I think that if she isnât using it, like her friend just gave it to her but she hasnât tried it, maybe let it go. To a point. I would talk with her because trust is highly valuable at that age, and itâs good that she has that with you. Donât lose it. Tell her your feelings on vaping and let her know, that Bc it is a health issue, that if she uses it (or any others obv), you will have to talk with her dad. But be clear that you donât want to break her trust, so she needs to do the same and keep her promise to not vape. That way youâre being upfront with her, but also letting her know that youâre more than a friend. Good luck momma!
I used to vape before pregnancy
warn her about the liquids that can be inside them - THC can get you high, nicotine is addictive and bad for your health. if itâs just flavoured, with no nicotine, itâs presumed to be fine but there isnât a study of long-term effects. See if she knows where her friend got the liquid from. vapes in the US have been linked to popcorn lung but not in europe. even if itâs just flavour itâs illegal to purchase and use if you are under 18.
teenagers will do illegal stuff now and then. they just will. make sure they know the risks involved
Weâll vapes/ are for adult use. So Iâd ask her how her friend got it to begin withâŚ
Iâd ask her about it when in private, also is it nicotine or THC?!
I would have a 1 on 1 with her and if she doesnât stop then I would talk with her dad and bioâŚ
DependsâŚthey have liquid with no chemicals. HoweverâŚi wouldnât let my kid have one as could be an opener to trying cigarettes,etc.
It is considered a adult thing. If your husband finds out you kept this from him. He might be angry.
Iâd be more worried if you had found out through someone else⌠however in my opinion Vaping isnât good.
There are certain things that donât qualify for âjust between usâ. Not only is it unhealthy, it is illegal for her to be in possession of it. She can get in trouble with the police as well as her school.
Are you cool with her smoking cigarettes or weed? Having copd sucks! Iâm 28 and have copd and Iâm on oxygen 24/7 now and have no life anymore. And itâs painful.
Kids donât need to be smoking anything imo
Known to be destructive to the userâs lungs
Iâd keep it between you two. I know its an unpopular opinion but she came to you and I assume didnât use it. If you tell, is she going to keep coming to you or cut you off because she feels betrayed? Btw- what a good step mom you must be. Thats a lot of trust she has in you.
Even with juice with no nicotine it still coats the lungs and damages them.
your care about her. right ,?
what would you do if she was your daughter? That would be what to do. Treat you step kids like your kids
She at the age where itâs common to start with experimenting⌠I would wait till yâall are in private and talk to her about it. Find out if she already done it and if so how many times⌠and talk to her to the dangers of it⌠so she still comfortable coming to you but let her know that you will need to let her father know about it but let her know that your and her have talked about it and etc.
Yes she shouldnt be vaping, yes you should keep it between you and her (she will respect and trust you more) make sure she understands the harm of vape
There are no studies that show vaping is harmful. Be greatful its nit a cigarette
Your not supposed to b her friend ur suppose to be the parent!!! There is no keeping it just between u two ! If that was ur child and her step parent u would b upset!
Tell her they are dangerous and not to ever try them
Well itâs definitely a good sign she told you, that makes me think she isnât using the vape herself. She came to you with trust. If itâs not a life threatening matter, Iâd keep it between the 2 of you. Like others commented above, would she still trust you with big things if she finds out you told about this?
Itâs your step daughter, you need to talk to her father about it. I would be HIGHLY pissed if my daughter wanted someone to keep a secret from me or her father- no matter who they are, especially if itâs something that is 1. Against the law and 2. Is horrible for her health
Worst things invented no better than a cigarette
Vaping is great for those 21 and older who are trying to get off cigarettes. Would I rather them vape then smoke hell yeah but they are not old enough to make those decisions. If you know you need to shut it down.
Are you her friend or her parent? Would you be okay with her getting an MIP if she was caught with it? What would you do if she told the cops or school you are okay she has it? These are questions you should ask yourself in times itâs okay to âlet it beâ but when itâs something that can effect her health or get her in legal trouble I think you should be stepping in
This is the reason that adults dont have safer alternatives is because some way some how these kids get their hands on them
Iâd just give her the best scientific info I could find on vape use & its potential dangers and let her be.
Vapes are bad! Donât listen to anyone! My brother was told that if he continues to vape and his lung collapses again, he will either die or theyâll have to take his lung.
My 10 yr old said he vaped. I asked how it was, if he liked it, what he thought etc. I stayed calm. He made the decision to never do it again.
This is where the addiction to nicotine starts. Once she keeps âtryingâ it, she might not be able to stop.you need to talk to her about that fact for sure. Tell her to start noticing all the people that are vaping, they are addicted. And donât trust the fact that the kids say itâs just juice with no nicotine, that is most likely not true. And further some vape will be made with weed. So thereâs that too.
