Look for a reputable place for sugaring. Also teach her to not go for the thin brows.
Don’t wax. Being a poc and not finding a great place or whatever. Waxing always left the waxed area lighter than rest of my face.
I think if she’s shaving her legs she should be able to do her brows and lip. Kids can be mean😞
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Some girls develop earlier. You wouldn’t tell her she can’t wear pads because she’s younger than other girls when she starts her cycle. The extra hair growth is just as much a part of her hormones as her cycle. I’m not sure why you choose not to Wax, but if it were me that would be the route I took(well sugaring). It takes longer to grow back and will also not grow back as thick.
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My daughter preferred Nair at 1st, follow instructions or it will burn skin now at 13 she prefers hard waxing for upper lip.
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Hey momma! Times have definitely changed, i know for a fact my mother never would’ve let me pluck my eyebrows at 12, but this world no longer exists… Honestly, I’m just glad that these girls pointed it out gently, instead of bullying her about it 
(you know kids nowadays can be ruthless).
I’d encourage you to let her tame these hairs however you see fit, and maybe even see this as one more bonding opportunity! She needs her mom now more than ever, even if she’d never admit it 
They grow up much too fast, it’s never easy…
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It’s not appropriate to shave your lip at any age. Wax it
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This happened to me. I was made fun of because of the hair… so i did end up getting my upper lip waxed at my aunt’s salon .I was also the same age
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That’s around the right age, slight wax on eyebrows and wax upper lip every 2wks
Been waxing since 11 years old. NBD.
Try threading if waxing isn’t good option.
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Mother and daughter time at the salon. Nothing fancy just a “clean up” of the brow and lip.
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Wax them it wont hurt. As a young girl I hated my hair on my face so I took my cards razor and shaved BIG mistake they comeback like a beard sorry I ever did it
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They sell flawless touch things at walmart for 20 bucks. Easy and painless. Have to do it more often than every 2 weeks but saves money. They also make them for eyebrows too.
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I wouldn’t encourage her to shave her upper lip its just gonna come in worse, let her get it threaded or something xx
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It’s all part of grooming and learning to look after yourself. She will be a young lady soon and will need to start soon so why not now. Waxing is ok.
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Omgg do not shave the lip!!! But let her take care of it. I waxed my eyebrows at that age but prefer plucking.
Dude, take her to a salon and let her get eyebrows done and her lip waxed. Why no waxing? She’s 12. I started waxing at about that age. It’s just part of being a woman - once you hit puberty, you need to start taking care of some stuff. Unless you make a personal choice not to (some women go natural when it comes to the body hair and that’s okay too) but you have to grow some pretty thick skin if that’s your personal choice. Otherwise, here comes the maintenance. I’d also let her look in to getting her legs waxed - you only have to do it once like every other month and she won’t get cut doing it. You know how many times I fell in the shower and cut myself shaving as a teen? Skip it, bring on the wax. You can even get those prewaxed strips from the store, they work pretty good. I personally thought the Nair strips worked better than the Sally Henson ones but that’s just me. Either way, let the poor girl tweeze, shave, pluck and pull until she’s comfortable in her own skin. Coming of age is already hard enough, we don’t need to add lip hair in to that.
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Do not have her shave it… Itll come back thicker and then shell really hear about it… Waxing, sugaring, threading or using nair will comeback thinner.
As far as the eyebrows… Take her to a salon. So they can tame them correctly… I remember doing them myself for the first time and it was a disaster. Plus thatll give yall mommy daughter time. And you can bond about what else shes going thru.
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I was shaving at 11 and definitely waxing my lip by 12. Why is it out of the question if shaving it is only going to make it come in thicker? If you’re not going to let her wax, there’s no point in doing anything. I dont mean to come off to blunt, but I’ve been where she is and it definitely would of made it worse if my mom didnt let me take care of it because she didnt want to see me grow up.
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So. I’m gonna bust the myth that it grows back thicker and darker. It only looks that way because hair is tapered and when you shave it, you make it a blunt edge. That’s naturally going to look darker.
Take her to get waxed if that’s what she wants.
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I would not shave her upper lip! She will have to start shaving it everyday and it will grow in like men’s do. Waxing is best for her eyebrows and lip! If it’s dark and thick, you know kids will be cruel to her! We all develop at different ages so if she is allowed to shave her legs, why wouldn’t you take her to a professional to help with her eyebrows and upper lip??
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My daughter has been coming with me since she was 10.
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Definitely show her how to tame it.
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Show her how to take care of it. Now is definitely the time!
