Unpopular opinion… melatonin. My 2 yr old was this way. We tried so many different ways to get him to sleep in his bed. We talked to the dr and said that melatonin was okay to give him and that it may help him to fall asleep by himself. We started with giving him melatonin and letting him sleep in our bed and when he fell asleep we would move him to his bed and in the morning he would wake up and see he was in his bed and I think it allowed him to realize that he slept in his own bed all night and everything was fine. After a couple days we would put him in his bed and lay with him or be in the room with him as he fell asleep and then after that we stopped giving him melatonin and he would be just fine laying in his bed from start to finish. Melatonin isn’t something to give kids EVERY night but it helps in the beginning. Hope this helps.
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first of all you got new baybi so his not taking to easy let him stay in your room
Sounds like he may have trouble with feeling regulation
Second watch Super nanny don’t give in
You need to watch Super Nanny on YouTube. To get him back sleeping in his bed. It’ll be rough for a few nights. You need to be firm, is he going to throw a tantrum yes. Nip it in the bud. You never give in when they throw tantrums. Be strong momma. You got this
If he is drinking alot of water there could be a medical prob. Take him to the DR for a check up. Have you asked him what he is frightened of?
Not trying. To be gross but have you checked him for pin worms. Its common in children and because they come out at night, they wake little kids up in the night. And they have nothing to do with being filthy. Children can touch something that was contaminated by another child and stuck his fingers in his mouth. But you’d have to check him at night on his bottom.
Get him a toddler bed and put it in your bedroom That’s what I had to do with my kids also maybe keep the TV on very low but on Disney and as far as the cup just put enough water in there to get him to sleep Don’t feel the cup up. You got this.
Unpopular opinion… let him sleep with you he won’t do it forever and one day you will miss these moments.
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What I did with my kid when he was at that stage was get him tired. Keep him active during the day, let him take an hour nap. Then kept him active up until bed. Gave him a warm bath. Cuddled him in HIS bed til he fell asleep, then got up when he was out. If he woke up, right back to his bed and cuddles til he fell asleep. I’ve never experienced screaming and tantrums with my kids, so can’t sympathize there, sorry.
Almost same situation for me. 2.5 year old will only sleep if he is cuddled with me. Goes to bed fine, but wakes up like clock work at 1am and will not go back to sleep without me. I’ve tired breaking the habit. After consistent 5 days of exhaustion and him not giving in, I went back to his way. I tell myself one day he won’t want me snuggles and I just am dealing with it right now.
I’ve been going through the same thing girl I’m really trying 
I keep bringing him back to his bed and telling him he needs to sleep there bc we enabled him by constantly letting him sleep with us and I’m pregnant and gonna have another baby in October so we’re trying to get him used to his own bed. It’s been hard that’s for sure. And he used to sleep through the night go to bed just fine some nights even in his own bed now it’s a struggle every night. Currently rn is too
Put him back in his bed and let him scream it out. It will take 14 days and it will stop if you stay strong. Most of all, no more naps! He needs to get super tired so he will sleep through the night.
I co slept with my son for a little over a year. I wanted him to go to his crib and every time I even leaned him into his crib, he would scream like someone was hurting him. We are now on night 3 of him being in his own bed. We took the crib side off and made it into a day bed, put a bed rail on the side, gated his door so if we wakes up he can grab and play with toys (we have completely baby proofed his room) and let watch his favorite movie while laying down. He hasn’t cried for being put in his bed at all. Idk if it’s the same with your son, but mine just didn’t like the caged feeling. He’s going so great now.
My son is 2.5 now and any time he wakes up in the middle of the night I never let him come into our bed. Many times I have given him water but not usually cause he asked for it but I give him a very small amount in a cup and I don’t allow it to stay in his bed with him. If he really won’t go back to sleep I take him down to the living room and put the tv on for about 20 minutes then put him right back in his bed and he always goes back to sleep once he’s forgotten that he woke up upset.
First of all, you’re not messing to be a good mom, you ARE a good mom. Kids go through sleep regression stages. With my first 2 kids I was strict about not letting then sleep in my bed, but now with my 3rd and 4th kids in like 
. He’ll figure it out. I mean, I don’t know any teenagers that can’t sleep on their own. Personally, I think it’s way more important for momma to get the sleep she needs.
