Let a professional do them and go for it
I would do anything to add to the self confidence of my daughter. Givin it’s a healthy alternative. Take her to get them threaded!
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Really ?? Teach her.
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Tell her get better friends !
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yes take her… She is at that age to feel self conscious. Thats a bonding outing for you both also…
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If you get the eyebrows done elec you never have to worry anymore
My daughter started getting her eyebrows done at 12. Really is no big deal.
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Do not let her shave her lip! Take her to a salon to get her eyebrows and lip waxed if your going to let her do anything.
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Best to get it done before she takes it into her own hands. My mom wouldn’t let me shave and I not only did it anyway I also shaved my arms. My arm hair grew back in super dark and thicker. T_T Make it a mom and daughter thing. Go for a spa day once in a while. Who knows, if she can’t stand waxing or plucking maybe she’ll decide it’s not worth it for a few more years.
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Take her to get it waxed. Twelve is definitely old enough. If you’re self conscious about yours, she’s definitely self conscious about hers too. No shaving though.
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Shaving will only make it worse…
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Unless it a mono brow (kids can be cruel let’s face it) don’t touch your eyebrows, a friend did mine once and they have never been the same and it’s not easy to keep on top of with 3 kids aged 6,4 and 2
You need to buy her a flawless beauty kit for christmas… Flawless brows, the new one that looks like a razor and the original flawless face one! She will thank you!
She’s 12. No matter what you say, she will continue to be self conscious about it. Help her out so it will hopefully only boost her confidence. Also, good on you for not bringing it up to her.
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Let her get them sorted. If she’s feeling self conscious about them it’ll help her self esteem
Take her to get it taken care of! She’s only going to get more self conscious as she gets older and seriously, it’s only hair. She’s asking you. Taker her.
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Hair remover is best. Do not wax as the hair gets harder. I have experienced this and so is my daughter.
It’s her body let her handle it. But shaving it??? No.
She’s old enough at her age I had super thick eyebrows and thick upper lip hair luckily for her the girls brought it to her attention polity, where in my place I was bullied and called a gorilla. It’s better for her to get them threaded since it lasts a lot longer than waxing but do not have her shave her upper lip as her hair can come back thicker and darker.
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To her, this is probably a huge deal. Like probably something she obsessed over. Let her bleach or wax it if she wants to.
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12 year old kids brought it up kindly! Probably after the others are bullying her. Just take her to the salon
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Take her to a salon & get them waxed. She’s at the age where she’s starting to care how she looks. Not only to herself but others as well.
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Nah carrybher to have them waxed. Don’t let your babygirl feel self conscious. U help and guide her before she feels embarrassed.
Take her to get a wax. It’s hard to be that age, feeling self conscious about everything…
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Electrolysis is permanent & might be the best choice in the long run.
I wouldn’t recommend shaving, maybe hair remover creme, waxing, or electrolysis would be a better choice,
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My kid started at 11 getting them waxed. If not, it’s insanely embarrassing how they get.
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Why is wax out of the question?!? If it looks bad, then you should definitely teach her, it’s your fault if you don’t. I took my daughter for wax around that age the first time, it’s lasts longer and you don’t want her to end up with a five o’clock shadow do you?
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No face shaving. Hair can return thicker and darker.
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Don’t let her shave her face she will end up with super thick hairs 
It’s her body let her be comfortable in it, at least she has come to you saying she no longer feels comfortable with the way she is looking and asked for your help! Don’t turn her away or disregard her feelings
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Dont let her shave it but you should totally help her get control of it. Make it a mother daughter bonding thing, every girl wants to feel pretty no matter what age. Help her feel comfortable in her own skin, she’ll remember this trust me.
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Mine started at 10 getting eyebrow waxes. They like it
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12 is a great age to learn how to take care of ones body, especially girl. I see it as a win that she cares about her appearance (my kids could care less how they look and it’s a problem).
Why make her wait ,when next year you will give in and let her do it. Unfortunately we can’t pick an age when our hairy armpits etc start to grow .
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Shaving the hair on the upper lip will make it worse. Nair or something that will get it out down to the roots
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Don’t let her shave, like these ladies are saying. But definitely show her how to do it.
Do not shave it. Dye the upper lip, and rock those bushy brows girl!
It’s a total shame ,but you have to so she feels "normal "
Hopefully this pretend stupid Instagram world fades away and fast!
Jeez people, just use one of those electric personal hair remover wands with the little inner blades. Cheap, she won’t cut herself, and she doesn’t have to be self conscious, done.
