I think it’s her choice. Whenever she wants to, she can. It’s her body. And it’s just hair so who cares ?
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My daughter at this age went through the dame thing , She went so far as shaving her eyebrows 
, I had to pencil them back in for the next 2 months . After that, She learned to do her eyebrows.
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I understand what you’re dealing with. My daughter will be 13 next month. She’s been plucking her eyebrows for the last few months, but very minimal and she did ask me about her upper lip and she’s going to start taking care of that too. There’s never really the right age, it’s when its needed
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Definitely take her to get her eyebrows done and her upper lip. She’s at the age where kids are mean and will make fun of her for it. If she’s bringing it up she obviously wants you to do something about it. Please please don’t shave, it grows back thicker and more coarse which will be more noticeable
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But don’t let her do it at first, take her to a professional to wax. And then you can teach her how to tweeze so she doesn’t mess them up.
I have let my daughter wax her eye brows since 10 as well has shave. She has super dark hair and it bothered her
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Don’t shave her lip Mama PLEASE I am begging you for her not to shave her upper lip. You will just make it worse when it grows back weird and they will not be so “polite” about it. Please use wax strips from Walmart, or Dollar general. I use the Sally Hansen brand. It’s cheap and I can do it at home. Or take her to get it threaded. It’s not about how she looks but self love and taking care of herself. Please let her take care of this and properly.
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I would definitely let her get them waxed or plucked professionally. Don’t let her pluck them herself as she could overpluck/misshape them and make things worse.
Try threading for her
Girls are maturing a lot earlier then we were when it comes to puberty , if it makes her feel better and good about herself do it!
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Show her how… for sure. Self image is so important especially at her age
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Waxing last way longer. If she shaves it will be back in days. Thicker and darker also! Waxing is the best way to go!!!
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Show her or she’ll do it herself like I did when I was her age 
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Now. Why let her be self conscious about facial hair when it is a simple easy fix that IMPROVE her self conscious. It’s the little things. Take her to the salon. Get it done.
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No help her , self esteem is very very important …
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Yes I think it’s ok at that age to start learning how to take care of herself if that’s what makes her feel better but I would also keep encouraging her esteem and let her know she’s a good person and beautiful person inside and out and alot of girls and woman go through this so she doesn’t feel alone
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Depends how hairy she is?
It’s her Choice, but you have to agree to whatever she decides
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I don’t think there’s an age issue rather than an eye brow issue. She can have a minimal job done in a professional. And please, don’t shave anything on her face! 
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I don’t think there is anything wrong with letting her remove the hair from her upper lip and shape her eyebrows a bit. Why is waxing out of the question?
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Definitely do it. I wasn’t “allowed” to do it when I asked. I took a razor and scissors to them myself at 11 years old. I’m 35 now and STILL have bald spots on my brows from my adolescent over tweezing.
Somethings are better left to the pros.
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I had to start shaving my legs when I was 10 so if you are onboard with her cleaning up her eyebrows and her mustache, good on you. There is nothing worse at that age than feeling like you look like an outcast. Her eyebrows don’t have to be styled and arched, just thin them out and cut them down then show her how to pluck them daily to maintain them. She can use the cream (like nair) on her mustache instead of shaving. Waxing doesn’t hurt; it’s just the initial pull that stings then the pain subsides. But yes, get those eyebrows under control.
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If she’s old enough to ask, she’s old enough to get it done. Likely she’s feeling some social pressure at school and this will help boost her self confidence. I think I was 12 when I finally tamed my Bert style unibrow
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I’m pretty sure I got my eyebrows waxed at 11… I chose not to after that… I’d just let her choose
Finishing Touch sells “Flawless Brows”. This is a painless way to trim brows easily. They also sell one for hair removal on the face. Each cost about $20 at Walmart, Kohls, or Amazon. Waxing hurts!!! Try these things. Wish I had them years ago.
Why are you asking how to care for your child. Do what you feel is best for your daughter. You got this momma
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Let her do it now, 12 is normal age and remember teenagers can be very cruel… self esteem is very important. Don’t give her reasons to feel insecure, if this is something that will boost her confidence, it’s not a big deal.
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If she’s concerned take her. You don’t want kids making fun of her or they may have already
Waxing would be there better option than shaving her top lip there’s nothing wrong with taking her to get them done
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If my 7 year old asked me I’d take her. If they’re questioning and feeling uncomfortable then it’s time to let them grow up some. I’d take her to get it waxed and let her go monthly.
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Yes absolutely now let her. And why is waxing out of the question??? I started with waxing and still do it today (14 years later). It’s not like you wax them yourself get them done professionally. It’s really not that expensive, and it lasts longer than plucking or shaving and the hair grows back a lot smoother than shaving. I would never ever teach my daughter to shave her facial hair. Always to wax it. To each their own but I think you’re being selfish and thinking more on your own wants for her rather than what will be better for her in the long run.
