Honestly, if it bothers her, she will find a way no matter what you say to take care of it…so I would just allow her to do it and show her how.
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If she’s old enough to shave her legs, she’s old enough to do her facial hair. As someone who deals with unruly eyebrows… it definitely helps with the self confidence.
I learned how to shave at 11
I got my eyebrows waxed for the first time around 12-13.
I would definitely let her take care of these areas if she is concerned about it. It will really help her build her confidence too.
My 8 year old has been getting her eyebrows waxed for almost a year now, once a month. But only the middle where her unibrow is. Her eyebrows are very thick and dark and she has a bad unibrow. Our stylist said she has a few little girls that come for the same reason. Its cheap and she loves the experience
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She’s bringing it to your attention because it’s bothering her. If you ignore it now it’s possible she’ll do something about it behind your back and not come to you with future issues.
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If her friends are noticing and have quietly told her, it’s time.
Dont shave. Bleach or wax.
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Was is better than shaving 12 is a good age to start
If you don’t teach her how to do it properly and safely, she’ll find a way to do it on her own, especially if it’s something that makes her feel embarrassed at school. It’s her face, a lot more people notice facial hair than leg hair. I would suggest that you help her do whatever makes her most comfortable with herself. Yes, she is beautiful and perfect the way she is and shouldn’t be concerned with what other people think at only 12. But that isn’t going to keep it from effecting her self esteem, especially if it’s mentioned by other kids
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Let her do it. Get both threaded. Easier than plucking and shaving. Her self confidence is the most important thing
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I say let her tame it. She’s probably insecure about it
I remember it bothering me at that age
You can also teach her how to pluck so she can do it on her own eventually
Wax or bleach professionally only thought.
Until she gets used to it. Do not let her shave them!!! Tell her she is truely beautiful and that you will helping her feel even more beautiful. 
You can’t shave eyebrows. Plucking hurts. Plucking is only to get the stray ones . Waxing is much better. I started at 12 or 13. I got bad eyebrows. If you don’t want to wax, try to find a place does the string.
I let my 9 year old have her eyebrows waxed because it bothered her xx
I prefer threading , it hurts tho!
My neighbor’s granddaughter’s brows and upper lip started darkening pre-puberty (within 6 months). I was a hairdresser and also did my clients brows and lips. Some were allergic to the was and wasn’t going to use bleach or shave. I used ice. Only plucked where necessary, between the brows and toward the ends, rarely above the brow. Just like when people would self-pierce with the potato and ice. When I was finished I used a little Neosporin. I did clean the area first with alcohol. They said it didn’t hurt. They eventually started doing their own. Luckily they never got carried away. Know where to pluck first
my daughter is 13 and we just got our eye brows done together last week,
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Try threading or sugaring… (by a professional)
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I would help her…you know her genetics and she is coming to you…which means she is concerned or embarrassed. If you don’t help she will find someone who will and may not come back to you with her next “issue”.
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At 12 id say wax. Not shave. Could cut herself plus it grows back thicker
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Shaving will make it thicker and more. Noticeable. Wax it defo. If she’s doing her legs then I’d let her gt lip and eyebrows done too. If she is self conscious about it. And will be able. To. Do it in future then let her. As the self conscious. Won’t chnage just because she is forced to deal with it for the moment.
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Don’t shave it will only darken and thicken the hair. Wax or bleach. You can take her to a beauty salon for her upper lip and it’s painless . Please don’t let her shave it.
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I’d definitely get them waxed. Explain to her the pain.
My daughter had/has a monobrow by 10 she was begging and pleading to get something done about it, I insisted she was too young. Well. What can i say apart from i should have let her get it done.
She decided she had enough and tried to shave it. Needless to say she disnt have a clue what she was doing and made a right mess. The hair came back a lot darker and thicker quite quickly. So since then she gets them waxed.
Get her tweezerman tweezers
If she is worried and feeling bad about herself get it done. 12 is a tough enough age without worrying about this
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As a Cosmetologist I totally DO NOT recommend shaving the upper lip. It can and will grow back darker and thicker…waxing, over time will lessen the growth. Explain that it hurts like ripping off a bandaid …eventually she will not need to do it. Good luck.
