I would let it run it’s course. Big life lessons to learn here
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There’s nothing to do really.You may not like it but telling him that may just push him away.And he is of age he can date whoever he wants really.
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I’ve learned the more you tell you’re child not to do something the more they wanna do it. So just be there for him. Be supportive. He will discover whether or not she is there for the right reasons and he will have to make his own choices about the situation. He is technically an adult now if he’s 18 so there’s really nothing you can do but be his mother. I hope it all works out for him and for you
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That would concern me as well,but at 18 it is time for him to start making his own decisions and (possible) mistakes.
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I’d be concerned too. Keep a good eye on this Mamma Bear…I would.
Wth? I am 36 with an 18 yr old son. No, just no. What could someone of that age have in common with an 18 yr old?! But sadly there is nothing u can do since he is an adult.
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Unfortunately he’s an adult and it’s time he’s gonna make his choices and mistakes. All you can do is say your concerns as concerns not as a demand he find a younger girlfriend. And be there as he makes his choices.
I dated a guy that was 20 when I was 15.Then I now married to the person I started dating at 18 was 24.I have been married for 13 years.Sometimes it’s best to see if that’s what they really want if not they will figure it out
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He’s grown now and ready to live his life! You offer him guidance and support but other than that there isn’t anything you can do.
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age is just a number get to know her give her a chance
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my first husband I was 16 when we started dating he’s 11 years older than me. Ended it after 10 years of abuse and him drinking to much. Now the man I have been with for 17 years does drink but doesn’t fight and cause problems when he does drink he’s 7 years older.
The only way you will know her heart is to get to know HER. Personally, I am not a fan of that big of an age difference for people under the age of like fifty or so, just because of life experience, but it does not mean I am judgemental or overall critical of it either. I grew up knowing a lady who married a widower who was 35 years her senior and she stayed with him until he died of Alzheimer’s in my teen years and apparently, he died in her arms. (He was able to stay at home for a very long time, if not clear up until his death, because she was an RN). And then one of my aunts in her early twenties married a single dad that is between fourteen and sixteen year older than her and is an amazing guy and treats her like a queen. Like they got engaged, but he REFUSED to get married until he had their house built from the ground up- nice house, too- completed, he stayed by her side every moment that she had cervical cancer, even when she had to get a hysterectomy from it and they are still very much happy and together and have been together since my early teens and have a son together. I point these two couples I have known out because I know the concerns, I know I would have them too, but I also have known couples who have a drastic age difference who adore each other and are true soul mates.
So in my own experience, the only way TO know if they are good together is to get to know the other person and get to know them well.
She could be using him.
At the same time, she could also genuinely love and care about him.
The only way to know for sure is to get to know her.
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I be down there with my mates and a base ball bat 
and his siblings be giving him the 3rd degree
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This very nonce behaviour on the women behalf I wouldn’t be happy xx
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You do nothing your son is 18 he can date whoever he likes. He will have to learn on his on. This female that he is dating could be the one for him. Leave it alone
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He’s 18. An adult. Mind your own buisness!
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He is 18 there is nothing you can do. You’ll just have to suck it up and let him make his own decisions he is an adult now.
I’d be fuckin pissed if a grown ass woman puttin her cougar on my 18 year old to me it’s a red flag 
why aren’t you with or interested in men your age are you targeting my son are you using him I’d have so many questions I have an 18 year old also and I’d be so far up in their business it wouldn’t be funny
There isn’t really anything you can do
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She’s a predator.
There’s no way around this lmao
If the roles were reversed there would be a lot more opinions and they should absolutely be the same here because he JUST turned 18. He is still a child.
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Throw a cook out/party and invite the “happy couple” as well as kids he went to school with and grew up with, see how they/she acts around a bunch of others and couples that are his age.
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Momma your going to have to trust his judgment. You taught him , gave him the tools ( unconditional love,understanding, responsibility, accountability and loyalty) to go out in life. All you can do now is be his friend- you’ll always be Momma - his first love. He will seek out someone like you. 
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Is it his boss? No? Then as long as they treat each other with respect and care it’s not anyone else’s business.
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Omg I’m 37 and that is kinda gross in my opinion. I see these 18 year old out here and they look like babies and act like children. So what she would find in common with an 18 year old boy is beyond me.
Honestly I was 16 dating a 23 year old and moved in with him. My parents didn’t push because the more they did I’d most definitely rebel. Just be supportive and hopefully this fizzles out on it’s own.