Sounds like maybe the 2 year sleep regression is hitting I’m so sorry that must be so hard with an infant . I don’t havre any advice just sending you love and strength and remember it is just a phase and he will transition out of it !!
My son started waking up like that and we found it was growing pains. The tantrums all I can say is I sit him down and talk in a calming voice and tell him to use his words. And that big boys have to use their words and once he’s calm he will talk to me. If you give in to the tantrums they won’t stop because he will learn you will give him what he wants to make him stop. Me and my husband have coslept with all of our kids until they were around 4. Children naturally want to be close to their parents.
If you aren’t interested in sleep training for his own bed, allow him to fall asleep with a cup of water. My son has always been thirsty in the night. So we allow him to go to bed with a cup half full of water and a size up in an overnight diaper. (= if you want to get him sleeping in his own space again, there’s lots of help for that!
Ur not a bad mom, we all go through stuff like this. Ok so first my kids are now 14 and 18 they don’t sleep with me anymore. Lol time flies so enjoy what u can when u can cause one day u will miss these days. I know that’s hard to believe. Pick and chose ur battles some are worth more of a fight then other. This could be his way of getting along time with u and dad since his sibling came along, it maybe that he feels safe. It may just be him being a pain in the butt like all kids lol. You do what is write for you. They all grow out of it and honestly as I sit and type this I’m kinda jealous lol. I miss those days, the days they just wanted to be near me and cuddle. Good luck momma and remember ur crushing it even when u think ur not. Raising kids is the hardest think we do. To many opinions, to many worries and God know trying to keep the safe is an all day everyday job. Good luck. I’ll say some prayers for u:) the only mommy ur kids need is the amazing mommy they have that worried if she is doing things right:)
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My son is 2 1/2 and I’m due any day for my second. He has never slept through the night. No matter what I did/do nothing works. So to keep mine and my partners sanity I put a queen sized bed in his room and usually just end up sleeping with him. As for when the new baby comes? I’ll just be winging it and hoping for the best. I know this isn’t a logical answer but know you are definitely not alone.
I saw a video on tic tok
Try giving him a piece of banana before bedtime 
it works like a charm.
I’m currently having well had the same problem.
Sleeps through the night
Honestly after 3-4 days and if you stick to what you want him to do. He’ll settle and accept it. It’ll be very hard but it will happen
If he still has a crib for his bed that might be the problem. You could try getting him a toddler bed with his favorite character blankets/sheets. That might get him excited to sleep in his own bed.
My son hated sleeping in a crib from the start so we co-slept. As soon as he was about 15 months he was sleeping in his new toddler bed. I started off by slowly moving him from my room to his own room by first placing his toddler bed right next to/near my bed. Once he was comfortable sleeping in it for a couple weeks, I then moved his bed into his own room and he’s been sleeping on it ever since. He’s 4yrs old now.
If he is two years old it sounds like he ready for a toddler bed or a twin size bed instead of a crib. With a bigger bed you can cuddle with him until he falls asleep in his own room. It could also be his second molars coming in. I always found night time was the worst when they are teething. Try a light up teddy bear that plays music to soothe him
My son is just about two and we are right in the middle of this as well! This stage is ROUGH!
Maybe instead of having him in your bed, sir with him in his room at night so he goes to sleep in there? And slowly move towards the door the next night etc. I hope it gets better soon
Lovely hot bath is a good idea before bed.
Also, make sure that his tummy is full before bed.
Try giving him a banana or mix 1 tablespoon of porridge.
I realised that sometimes, they wake up because their tummy is not full.
Hope this helps Mama 
You are NOT a failure as a mom!! U r a great mom! Now for the bad news! Lol. I’ve raised 3 bio kiddos and helped raise several others and there is ONLY one way to fix the problem. Trust me! It’ll be so hard for you cz u r a good mom. U HAVE to allow him to cry it out. Make sure he isn’t hungry and has a sip of water and he’s dry and place him in his crib and GO TO BED. He will prob cry himself to sleep for 2 nights ± and when he sees that u WONT give in, he will stop. I promise u that. This too shall pass! Here’s a hug. O
My seven year old did that when he was 3. He out grew it after about a year. He was having night terrors so only being bed with us made him feel safe… please do not give him melatonin. It will only make his screaming worst because he won’t wake up while screaming.y sons Dr told me to try it to help him sleep… and I only give it to him once.