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So as someone with PCOS I suffer from hair growth on my chin & when I say chin think a man beard that’s how bad it is if I let it go. With that said I have shaved, waxed, & plucked the area. Shaving is horrible. You have to practically do it every day & because the hair is blunt your stubble looks darker & no girl should have stubble. I could shave & still look like I had a 5 o’clock shadow by mid afternoon. The best in my opinion is waxing. It hurts for a few seconds but then it’s fine, they even have stuff to put on your skin if it’s sensitive. You don’t have to do it every day like you would shaving. She can go up to 2 weeks between waxing. You can also buy the waxer at Sally’s & do it yourself. Super easy & saves you money in the long run. I work with middle school aged kids & some kids can be mean about this (anything really) so if she’s feeling the need then I don’t see why not. She’s 12 & asking this for her self esteem don’t see why you wouldn’t oblige. She could be asking for something worse.
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I started talking my daughter to get her eyebrows threaded at 12y
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Definitely allow.
I would recommend waxing upper lip. Over time, growth will lessen. Waxing eyebrows also. But keep them full and natural. Go together and make it a “Girls Date” 
Take her to a salon and have professionals do it. She will see that most women have to also do it. Normalize it.
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Show her how. She is ready.
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Don’t let a 12 year old tweeze their own eyebrows. That’s gonna be a disaster. What’s wrong with waxing?
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We use Nair facial for my 14 year old daughter since she was 12. Only takes about 10 mins total! Works wonders! I tweeze her eyebrows for her if she thinks she needs it.
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If you’re nervous about waxing and her having sensitive skin or the wax possibly burning take her to have eyebrows and upper lip threaded. My opinion is it’s quick and honestly not painful and the hair doesn’t come back as fast. 12 is also not an early age as I was 13 when I started doing my eyebrows but back then could only be tweeZed ouch 
make it a mother daughter day at the spa and that will be a thing you can have together for a very long time. Nothing like a day at the spa mani pedi and thread !
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My mom showed my sister how to use hard wax for her upper lip at around 12. There is a kit from the drug store pre made you just warm it up and apply. Let harden and remove. I’ve used it on my eyebrows as well but wouldn’t recommend just because you have far more control with twezers and have to go back in with them anyway to touch up.
Save your daughter being bullied… it just eyebrows
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As long as it is what she wants to do any age is appropriate. It is her body and she should be the one to make that decision. Not you.
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Maybe she could get IPL for her lip? I mean shes never gonna want facial hair so why not get on top on it as fast as you can 
That’s when I started taming mine. I’d let her do it cause it’s not going to hurt her any by letting her do it. I dont recommend shaving necessarily but something to remove the hair.
Show her how to take care of it those girls are only gonna be polite the once soon into turn into bullying and 12 is plenty old enough to learn about self care and that type of hygiene
Take her to a salon. Make it a girl day it will be fun 
Take her to a reputable esthetician and have them help her out.
My granddaughter is the same age & she gets eyebrows waxed, never shave,not good for women to shave anything on the face makes hair grow in faster and coarse. This is a hard age for kids & we want them to be happy & confident in themselves & their looks so if she wants it & needs it do it!
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Wax!!! Don’t shave!!!
I’d go for the IPL for upper lip…it’s not like she’s ever going to want to grow a moustache. Professional waxing for eyebrows so she can follow the trends for thick or thin in later teen years.
It can really harm self confidence if left untreated
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Get the hair removal cream for sensitive skin for the upper lip (dont shave) ive just started teaching my girl who is 12 to remove upper lip hair and shaving her legs, i refuse the eyebrows untill shes a little bit older and i will take her to the hair dressers for that.
My daughter inherited her fathers huge bushy very dark eyebrows and it was something that my husband openly talked to me about since she was a toddler. He suggested that we should encourage her to start getting them shaped when she started high school. My husbands sister has the same eyebrows but her parents wouldn’t allow her to touch them and she coped hell from the other kids at school and it knocked her confidence. My daughter was 11.5 when she started high school and she had them waxed for the first time the week before school started. She’s now 13.5 and gets them waxed every 6 weeks.