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Take her to a salon and have both taken care of. It’s not fair for her to have to live with that just because you’ve created a reason in your mind as to why this isn’t ok. You don’t have to listen to the comments, or be embarrassed like she is. She’s plenty old enough to have the problem taken care of.
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I’m trying to figure out why you even have to ask this question. And no, I’m not trying to be rude…just have you take a good look at why. Shaving, waxing, plucking or other “body maintenance” issues are not age dependent. You would never tell your daughter that she couldn’t wear a bra until what ever random year regardless of her breast size. You would be appalled if her teenage breast were flopping around with no support. This is EXACTLY the same thing…she wears a bra when she needs one, she uses pads or tampons when she needs to, and she takes care of body hair issues when it becomes problematic for her…all regardless of age. This isn’t make/up, hair dye, or piercings…
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Just curious why waxing is out of the question? But I would choose threading any way. I would let her.
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In 5 more years, she’ll be grown🤷♀️
If you know it embarrasses her, and you clearly have self conscious issues about the same things…why is this even a question?
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Either you around to supervise or she will do it on her own.
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Let her bring her to a salon to get it done don’t let her shave her lip it’ll come back worse
Waxing is better than plucking and lasts lon ger.
Her body, her choice. Body image is important at that age, hair removal is easy and will make her feel confident.
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My mom starting getting us waxed with our haircuts as teens. I dont see anything wrong with it!
My sister started shaving her brows (and ended up shaving them completely off) because my mom did not support the idea. It is better for you to help her with this than for her to do it on her own!
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I had more facial hair than the boys my age. It was horrible for my self esteem. Allow her to take care of this before it effects her self confidence. I wish my mother had.
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I agree dont shave. But I dont see a problem in fixing it.
Take it off of her as soon and safely as possible! Don’t subject her to daily embarrassment, she is now fully aware of her hair and doesn’t want it, keeping it on her will shoot down her confidence. It’s just hair. Rather you do it than her do it all messed up behind ur back, like I did as a teen.
Don’t have her shave it because it will grow back darker & thicker, take her to a professional & have them wax it. Less upkeep & your daughter can feel good about herself. So many kids are killing themselves because of bullying. You don’t want to find your daughter sad, hurt or depressed & not talking to you.
I wish women would just be ‘allowed’ to have hair… and not be made fun of…
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Well shaving makes it grow longer ( the hair) the cream is better …it’s up to you momma!!! Good luck;)
This day and age… with media, it’s hard to avoid. I would say if your going to allow her to do her eyebrows and lips, she has to learn to do them herself, and only to tame them.
Feeling confident is important, but she still is only 12, and it shouldn’t be anything drastic.
I cannot believe you need to ask.
Please don’t make her suffer. I am a dark haired woman always have been my hair everywhere is BLACK. and there was nothing more mortifying than knowing other people talked about my stash and unibrow at school. It was something that they never stopped talking about either even after I’d been taking care of them for years. Get her one of the electric buzzer sticks from Walmart for the stash and the part between the brows don’t let her use a flat razor it WILL grow in thicker and darker. And show her how to pluck her brows or take her to get them threaded
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Don’t shave, that will make it much worse. Wax or hair removal cream
The time is when she asks. We raise strong women and loving men.
Oh and threading, definitely. Easier on the skin and more accurate.
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First of all, shaving DOES NOT make it come back any different. She and hormones naturally make hair growth change as she grows. I agree that waxing is a better solution than shaving as the waxing will effect the hair follicles and lessen the growth the more you do it. If she starts waxing now, by the time she is an adult she will have little to no hair in her problem areas. Talk to a professional about it.
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Her age does not determine whether or not she’s ready to shave/pluck/wax, her hair growth does. If it’s becoming noticable and it’s bothering her then it is time. I don’t think it’s right to make her wait simply because of her age.
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Waxing is better but shaving will be ok. It’s a myth that it comes back thicker. It does not.
I recommend not shaving, and having her lip and brows professionally waxed. It’s pretty affordable.
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waxing is better than shaving! i went to cosmetology school and it’ll be easier to maintain waxing. with waxing you don’t have to get it done as often as shaving and you never want to shave anything on the face!
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would you want to be embarrassed when you were 12 having that
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Show her, you don’t want her bullied over this xx
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I never had anyone guide me when i was young on anything. I remember just taking my moms razor and using it. I remember just taking the tweezers and tweezing out my stache and eyebrows (my mom is very blonde but i am very dark haired) im not sure she’s even had to do those things? It would have been nice to have someone guide me through it but i was basically too embarrassed to ask. Id say it’s best to be open with your daughter about it. I think youd be causing more harm than good by making her wait (i would have just done it anyway but in secret). What is to be gained by making her wait to wax/tweeze? Also, since i started waxing/tweezing the hair has been lighter and more sparse- wish i would have started sooner! (I shaved my stache a few times when i was younger and it was stubbly but not darker or worse until I realized tweezing was more effective even though it took longer)
Every child matures at different ages mine was ten years old when she started the hair growth needing to shave its technically up to the mother’s i let my daughter showed her all the options an how to use them
Obviously if you’re asking the question you’re not comfortable with it.