Could be going through a sleep regression. My son started waking up recently and scream/crying like he was terrified and I just bring him into bed with me. Some say that’s bad, but personally I believe we are a safe space for our children and when they cry, we need to comfort them. Im unsure about the water situation… but just know you’re a great mom and do what YOU feel is best 
This sounds like 2 year sleep regression. I had this after having a baby that slept through from 13 weeks. It’s all about sticking to a plan and repeat until you get there. For my son, I let him cry it out but incrementally. I would let him cry for one minute… then next go, 2 minutes, next 4 minutes… then 8 minutes. I found by the 8 minute mark he would go to sleep most nights. It’s tough as no one likes to hear their child cry but they are ok and they soon adapt and within a week or so back to normal. At 3.5 had a similar issue after a traumatic event at childcare (mishandled by a carer so feared being left alone). Switched it up, got a night light then sat in a chair next to his bed until he falls asleep. This takes between 5-15 minutes depending on how tired he is. Sleeps right through. I am also adamant if it’s before 6am he can’t come into the bed. So we have a digital clock in his room so he can watch the clock til it changes…. And that is calming and 9/10 times he goes back to sleep until after 6:30/7am. If your child is scared I’ve had friends that have a spray bottle with a little bit of lavender oil in it. You call it “fairy spray” or “superhero spray” whatever would appeal to your child and get them to spray it around the room before bed to keep them safe. Being a mum is tough! Your doing a great job. Good luck.
Huggies overnight diapers can help with the leaking !! They are a game changer. My 3 year old still wears them instead of a pull up at night because they hold so much more.
I’m in the exact same boat with my 2.5 year old son
completely normal and i wouldn’t say that was terrible 2s coz he wants his mams attention and that’s obviously why hes doing things lol
Won’t hurt to get him checked by the GP (bloods/urine) to rule out any medical issues first.
Tuck him in bed beside you up against your chest hum some, rub his little for head, say your prayers and go to zkeep!!!
He is jealous of the baby my oldest did the same thing
Do you know why he does it?..because it works…simple as that.
My kids are 11 and 9…looking back, if I could do it again, I’d just let my babies snuggle with me every night and not try so hard to “fix” everything. I always tried to go by “the book” but my babies were trying to be with me and needed me. That’s my opinion. Your toddler needs you thats why he’s seeking comfort from you. I know it’s draining xx
Check out big little feelings on Instagram. Definitely helped me when my son we went through that around the same age
Take him back get a refund
Try melatonin gummies if you’re okay with it, they make kid ones that are small doses. At least to get him back into the routine. Also you could get a door knob stopper so that he can’t leave his room. It sounds bad, but locking him in there and just letting him scream it out will do the trick. He will learn that screaming won’t get him what he wants and that he has to sleep in his own room.
I have 3 kids ages (3,4,5 and I’ve been through this & we have a NB coming in November. I have my kids on a strict routine my youngest been on it since he was 1.5 however after dinner (4/5pm) they get to okay outside to help make them tired I do bathe them in (calming & tired) soap. And rub them down in lotion this happens around 7/7:30 after bath they get a light snack, and get their iPads and lay down in my bed, or theirs, my youngest has to have a book read to him or he won’t calm down, so usually he has me or his older sibling he asks to (they make up a story) anyways my 5 year old has to have melatonin or he will be awak until 3/4am. The sleep through the night. If a nightmare or we are having a rowdy night and not listening I start taking favorite toys, iPads. If they are in my bed, I won’t bother them and leave them there my middle child usually comes to me in the middle of the night to potty because she scared to go alone. Remind you I’m a single mon who has them 24/7 so I struggle daily but I noticed having them in a strict routine helps a lot!