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When my son was 19 and with a 39 year old, MY mom said do NOT make a big deal about it…which was hard…but he dumped her when he said she started telling him what to do…acting like his mom!! The trash took its self out!!
He’s 18. There’s nothing you can do.
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He’s an adult now so there’s nothing you can do about it. Don’t say anything to him about it because you will push him away.
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Best to let it run its course. It may be true love. If you put a stop to it (nd you shouldn’t) he will imagine he missed true love. Plus you risk uniting them with a common enemy YOU. Welcome her. Voice your concerns and let him live his own truth and experiences.
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Uhm I would have a sit down with her and ask her what she sees in him and where does she think this will go? He literally is still a teen and a child in his mothers eyes. So what is this woman getting out of dating a child?
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How disgusting, I’m 37 and my son is 20. I couldn’t imagine dating someone anywhere near his age yet alone younger. It’s very concerning.
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I dated a woman 7 yrs older than me lwas 23 she was 30 now 40 yrs later and 4 children we are still happily married.
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As a 31yr old woman, there is no way at my age that I would even turn an actual eye towards an 18 year old, especially a work colleague. I may appreciate a handsome younger man, but there is no way I would get involved with one romantically.
Someone that woman’s age should know that workplace dating itself is a terrible idea alone, and honestly with that age difference she’s old enough to technically be his mother which is creepy.
Don’t let your disdain to her get in the way of your relationship with your own son. Let him go through his phase, and be ready to step in if necessary. You can be civil with the woman without needing to be friendly, and support your son as his mother. We don’t have to agree with our kids decisions to support them, but we do have to respect them and sometimes bite our tongues. Being told something is a bad idea rarely ever works as well as experiencing it. This is an experience he has chosen to go through, for better or worse. I feel your anxiety about it, and I wish you the best.
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He’s 18. Be there to support him but he needs to do this himself. Just be there if he needs you. But theres nothing you can/should do. It’s his life
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Don’t get involved
He will go away from you
Age ain’t a thing
Plus you don’t know if it will work out with them
Alot of people break up since the other one isn’t old enough to drink
My boyfriend and I are 12 apart
I was 21 when we got together 33
8 years later amazing relationship with 3 kids
Things will work out on there own
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Get to know her before passing judgement. I know your natural instinct is to protect your child but he is an adult now and there’s nothing you can do about it. If you wind up not liking her, you run the risk of pushing him away.
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I’m 37 with a 19 and 18 year old and I wouldn’t be okay with it either. I’ve been talking to my kids about this already. How disgusting is she to date a young kid when she can have a child his age.
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He,s 18 a grown man ,let him make his own descions ,She may be a wonderful person ,give her a chance .He,s old enough to make his own mistakes and good things in life
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I think if he was 25 and she was that much older it would be easier to swallow…
I have no advice other then to just keep an eye on things…
Do you have an open enough relationship with him go speak to him about your concerns??
Love is blind and age is only a number but he literally JUST became an adult…
Best of luck Mama
Xo
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Nothing you can do. He’s an adult. You can try to get to know them and be there if it fails
You should never date anyone within your workplace …. You don’t shit where you eat.
Keep an eye out for her.
I’m 33 with a 15 year old… so I’ll be 36 with an 18 year old and I sure as heck will not be ok with it. My son and I have a very open communication relationship and I would straight up tell him it’s not for you. Maybe just start a convo asking about his relationship and ask, is this someone you are just having a fling with or do you see a future here. If he says future, just say there are challenges with it, can I give you my advice ? Hopefully he listens and hears you out. I hope it’s just a fling.
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Some young girl will pull him away she just has to show up and it will go up and the experience will be over that is is if her plan is not to have a baby
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Why the fuck are yall saying this shit is okay? She’s a grown ass woman dating a child ? If it were a 37 year old man dating an 18 year old would yall be saying the same shit? She’s disgusting and anyone okay with a almost 40 year old dating an 18 yr old is sick in the head that’s predatory as fuck
U gottta let him live and learm mama i know its hard but like u said its his life. Support him he young nd needs ur guidance still.,
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At around 15/16 he started becoming a man your role as a mom is changing a bit be there for guidance and ensuring he is responsible.
Tell him just what you said here and leave it at that. Make sure he has older Male role models he feels good with going to for advice.