If It’s upseting her help her fix it.Ask her Dr about wax at her age
Shaving is the worst possible thing she could do especially on her face t will make it worse.
Why not waxing is was getting waxed at her age it’s probably the best and safest option with a good beautician
Yes let her learn how to keep it taken care of!
You should show her a picture of cara delevingne Kaia gerber’s eye brows, both young models with big dark eye brows. Don’t pluck them too far and ruin them.
Please do not let her shave her lip use nair or wax she is 12 and it is a good age to start
There is a dye or bleach if you do not want to shave, which will make it worst, what about threading?
No don’t make her leave it. Let her take care of it! Why would you make her wait knowing how much it’s bothering her?
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I think 12 is a perfectly fine age to start waxing, especially if it is affecting her self esteem.
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Personally if it were my daughter id let her decide for herself because she’s the one who has to live with it. I’d make sure to teach her how to do it and proper skin care as well but she’s a growing little lady who needs to be comfortable in her own skin.
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I would show her how to take care of it. If she is already self conscious about it, it needs to be handled.
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I went back and forth with this myself. Everyone will have different opinions. My daughter also had really think and dark hair forming on her upper lip and eyebrows. She is 13 and we use nair facial for her lip and she does get her eyebrows threaded. I also went back and forth with her being so young but I have noticed more confidence in her from those small changes.
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Buy home wax and just take care of it for her.
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I have two daughters. I say have a conversation about it and have her explain how she feels about it exactly. If my girls were very insecure about it, I would let them. I don’t see the harm, and she’ll feel better about herself 
I would also let them know that they’re beautiful no matter what they choose
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Teach her. But I suggest letting her wax. Shaving will only bring the hair in thicker and thicker.
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Let her take care of it.
I’d show her how to tweeze her eyebrows herself, keeping a watchful eye. Too many girls try to do it themselves and end up in a mess.
I live with embarrassing facial hair and spend what feels like half my life dealing with it. Let her learn now how to manage it before she shaves it and it evolves into a more in-depth problem.
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I think it’s fine at her age. But like the woman in front of me pointed out was I would show her how to tweeze her eyebrows herself not necessarily start getting them waxed except for her upper lip
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Kids are mean, assuming shes in maybe middle school? , If it is already that noticeable why make her wait wait. At 12 she should be able to make that choice to get it taken care of especially if its bothering her.
I would suggest waxing be better, it last longer than shaving.
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Mom, it’s ok! If it’s showing, it’s time to deal with it. Show her how.
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I think if you allow her to shave her legs, this is along the same lines. Especially if you understand and do the same kind of grooming. It will help help her feel better about herself and not huge changes to her appearance.
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I would take her to get her eyebrows shaped once, so she can learn. Then the plucking is just upkeep but she’ll know the proper technique and shaping
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Please please show her how to do it. It’s a normal part of growing up and everyone is different. I too have dark hair and I have to stay on top of it and I had peoe make fun of me when I was her age. I do think that plucking the first time is hard. So maybe make an exception to the wax and let her get it shaped first then she can do the upkeep.
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I say let her decide, I personally get my eyebrows waxed bc I suck at tweezing them and it’s super quick and painless.
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Take her to get waxed, then teach her the upkeep. 12 is an awful age for bullies and self esteem .
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Um now! I started waxing my daughter’s unibrow (proudly inherited from my side) around 9 or 10.
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In regards to her upper lip you can buy these https://www.ebay.com.au/itm/Tinkle-Eyebrow-Face-Razor-Trimmer-Shaper-Shaver-Blade-Knife-Hair-Remover-Tool/332913543732?ssPageName=STRK%3AMEBIDX%3AIT&var=542017558985&_trksid=p2057872.m2749.l2649 which I have found to be really good.
Have you looked into sugaring at least for the lip ? Ulta will pluck and thin her eyebrows without waxing. Shaving will only make it worse
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Let her do it. 12 is enough to get basic wax/ thread
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Show her how to take care of it. If it’s embrassing her, let her get it removed.
Time to teach her about body maintance I’d say she’s old enough. Waxing seems best but you could try all methods to see what she can tolerate at first.
My daughter has dark hair and she started getting teased at school. Really affected her confidence and personality. She changed from wearing skorts/dresses to always pants. No shorts. No swimsuit. If you don’t show and teach her, she’s going to learn from YouTube and friends. I say use it as a bonding time and teach her. Love her and enjoy the time together. I do with my now 15 year old, and it makes a HUGE difference.
