This is disturbing. She’s old enough to be his mother. I personally could NEVER! 10 years ago, he was 8 and she was 27 
I know he’s an “adult” but I wouldn’t go for this. She’s a predator in my opinion because a 37 year old has no business being with an 18 year old. I can only imagine the amount of pressure he’s under being with a woman of that age. I would just talk to my baby and express my concerns to him. A mother’s intuition is ALWAYS right. Don’t let up mama!
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I am 43 & still view 33 year Olds as kiddos.
The generation behind me to help the generation behind them.
This one must of got the memo wrong.
I do not judge. That is for God but immoral seems to be the way of today’s world. Sadly!
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I wouldn’t be to happy about it but I’d get to what her and make an effort for my sons sake as in the long run your relationship with your son is more important. X
I’m 23 and still wouldn’t date an 18 year old. I don’t know what a 37 year old would want with someone THAT young.
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After reading the comments I wasn’t sure I should comment 
I’m 14yrs older then my bf. I met him when he was 19 and I honestly didn’t know how young he was until we started talking outside of work. I was super skeptical at first, yes because of the age difference. However, we’ve been together a little over 3yrs now and we’re both extremely happy. It entirely depends on the two people in the relationship imo. Don’t do what his mom did when she found out about us dating. She refuses to meet me and has the worst opinion of me, yet she’s never met me, let alone knows anything about me. Her refusal to be an adult about the situation has driven a wedge between them unfortunately. Not my doing at all either. The best thing you could do is be supportive and be there for your adult son. Sometimes it’s a phase and other times it’s long term, totally depends on the people involved.
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He is an adult, that is his life. I would stay out of it.
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I would not be happy about that at all! Im 36 and when i go out and see 18yr olds they seem like kids too me
There is nothing you can do, he is 18 and it’s his choice. Frankly in my opinion, it’s none of your business.
An 18 year old is very impressionable. She is 37 and i am sure she thinks she can manipulate him. Everyone is correct. He is 18. Hopefully, it’s just a phase for your son. If my son was 18, i would definitely sit him down and voice my concerns.
Just let it play out. Be there for him, get to know her. It’s probably a little phase, but some people also just don’t care for age differences. My dad is married to a woman that is the exact same age as his father. She’s 20 years older than him and I LOVE her. They’ve been together since I was 12-13.
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Maybe he’s dating someone older because you brought him up right and he views his generation differently … dating the next generation I can imagine is just as hard as dating my generation because all they are after is 1 thing. Let me ask you this… would you view it differently if he was 30 and she was 49?
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They’re both consenting adults. End of dilemma. The whole “ten years ago” argument is pointless because like you said….it was ten years ago.
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You have a right to be concerned …it seems odd a 37 year old is going after a 18 year old …I be wary of making sure he doesn’t get manipulated and taken advantage of …just make sure you give him advise without seeming overbearing…it’s crucial he feels open to vent to you instead of you harping on him …he is 18 but that mean he is knowledgeable bout the world
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I would need to have a conversation with her and say what do you see coming from this relationship? What’s your intentions? And take it from there.
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You have a reason to be concerned. That is quite a disturbing age difference… but there is nothing you can do but just keep an eye on the situation and intervene if you think it’s getting into bad territory.
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Frankly there is one reason they are dating, purely sexual. Just make sure he knows to use a condom every time. That is all you can do.
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Nothing. He’s a consenting adult
Unfortunately as parents we watch what we believe to be their mistakes. You can only let him know your feelings
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That up to him and her age is nothing
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Regardless of how you feel, he is an adult and needs to be allowed to make his own decisions. Would I absolutely hate this as a parent? Yes. But I also have to realize that I literally do not have any control over the situation and that any meddling would only drive her deeper into his life. Do you want him leaving to stay with her? Because he can and will do that if you push him too much. We are parents and we love our children, but at the end of the day we have to believe and trust them to make their own decisions as adults. All we can do is be there if something falls through and help them after this point. My question is what could you possibly do? Tell him no, you can’t? So he leaves your house and doesn’t speak to you. You tell him you don’t like her because of her age. They fall in love and never talk to you again, don’t invite you to the wedding, etc. It’s not going to work out in your favor because he is an adult.
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Try… minding your own business? He is 18 and entitled to do what he wants. Most older women are more mature than women in their 20s and should know better than to lead someone on to hurt them… women in the 20s are more likely to sl*t out of him. I’d say trust your son to make his choices, if he gets hurt, he will learn from it and he will grow. But if you criticize your child’s every move especially when he’s an adult… he’s not gonna know to make dependable decisions on his own.