Keep it between the two of you as a trust thing, but if you see she is not taking your advice, time to bring in dad and birth mom. Donât wait a long time to do so though. Nip this risky behavior in the bud.
Destructive:
Out of choices of things for kids to try, I say vaping is the safer option. Not saying there isnât risks, but nothing is risk free. Now Iâm not really for the types like Juul or Vuse, but regular E-juice vaping is a better option.
If she gets caught with it at school the school will take action and yall will be in courtâŚjust speaking from someoneâs experience⌠the boy age 15 was put on 90 days probation and had to write a 2500 word essay to the court about why vaping is bad⌠
If Dad finds out youâve been hiding this kind of info there could be a whole heap of trouble coming your way, you donât need that. Sheâs fifteen not fifty.
Iâd talk to her in depth about the dangers, but yes Iâd keep it between the two of you. She trusts you and is coming to you for a reason.
There are several studies ongoing on the safety of vaping. So far they say they are safer than cigarettes but still dangerous to health âŚ
Its good she trusts you and hard to advise breaking that trust âŚ
Id have her online looking at results âŚthey can still cause heart damage etc âŚthen tell her this is a secret you dont feel you can keep as it could be harmfulâŚgive her the chance to tell her parents herself. If she wontâŚI feel youve got to
Do you condone a teen smoking? Thatâs your answer Do you keep secrets from her father?
Iâd rather my child vape than smoke cigarettes. And Iâd much rather her feel comfortable and safe enough to tell me that she has one/uses one. You CANNOT force a child to a anything. If they want to do it bad enough, theyâll find a way. I wonât financially support her vaping. But if sheâs well behaved, respectful, has good grades and overall does well and school and has her crap together, vaping would not be a high concern of mine. Iâd of course educate her on vapes and the risks they do pose even though theyâre not as bad as cigarettes and how to use them responsibly and safely. Iâll once again say, teenagers if they want something bad enough, theyâll do it with or without your permission. But itâs better to not be sneaky about it and to be honest. Since she was honest she seems like a good kid.
I would sit down with her and talk to her and show her how bad they truly are.I did this with my son when he decided to try pot.We sat and talked and I asked him what he thought.How he felt and so fourth.I wasnt mad or upset that he tried it.I use to smoke it a lot.He said,he didnt like how he felt.
yes, her dad needs to know
You can talk to her a you want, doesnât mean itâll change anything
You should educate her on it and how itâs not good. You want to keep trust and open dialog between you especially the age that age group is so difficult.
I told my daughter, they arenât healthy or safe. She said âthatâs gross anywaysâ so Iâm hoping she makes the right choice when it comes to that stuff.
I started smoking cigarettes around 14-15 and still smoke. If I could go back and never start that would be great because now I donât know how to function without them. Iâd tell her that itâs harmful to her body but donât keep pushing her and definitely donât tell her she is totally not allowed to because she will be sneaking around doing it anyways.
Well Iâm the bad mom of the group, I quit smoking thru vaping and my Dr didnât have an issue, she did say my lungs sounded a lot better . Also my daughter is 18 I caught her smoking cigarettes and stealing them from me, she came home with a vape and switched to vaping, she doesnât use anything anymore but I have bought her disposable ones, I would rather her smoke that than a cigarette, I bought the ones with the lowest nicotine content
Education & knowledge is key.
First of Or is very dangerous to her lungs, but less offensive to others because there is no second hand smoke. Explain to her that you appreciate her confiding in you but you will sit down with her and her Dad to discuss the pros and cons. This gives her an out with her friends and she will know that you have her back. Win Win
Nah they not dangerous
eh let her be but let her know you donât approve. the trend will go away soon enough
Its also illegal. Jfc. My child has a vape what do i do? TAKE IT AWAY. Jfc. Some people just shouldnt have kids
if you tell on her she wonât come to you again so freely
Iâd rather her feel safe enough to tell me these things then have her hide them from me because either way sheâs gonna do it. Atleast sheâll have someone to come to and you wonât be in the dark.
What kind of vape? Need more info to make a proper judgment. Are we talking the ones with the nicotine juice or the kind of vape for cannabis flower?
Either way, I wouldnât be comfortable with my 15 yr old smoking either of them. Vaping cannabis is safer than smoking a joint though - better on the lungs. Vaping nicotine juice is not much different than smoking a cigarette really, maybe a bit milder. Either way, I wouldnât be ok with my kid using that (until theyâre a legal adult and can choose to do what they want)
I would tell her hell no. She is 15. Not only is it dangerous but itâs illegal. Thatâs just how I see it anyways.