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I begged my mom to let me get my upper lip hair removed at 12. Dark hair sucks and its way more noticable in the winter months. Anywho she took me to the place she got hers done and had them do it. Then from there it turned into our little monthly date days. We would go get that done then go to lunch. Just us girls. Hell we still go together to get it done but now we do threading for both.
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12 is old enough 
she’s getting closer to high school where it is more common place. I had a friend who got her eyebrows taken care of every 2 weeks AND dyed her hair every 2 weeks at the same time. 
On the other hand I barely ever saw a hair dresser 
just depends how you want to parent 
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I always had really thick, wild eyebrows and I was about 11 or 12 when I started getting them waxed
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My daughter us 12 and gets her side burns waxed bc they are very bushy and long. I don’t see any problem with it. Kids in middle school are mean and it makes her more confident.
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I say if it bothering her self esteem show her how to deal with it and allow her to deal with it if not she may try to do it behind your back and end up with a disaster
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Allowing her to get them done safely will prevent her from shaving/ or otherwise. I was encouraged with good intention to leave my hair as a child which led to (aside from teasing from my peers) using razors in secret and experiencing unnecessary cuts because I didn’t know what I was doing.
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If it is hurting her self esteem and it’s something simple as getting some hair removed I would definitely do it. I would just try to make sure she understands that she is doing this for her own self confidence and not to appease the bullies. Sounds like you are a great momma for listening to her and taking her concerns seriously! Good job momma! Keep on keeping on!
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I’d say let her. And if she gets it waxed it will last longer and the upkeep will be easier.
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At 12 i would let my daughter get her eyebrows shaped!
Id take her for a wax and then show her how to keep it up!
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teach her how to take care of it, if she is self conscious about it the mean kids at school will pick up on it
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Give her the best Christmas present ever only 99$ on Groupon Laszer hair removal for her upper lip . did it for myself last Christmas and do happy I did. Also got it for my daughter, she had been embarrassed of her hairy arms and had shaved them. She is so happy with the results .
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Don’t let her shave her upper lip. Let her get waxed, it is cheap and if it helps her feel better about herself and keeps her clear from being teased then what is the harm.
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Get it permanently removed
I would allow her to get them waxed, you could just ask them to clean them up if you’re not wanting her to get them shaped. & shaving wouldn’t be good, it makes the hair grow in thicker.
My daughter started waxing her brows at 12. I would definitely allow it, especially if it is bothering her.
I feel like if she’s at the age where she notices it and feels uncomfortable, it’s time to do something about it. Those little things at her age often morph into BIG things…
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Waxing is better than shaving, especially for eyebrows. I definitely think she’s old enough for all of this. Also, kids are cruel so if it’s already been brought to her attention it’s only a matter of time before other kids start picking on her.
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I’d let her. She is probably insecure about it and this will build her self esteem.
I feel like waxing is safer than plucking or shaving as far as a little lip and eyebrow. She certainly doesn’t need to wax her legs at 11.
It is also a once a month process at most. If you’re completely against it, then show her how and warn her about over plucking and razor safety. You shave lip hair, it’s coming back thicker and darker.
It’s hygiene and maintenance of our appearance. I understand no makeup, but grooming is different.
I would teach her how to take care of it…it will help her self image
once she dose it she will have too keep doing it because it comes back thicker and darker
My daughter started waxing at 12, she’s 14 now & I book her when I have mine done 
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Waxing is the way to go, not shaving it. Like everyone said it will grow back thicker, waxing it won’t.
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I think around 12 is a great age to build up your child’s confidence! If she’s bringing it up, she wants to do something about it. My mom didn’t really let me do things like this, and I was so very insecure. I’m the type of person that if I don’t look good enough, I don’t feel good enough. It may boost her self esteem and in return she’ll perform better in her school work, and she’ll over-all be in a better mood!
Please don’t let her shave her lip. Have it waxed. The hair grows back lighter and thinner. But yes, if she’s uncomfortable or embarrassed by it, definitely let her fix it for herself. It will give her a boost in confidence. I wish I was allowed when I was her age
The appropriate age is when you as her parent decides it’s ok!
My youngest daughter is 11. She has her eyebrows waxed and shaped mainly because her sister is a beautician, nothing wrong with a bit of subtle tweeking to tidy up.
At 12 if its really noticable i would let her. I wouldnt however wax or thread it. I would get it lasered. Its not so thick that it will require alot of sessions and they are gone for good.
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My daughter was 5 when she first had her eyebrows waxed. She’s 10 now and is asking for her mustache to be waxed off now too which I’m going to have done. We always go to a professional though.
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