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She’s having her middle crisis and the lads being used and loving it. That’s life!
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I have a daughter. 18 years old, may 25th, 19. And I’d freak. That’s my little girl. And I wouldn’t allow it. I’d use any powers that be. I’m not into creepy ppl or their bs. There’s something wrong with that woman. I’m sorry. It’s gross
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Nothing you can do but that much older something is wrong with her period.
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I am 37 and view 18 yr Olds as children. I mean, my oldest child is 16. I can’t imagine dating someone that is basically my child’s age. You have lived double the life time of that child. That’s odd to me
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He probably makes her feel young and alive…
If he’s happy I’d leave them be…
I know of a couple just got married he is 23 and she is like 60ish…
But if they make each other happy that is what matters most!
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This spells red flags big big age difference there
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If you fuss. You will push him away. He has mommy issues. Don’t escalate it
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I am 10 years older than my husband & we have been married for 27 years we have a daughter together & he is the step Father of my oldest daughter from a my 1st husband
If the genders were reversed i feel like more people would be horrified. Yes they are both consenting adults, but 18 and 37 is a huge experience gap and whether its obvious or not that put her in a position of authority in their relationship. Support your son and make sure he stays safe
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My brother started dating a 43 year old when he was 18. They’ve been together 8 years now.
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I’m 37 & my son is 18 so this is a little weird for me, however if they love one another then leave it be
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He’s a young buck and she’s a cougar.
It may not sit right with you, but just wait it out.
You don’t want to push him away.
Have him invite her over for dinner, get to know her.
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mind your own business
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I would watch and have a talk with him about money. Making sure he is paying his bills. Putting a little in savings for a emergency. Making sure he understands using a condom if having sex. He can always come to you with concerns.
Girrrrrll lemme at that heifer! You need my help running her old azzzz off?! Holla at me if you need some help! Lol! 
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Stay out of it coming from a mom who made the mistake of telling my son what he should do 5 years ago…My son was in the Marines Corps met some gal online 3 months later he married her and now he has a EX WIFE (I tried warning him about her and didn’t work)… He’s an adult let him make mistakes and all you can do is be there for him whenever something happens
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He’s 18. He’s legal. Back off and let him live his life. Whatever happens, it’s a life lesson he’ll benefit from. He’s 18.
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He is 18 and can legally consent. However, I’m more concerned about her having children that are closer to the age of him or siblings.
I’m 31 and when I look at 18 year olds…they are BABIES to me. Even when I was 18…other 18 year olds were not what I wanted.
She is double his age, and that’s…odd for her.
There isn’t much you can do but “ki*L her with kindness” and hope it ends so that your son can experience life with someone closer in age.
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Take him out for a coffee or something he likes and just chat but LISTEN to him. U may be able to understand and then share ur concern
But u do need to speak w him. I agree also with- Maybe tell him to invite her over?
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Sugar mama ?? It’s pretty popular lol
Have you met her? Invite her for supper. Put her in the spot and ask her what her intentions are.
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My son married at 18, she was the local 40 something truckers waitress. Didn’t last, but there was nothing I could do. I did not let them live with me, this made them have to deal with their own issues and problems. Sometimes you have to just let them make their own decisions and learn.
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Be confident in how you raised him! Now let him fly… 
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Egg shells aren’t even off his butt and he wants and old chicken?
I am 13 yrs older than my bf he’s 25 and I am 38
He is of age, let it go. And remember the old saying “Older women make better lovers”… Well there ya go!! He has to learn on his own, cut those apron strings Mama, he is a big boy now…
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He’s legally an adult, so fuck all you can do about it really, be there for him and support him. I know it seems a bit, odd, but you gotta let him live and make his own. 
Had an acquaintance that had an affair with her son’s best friend who was 17, while they were in high school. She divorced and married him. She was in her 40’s. When he was 29 he divorced her because he wanted children, and she was too old to be a mother. He did set her up in a fully paid home because he was a nice guy with a good career, then moved on to find the mother of his children, a new wife.
