Drives me crazy! Buy what the family knows they need.
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I had one baby shower & that was in 1970, I was VERY grateful everyone brought something for my baby, So with that said, it’s your 4th, damn shame you never saved anything & be very grateful if anyone buys you something 
I have three kids… Only had one baby shower. You save everything for the future. After 3 kids you should have everything you need, and not complain about what people gift you, they didn’t have time get you anything. I was always told that people are just greedy having a baby shower for every child. One should be held for each sex and that’s it. Times are different I understand. But the sense of entitlement is astounding.
Can someone tell me what a registry is 
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I had 5 kids,never had a baby shower,and we managed. It seems more and more people are expecting other people to fulfill their responsibilities for their juices. Not trying to be insulting but if you can’t afford to take care of the baby or get married etc. then maybe you need to wait till you can afford it. In the mean time be great full for what is given.
U had 9 months to gt ur gears for baby… every week something different… its a struggle u have to do.
To get together and celebrate you. It’s not about getting stuff. That’s like saying a birthday party is just about the presents you get 
With 4 kids should have everything you need. It’s not other people’s responsibility to buy everything your baby needs.
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Wth did they get you that you can’t use any of it? 
The registry is more for suggestions in my opinion.
After my first we always just asked for Diapers 
(we had showers for each because every baby deserves to be celebrated, but we didn’t really ask for gifts after my first. I even threw and funded my own showers)
How do you not have anything from your other 3 kids?
You shouldn’t rebuy everything for every baby…
And if you do, you buy it throughout the pregnancy.
You should have enough from you other 3 babies. There should be no need for a 4th baby shower. Honestly don’t have another baby of you can’t afford what that baby needs.
For me, a baby shower was to celebrate my new baby-to-be. The registry should be an option not expected.
People can only get you what they can gift you. Its not their responsibility but yours to make sure the baby you’ve made has what it needs. The baby registry is just to give people an idea of what you may want or need. People aren’t required to buy anything from there.
I understand, I am having my 6th… had a shower for my first girl and first boy… now honestly after having reused everything multiple times a lot did have to be thrown away… so I feel like I’m starting all over again… but honestly it’s just about staying positive, be grateful for what you have and what you do receive bc that’s better than nothing at all. Best wishes and luck to you momma.
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I’ll be honest…A coworker had a baby registry and when I went on to look at what she requested it required me to create a whole account. I was like…she getting diapers and a gift card🤷🏻♀️
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Girl, why didn’t you think about this before 
I never heard of anyone doing a shower or registry for baby #4. I think it’s assumed by this point you have everything you need.
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Baby registry for 4th child???
registry is a WANT list!! If bringing a GIFT to a shower it is something I feel they NEED
4th kid? Buy yourself!!
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Return what you received & buy what you need.
You sound absolutely delusional and unappreciative
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What did you do with all the stuff from the first 3……
Many many rummage sales that have baby things,and most are like new.
Why should people give you anything because YOU DECIDED TO GET PREGNANT? How’s other people’s problem that you can’t afford the babies YOU HAVE? Go ask that baby daddy to comply with his responsibility if you know who that is. Plus, YOU HAD 9 LONG MONTHS to plan and organize yourself, if you can’t do it, well, you may be a mother of 4, but not a very good one
How are you on your 4th kid and have no baby items? No one owes you gifts at all.
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Life is super expensive for everyone right now. Most people likely can’t afford big baby shower gifts.
You’re on your 4th, I thought baby showers and registry’s was a one and done thing
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You can’t depend on anybody. That’s just the way it is now.
I never understood the registry. Especially those who put expensive car seats, swings, monitors etc on there. Like that’s your responsibility… you can leave smaller things, clothes, diapers, wipes etc for people to get.
I had a baby shower with my first two. I only wanted one with my first but my mom did the first so his mom had to do the second…gift wise I just let them bring what they wanted and worked around that getting the rest of what I needed. Big things were always my first purchase bc I knew those would be on me.
I only did a baby registry to get the free samples box.