I was a girl who was very hairy. I honestly didn’t notice it until some girl teased me. Since that day to the present, I am horribly self conscious. I say, take her to a salon and let her get it threaded or waxed (or do it at home). For a young lady who is already in for a hormone roller coaster and probably surrounded by mean girls, unwanted hair should be the last thing that she has to worry about. In my opinion.
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Show her if girls her age are pointing it out then get it taken care of before the situation gets worse
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Take care of it there is no age limit to a body going through life stuff. Embrace teach and be supportive to her feelings in it
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Not understanding why waxing is out of the question, but what about threading? They will do your entire face if you want. If she is insecure about these things please help her take the steps to remedy it or she will on her own and as a parent I’d much rather be sure my child handles hygiene issues appropriately than letting friends do it which is what will happen.
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If u dont help her or get them done,she is going to end up doing them herself and probably end up missing an eyebrow or atleast half of it
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Get them done. Why would you avoid something so simple that is causing her grief and giving mean girls ammunition to pick on her.
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Could be polysystic ovary syndrome
I was 21 when i first cared about my brows. I still don’t do my lip. Don’t make her self conscious even more.
Let her wax it, if you pluck or shave it’ll be thicker for the rest of her life… if it’s something she’s self conscious about please let her feel more comfortable in her own skin…
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let her get it done. its not gonna hurt anyone or anything. believe me your lucky that’s all she’s asking for. that’s pretty minor compared to what I deal with with my 14 year old. smh.
she’s also obviously upset with it herself or she wouldn’t be wanting to do something about it. let her get it done, tell her she’s beautiful and cherish she’s still innocent cause it hits hard SOON
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Do some good research on waxing and threading in your area. Its better to take her than have her try on her own and ruin her brows. Never shave the eyebrows, the regrowth is a hot mess. Dermaplaning is a different story.
take her to get them done. they don’t have to do anything drastic, they can just clean them up.
I started getting my daughters upper lip waxed when she was 10. My daughter is fair skinned and the hair just made her look like her face was dirty. The unibrow I didn’t notice it but , apparently the kids at school did so, she took it upon her self to fix it. Disaster so, every so often we get it taken care of. For me methods and when we should introduce our kids to this is a personal choice.
Every body is different and changes happen at different ages for different girls, if she is becoming aware (as are others) and it is something concerning to her given her young age a still developing self esteem I would say if it were me I would start teaching her subtle and minimal ways to manage and maintain these things, if plucking or waxing is concerning to you maybe try taking her to get her brows and lip threaded
Who cares what YOU want? Your CHILD is embarrassed and wants to have it taken care of. Teach her how to do it !
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My family is Indian soooo I have hairy everything … At age 12 I had a unibrow and a noticeable mustache. I had it thread regularly to keep it under control.
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My 11 year old wanted her eyebrows threaded i said no she went on and on so she got them done and has never asked to do them again 
Instead of saying let’s do your eyebrows because of these girls you can say let’s spend some mummy daughter time and show her what you do. Girls grow up at different ages we all get our periods at different times. There is no limit. Threading doesnt hurt too much if you get a experienced person to do it. She can decide what’s right for her but I wouldn’t shave my face.
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I would show her how to. That age sucks for girls when other girls start pointing things out. If she is asking and determined she might end up doing it herself. If you are against waxing maybe try treading?
She’s old enough. Get it done
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My daughter is 13 next week and i take her to have her eye brows done my daughter has her eye brows threaded , I recommend if you go down this root to research where is best to take her rather than just go any place . I’d rather know she having them done than her go behind my back plus dont want other school children being horrible
It seems to be an in thing for that age range now
Good luck x
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My daughter started waxing her upper lip when she was 8-9. It was obvious and she felt insecure about it. I even started trimming my oldest daughters eyebrows when she 3 because she had a terrible unibrow.
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I’d go ahead & show her, just a little bit not to pluck too much is So important! But if the kids are already teasing her about it I’d go ahead w/ a slow cautionary start. Show her how Brooke Shields kept hers for so long!
It’s different for everyone. I’d say if she’s embarrassed by it, you should definitely let her. Show her how you do it, so then it’s mom and daughter time, not just “girls are embarrassing you.”