She, the 15 yr old child, tells YOU to let it beâŚ.? Wtf? I would say something to her, and also let her know that you will talking to her parents and fronting her off about this. If her parents donât give a shit then I guess you can âlet it beâ
Sounds like a shitty situation, and the beginning of troubled times ahead with that kid.
Vaping is no better than cigarettes they are still an addiction and still cause lung cancer and COPD I know because I have multiple family that also made that stupid mistake of thinking it was no big deal and for you to have to question what to do makes you just as much of an idiot. God are you the parent or the teenager! Put some knowledge into that childâs head she needs guidance not a pushover as a parent.
I would let her know that you want to always keep her secrets, but you canât keep the ones that might harm her. If she gives you the vape, you will dispose of it and never mention it again. If it is something she is curious about, you would like to bring her dad in on the discussion so he can help answer any questions she has.
Depends a lot on what is being vaped and if it is under regulation⌠lots of unregulated/tested vapes going around for thc etc that can cause a lot of problems, but for the most part the vapes for nicotine are legally sold and okay inasmuch as you want your kid ingesting nicotine. Better for you than smoking a cigarette but still not good for you at all 
Iâm not sure what the school can do. No itâs not healthy. Iâm just glad your child is comfortable telling you. I would just educate yourself so you can have that information for your child.
Sheâs not your child so you donât say anything to her. Let her father know, step back and let him handle it.
This is happening with my 13 year old. She keeps coming home with them from school. I started doing bag checks when she came home. I talked to the school about it, and they said that this is actually a huge problem, and they canât seem to keep up with it. I also talked to the school officer and he said they have no clue how these young kids are getting their hands on them, but they have seen vapes all the way down to elementary school children. I just keep taking them away from her, but regardless she comes home with more everyday. Vaping in kids has had serious effects including some deaths. They arenât as bad as cigarettes but they are still unhealthy, plus its illegal. Take the vape away. And keep taking it away.
They are dangerous and addictive. You also have to be at least 18 just like cigarettes to buy them. (Some states 21)
First of all is is a nicotine vape or a weed vape either way her âfriendâ and her need to know that 1 itâs not ok to steal from adults (assuming thatâs where her friend got it from) and 2 they are way to young to be putting poison in their bodies and if and when sheâs of legal age she can choose what she wants to do but I wouldnât allow it in my house and Iâd demand the friends name so I could reach out to their parents and limit time with that friend whoâs clearly a terrible influence
Nicotine is nicotine; doesnât matter if itâs from a cig or a vape. Iâd definitely be communicating with her dad, but I would make it a point to make sure sheâs not in trouble, after all she came to you with honesty.
Umm BE THE FUCKING PARENT
They are illegal at her age and bad for her health
Okay well first, thereâs very few vapes that are nicotine or cannabis free. They do exist, but itâs uncommon and generally used for people quitting smoking. But second, do some research into the dangers of both for a 15 year old and talk to her about it. Easy peasy
Omg these spell of a thing really works like magic.
Thanks to you Dr Amala for bringing back my husband to me.
Ask her if she is aware of the dangers of vaping. If she doesnât, then educate her. Or research together.
If you take it from Her shes just going to get another one. Theres really no point from what ive learnedâŚyou say NO she will rebel. Do what you have to do but dont lash out at her if she does just that.
I vaped since i was 14 or 15 and grew out of it within a few yearsâŚ
I would talk to her about the dangers of vaping⌠At lease shes not hiding it from uâŚ
Make a Dr appointment. Let the Dr talk to her about the effects vapor and nicotine can have on the lungs. God bless.
Talk to her straight up! Tell her she shouldnât be vaping at her age⌠search popcorn lungs on google. Show her how dangerous it is.
Also Iâd tell her she should warn her friend that itâs harmful, especially to young lungs, and if she gets addicted to vapes or cigarettes it can get very expensive (and wouldnât she rather spend her money on having fun & new clothes?) & itâs bad for your skin (which might resonate at this age better than anything else).
They are very bad for you. I would find it and throw it away. At least let her know how bad it is for you. She probably wont listen though. I know someone that vapes and now she has tumors in her lungs. But that wont stop her. She just keeps on doing it
Ask her to give it to you so you can dispose of it?
Does it have nicotine in it?
I personally am using them to quit smoking and in my country (Australia) nicotine ones are illegal to even be sold
Is she planning on using it?
Iâd ask for it. Just to get it away from her.
Right now she needs you to confide in. You need to be the parent in this circumstance and advise her the best thing to do. Get some information on the effects of vaping and what it can do to your lungs. Hope that that is enough to steer her in the right direction. If it doesnât and she continues to vape yes you will have to tell your partner.
Talk to her and tell her why theyâre bad for her.
This needs to be discussed with her father.It is his place to talk with her.