THIS is why you don’t let people cum in you
I can see why you would feel frustrated about not getting help, children need a lot, but there’s also a great satisfaction in the end when you look back and remember you did it on your own. If your children are close in age you can always have hand-me downs from them or places like thrift store or online yards are sites. They have tons of great resources out that can help you if you’re truly stuck.
Uh you’ve had three kids…… where is your stuff entitled brat
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You’ve had 3 children, you should have everything you need already! I had no registry/shower, I was gifted some outfits AFTER my children were born as a ‘congratulations’ but bought and paid for everything myself. If you can’t afford to have children, don’t!
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You sound like a entitled little brat!!! How about saying thank you for what you actually got??
You had sex you made the baby no one is obligated to get anything!!
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You’re now seeing how classist baby showers can be.
The type of baby shower you’re thinking of requires rich or well off friends and family.
I’d think by kid 4 you’d be scoping out Facebook marketplace for baby necessities at a fraction of the cost. (Assuming that there are large enough age gaps you can’t re-use anything from the previous 3)
Nobody is entitled to anything in life. Good luck.
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You did a shower for your 4th kid 
I wouldn’t worry, people don’t NEED to give you items. And like you said, there’s nothing you really need, so don’t bother making one.
It is not up to others to get you what you need for your baby. That’s your responsibility.
The point of a registry is it SUGGESTS things people can buy. But you could always send out a letter saying “don’t get me anything unless it’s from the registry” and see how well that pans out 
Imagine back in the days there were no registries. You have a baby you pay for its stuff. Nobody owes you
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The point of a gift registry is to provide those buying with an idea of what you need. There is no rule saying that anyone has to buy off of the registry or that anyone has to buy you anything at all.
It’s YOUR child and YOUR responsibility. You should PLAN to buy everything for your child and just be appreciative of what others do buy.
Registry is merely a suggestion or want list, people aren’t actually required to purchase from it. It’s quite an entitled attitude you have.
You’re having a baby registry for a 4th kid?
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Baby showers are typically only for baby #1. Some have “sprinkles” for additional pregnancies. Most people only bring diapers, wipes, and clothes after baby #1
4th kid… what do you need a kitchen remodel?
Why not just save the stuff from baby 1?
Sucks to be you lmfao get over yourself
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Our kiddo is 7 and if we were to have another, I wouldn’t be expecting a shower, I’d be planning on buying it all myself just like I did the first time (as far as the big stuff goes) and be thankful for any other stuff I got. I’d also be checking my local buy nothing group for stuff. No, being on your 4th, you should know what you need and either have it or appreciate what efforts people are putting in.
When I had my 4th, 6 years after the twins, we had given everything away but the crib, as we weren’t planning on having another. I didn’t have a baby shower because, hey!, it’s my 4th baby, and we bought only some clothes and a carseat before he was born. Guess what? It turns out that you actually need VERY LITTLE for a baby. Clothes, diapers, carseat, crib. That’s basically all you need. The older children made him a “baby seat” out of a laundry basket and couch cushions, and he used that for about 3 months. We did end up buying a swing. Just be grateful for what you have.
Registry completion discounts from Amazon and Target. Fourth kid? Quit acting like a kid yourself and provide for your family. It’s not anyone else’s job but yours and the father of your children’s.
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Imagine, Baby showers are a typically American thing. No other country I’ve lived in- and I’ve lived in several in Europe- has heard of baby showers. When I first heard of them I was told baby showers are for first time moms, to feel supported, get advice from others and some presents in the form of ‘essentials’ before baby arrives. So, now it has morphed into a ‘Hey, I’m having a baby. Bring gifts. I want xyz’? For every baby? It sounds very entitled and it sounds as if somebody needs to take responsibility for getting their ducks in a row.
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Well that’s just silly it’s your baby, not everyone else’s. A gift is a gift and should be appreciated if you get Anything at all.