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Shaving absolutelty does not make thicker more coarse hair grow in.
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Show her how to take care of it.
If there is hair, its an appropriate time!
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I think it shouldnt be a problem 
I started getting my eyebrows waxed at 10, and i wouldnt shave her face you dont want to start getting shadowing, get it waxed !
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We do it, to make ourselves feel better. Take her. She’s going to do it as an adult anyway. Why contribute to teenage angst. Just have her brows cleaned up, no arch and get it popping!!
It’s HER body. Let her do it. My mom tried to prevent me from doing this very same thing and I went behind her back to tweeze mine and ended up messing it up bad. Kids are mean. It’s not like she’s asking to put on winged eyeliner and false lashes. Just let her wax her facial hair.
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Don’t let her shave it will get worse as the years go on!!! I used to get made fun of for my lip hair and I shaved do sally Hanson facial hair bleach. And a wax once in a while. And they eyebrows my mom used to take me to get the unibrow removed when I was like 10 cause kids made fun of me.
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My 15 year old has been getting her eyebrows waxed for a couple of years now (she unfortunately got The Douchebag’s unibrow). If she’s self-conscious about it, help her to not be!
Wax…don’t shave…its totally appropriate at this age mom. If you’re not comfortable with that, try bleaching her lip & plucking her eyebrows.
Definitely show her how to take care of it. Kids are so mean and she doesn’t need that blow to her self esteem.
Why not let her? If it’s noticeable, and she’s feeling self conscious she’s old enough to self-groom. And waxing is way better than shaving! So why not let her wax? We do it to make ourselves feel better so why can’t she? I wish my parents would’ve let me do it at that age, I used to get bullied for it so much. I didnt even get to shave my legs until I was 13 1/2
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I’ve never really understood what age has to do with it. Obviously, you wouldn’t take a toddler for facial hair removal, but if a young girl notices it, and is bothered by it, and other girls have mentioned it, get it done if she wants. Girls are brutal to one another. And if the boys notice and start saying stuff, the damage could last year’s.
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I feel like waxing is safer than her shaving her face. Then a professional is taking care of it and she won’t irritate her skin. Just a thought.
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Get them threaded. Shaving will make it more noticeable. Definitely allow her to though. Bullies are extra mean in these days… and it’s just going to hinder her by waiting. My mom didn’t let me shave till I was 13 (my legs). I remember a boy asking my brother why my legs are so hairy… so embarrassing. Don’t do that to her. If you think shaving is a sin, then it shouldn’t be done at any age… but since you’re going to do it any way… age doesnt matter. I think the time it becomes a problem is a perfect age. You’re not forcing her. She’s asking.
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Why cant she get it waxed? More effective. She shouldnt have to deal w judgement from kids, esp at that tender age.
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Sally Hansen makes an excellent, nearly fool proof waxing strip for your face (lady stache). 1 and done.
Get her eyebrows waxed/plucked/trimmed by a professional the first time, then let her pluck as it starts growing back.
A girl I knew shaved her upper lip & it caused her problems for YEARS, she ended up getting electrolysis .
My daughter has very dark hair & people at school commented on her rash, I think she asked her friends , then decided to get some cream that dissolved it, did it herself age 14
I started getting eyebrows and lip waxed in 7th grade. Worth it and good for confidence. Also kids that age are mean and that’s easy to take out of the equation fir being made fun of.
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Take her to a salon and have it done. She will lose her confidence, and other kids can make it more embarrassing for her!!! Make it a “Mom and Daughter” day out! Maybe get her nails done too! All the best. But some young ladies do mature earlier than others, and sounds like that’s what could be going on. Good luck, she sounds like a great daughter, and has a supportive Mom!!
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May I interject…if her facial hair is noticeably darker have bloodwork done. PCOS is a leading cause of dark facial hair and my youngest was diagnosed early. It’s a hormone imbalance that we fight with diet and medicine.
Also, either way is fine. Threading lasts longer but is a bit more uncomfortable
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Please don’t shave her upper lip, that would just be worse down the road. Either bleach or pluck if you’re dead set on not waxing but waxing would be the faster easier way. I think 12 is plenty old enough to let her make her own decisions, just inform her on how each work but please don’t shave! You’d be making the situation worse for your girl. It would become way more noticeable.
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She’s at that age I would take her. You don’t have to have a arch just get them cleaned up.