That would be cruel to try and force her to leave it, especially when kids at school are already bringing it up. Definitely don’t shave it. Wax or laser/ipl.
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I let my then 12 year old get her eye brows sugar waxed. She begged for it. Now we do her eye brows, legs and underarms at her request. She is almost 14
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I started when I was eleven, it made me feel better about myself so I continued 🤷
Well I damn sure would have her shave. My sister did and now has constant razor burn…
Mom don’t pluck or shave. You can take her to to a Salon and get it berockside (sorry for spelling) so it’s light enough not to see be doesn’t cause as much harm.
I do waxing and have waxed girls as young as 9 . So if she is worried about it . Get in early before to make it a non issue when she is a teen .
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Show her how to take care of it. She’s old enough to be embarrassed and self conscious about it plus already shaving her legs. It’s your job as mom to guide her and teach her the proper way. Better than her getting to the point she does it behind your back and over plucks or something. Try threading for the eyebrows but I’d rather wax the lip because threading it hurts soooo bad. There’s also bleach creme, and other home remedies.
Take her to a salon for threading. I wouldn’t go the shaving route, it can cause ingrown hairs and with dark hair the stubs are still visible anyway. Definitely don’t leave her to pluck anything herself.
Best long term thing would be laser removal. If she really has a thick or dark mustache, I would say let her do it. It’s a fairly small change that could make a huge difference in her self confidence
Show her how to take care of it before she is horribly teased. We all get body and facial hair at different times, just like we all got breasts and periods at different times. You wouldn’t ignore if your daughter got a period at 11 even if you thought she was too young to get a period then; if your daughter needed a bra, you would get her one. It’s no different.
They, all do their eyebrows now,very popular but I think their a little too thick ,but pretty . Mine were very pretty when I was young, but they were thin .
Plz, plz, plz, do something. My cousin had this problem as she’s part native American. She had dark hair in unflattering places including her face. She was bullied mercilessly for it. What made it worse was her mother told her shaving was a privilege and wouldn’t allow her to remove it. She became very depressed and started cutting herself at 13. She was convinced by children at school that she was ugly and smelly because of it. Even after she took matters into her own hands her reputation at school stayed “ugly” until graduation. She’s still incredibly self-conscious.
Show her how to take care of it. If it’s already affecting her self esteem then it’s important to her
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Will follow this with interest as my 10 year old has had people mention her top lip as well as he hairy legs 
I let my daughter at 12.
Definitely show her. I taught myself when I was 12/13. She’ll learn from you or learn somewhere else
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I got my daughters eyebrows waxed at 11 bc she had a monobrow. It boosted her confidence immediately.
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I see no problem with plucking both.
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And honestly waxing would probably be better because its less up keep and she may mess up plucking.
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Just wondering but why can she get them waxed?
Yep teach her to take care of it self esteem is so important at that age
For her mental health because other people have brought it up show her how. She asked you 1st instead of just doing it on her own.
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YES, please let her.
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I would definitely teach her, this is around the age I learned how but I ended up teaching myself/asking others for help. Although I would suggest waxing. Its much easier and honestly less painful
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I would help her take care of it, especially if other girls have said something. If she is embarrassed by it and wants to take care of it to help her feel more comfortable in her own skin, I say go for it. You don’t have to go to extremes or anything. Just maybe once every two weeks have an at home spa night and do facials and mani/pedis. Turn it into a bonding experience for the two of you.
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Show her so she dont hurt herself trying to fix it by herself that could result is worse scars.
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Don’t let it affect her self-esteem or her self-image. She’s only noticing it and self-conscious because people are probably already teasing her about it, help her out Momma. I know it’s hard and you may feel like your baby is growing into a young woman too quickly, but it’ll make things easier on her. Good luck. 
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Absolutely let her take care of herself!
Theres also threading which is pretty painless and not very expensive and it’s really precise
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I would have a professional wax so it’s less upkeep. But age has nothing to do with this. If it’s affecting her self esteem and there’s something you can do about it, I’d say do it. Especially if you can relate. Why tell her no to have her suffer to peer bullying just because she’s not a certain number in years?
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Yeah make a date of it if you can take her to get them both done than maybe something to eat or a movie boost of confidence and add some fun too it. She is probably feeling insecure inside.