I hv 5 going on 6 kids i didnt have a baby shower after my 3rd bc i had plenty of stuff from previous pregnancies yes i had to buy stuff still but i chose to keep having babies so i felt like that should have been on me
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I mean this as respectfully as possible, this whole post sounds really unappreciative. No one had to get anything for the baby to begin with. If you make the baby, you should be prepared to buy what you need for the baby. Baby showers are about more than expensive gifts, they’re about celebrating a new life. You aren’t entitled to things being bought just because they’re on a registry. Be grateful that people spend their hard earned money on you and your child to begin with, or even bothered to show up to celebrate with you for that matter. I can’t believe anyone even has to explain this, let alone a bunch of strangers on the internet. This attitude and lack of gratitude are going to cost you a lot of people from being a part of your life.
to give people an idea of a gift you’d be grateful to receive if they choose to get you one
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Appreciate all you are given. They are gifts from those who care enough to even throw you a shower for your 4th child. Usually baby showers are for the first baby to help get you started with big ticket items that you can and should reuse. You cannot expect your friends and family to buy everything you NEED. You decided to have a 4th child, not them.
Why after 3 kids do you have nothing that you need for #4?
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Lmfao, this has to be a troll post, no way someone is THIS ungrateful and entitled.
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I guess the only good thing about it is that some Registries give you free samples I’ve never had a BABYSHOWER for any of my pregnancy’s. And a registries is a good way to be organized as you buy things I’m currently expecting and that’s what I’m doing.
Getting stuff for baby is part of being the parent. It’s not anyone else’s job to get you things. Be happy for what people got you.
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I never thought anyone EXPECTED me to get something from the registry. It’s a good thing because I never have. I buy diapers, blankets, spit rags, things I know she will need regardless of the sex of the child. You sound entitled and spoiled.
I don’t understand why Mothers get rid of items after you received everything they need from the 1st time . Especially if you know you are having more babies .
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I’ve never went by the registry as I usually get the same for everyone’s baby. A blanket, some clothes, socks, a clothes basket, bottles, a pack of size 1 diapers (as my children were never able to use newborn), a bottle cleaner and some other little stuff and it all goes into the little laundry basket with a bow. It’s not much but my kids are grown and I’m on a budget 
Maybe be grateful for the things you are getting from others no matter if they are on the registry or not. I mean ot is your baby your responsibility 
I don’t expect anyone to get what I need for my baby except me
I never registered for anything because it’s usually the big expensive things that close family get you, not your friends and coworkers or whoever comes, they usually just get the clothes and smaller fun stuff
As you should get everything yourself. It’s your 4th child. Even if it was your first. I’ve gotten everything for all of my kids. Never expected anyone to do it for me.
Pointless??? Ungrateful much??? Be glad people showed up to celebrate your baby! You had 9 months to prepare… whatcha gonna do for the next 18 years to support BABY # 4 to survive?
Marketplace Goodwill Salvation Army yard sales are ALL good places to start…
Hope u have a healthy delivery 
People probably assume after 3 babies you have everything you sound greedy
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After the second a baby registry is just tacky… with very few exceptions.
You made the kid, you provide for the kid.
Ok I understand this may be the surprise baby after you gave your baby things up when you thought you were done. You know what you need hit the op-shops, & kmart/Walmart style shops and get what you can afford. Shouldn’t be relying on others, I’ve never brought off a register as I was taught it rude to ask for gifts. I wish you blessings on your new addition to your family
It’s your baby, get your own shit
You sound very ungrateful, i have never heard of having a baby shower for each child only the first.
I had one baby shower for my first kid. Never had anything for my other three. Registries weren’t even a big thing back then. So I was pretty much on my own unless someone asked to buy something. There may be agencies in your area that help with baby stuff. I would ask around,in my area there are several that help with diapers,baby food and formula. Some even help with clothes,toys and baby furniture.
Do you tell people about the baby registry? If not they may not know about it. If it’s your fourth they may assume you already have it.
I’m #4 for my mom. The one closest to me is 5 years older. My mom thought she was done. Her friends gave her a baby shower. I don’t know what she got but I got my name from it. They put names in a hat and she pulled out two names. Susan Kay. That’s my name.
Who has a baby shower for the 4th child? Wouldn’t you already have what you need from previous babies? I may be old school, but getting pregnant with your 4th baby is not everyone else’s responsibility to buy you what you want.