I had three older sisters, so I started shaving my legs at 9 years old and started waxing my eyebrows when I was ten. Not saying that’s how everyone should do it, I’m just saying since everyone has different situations, you shouldn’t base this off of everyone else’s opinions.
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I fully plan on taking my girls to the salon when they get their periods and getting lip and eyebrow waxed and nails done. its part of being a lady!
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I just think if she’s ready for it and bothered by it, that’s normal and that’s her choice. It’s not the same as booty shorts or tattoos. Hygiene and appearance are very personal. Why make her miserable over body hair? Some people just feel conscious of it and some people don’t, even as adults.
My youngest niece who is currently 13 yo, has been getting her brows done for about 3 or 4 yrs now. She in baton & they do competitions, part of which is modeling. My oldest niece, who is a cosmetologist, does hers. She threads them & the 13 yo has never complained.
I think taking her to get her lip and eyebrows waxed is completely fine. Teenagers are BRUTAL at school, why not lesson the load and let her feel more comfortable in her own skin? I would NOT suggest shaving, the hair will grow back like a man’s. Have you heard of “finishing touch”? Google it. It’ll remove hair without shaving or hurting and it isn’t wax–it would be perfect for her upper lip.
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If she is feeling self conscious about it. And wants to shave it because she doesn’t like it, then im all for it. I was that way horrible unibrow by 12 and I got picked on bad for it so I went home and shaved it myself and it ended horribly because I didn’t have my mom to show me how.
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I think I would get it done for her
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Get it done. She is old enough.
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Why is waxing out of the question? Do you shave your face? If she’s asking about it, she’s ready. But I definitely wouldn’t recommend shaving her lip. There are other alternatives to hair removal.
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First book her a drs appointment if she hasn’t started getting her period yet but she’s suddenly getting thick dark facial hair she may have pcos and now is a good ! age to find out so it can be managed accordingly! Once you’ve done all that by all means take her to see a beauty therapist and have a chat about hair removal options! Being so young i don’t think she would be suitable for things like ipl. But you could start a monthly routine of eyebrows, legs armpit and lip waxing. I know you said waxing was out of the question but waxing will soften and reduce the hair growth as she gets older!
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She could have an overactive male hormone it sounds weird but this happened to my mom my mother can literally grow a beard and a mustache
1st, a girls trip to the salon.
Plug in wax warmer/kit would make a great Christmas gift. (Maybe not for her doing her eyebrows, but for the upper lip)
I’d let her get it done now…wax. Not shave
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if she is uncomfortable, then it’s time
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Show her how to take care of it. I’m very thankful my mom didn’t make me “leave it alone” when I was self-conscious about my breasts developing and I wanted to start wearing a training bra or when my legs began getting furry and I wanted to start shaving them.
Would not recommend shaving the upper lip though. There are much better ways of removing that.
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Get it threaded xx nothing wrong with trimming it for her. Girls of all ages should be comfortable in their skin and if she mentioned it go for it xxx
As a chronic mono-brow sufferer I say let her do it. Teach her how to do it so she doesn’t cause herself more embarrassment, whether it be plucking or a salon. My mother didn’t teach me and I had to painfully learn myself. I don’t think there’s a certain age that it’s ‘not appropriate’ because everyone is different. What isn’t appropriate is her not feeling confident in herself over something that can be easily fixed.
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12 isn’t to young of an age. If she notices it now and is feeling self conscious about it, I would bring her to see either someone to thread them or waxing… I wouldn’t shave her lip,it will grow back with even
More next time. It’s better to give her the tools she will need eventually then too keep it from her. It will make her feel more open in the future when it comes to other areas in life as well, she will know she can always rely on you to help with her troubles… ie reaching out for help when she needs you and not keeping things to herself cuz she knows you’ll say no. Show her !!! 
Goodluck
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By all means take care of it.
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Children these days are so mean and Bully so bad if there is anything you can do to keep your child happy and from being bullied or picked on as simple as getting rid of facial hair just do it there are bigger fish to fry later on in teen years…
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I believe if it is noticeable to you and her friend I believe you should help her do on her upper lip I don’t think the eye brows I think 12is young I would cut of the bushy parts but not shape them and waxing is better than shaving but I am from way back where every thing waited till 18 but times change not that you have to agree my beautiful daughter is38 so good luck
As a cosmetologist, i have waxed the eyebrows of girls as young as 8. Over time if you consistently wax, it destroys the hair follicle and the hair will eventually stop growing there. Kids are brutal these days. My 7 year old has asked to shave her legs because of how dark the hair is. I used an electric shaver for her legs because she isn’t mature enough yet to learn razor safety
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