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I got both waxed at 12, and just kept it tame from there
If she wants to-take her and have them threaded.
Yes, definitely show her if this is what she wants! I think it’s so important too, that she asked you first. Theres so much respect there show her and teach her so it can boost her self esteem.
And keep on being a loving and understanding parent. I loved that she asked you before doing it herself (I just did it myself same with shaving my legs cuz I was getting picked on.)
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I agree with everyone but would like to add that PCOS, polycystic ovarian syndrome, causes abnormally thick and dark hair growth on young girls.
My daughter has it and this is something we’ve dealt with. While I have no other reason to suggest this except for the post, I would suggest the OP look it up just in case.
Def don’t shave upper lip…there’s easy wax strips @ Walmart that work well and affordable
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Absolutely let her do what makes her feel good about herself! She is cooking into teenager years and she is. It too young to do those things !
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Please help her and get this started. I had a very very noticeable “mustache” as a kid/adult because my mom told me to leave it alone. I was tortured because of it. While I’m glad I never shaved it, please take her to get it waxed and have them show her how to do it.
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If you don’t want to wax, I would try nair or something before I would let her shave it. It will grow back more thick and coarse and then she will have a bigger problem
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12 is an appropriate age to do hair management! 
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Nothing wrong with some maintenence. If she brought it up she’s probably already feeling insecure. If it makes her feel good about herself and youre comfortable with it, do it
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it’s only 10.00 to get eye brows done by a professional and 500 for your lip. That is the best way and it will always be done nice.
Mental health and self esteem is so important at this stage. If something as simple as shaving/plucking or waxing can assure her mental stability let her. I never understood those parents that make their children suffer unnecessary trauma because they want to follow some silly “age” guideline.
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If my daughter asked me I would do it, and help. Since this opens up communications and if you won’t help her , her friends will.
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It would be wrong not to help her. She already feels embarrassed about it if you didnt help her she would do it on her own and possible hurt herself teach her how and the right way
Why is waxing out of the question? If you go to a properly licensed place with great reviews, this is the best option for her long term. While it is a myth that shaving makes hair ACTUALLY thicker and darker, it does make hair APPEAR thicker and darker which… is practically the same thing when you consider why you’re removing it to begin with. I know it might seem scary or too grown up, but it’s less risk of infection and irritation than shaving and can help reduce the growth and appearance overtime.
Now, this is of course AFTER I would have a frank conversation with her. Body hair is a personal choice and while some people may find it unappealing, it’s her choice if she wants to keep it or not. She is not ugly with body hair, she is not ugly without it. It’s natural and part of being human. If you discuss it frankly and she still wants to remove it, I would consider waxing.
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Not too young to take care of it. It’s a part of grooming.
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I think if it’s bothering her then it should be waxed. I would let my daughter. She was to afraid to wax at first but now she does fine.
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My 10 year old son has his eyebrows waxed regularly by my sister because ppl comment on his monobrow. My daughter was about 12 when she 1st had hers done, now they ask my sister to come over to sort their eyebrows, it’s like a monthly thing, I don’t have mine done as I ruined them with over plucking as a teen so I’d rather the kids av them sorted properly.
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I would let her do it. Take her to a salon and get them threaded. I recently started going to get them done and I go once a month and it’s $10 where I go. So it’s not a bad price and she’ll feel good about herself and get some confidence back.
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I started letting my 11 year old tweeze stray hairs,but not touch her eyebrow shape. Her hormones had her hair super dark. I think letting her is a good idea.
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Definitely show her. My daughter is 10 and I’ve already waxed her upper lips and underarms. It’s crazy that I had to do it at such a young age. I now use these wax strips and she loves them because it’s pain free. She has thick dark hair so her mustache was super noticeable. Once she told me it bothered her we started to wax. Her eyebrows we have not messed with.
Also want to state it’s actually a myth that if you shave it grows back darker and more coarse 
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Never ever shave facial hair… may be pluck or bleach…or take her an have the lip hair permanently romoved…shaving causes the hair to come back thick an coarse like a man’s beard…at her age for now i would teach her to pluck the dark hairs
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