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I know someone who was quite younger than his mate. He was very young and she was the much much older but they worked she boosted him to reach his potential. With her he started his own successful business and ventures/ creations. Sadly she passed away and it crushed him he truly loved her and she loved him. Now he is still running his business and is doing well even tho it’s noticeable that he misses his wife. But as I see it he is young and will hopefully find someone else as time goes on. You never know, his parents were confused by their situation with her being older but they took time to see them together and get to know her and they realized that it’s a true healthy relationship. Just try to be open minded and get to know her and see them together. you never know!
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Tell him to make sure to use a condom no matter what she says!
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That is not right in my opinion that this lady is trying to have a relationship with a child (I know she said 18) he isn’t old enough to drink or do Adult stuff Until he’s 21 I wonder what she is after
That’s strange to me in MY OPINION
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So creepy!
That’s the same age as me & my daughter.
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Let it go. He’s of age now and can make his own decisions. If it’s going to be bad experience, then this is how he is going to learn & then maybe make a better decision next time. Or who knows, this could be his wife one day 
let it ride…
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No one can control the heart or love.And no one knows the future.Either way if it’s meant to be or not.As the old saying goes blessing or learned lesson.
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Maybe try to get to know her first?
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There is nothing you can do but tell him your concerns but I fear if you do he will stray away from you. Screams cougar to me. Tread lightly. You don’t want to lose your child. I talk to my sons about healthy relationships all the time so I wouldn’t hesitate to talk to them about this, so super depends on your relationship with him.
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Anyone trying to date someone young enough to be their child is gross and creepy. Period.
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Tread lightly, he is still getting too know himself, and be there for him (I know you will).
He’s 18 of course you can talk to him about this. Does she have children if so it’s also important to think about them. Ask the usual questions what do you like about her?
Was she flirting with you or were just really attracted to her? When you asked her out what was her initial response? Or… did she ask you out?
If she has children there’s a whole more to discuss like their ages , does she get child support, is she financially secure. Kids get attached to the men moms date if they are together often and for a period of time. Maybe this will be a short term thing like well that was an experience!
We know now that the frontal lobe of the brain is not fully matured until around age 21. This of course
is our ability to reason center the ability to sort out complex issues and the what ifs that require thinking ahead and risk taking. If this relationship becomes intimate what if she gets pregnant etc etc. Prayers that the Almighty is already working on it! Keep us posted. Prayers
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IMO a woman who’s 37 should have no romantic interest in an 18 year old!!! Obviously he’s old enough to make his own decisions but I would definitely voice my concerns.
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That’s so creepy! What could a 37 year old have in common with someone who’s either still in high school or fresh out… just because he’s of age doesn’t mean it isn’t incredibly creepy for an almost 40 year old to be with someone who just became the legal age.
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You can’t dictate his heart. He is 18. Maybe just let him do him.
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If both are over 30, I feel like any age difference is not a big deal. But if either party is under 30, it’s case by case. And i would definitwly be concerned as well. I could never be attracted to someone closer to my children’s age than mine. It’s especially gross to me when the young person is 18. The idea that there’s some arbitrary line in the sand when someone becomes “legal” is just icky to me. People waiting for someone to become 18 so they can legally be attracted to them. But hopefully this is just a one time thing for this woman, not a trend, and everything will end up okay. You seem like a good mom. 
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Give her a chance first
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I’d hire a private investigator and do a background check. Invite them over for dinner and grab a strand of hair when u hug her. Then keep the glass she drinks from and have the finger prints tested!!!
I’m a bit extreme; so if u don’t like the idea you’re more than welcome to just let him go about his marry way and see how this goes:rofl:. Sadly there’s nothing u can really do, but u can always bring things to his attention. It’s up to him whether he accepts the information 
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Could be all about sex. Men her age may be boring for her and girls his age aren’t experienced enough. I guess, considering he’s legally an adult. You just have to sit back and let him figure out his life now.
If it ends up going bad he will learn and you will be there for him. I know it hard letting kids be adults. We raise and guide them for this though. You have to trust you gave them the tools to make the good decisions, but keep in mind we don’t always make good decisions ourselves, but we do learn from them. He will do the same.
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I’m a firm believer in age being just a number but what can a 37 year old possibly have in common with an 18 year old. I would proceed with caution though. When I was 18, my parents telling me not to do something made me want to do it that much more. He’s an adult now. Just be there for him.