Let her wax it why not , let yours go and don’t do anything about it see how she feels. This is like well she to young for pads or tampons so give her paper towels, what happened to your common sense, be a woman
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Take her to a professional and get it done. If there is hair, then it’s time. You can do it too and make it a gals outing… like a mommy daughter spa day. You could both get your nails done too and add a little fun to the ouch. Lol
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You can either take care of it and show her OR she will end up doing it on her own. Only a matter of time.
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Teach her young to take care of herself. If she is embarrassed by these things let her do something about it. Confidence at this age is crucial. She will feel better about herself and this will help he in her schooling and in her ability to socialize without feeling like she is going to be made fun of. It’s never too early to build confidence
In my opinion. Shes hitting puberty and we all know our bodies tend to rule over us in hairy ways and stinky ect. Ect.
If you see it o ly as a beauty trend other than saying your just raking care of yourself then of course your gonna feel a certain way about it.
If she 8s embarrassed i would totally let her. Its not hey mom i wanna start getring fake eyelashes and fake eyebrows bunch of make up. Things like that are unnecessary beauty trends.
Learning how to plyck your eyebrows or mild lip stash. That is simply taking care of yourself.
Girl you should see my eyebrows right now. Havent plucked them in so long and they tend to have a mind of their own.
But start with tweezers. No waxing.
It can be done nicely an tweezing is a way for a girl just starting out to learn herself. Not go get them done like women do. Its something she can do herswlf taking care of herself in her own home.
They even have eyebrow razers for that but again you have to be careful with those when shes just starting. So i would go down the tweezer road before taking her to get them done.
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The girl needs help , she feels like an outcast. Let a professional wax them. Do not mess them up yourselves. I learned the hard way about shaving my mustache it is darker than it used to be and now I wax it weekly. It’s slightly painful for a few seconds max.
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I’d let her get them waxed
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Why is wax out of the question? It’s actually a much better option than shaving.
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If it bothers her I would say take care of it. Please, please, please don’t let her shave her upper lip! I made the mistake of shaving the dark hair on my face starting in my teens and now it is a daily thing that I have to do. I wish I would had started a waxing routine.
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I say this as someone who was embarrassed very early in life, 5th grade was when kids started making fun of my eyebrows. I say if she’s asking, I would take her somewhere to get them done. At least cleaned up. I finally embrace mine now but it took almost 20 years
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I take my 13 year daughter to get her eyebrows done. It makes her feel good, and it is a small price to pay to help build her confidence.
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Wax, don’t shave and have her eyebrows waxed too professionally.
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If she feels uncomfortable she will do it by herself if you don’t teach her the right way! And pls do not shave her upper lip that’s the worse you can do! Maybe bleach it or thread it and idk why waxing wouldn’t be an option. She is at that age in school where they get made fun of for having hairy legs and armpits so I think she’s old enough for you to teach her the women ways of this society
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If you can thread them do it. It lasts longer though it is painful. My parents didn’t let me do anything until I was 15 and I hated it. I shaved my eyebrows, upper lip and legs behind their back and it was a mess. Wax is a good option too with little maintenance.
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I’d bring her for threading
My 12 year old step daughter gets her hair dyed at a salon…shaves her legs and probably much more. I say go for it. As long as you plan on maintaining it then I see nothing wrong with it to help her feel more secure with herself. School is hard enough for kids.
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If you’re uncomfortable with waxing why don’t you take her to get threaded? This is a middle ground where a professional can help her and avoid the embarrassment of over plucking, while avoiding the hot sticky mess of waxing.
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I just gotta say. I have dark hair & an olive complexion. I had dark hair on my upper lip. From about 12 I’ve hard to pull/tweeze thick, dark hairs from my own face. If kids at school noticed & have said something you can’t just let her go on like that. I honestly would wax my daughter myself. Tweezing is obnoxious & time consuming, oh & kind of painful. At least with wax it’s just a few tips. I did try nair a few times but that ended up with a chemical burn. I guess I’m lucky my daughter has light hair & just tweeze her eyebrows. I would spare your daughter the embarrassment though. Imagine if you stopped removing your own facial hair, how would you feel about your face?
Let her do it. I got mine done around that age, and it’s a nice feeling. Let the girl get her hair and eyebrows done, it’s her body and she’s coming into a sense of personal upkeep
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She’s hitting puberty so let her. It’s crummy enough what women face lol
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Threading the wax irritated my daughter’s skin and it lasts a little longer I guess because they’re pulling the entire hair out I don’t know I could be wrong my girl is 13
Shaving with an eyebrow razor doesnt really make it grow back darker! I recommend that but I also have bad reactions to wax.