Sound proof his room and let him cry it out. After a few nights he’ll get the hint. He’s just jealous of the new baby 
Give him some juicy juice:wink:
There’s nighttime soothing tabs that you can get. My son gets them and they help a little. Also make sure he s getting enough calories in the day because he could be hungry. Put a fan or found machine in his room. Get a good nighttime diaper it double layer to help hold pee. I put my son to bed with a miracle 360 cup of water. My son also has a light up bear and glow worm in his bed. Don’t give him melatonin he is too young. I do all these things listed above with my almost 2 year old. Keep your chin up ma your doing fine. Its a learning process and we all need to give ourselves a little grace. This will work itself out. If your still worried call his Dr.
Also see if he is teething because that most definitely could be a factor.
Bring the crib into your room. Problem solved. Yes you can furberize him but they are little for such a short time. This will be over soon.
If he is waking up and drinking and peeing that much he could have diabetes…it also causes behavior changes…might not be terrible twos.
Momma you need to be more gentle with yourself, give yourself the same grace you would give another momma in this same situation. Being a mom is HARD, good moms aren’t made overnight. Your going to make decisions that you later realize wasn’t necessary the “best” one for the long run, those are the moments we learn from, but it’s going to happen, and that’s OK!
Now my advice is that you and your husband are going to have to pick a weekend, Friday thru Sunday, to tough this out and transition him into his bed. Ask for some help from your support system (if you have one), plan to spend the whole weekend rotating naps with your partner, send the baby to gramma, set up whatever you think will help you best to see this through. Yeah it’s going to suck, it’s going to be hard, but this should be one of those “one & done” moments. Crack down on his fit throwing while you’re doing the bedtime routine changes, let him scream. In my house if you’re going to throw a fit you do it in your room, no one wants to hear it, that should cut down on the tantrums. They want an audience, don’t be one! But be consistent, letting it slide even once undoes all your progress.
Good luck, you’ve got this!!
Bring a separate bed into your bedroom for your child. That way he is in the room with y’all but in his own bed. Good luck
Everything already said.
You can also get him a toddler tot to put beside your bed. To help transition him out of your bed. When he wakes up in the middle of the night, if he won’t go to his bed, put him on the cot, not in your bed. At least you won’t wear pee.
They go through phases… try a big boy bed and then u can go lay with him when he wakes up instead.
2yr sleep regression. I’m going through the same thing. I’ve tried melatonin to help our daughter and it doesn’t work. She’s been getting up anywhere from 1-2 times a night even when it’s given to her. I read online that it’s due to their brain beginning to process more and that it’s something they’ll eventually grow out of. Who knows. As I’m typing this I’m running off of 4hrs of sleep.(that’s the most I’ve gotten in a night within the past month) If anyone has some good advice send it my way as well.
Get him tested for diabetes sounds like he is drinking a abnormal amount of water
One parent sleep somewhere else with the baby for a few nights… and let ur two Yr old scream… and reinforce him having to stay in his own bed… consistently make him stay in his own bed… it will completely tire u out and u will probably get zero sleep for quite a few nights… just don’t keep giving in to his screaming and tantrum throwing but keep it up … gd luck with it all
It’s a phase my oldest one did this till he was I’m going to say six the baby did this till he was about five my middle one was just like I’m sleeping leave me alone but it is a phase they will grow out of it eventually but if you’re not consistent it is a very hard habit to break
Get a big comfy chair for his room. You can cuddle and soothe him in his room as needed. Do not let him in your room or bed.
It honestly sounds like he has learned that if he screams and hollers you are going to give him exactly what he wants. I never give in to the tantrums but with a 5 month old baby i understand why you did and do. Try to keep it to only 1 cup of water he really doesnt need water all through the night. And if he isnt sucking that water down during the day the same way i wouldnt worry about diabetes just yet. Play him some soothing sounds or some low soothing music. He may be having separation anxiety because of the new baby and all the attention the new baby is getting is causing him to regress back. He may be observing how you are with baby and how you attend baby and so he starts mimicking behaviors of baby to get that attention back. Keep pushing forward mama! Only you know what is best for your babe!
