Help! My baby daddy that has never met my 6 yr old boy, now wants a relationship with him. I somewhat have that issue resolved, in due time. I’d never keep either of my kids from their dad. Anyway, he text me today wanting my sons social security # & a picture of his birth certificate. I called DSS since they handle our child support case, I called them to see what I needed to do. DSS told me I didn’t have to give them a copy of anything & that insurance was taken care of already & would be effective 03/01. Yet, he’s still pushing for me to give him his information, why?
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. What should I do?
It’s still tax season.
Did you ask him why he needs that info?
My first guess is he wants to file his taxes and use him as a dependent.
Probably because it’s tax season. He can get that information himself if he really needed it. I wouldn’t give it to him.
He can get those on his own.
He’s going to carry him on his income tax so don’t do it
My ex wanted my son’s the one time I told him he can go get his own copy and you don’t need to give his ss number to him. If he wants it he can go get his own. If he has insurance he shouldn’t need it. I just played dumb with my ex said I couldn’t find them.
He wants to use him as a dependent on taxes. Which is tax fraud since he doesn’t have custody of him.
He’s probably trying to calm him dont do it
Tax season. Sounds like that’s also why he’s just now coming around of all times. Tryna weezle in and play you dumb to claim kid on taxes.
Pretty sure he’s trying to claim him for taxes, don’t do it.
Bc he wants to claim him on taxes. Don’t do it. He hasn’t been around and has literally no other reason to want that info. Hell no girl.
Sounds as if he’s trying to file taxes especially wanting his SSN.
Tax season. He doesn’t need that information. He hasn’t been involved for 6years. Technically he’s forfeited his parental rights and you could have stripped his rights. If he really wants to be involved than tell him he doesn’t need that information since you already have insurance and provide everything for the child, he won’t care. Text all of this and get him to text hos response. If he really wants to be in the child’s life he’ll drop it. But if it’s for other reasons like taxes or to try and get something out of the situation he’ll be consistent, demanding, and possibly even threatening (depending on type of male).
Sounds like he wants to maybe claim said child on taxes? Idk just a thought
Don’t give him any information. It’s not your responsibility and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
Taxes!!! Don’t do it!! Yes, he’d get a slap on the hand and have to pay it back, but it would take you forever to get your tax money back.
Even if it’s not for taxes, he doesn’t need those things.
I wouldn’t do it. But… if we was trying to open a savings account for the child he would need that info. I would ask him why he needs it, and then inform him he can get it himself if he needs it
Do you really think he wants a relationship after six years all a sudden ? No offense but definitely for tax reasons. I wouldn’t trust it
Tell him to go jump"
Hello no don’t give him shit !
Trying to file taxes there’s literally no other reason he needs that info
To claim him on taxes
He wants it for TAXES don’t fuckin give into that shit
If he were involved all along he would know these things! I wouldn’t tell him anything!
He tryin to claim income tax.dont do it
It’s tax season. Be careful I would not give it to him. He’s trying to claim him on his taxes.
No he’s up to something fishy imo. I’ve been through this before, her bio dad was never in her life then all of a sudden wanted her info. Tried to claim her on taxes one year.
someone wants to claim a dependent…… don’t give it to him
Probably wants to claim your kid on his taxes. Dont give him squat.
There’s no reason he needs that information especially seeing hasn’t been in his life.
He wants to claim him for taxes. Don’t give him nothing
Don’t hand it over! There is no need for him to have it!
Taxes. Don’t do it.
Its tax time thats a huge No
Don’t. I’m guessing he’s trying to claim him for something.b
If he’s his father he can go obtain his own copy. He probably wants the info for tax purposes he’s not entitled to. I don’t know his character, but have seen some deadbeats use their child’s info to put utilities and such in their name. If child lives with you full time, he’s not eligible for any credits or services on his behalf therefore their is no need to give it to him at the moment. He’s probably heard the irs has been screwing up and been paying both parents the child tax credit and wants to try and claim him. He’s not eligible to do that since he lives with you full time.
No don’t do it… you’ll regret it
He can use it to claim taxes or even use it to put items in the child’s name and ruin the kid’s credit. DON’T DO IT
No no no, don’t do it
If he’s never even met the kid~ he literally has ZERO reason to have that information PERIOD!
Probably going to use it to get loans Or something nefarious like that
Don’t even worry with why… you don’t have to so just say No… never let anyone pressure you to do anything.
He’s trying to claim him on his taxes. Absolutely not!
After 1 yr it is abandonment…you owe him nothing. He had six yrs to he there. Why all the sudden? And if he did use it for taxes he would get fraud if he did and that is a felony. Then he claims them and doesn’t even see them? If thats what he has planned, he isn’t very smart. You claim them and it would be HUGE red flag to irs. But either way do NOT give him any of their personal records or identification!
Taxes that’s why. It’s that time of year and how convenient of him to ask for the stuff now. Don’t give the stuff to him. He’ll be mad tho
He wants to claim
The children for something. Wether it’s taxes, state benefits… whatever. DO NOT give him that info.
He wants to collect the social security money. My son’s Dad who has not been in my son’s life ever since he was born wants my son’s last name changed to his. He just wants to get the social security money.
Probably to claim him on taxes…
Just say no. If he needs it he can go get his own copy.
Nope. Nope. Nope. He doesn’t have primary custody. He doesn’t need squat.
No no no no no. Do not give it to him. He will only use it in a negative way. There’s no reason for him to have it if you pay for healthcare and claim him on taxes. Literally no other reason to know/have that info.
don’t give it! probably wants to claim him on his taxes!
Sound like he trying to claim his taxes or something.
