into the routine. Also you could get a door knob stopper so that he can’t leave his room. It sounds bad, but locking him in there and just letting him scream it out will do the trick. He will learn that screaming won’t get him what he wants and that he has to sleep in his own room.
I have 3 kids ages (3,4,5 and I’ve been through this & we have a NB coming in November. I have my kids on a strict routine my youngest been on it since he was 1.5 however after dinner (4/5pm) they get to okay outside to help make them tired I do bathe them in (calming & tired) soap. And rub them down in lotion this happens around 7/7:30 after bath they get a light snack, and get their iPads and lay down in my bed, or theirs, my youngest has to have a book read to him or he won’t calm down, so usually he has me or his older sibling he asks to (they make up a story) anyways my 5 year old has to have melatonin or he will be awak until 3/4am. The sleep through the night. If a nightmare or we are having a rowdy night and not listening I start taking favorite toys, iPads. If they are in my bed, I won’t bother them and leave them there my middle child usually comes to me in the middle of the night to potty because she scared to go alone. Remind you I’m a single mon who has them 24/7 so I struggle daily but I noticed having them in a strict routine helps a lot!
Sound proof his room and let him cry it out. After a few nights he’ll get the hint. He’s just jealous of the new baby
Give him some juicy juice:wink:
There’s nighttime soothing tabs that you can get. My son gets them and they help a little. Also make sure he s getting enough calories in the day because he could be hungry. Put a fan or found machine in his room. Get a good nighttime diaper it double layer to help hold pee. I put my son to bed with a miracle 360 cup of water. My son also has a light up bear and glow worm in his bed. Don’t give him melatonin he is too young. I do all these things listed above with my almost 2 year old. Keep your chin up ma your doing fine. Its a learning process and we all need to give ourselves a little grace. This will work itself out. If your still worried call his Dr.
Also see if he is teething because that most definitely could be a factor.
Bring the crib into your room. Problem solved. Yes you can furberize him but they are little for such a short time. This will be over soon.
If he is waking up and drinking and peeing that much he could have diabetes…it also causes behavior changes…might not be terrible twos.
Momma you need to be more gentle with yourself, give yourself the same grace you would give another momma in this same situation. Being a mom is HARD, good moms aren’t made overnight. Your going to make decisions that you later realize wasn’t necessary the “best” one for the long run, those are the moments we learn from, but it’s going to happen, and that’s OK!
Now my advice is that you and your husband are going to have to pick a weekend, Friday thru Sunday, to tough this out and transition him into his bed. Ask for some help from your support system (if you have one), plan to spend the whole weekend rotating naps with your partner, send the baby to gramma, set up whatever you think will help you best to see this through. Yeah it’s going to suck, it’s going to be hard, but this should be one of those “one & done” moments. Crack down on his fit throwing while you’re doing the bedtime routine changes, let him scream. In my house if you’re going to throw a fit you do it in your room, no one wants to hear it, that should cut down on the tantrums. They want an audience, don’t be one! But be consistent, letting it slide even once undoes all your progress.
Good luck, you’ve got this!!
Bring a separate bed into your bedroom for your child. That way he is in the room with y’all but in his own bed. Good luck
Everything already said.
You can also get him a toddler tot to put beside your bed. To help transition him out of your bed. When he wakes up in the middle of the night, if he won’t go to his bed, put him on the cot, not in your bed. At least you won’t wear pee.
They go through phases… try a big boy bed and then u can go lay with him when he wakes up instead.
2yr sleep regression. I’m going through the same thing. I’ve tried melatonin to help our daughter and it doesn’t work. She’s been getting up anywhere from 1-2 times a night even when it’s given to her. I read online that it’s due to their brain beginning to process more and that it’s something they’ll eventually grow out of. Who knows. As I’m typing this I’m running off of 4hrs of sleep.(that’s the most I’ve gotten in a night within the past month) If anyone has some good advice send it my way as well.
Get him tested for diabetes sounds like he is drinking a abnormal amount of water
One parent sleep somewhere else with the baby for a few nights… and let ur two Yr old scream… and reinforce him having to stay in his own bed… consistently make him stay in his own bed… it will completely tire u out and u will probably get zero sleep for quite a few nights… just don’t keep giving in to his screaming and tantrum throwing but keep it up … gd luck with it all
It’s a phase my oldest one did this till he was I’m going to say six the baby did this till he was about five my middle one was just like I’m sleeping leave me alone but it is a phase they will grow out of it eventually but if you’re not consistent it is a very hard habit to break
Get a big comfy chair for his room. You can cuddle and soothe him in his room as needed. Do not let him in your room or bed.