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Anyone who is 37 and wants to date someone who just turned 18 is mind boggling. But he is technically an adult so there is really not much you can do, don’t push him away because that will just push him straight into her arms. More than likely it will not last because he is so young
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So sorry, I would imagine you are very worried. First of all, she is not a “girl”… she’s 37 – middle aged and old enough to be your son’s mother - not to mention know better… He is very young and just starting out in life whereas she has many miles already travelled in comparison… so I kind of question her motives. Not much though that you can do about it with him of age but pray that the flame flickers and one or both of them will move on. This could be just a young man’s or a middle aged woman’s fling - definition: noun - a short period of enjoyment or wild behavior… Best of Luck, Mom. <3
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1 none of your business. He’s an adult. 2 May make him mature up a little more 3 still none of our business. If it meant to be it’s meant to be. Just my opinions. Much love to all
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She not a girl. She’s a 37 year old woman! No…no…no…
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Nothing. He is an adult. He can make his own decisions and he will learn from the decisions he makes. You have to let them go, have to trust that you taught them well enough to learn and grow on their own
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This is a tough one. I’d just be there for him and try to get to know her. I personally would find it extremely hard to date an 18 year old. I hope her intentions are good. Best of luck mom this would be hard on anyone.
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Oh he’ll nawl… I’ve be livid at her and she would DEFINITELY know …ON OAN he’s grown nw and when they become that age they think nobody can tell them nothing…just sit back and let him live his life without him of course self destructing it…they have to live and learn…just make sure you’re doing your part as a mother by letting him know the real…not letting that older woman take advantage of him…manipulate or try to control him…bc in most cases like this one whether it’s a older man with young girl or vice versa that’s always the case
Lol you say you have no problem with age difference but yet your here fuzzing about the age. .lol
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It’s a faze! Not sure what a 37 year old woman has in common with an 18 year old anyways. Hopefully it’s just a fast fling. She’s to old for him
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That’s disgusting. She’s a predator. I’m sorry you’re having to deal with this. Just be there for him, you make that grown ass women know you’ll never leave your baby alone just because he’s 18. He’s your son. Stand by his side. Goodluck mama
He’s 18… not much you can do.
I’d be upset for sure. 
I would talk him out of it (if it were my Son).
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No offense I’m 32 and would have nothing to do with a 18 year old. There’s something wrong with her. It’s not the age gap for me, it’s the ages 18 is borderline a child still.
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You don’t have to explain yourself to anyone on the group!
He is 18, she is 37, it’s wrong, full stop! That woman is suppose to know better!
No parent would want their son dating an older women being so young. I don’t care what other parents say, he is still a child no matter what the law says END!!!
People are entitled to their opinions, but do not have to dictate to you that you’re being a bad mom for wanting the best for your son.
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If he’s 18 you cant really do anything but maybe subtly guide him in making good choices and support him
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That’s me and my sons ages practically. 
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I met my boyfriend when he was 24 and I was 35, that was 6yrs ago now and we today are still together and happy.
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He is 18 so is really none of your business unless she is treating him bad, plus age really don’t matter anymore , even tho I would say 18 is a little young and and unmature so I really couldn’t do it, but just becareful because you could push him away
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Oh come on now…it’s not gonna last…just let it play itself out
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Maybe a male family figure could talk to him?
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you have to step back and let him make his own mistakes. hes 18 and a man. I know only to well how hard it is but just be there to pick up pieces if its necessary but you cannot live his life for him
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Let it play out time will go one way or other cause if babies are wanted age makes a differance
When I was 18 I was dating a 19 yr old. He cheated on me and left me for my friends mom because she would buy his drugs and liquor for him.
I’m a look at it if it was my situation , son you’re being used and groomed 
I’m a just say this on here and nothing more because I don’t want to be in fb jail for my vacation 
Unfortunately, hes technically an adult so it’s legal… But if this were an 18yro lady dating a 37yro man, it would be seen as bad. Like, predator sh*t. Which it is, imo.
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He’s getting that good kitty congratulate him
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This gives me hope if my husband and I ever split I can snag a strapping young man! I kid I kid!!! Eventually the age gap will takes its toll. Don’t try and press for them to break up because it’ll backfire
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I just turned 38 and personally I couldn’t see myself doing that.
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Who are we to judge,he likes what he likes…
Do Nothing !! He is of age now his choice…he must learn on his own whether it works out or not.
He’s an adult, who he dates is his business not yours.
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I’m so confused at these comments. I’m the only one who thinks this is absolutely disgusting?? Like, if he was 17 and she was 36 everyone would be outraged but because he’s legally an adult y’all think this is okay??
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Its not really your business, hes grown now. Hopefully she’s a great woman and they ll do well. It’s unlikely they ll be together for ever just due to him being so young.