Don’t give him any info unless a judge tells you otherwise
My sons dad needed it to add him to his health insurence threw his employer.
Give him a false number and i would report it
He wants to claim YOUR child on his taxes. DO NOT EVER GIVE THAT INFORMATION UP!!
Taxes DONT DO IT!! Never ever give that to him. Any INFO he dont need it.Tell him u lost all that stuff.
Tell him DDS said you don’t have to give it to him. The information he asked for, he needs if he’s going to claim him on taxes maybe
To claim him on his taxes thats why
I’d first ask him why he needs this information? If he’s offensive I’d tell him no. If he’s trying to open a savings account or something that benefits your son I’d send him this
Id text him this
" hello, after talking with DDS and calling social security I’ve been advised not to give that information out. With that said, bc you are “said child’s name” father, you have every right to pursue these but i have to ask you to obtain them in the proper way. You can visit the town hall and social security office to obtain these items, the same way I did.
He wants to claim him on his taxes I bet
He wants to claim on taxes. HELL NO. you have 100 % rights and have dine everything. He does nothing. Do NOT give him a damn bit of info.
It’s tax time if he has a ss number he can clam him on his taxes
He wants to claim him on his taxes. Don’t give him any info. No way would I let my 6 yr old go with someone who doesn’t even know my child and has NEVER wanted a relationship with him. There’s been NO contact with my ex husband in 2 yrs. He’s NEVER paid CS even though he’s court ordered to. He won’t EVER have visitation with my son again. He has chosen to abandon my son.
Sounds like he’s trying to claim him on his taxes
Do not give him anything. He is planning something nefarious. If he continues to bug you about it, send him to me. I have simple words which even he will understand.
In this situation, I wouldn’t give him the information either. But as stated above, just know that he can obtain those things on his own at some point.
He is probably trying to claim him on taxes
I take it he’s not on the birth certificate. He can get the info himself after establishing paternity. Please don’t listen to all the bitter women trying to demonize him for the past, if he wants to be a father NOW, give him a chance.
It’s tax time so he would need his number to claim him. Don’t do it
He wants to file him on his taxes.
Don’t do it!!! No matter what!
Why does he want it ?
Say no must be an alternative motive
If it is for beneficiary reasons then ask him for proof of the insurance documents
Because it would only be in a trust fund and you would need to be the one getting it initially cause he is a minor
You will need that info in case something happens or it will just sit there .
Tax time girl. It’s the only time when the lost parent wants anything to do with the kid.
Don’t give it to him. He probably wants to try and claim him on his taxes.
He hasnt been around for 6 years and now wants to be but wants his SSN? never ever. Nope.
Bad vibes. Noppppeeeee!
Taxes!! Only reason why. Don’t do it!
Yeah, I wouldn’t recommend doing that
He wants to claim the child on his taxes and he probably wants to take out a life insurance policy on your child. He has Monetary goals he isn’t interested in his child.
He hasn’t needed this information before and he doesn’t need it now to have a relationship. Tell him no and see if he still wants to meet his child.
He is probably trying to claim him on taxes which he can’t do since son isn’t in his care. Don’t do it.
He wants claim him on taxes … If you have full coustody and you have raised him DO NOT give it to him you can claim him …I would do it if it was me …Tell him you are going or you have already claimed him …
Don’t do it. I wouldn’t even let him go see him or stay with him without you being there. I had something similar happen to me. I thought I was doing the right thing by letting my daughter go see her father (hasn’t seen her in 4 years) came into her life & started seeing her. 4 months into it, BOOM! He took her and wouldn’t give her back. I had to alternate my whole life to get her back and my family spent a lot of money on lawyers getting her back. Court order is now in place. Get a court order or you will be spending $1000 getting your child back.
100000% do not give him that information
Trying to claim for taxes. Don’t do it
Tax time, he want that child tax credit
He wants to claim him on taxes probably. Don’t do it.
If you’ve already filed taxes, give it to him. If he claims the child, the IRS will ding him and take the money back (if they actually give it to him in the first place - they may just ding him and not give him a dime) by garnishing his wages. It’s called tax fraud. Then you can contact the IRS and put a PIN on your kid’s ss# and he will not be able to claim him without the PIN. Anyway, he’s up to something but if this is the game he’s playing, he will get caught.
I doubt he wants a relationship, sounds like he wants a tax deduction as everyone’s said. Don’t give him the info & file your taxes early in case he pulls this. You may also want to give a heads-up to the IRS.
If he wants it he can go get a copy himself but more than likely he’s looking for that child tax credit
I wouldn’t give him the social security number that way he could try and claim the boy on his taxes and leave you in a real bind nope he can have a pic but no on the social security number he has no need to have it…He can also use his social security number to file for social security for the child all he would need is to get one of his buddies who happens to be a MD to say that your son suffers from PTSD from losing contact with his father or has anxiety or some other BS and it is an instant payout. So no definitely do not give any information on your son to a man who has had nothing to do with your son or his wellbeing in the last 6 years any information. He wants a pic…ok you probably have pics of him on your facebook that he could download if he got ambitious so yeah why not…but nothing more
Even worse then wanting that info for taxes there honestly nothing to stop him from using that information and running his credit
Maybe he is going to try to claim him. I wouldn’t send him anything. Tell him to call the courts if he needs the info…
He’s trying to get his taxes done yoooo
Either taxes or some Kinda fraud don’t do it !
Be present when they’re together. And DO NOT give him his info and documents! Omg no!
Do not. He is trying to claim that child on SOMETHING. I wouldn’t let him take your son anywhere by himself either. Not at first. You don’t just get to pop up outta deadbeat nowhere demanding personal info and trying to act like you had some fatherly epiphany… Ugghhhhh.