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From my perspective I had my oldest when I was 19. When my son is 18 I will be 37… that to me is gross and she either has a delayed mindset/maturity level or is predatory
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All guys go through it. They like the stability and maturity of a woman older. And when its all said and done, she will teach him alot about life. My son married a women 15 years older. Best thing that ever happened to him. Hell be fine
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He has to learn the hard way. Been there, done that
So have her over for dinner and find out her intentions like you would any other female. It might just be a fling and about sex, she might be a sugar momma, or she might have genuine interest. Find out of she has kids, if she still intends to have kids, where she lives, who she lives with, her financial responsibility, etc. Then at least you’ll know what to caution your son about. Right now you do have a pebbles with the age distance, even though you said you didn’t. When I was with someone 22 years younger it was just about sex and companionship. We both New it wasn’t a relationship. We were just passing time and sharing advice.
God bless you. She’d be picking her teeth up off the ground if it was my son.
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Dont interfere if its right or not it will sort itself out He will not be happy if you do if you want to keep your relationship with him take a step back and be there for him
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He’s 18 and going to have many experiences if they fail or don’t work that’s a learning experience for him. All you can do is be there when when he needs or wants your advise. I once was and dated a man in his 40’s. I learn a valuable lesson. Good luck 
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No disrespect intended, but this relationship, at it’s core, must be basically about sex. He is a young guy who I’m sure can “perform” as often as she likes. She is a cougar with enough experience to “turn him out.” I’m sure he is thinking that he’s hit the sexual jackpot with all the things she knows and is probably happy to introduce him to. I think his mom is right to not harass him about it. The bigger deal she makes of it, the harder he is gonna try to hang onto that woman. I just hope he doesn’t get burned in the course of this relationship. And for heaven’s sake, he absolutely must use condoms!!! No need to complicate things with a baby or an STD!!!
I would try to talk to him about it from a woman’s perspective, a partners perspective and not as the mother.
You were 37 at one time, you know how women work. I would just try to tell him the facts of how things usually go with older women, and you can even show him how he’s been taken advantage of before so how it would be easy to do it again. Talk to him about things to look out for that would be red flags and tell him you do not want to break them up you just want him to be played! By this 37 year old or any other woman. And tell him you are an open door to talk to if he is unsure about something/receiving mixed signals/etc.
As I first began to read this I thought there’s nothing you can do, BUT wow, 37??? I’d be afraid too! Good luck.
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Say something now or she will tie him down for the next eighteen years for child support. Can he afford that?
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I am almost 37 and my DAUGHTER is 18. I would have a huge problem with this. However if you dont push maybe things will fall how you want them to but it you push then you may be pushing him closer to him. Thats a hard one. I had an issue with my daughter talking to a 24 year old.
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Sounds like a possible grooming situation
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What would she be using him for?!? At that age, what does he have?!?
There might be issues in the future…her possibly being secure in a career & him going to college?? Kids? No kids? Money. Etc.
Or maybe they will live happily ever after.
Just chill out & take it one day at a time.
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He’s 18 let him figure life out. You can’t hold his hand forever. I would only interfere if he’s being abused or visa versa. Mental or physical. Other wise he’s gotta figure life out.
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Get to know the woman involved, before deciding
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Is he living at home?
Invite her over for Dinner - get to know her.
Sorry, I smell a rat -
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I would never be comfortable with my 18 year old (boy or girl) dating a 37 year old. That’s predatory behavior. What in the hell would a grown person want with a teenager?? That’s not cool at all.
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I guess it really depends. Because this can go one of two ways…
Scenario one, this lady has been grooming him to believe she is the one for him.
Scenario two, it’s completely harmless. I’m in an age gap relationship…I’m 24 and he’s 44, and we’ve been together for 4 almost 5 years now And have two children together.
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Um not shit cuz he’s 18:woman_shrugging:
My daughter is 19 and I’m 36. My son is 17
Im Whooping ass if they’re saying somebody that much older.
He is 18. There is nothing for you to do.
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I hate to say it but your son is an adult and who He dates is his buisness. He has to be allowed to live his life and learn his lessons. No one want to see their kids get hurt but that is how they grow. That said if she abuses him any ways all bets are off, then you protect him.
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Hell no lol I’d report that shit
That is not a “girl”, that is a grown woman.
I’d be very concerned what she wants with an 18 year old.
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Nite hope you have a great day
It happens. Saying anything against her may alienate him. Don’t push it. He will live his own life. She must be decent or he wouldn’t be with her.
You do nothing but mind your business.
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Sugar mama JK
At least he’s in a relationship with one person instead of going out and sowing his wild oats 
You can’t choose who he loves, who you want for him. Trust me, my mom has tried with me and both of my siblings
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