Just remember if you’ve taught him his worth no one will treat him badly in relationships xx
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Don’t let your uncertainty show and do your best to keep the line of communication open so he feels he can come to you if something goes wrong
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I could personally never date someone so young at that age but if they like each other than so be it, he’s 18, he’ll learn about heartbreak whether she’s 18 or 38 if her intentions aren’t pure.
Gotta let him make his own decisions and learn from them. I know, as a mother, we want to save our kids from that but there isn’t much you can do, really.
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She’s a predator lbr y’all if that ages were flipped you would be uncomfortable
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Don’t be so quick to judge everyone
Look at Goldie Shawn and Kurt Russell!!!
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That’s not an age difference. That’s an age GAP though. That’s a lot. I would maybe express my personal concerns and let it play out on its own.
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Well he maybe legal but he is not grown. Just talk to him about your concerns and keep the conversation door open.
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When I was 25 I dated a guy who was 45 and he looked older than his age. Every time we went out people would look at us. His friends treated me like a child because in their opinion I wasn’t “worldly” enough. He did not get along with my friends either and there was the whole he wants to stay home and I want to go out. The age difference eventually caught up with us. Not to mention my parents were not one bit happy and they showed it.
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It may be legal but it is concerning. What does she want with a kid? But u can’t put it down cause cud push him away. Hopefully he knows what he is doing
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You should high five him and say good job slaying that cougar pussy, son. Then buy him some Legos.
I would be sick on the inside but nothing you can do because he is 18. Since most women mature much faster than men my opinion and attack if ya like something isn’t right in the head with her. When I was 37 an 18 year old was a boy to me and as a woman I didn’t mess with boys.
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Let him make his own decisions… me and my husband have a 20 yr split between us… we’ve been together for 15 years… have 2 kids together… age is just a number
<3 Take time to get to know her.
Invite her over to be social, not to grill her on the condition of her soul 
But just to be social and help them both feel comfortable in his home. (Assuming he’s stlll living at home.)
As a parent, it is sometimes difficult to transition between being so responsible for everything about a child’s life; and realizing, internally accepting, they really are ADULT ! I am not saying you have that problem, just acknowledging the possibility for you to consider, if you haven’t, yet.
Instead of thinking of your son’s age, consider his personal, emotional maturity. I’ve known 16 yr olds more prepared for marriage than many 24 or 32 yr olds I’ve known.
It’s all about who they BOTH are!
I know, you just said girlfriend, not marriage, but the same principles would apply for a healthy relationship.
I understand the concern, and I’d try to be very aware, also. But theoretically, there might be less need to fear. Often, you can get to know a person better at work than any other place.
Working with someone can often give you more time with them, see how they interact with other people, how they treat them as well as what they think about it. Ie People can be all fake nice to someone they think they have to be, and then turn around and mock, ridicule, and insult.
So much more Real Life at work (not always, but much of the time) than going on dates where you are at a restaurant or a movie. That often doesn’t acquaint you with a person if you did that for a year, as well as working with someone for a month.
It all depends on what the older woman is like, whether she is a vulture or not. But if she’s not self-obsessed and she has an appreciative nature, I’d say your son has half a chance at being happy with someone who wants to share a mutually beneficial partnership.
It’s not the age, it’s who and what they are inside, and if they are truly important to each other, not just in a co-dependency to alleviate loneliness.
I wish you all the best of Blessings!
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Tell him to ALWAYS use protection and have a blast, that’s probably all she’s in it for anyway.
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When I was 19 I dated a 36 year old man. I was naïve and thought I was in love turned out he was married the whole time. Are you sure she isn’t married? If not I would just let it play out and just keep a side eye on her. Good luck! 
I’m now 30 and my husband is 39. I’d be concerned but also open about it. Meet her and make sure her intentions are good.
She knows what her intentions are, maybe not him yet… I’d be sitting her down right in front of you and look her dead in the eyes and ask her straight up…wtf. Don’t settle for "oh it just happened "hopefully he’s just exploring and puts her back out to pasture. We don’t raise our boys so these old boilers come along to collect their toy boy… If it was reversed hubby would be kicking the dirty old man’s butt…
How else will kids learn if they don’t live? You can say what you want, you’re just gonna push him away
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Hate to say this, but considering he’s 18 and legally an adult, there really isn’t much you can do but voice your concerns
Yes age don’t matter but really she is way to old for her,I would have talked to her and some sense to her little brain… you are a good mother
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Ewww!! I could never lol that’s just too weird! 18 year olds are way too mentally and physically immature
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Address your concerns with it let him know you’re there for him and leave it alone 
otherwise you’ll push him away
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