Sounds like a normal child adjusting to not being an only child anymore. My son was 3 when my daughter was born, we still all 4 bed shared until we couldn’t fit anymore. My son was 4 when he went to his own bed, my daughter 2. Dont rush to get them out of your bed they will only want to be there a short amount of time. Make sure yall are taking one on one time with him without his sibling too, dad take him out to the park, you do a movie with him etc. I also wouldn’t allow more than 1 bottle of water at night. Teach him to soothe himself, I play white noise, Lullaby, calm rain etc and tell them to lay there with their eyes closed and picture them emptying their mind out, works like a charm.
Have him checked for ear infections & allergy problems.
My kids had both, it affected EVERYTHING.
Eating, sleeping, bathing, talking, even playing.
If they feel miserable & can’t tell you, it makes for an upsetting atmosphere.
If that is not an issue, start watching Daniel Tiger on PBS it has helped my grandson SO MUCH! It teaches about using words, feelings, manners, being friends, personal hygiene! It has really taught him a lot since he has no other kids to be around.
Sesame Street is also amazing at teaching them stuff that’s very useful to a 2 year old 
The bedtime regression is real, & night terrors will wake them often, so try to set a very ambient, calm, quiet nighttime routine with a happy bedtime story.
& Of course 2 year olds require A TON of patience, so dig deep mama.
It does get better. Just love on your little one, teach them, entertain them, wear them out & make sure you give Tylenol for any teething pain at night. (Pain is always worse at night).
There are also all natural soothing tablets & melatonin for a short period of time to help set up a good sleep routine.
A nightly routine is EVERYTHING with little ones. My grandma taught me this when i had my first n it worked great with all 4 of them and i have done it with my grandkids as well. It works great i promise!
Try doing the same routine EVERY night. If his bed time is 8 start at 7 put him in a very warm bath let him play in the water for a few min get washed after hes dressed snack time brush his teeth then maybe you can lay down in his room with him and read him a story then lights out. He will still come in your room a for a few days but every time he does take him back to his room. Give him his drink of water change his diaper you can even sit with him for 5min rub his back or something til he calms down. Its not gonna be easy but if you stick to the same thing every night after a few days maybe a week he will get use to it. You can also try childrens melatonin. Until he gets use to the routine. . He may be jealous of the smaller child to so the nightly routine is just about you n him or him n daddy so that will be special to him. Hang in there mama. Dont be so hard on yourself. Your doing a great job
Maybe for the time being get a toddler bed and put it in your room so he’s close but not actually in your bed
If keeping him in your bed is helping everyone sleep more, then just let him. It’s biologically normal for a child to want to sleep with their caregivers anyway, and I can assure you, he won’t be there forever.
Have one parent take the baby on a mini retreat for a few days. Let the toddler cry it out for a few nights, he will learn that he can sleep in his own big boy crib/bed.
Wait till he gets into a bed your not a bad mom your learning as we all are I have an 8 year old I still am learning
Since people have given good advice know this, you are not being a bad mom. You’re definitely trying hard (seems your husband as well), so don’t let those thoughts even bother you. You have enough to think about. Best of luck
Soothing music. Sleepy time nursery rhymes, meditation music, classical music etc. Took us almost 3 years to get our LO out of our bed. Itll pass. Just give it time. And please cut the drinks after 9 the latest. Dont give in just because of the 5mo old. Your LO is giving you these issues because of sibling jealousy. I found that out the hard way. 
I’m not much for advice. We did what we had to cause we both worked full time. To keep her out of our bed we let her watch a Disney movie in her bed till she fell asleep. It sometimes took two movies. We got sleep and she took a nap easier the next day. She was strong willed so it worked for us
Have you tried giving him Melatonin it helps kids sleep
My near 4 year old has nightmares too, to the point where he’s screaming for me, talking in his sleep and sleep walking. Some nights are easier than others, at times all he wants is a back rub and a drink of water but others I will let him sleep with me cause of how often it happens in the night and me being nearly 8 months pregnant I can’t keep jumping out of bed…worst thing I feel is letting him cry it out, it could develop into an attachment disorder which will only get worse as they enter school etc…
Take him to a doctor first…sounds like he may have diabetes or something. Also seems he may be having night terrors or something has scared him in his bed/room. If he is healthy ask the pediatrician what they think about mental health…maybe on the spectrum. It could be millions of things best to go to a doctor first
I had to lay down with my kids in their rooms and gently tickle their backs to sleep every night or bedtime would have been a nightmare. Maybe you can try this
I’ve read they go through a sleep regression at 2, could be what’s going on!