Plus, you are extremely ungrateful. The gifts you got should be appreciated. Not mocked. Nobody owes you anything. If you can’t afford to supply your 4th baby, maybe birth control is a better option.
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Personally after the second baby shower I’m just gonna bring a box diapers and a few outfits and maybe some bath towels😂 life is too expensive now rent is increasing and food… gotta look at other ppl pov too
It’s not their responsibility for baby shower guests to get the things YOU need for your child. If you can’t provide for your child, that’s something you should have considered before expanding your family again. Be grateful that people show up for you and got you anything.
This post is kind of in poor taste 
To each their own, but it’s your baby, you are responsible to buy what you need. I know it can be frustrating, but this sounds pretty ungrateful.
Most people are struggling themselves to make ends meet. Don’t be ungrateful
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You’re having a shower for your 4th baby, and you’re complaining about the gifts? Entitled much??
I just had my second and refused a baby shower, I felt that it was my responsibility to get the stuff my baby needed and I had some things left over from my first. I made a registry on Amazon so I could get a discount and bought the things off it myself. Those people that really wanted to get us a gift I told them firstly they didn’t have to but anything they got would be appreciated, and that we would like to get books with a saying from you to baby in them or they could alway grab a case of diapers that way if they didn’t have a lot of money they didn’t feel obligated to buy an expensive present.
just do it yourself and don’t worry about others, literally what I do
Call me crazy but, who tf has a baby shower for the FOURTH baby? I could see needing a car seat and maybe clothes. Didn’t you hold on to anything?
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So have you been receiving gifts that aren’t on the registry? Or nothing at all?
sorry but if i saw this i’d purposely buy you something you don’t need or want lol
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Because most people don’t care if it’s not your first.
My second is about to be 9 months and we got nothing
Baby shower for your fourth? I’d be elated that anyone even bothered to buy me diapers or wipes if I was on my fourth kid. Just curious how you have 3 others and no baby stuff left over, large age gap in between kids or got rid of stuff because you thought you were done maybe?
Personally I bought all of my large purchases myself and I’d buy diapers and wipes to put back every month. I’d appreciate anything people were willing to give at this point and call it a day
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How when it’s your 4th do you have nothing baby showers aren’t meant fir every baby
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1st child gets a baby shower.
2nd child gets what is called a “sprinkle”
3rd & 4th children do not get parties or showers. That’s probably why nobody is buying anything.
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I had one shower for 2 kids. I was grateful to get whatever they bought. Every little thing helps. With kid number 4 you should have essentials saved. Clothes, toys, etc… if you plan on having more than 1 you should be able to supply and support without having to be greedy.
With that entitled attitude, thats probably why you didnt get squat off your registry…guess what…heres a reality check…NO ONE IS REQUIRED TO GIVE YOU A THING!!!
You made the kids…you provide for them. If you are struggling to do so, maybe evaluate your life a little bit.
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I wish I could see her face when she reads all of these comments
Isn’t that kind of like buying wedding gifts for a person who has been married 4 or 5 times?
I ain’t doing it…
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I’m sorry you’re frustrated but this screams entitled to me 
registries are optional
I dont know what a register or that is but if it’s like a baby shower is that an American thing as us Scottish girls don’t have anything like that well not the once I know anyways we just saved up & baught what we needed ourselves month by month & our partners helped
We never did depend on others
Why don’t you sell what you have to get what you need for baby or try Facebook baby sites or that?
My oldest was adopted so no baby shower for her. Likely, I had a lot of generous people who helped me. I had a shower for my next baby. I got everything I needed except a diaper bag(lol). My 3rd one came 5 years later. Luckily again, I saved all of my older child’s stuff. I did have to buy some clothes. I got very lucky. I expected no shower for my youngest.
It’s not common to buy off registries. Baby items are expensive, so people will look for deals or find gently used items. In the nicest way possible, it’s not someone else’s responsibility to buy your baby things. If they got you anything, they did it out of kindness and you should be grateful.
Ungrateful…bet you’re the kind of person who returns gifts to store because you don’t like them…
What makes you think that other people are required to spend their money on your kids?
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