Vaping has zero dangers. But at her age no she should not have one
my first thing would be to take the one the friend gave her away and educated her and take her to get her own so you know where it came from and whatâs in it and if you just take it away sheâs going to do it anyway
Just because she has one doesnât necessarily mean sheâs using it. Just remind her thatâs itâs illegal for a reason, itâs dangerous, causes health issues, and itâs illegal
I would talk to her about the dangers. Seriously. At 30 I tried to switch from cigs to vape to quit and 3 weeks after making the switch my lung collapsed. Spent 4 days in hospital with a tube in my chest. Iâm overall healthy and had no reason for a lung collapse. They called it âspontaneous numathoraxâ. Iâm not 100% on the spelling
Itâs weed or nicotiene. Either one she can do without at that age. I wouldnât allow my daughter to get away with that. Addiction also runs full force in the family and I have 8 years sober. Weed is one thing as an adult- another as a teen when the brain is still forming.
Hubby vapes and it gets a bad rap. Not all are the awful horror stories you hear about where kids are dying from ingesting chemicals. The ones where people are getting sick is generally from using illegal vape thc products you buy on the street. Legal products are usually the nicotine oil but they do have cbd oil and thc if itâs legal in the state and from a reputable source. The illegal ones are these cheap cartridges made in China. So yes potentially very dangerous depending on the original source but your step daughter doesnât know that information and possibly the person she got it from doesnât know either which is truly the problem. I would talk to her about it and let her know how serious this can be and that she needs to be honest about it and itâs not safe for her to do it. Iâd tell her you love your relationship but you love her enough to keep her safe too. So one she needs to stop but either she talks about it or you will her choice.
People post on this sight and never comment to clarify. Almost feel like we are being played
Tell her youâre an adult and that you gotta draw the line somewhere. The vape is a no go. If she ainât old enough to go into a store and buy one herself then she has no business using one. Vaping is so bad for you and sheâs still too young.
Sounds like she wants you to be her friend while that may seem cool itâs not youâre a parent figure youâre not her friend , thereâs a fine line between parental figure and friend . Sheâs underage , once sheâs an adult she can do what she wants until then she has to listen and respect all parents in her life .
Vaping is killing people.
Vaping with just flavours is ok and actually quite normal for highschool students, BUT if they are using it with actual nicotine different story
Be careful sheâs confiding in you and being responsible about it. If you break her trust by humiliating her by making a scene with that student youâre going to subject her to bullying and trust me when I say she will never confide in you again. Work it out between you two. Itâs not illegal everywhere. I never heard of it being illegal but regardless teach her it can cause breathing problems.
I get that you dont want a 15 year old to smoke a vape because yeah they are dangerous, but if you go it the wrong way she might just smoke it anyway, maybe try explain they have no research and the dangers of smoking them etc and they have given young kids popcorn lung and show a photo of it and explain what will happen to her, scare her a little maybe
Tell her that you are happy she is comfortable enough to come to you and tell you. Admit to her that you are unsure how safe vaping is and would like to look up the good and bad of it. See if she can explain it to you as to why she did it. Was it peer pressure, did she want to do it to try it and does she think she will do it again. If she says yes, ask her to atleast wait until you look up the good and bad first so you can show her.
There is something in liquid form that the teenagers use in e cigs these days called THC its like weed but also very dangerous
Maybe talk to her about the dangers they can cause and that it is addictive because itâs nicotine. Itâs brilliant that sheâs able to talk openly with you so maybe just an honest conversation with her may do it. Even though shes only 15 unfortunately they do start with experimentation around then.
hi! i vape!
warn her about the liquids that can be inside them - THC can get you high, nicotine is addictive and bad for your health. if itâs just flavoured, with no nicotine, itâs presumed to be fine but there isnât a study of long-term effects. vapes in the US have been linked to popcorn lung but not in europe. even if itâs just flavour itâs illegal to purchase and use if you are under 18.
teenagers will do illegal stuff now and then. they just will. make sure they know the risks involved
To be fair I started smoking much younger than that and itâs probably better she is vaping rather than smoking⌠however, I wish I never started and it was very hard to put down permanently.
No matter what anyone else said I didnât listen though. So as far as experimentation goes at least itâs potentially the least harmful⌠but itâs still not great. My two bob, tell her itâs easier to stop now rather than going on for too long⌠itâs something that even smokers would tell me but it was something I had to learn for myself. I wish I wasnât so stubborn.
Iâm guessing itâs one of the new flavoured vapes - they contain no nicotine and itâs just flavoured steam basically. You still have to be over 18 to purchase and use though - so maybe just let her know about law and that you donât want her to get in any trouble.
does she even smoke? if not then there should be no reason for her to have one. i would explain the dangers and addictiveâness