My daughter did this its a stage, it will pass.
I’m just wondering what makes a good mom or bad mom? Doing what is best for your family sounds like a great mom to me! All of my children bed shared with us and when we were ready and we felt they were ready, we moved them to their own bed in their own room. Maybe try starting him in his bed and laying with him? Also, a bedtime routine is important. Change him into his pajamas, brush his teeth, get him bed, read him a story, and maybe try laying with him until he falls asleep. It is completely normal for kids to go through different stages of sleep patterns. Hang in there mama, you’re doing great!
My son is 5 and sees a psychiatrist as he has adhd and i once asked why he wakes up literally every night wanting to be in my bed or me sleep with him. She said that its not uncommon for kids to need the comfort of a parent and its actually normal for them to continue doing that till sometimes an older age. I just moved my five year old into his own room as he doesnt want to share a room with his brother who is 15 months cuz they both wake up alot and im adding a new born to the mix any day now
Maybe this is a reaction to the new baby?
At 2, ask your pediatrician about melatonin gummed, but make sure it isn’t night terrors or any underlying health issue. We did have my daughter start taking them about that age and helped her fall asleep and stay asleep- 2mg I believe, but I agree it’d be best if you get them back to their bed asap for their sake. Good luck!
Chin up Momma… you got this! Have him checked out with your pediatrician…
My daughter takes water to bed every night. She always drinks her cup, sometimes I have to refill it. My daughter went through something similar. I go lay with her until she’s asleep again. I don’t want her to be scared. I leave her door open until she falls asleep and then I close it, she just doesn’t wanna be alone or feel lonely. Maybe little man feels left out because the baby gets to sleep in mommy’s room and little dude doesn’t and he feels excluded or left out. No need for sleep aids. There’s a two year sleep regression too so keep that in mind… it’ll pass mamma
It’s common for toddlers during big growth periods to get sleep regression and night terrors…he’s probably hitting a milestone and Unfortunately sleep regression is part of it…I’ll also add my oldest woke me up at night until he was 4…my now 3 yr old and 2 yr old wake me up multiple times a night as well to give ninnies…juice…or just to cover them 
some kids grow out of it some don’t…I ignore them sometimes and they continue to call for me but go back to sleep I’ve tried crying it out, sleeping with me, everything and these 2 still do it so I’m just waiting for them to out grow it now (I’ll add we tried melatonin,doesn’t work and makes them extremely emotional and irritated the next morning so be careful with that! And pediatrician said it’s normal some kids sleep some don’t,he’s been a pediatrician for 40+yrs so he’d definitely know if it was odd)
Mammals have an inborn instinct to sleep with others for warmth and safety. It’s fairly new in our history that we expect our little ones to sleep alone.
My attitude has always been: everyone should sleep where everyone is going to get the best sleep. Nothing is forever. Get some heavy duty diapers and tuck him in with you. In a year or so, you can try tucking both kids into a bed together in a different room. That worked for us. And now they are all teens and sleep in their own beds in their own rooms.
You have to let him cry, been there done that. When my daughter was 3.5 I messed up and let her in a few times. It lasted until I was pregnant with my second child and I couldn’t take it anymore. So we made her stay in her room. We did things to make it easier on her and not like we abandoned her of course. I got her a TV and put a timer on it. It was the best purchase I ever made honestly. I got my bed back and she would eventually get one anyways.
You got this momma. Have him ckd yes. The thirst is concerning but yes it. Seems like a stage it will pass
Why would you drug your kid to sleep stupid idea
Put a baby monitor in his bedroom so you can hear when he wakes up and pacify him back to sleep in his bedroom. Be consistent with not brining him into your bedroom. This might be a struggle short term, but it will pay off in the long run.