My daughter will be 11 in December & is going through puberty. Has small breast, hair eeeeeeverywhere, and is taller than her 14 year old brother. She has the thickest eyebrows & mustache that came in this pass year. In October we used tiny wax strips and cleaned up the unibrow, stray hairs on her eyelids & mustache. No shaping eyebrows just cleaning them up. When done she said “that’s it”. She was so happy she made me take a picture & send it to all her cousins and grandparents.
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Find someone who does sugaring!
It’s a gentle more natural than waxing and is great for sensitive areas
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Btw. Teach her how to use makeup too for any occasion and skin care. I work I. The middle school environment and these few things help with getting through. There more but grooming gives confidence and courage
Threading YouTube has great do it yourself videos
My ten year old gets her eyebrows done at the nail salon, at first I didn’t like the idea of it but hers were beginning to be so unruly I didn’t think it was fair to not let her do it
What is wrong with you? Of course take care of it! YOU NOTICED. If you notice this, why wouldn’t mean ass kids say something? You’re dumb. Take care of her.
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They sell no touch razor things. I would buy her it. And show her how to use it. But let her get the facial hair waxed first then show her how to maintain her self with the no touch razor
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100% she should be allowed to have those things taken care of.
Teach her to take care of herself x
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It is that age mama. Puberty, periods, and the girly routine starts. Teach her the right and safe way and help her understand that most women do these things.
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My daughter is 12, will be 13 after Xmas. I’m taking her to get her legs waxed so she can avoid shaving. At this age I’d let her do most things she is comfortable with. It’s her body and she should be comfortable in it. I can’t tell her what to think of herself. Come on now.
I say leave the eyebrows alone but maybe get a few odd hairs with the tweezers. If you take her somewhere and someone messes up her brows they might not ever be as nice. I’d say try jolene for the lip…if they still have it. It’s a simple bleach for the hairs around the lip. Sorry she feels self conscious but she’s a preteen and I’m sure she is lovely as she is.
Google go fuzz free it’s a way to permanently get rid of facial hair and she won’t have to shave or wax it hope it helps
I think it’s very appropriate. My mom brought me in to get my eyebrows waxed when I was about that age. And waxing is much better since it’ll actually keep the hairs from coming back for a while. Please for love of god don’t shave it and make it worse
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Waxing and threading will hurt the very first time. Neither of them cost very much too. I would find a spa/salon who offer waxing or threading. Shes becoming a young woman. I would definitely help her out. If she’s already shaving her legs she’s old enough to bring it up to you. I know I didn’t go to my mom about shaving my legs. My younger sister actually showed me 
but like some of the comments. Make it a girls night. Have that bonding moment while you still can. Soon enough she’ll be older and you’ll miss the days when she was younger. But if I was you. I would ask her what she would like to prefer instead of saying “yes” or “no” to one thing and not the other. But shaving would take away that fine languo hair she still has and as the hair grows it exposes the hair that’s underneath the skin. But I wish you the best of luck with your daughter! 
I would definitely let her have them done and keep the appts every month or so.
I was waxing from 7th grade on so about 12. I have Italian ancestry and so I have olive skin and dark hair. Once puberty hit, it was obvious. I suggest letting her get it done or doing it for her since girls at school have noticed. You dont wsnt her to be bullied. Threading is great, waxing can be painful, but can be an at home solution. Good luck momma!
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If she’s coming to you about it then let her get it waxed, shaved, threaded, or bleached. However, I will say from personal experience (I started waxing and shaving in 5th grade) have a talk with her about how you fully support her choice to get rid of her body hair but that it’s also nothing to be ashamed about. It’s normal. It’s hair. Everyone grows hair.
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My mom let me get just middle done in about 4th/5th grade cause kids are mean and I have naturally thick eyebrows (which are in now) and got made fun of for my “unibrow” once I was 13 I started doing the whole eyebrow. My mom also would do the Jolene on my lip as well. You do what you think is best for your daughter!
My daughter started getting teased about her lip area. But I had that same exact problem. So it was a mother daughter bonding I took upon myself to clean up her brows and mustache. We tried to wax and I noticed they took to much off so now I’m the only one who touched her brows from 10-17 yrs of age. She plucks her own but still prefers her mama to do it. So find what good for you and her. A “girls” day is fun
Make it a mom an daughter day carry her to get it done my daughter just turn 6 but since she 2 we go to get our nails done on her birthday this is our special bonding time
I was about the same age when my grandma started plucking my brows. I started waxing them about a year later.
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I’d she’s uncomfortable with it and YOU are ok with it, then show her how to take care of it. Kids are brutal nowadays…I just had to homeschool my autistic son because he couldn’t cope with the kids in middle school (6th grade, 11 yrs) … help her feel comfortable in her own skin. 
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Give her what she wants, no harm done.
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My daughter started at 11, she also shaves her legs. I dont think 12 years old is too young. Just my opinion
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