I leave a tablet playing youtube kids very lightly in my 2 year olds room. That way if she wakes up, she’s quiet and occupied in bed. If she doesn’t have the tablet in her room, she’s in my bed
My kids are 2.5 years apart when we had our daughter my son went through a phase of wanting to be in bed with us because baby sister was in our room and he wasn’t it took a few weeks for him to like his big boy bed we got him a race car bed… I started a special bedtime routine we would get a drink around 7 brush our teeth together then go to his room get pjs on pick out 3 books and get in his bed together read the books and sing our good night songs then I would tuck him in tight like a Caterpillar and praise him for doing a great job before and in the morning when he woke up… positivity is really important it’s a big step when making room for a sibling especially if it was just him… but keep praising his good points like going potty even things like art work or playing well with others at that age they seek a lot of attention however it doesn’t matter if it’s positive or negative its really just having your time so if he sees the response from him screaming he will keep doing when my son tried that I just went to another room and ignored him when he didn’t get that response he stopped and started doing things that did get a response
Advice I got from my speech and OT is you need to acknowledge their feelings, if they are upset crying on the floor you tell them it’s ok your upset because insert reason
Is he still in the cot? He could be ready for a big boy bed with awesome bedding and stuffed animals that may encourage him to sleep in his own bed. It’s not easy getting a 2yr old to sleep but persistence pays off, my eldest will be 3 on Friday and just recently I’ve been able to tell him when he’s sitting on the couch that it’s bed time and he understands he will go to his bed I will read him a story and 50/50 he will either fall asleep straight away or play in his room for 30 mins then fall asleep in his bed
Get the night time diapers… serious game changer and go up a size… my 2 yr old drinks 3 to 4 bottles at night some nights and he doesn’t leak
He’s probably a little jealous of the new baby.
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It sounds like basic natural jealousy with the new baby. Children just aren’t ready to deal with complex emotions, and it seems pretty clear, he wants to be close to his parents too. (Ie, babies receive more attention for obvious reasons) Personally? Maybe try doing thing with your eldest that just “his” time. No baby. And if my child threw a tantrum, I just let him. I don’t negotiate with terrorists🤣. I’d just stoop down and ask him why he was so upset over whatever he was mad about and try to talk him though it. Even though toddlers aren’t equipped with great copping techniques, all children have the capacity for logical thought process. Or rather cause and effect, and if he doesn’t now is a good time to work with him on it. “Why are you upset?” “What’s got you so angry today?” “Why does this make you feel so upset?”
Helping a child understand their emotions does wonders. He’s old enough for school, he’s old enough to explain why he’s in a foul mood. Ask him if he thinks you and daddy spend too much time with the baby and not him…. Explain why it may seem to look that way to him, that babies need more whereas he is a big boy who can do all these wonderful things babies cannot do, and express you love him just as much. See how he feels about special “him” time with mommy and daddy. It really just sounds like regression through sibling jealousy…. Which is perfectly natural! Although can get out of hand if not address in a healthy way. He’s a person too who needs love and affection. Remind him he is, and that the love, even if it’s spread out a bit more, is just as strong as before. Children tend to value themselves from the attention they receive from people they look up too. You guys are doing a fantastic job! And a new baby is hard for sure…. Maybe once a week take him for ice cream just him and you. Have your husband take him for lunch just the two of them. Balancing a new addition is tough, but maybe integrate him more into the new daily baby care routine to make him feel like he’s a part of it too.
We put a toddler cot near our bed and let him have a sippy cup of water nearby. He felt secure because he was near us, but we slept good because he wasn’t in bed with us. He eventually outgrew the phase and started sleeping through the night in his own room on his own. They’re only little for a short time.
I have a similar issue. We are all just trying to figure it out! I’m sure you are a great mom and doing what you can and think is best. Some of these ladies have mentioned things that I will also try. Good luck momma! Hang in there. You’re doing a great job.
First thing first momma . Breathe.
Is the 2 year old in a crib or a totaled bed ? If he’s still in a crib you may try switching to a tittle bed and see if that may help ease him back into his own bed . And when he wakes in the night you may just have to sacrifice a little sleep and sit with him in his room until he’s back asleep.
I had to do this both at 8 months and 18 months with my son .
At this point he is testing you to see what boundaries he can push when knowing the limit . It’s all about consistency and repetition .
You got this momma .