I think that if she isnāt using it, like her friend just gave it to her but she hasnāt tried it, maybe let it go. To a point. I would talk with her because trust is highly valuable at that age, and itās good that she has that with you. Donāt lose it. Tell her your feelings on vaping and let her know, that Bc it is a health issue, that if she uses it (or any others obv), you will have to talk with her dad. But be clear that you donāt want to break her trust, so she needs to do the same and keep her promise to not vape. That way youāre being upfront with her, but also letting her know that youāre more than a friend. Good luck momma!
I used to vape before pregnancy
warn her about the liquids that can be inside them - THC can get you high, nicotine is addictive and bad for your health. if itās just flavoured, with no nicotine, itās presumed to be fine but there isnāt a study of long-term effects. See if she knows where her friend got the liquid from. vapes in the US have been linked to popcorn lung but not in europe. even if itās just flavour itās illegal to purchase and use if you are under 18.
teenagers will do illegal stuff now and then. they just will. make sure they know the risks involved
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Weāll vapes/ are for adult use. So Iād ask her how her friend got it to begin withā¦
Iād ask her about it when in private, also is it nicotine or THC?!
I would have a 1 on 1 with her and if she doesnāt stop then I would talk with her dad and bioā¦
Dependsā¦they have liquid with no chemicals. Howeverā¦i wouldnāt let my kid have one as could be an opener to trying cigarettes,etc.
It is considered a adult thing. If your husband finds out you kept this from him. He might be angry.
Iād be more worried if you had found out through someone elseā¦ however in my opinion Vaping isnāt good.
There are certain things that donāt qualify for ājust between usā. Not only is it unhealthy, it is illegal for her to be in possession of it. She can get in trouble with the police as well as her school.
Are you cool with her smoking cigarettes or weed? Having copd sucks! Iām 28 and have copd and Iām on oxygen 24/7 now and have no life anymore. And itās painful.
Kids donāt need to be smoking anything imo
Known to be destructive to the userās lungs
Iād keep it between you two. I know its an unpopular opinion but she came to you and I assume didnāt use it. If you tell, is she going to keep coming to you or cut you off because she feels betrayed? Btw- what a good step mom you must be. Thats a lot of trust she has in you.
Even with juice with no nicotine it still coats the lungs and damages them.
your care about her. right ,?
what would you do if she was your daughter? That would be what to do. Treat you step kids like your kids
She at the age where itās common to start with experimentingā¦ I would wait till yāall are in private and talk to her about it. Find out if she already done it and if so how many timesā¦ and talk to her to the dangers of itā¦ so she still comfortable coming to you but let her know that you will need to let her father know about it but let her know that your and her have talked about it and etc.
Yes she shouldnt be vaping, yes you should keep it between you and her (she will respect and trust you more) make sure she understands the harm of vape
There are no studies that show vaping is harmful. Be greatful its nit a cigarette
Your not supposed to b her friend ur suppose to be the parent!!! There is no keeping it just between u two ! If that was ur child and her step parent u would b upset!
Tell her they are dangerous and not to ever try them
Well itās definitely a good sign she told you, that makes me think she isnāt using the vape herself. She came to you with trust. If itās not a life threatening matter, Iād keep it between the 2 of you. Like others commented above, would she still trust you with big things if she finds out you told about this?
Itās your step daughter, you need to talk to her father about it. I would be HIGHLY pissed if my daughter wanted someone to keep a secret from me or her father- no matter who they are, especially if itās something that is 1. Against the law and 2. Is horrible for her health
Worst things invented no better than a cigarette
Vaping is great for those 21 and older who are trying to get off cigarettes. Would I rather them vape then smoke hell yeah but they are not old enough to make those decisions. If you know you need to shut it down.
Are you her friend or her parent? Would you be okay with her getting an MIP if she was caught with it? What would you do if she told the cops or school you are okay she has it? These are questions you should ask yourself in times itās okay to ālet it beā but when itās something that can effect her health or get her in legal trouble I think you should be stepping in
This is the reason that adults dont have safer alternatives is because some way some how these kids get their hands on them
Iād just give her the best scientific info I could find on vape use & its potential dangers and let her be.
Vapes are bad! Donāt listen to anyone! My brother was told that if he continues to vape and his lung collapses again, he will either die or theyāll have to take his lung.
My 10 yr old said he vaped. I asked how it was, if he liked it, what he thought etc. I stayed calm. He made the decision to never do it again.
This is where the addiction to nicotine starts. Once she keeps ātryingā it, she might not be able to stop.you need to talk to her about that fact for sure. Tell her to start noticing all the people that are vaping, they are addicted. And donāt trust the fact that the kids say itās just juice with no nicotine, that is most likely not true. And further some vape will be made with weed. So thereās that too.
Keep it between the two of you as a trust thing, but if you see she is not taking your advice, time to bring in dad and birth mom. Donāt wait a long time to do so though. Nip this risky behavior in the bud.
Destructive:
Out of choices of things for kids to try, I say vaping is the safer option. Not saying there isnāt risks, but nothing is risk free. Now Iām not really for the types like Juul or Vuse, but regular E-juice vaping is a better option.
If she gets caught with it at school the school will take action and yall will be in courtā¦just speaking from someoneās experienceā¦ the boy age 15 was put on 90 days probation and had to write a 2500 word essay to the court about why vaping is badā¦ 
If Dad finds out youāve been hiding this kind of info there could be a whole heap of trouble coming your way, you donāt need that. Sheās fifteen not fifty.
Iād talk to her in depth about the dangers, but yes Iād keep it between the two of you. She trusts you and is coming to you for a reason.
There are several studies ongoing on the safety of vaping. So far they say they are safer than cigarettes but still dangerous to health ā¦
Its good she trusts you and hard to advise breaking that trust ā¦
Id have her online looking at results ā¦they can still cause heart damage etc ā¦then tell her this is a secret you dont feel you can keep as it could be harmfulā¦give her the chance to tell her parents herself. If she wontā¦I feel youve got to
Do you condone a teen smoking? Thatās your answer Do you keep secrets from her father?
Iād rather my child vape than smoke cigarettes. And Iād much rather her feel comfortable and safe enough to tell me that she has one/uses one. You CANNOT force a child to a anything. If they want to do it bad enough, theyāll find a way. I wonāt financially support her vaping. But if sheās well behaved, respectful, has good grades and overall does well and school and has her crap together, vaping would not be a high concern of mine. Iād of course educate her on vapes and the risks they do pose even though theyāre not as bad as cigarettes and how to use them responsibly and safely. Iāll once again say, teenagers if they want something bad enough, theyāll do it with or without your permission. But itās better to not be sneaky about it and to be honest. Since she was honest she seems like a good kid.
I would sit down with her and talk to her and show her how bad they truly are.I did this with my son when he decided to try pot.We sat and talked and I asked him what he thought.How he felt and so fourth.I wasnt mad or upset that he tried it.I use to smoke it a lot.He said,he didnt like how he felt.
yes, her dad needs to know
You can talk to her a you want, doesnāt mean itāll change anything
You should educate her on it and how itās not good. You want to keep trust and open dialog between you especially the age that age group is so difficult.
I told my daughter, they arenāt healthy or safe. She said āthatās gross anywaysā so Iām hoping she makes the right choice when it comes to that stuff.
I started smoking cigarettes around 14-15 and still smoke. If I could go back and never start that would be great because now I donāt know how to function without them. Iād tell her that itās harmful to her body but donāt keep pushing her and definitely donāt tell her she is totally not allowed to because she will be sneaking around doing it anyways.
Well Iām the bad mom of the group, I quit smoking thru vaping and my Dr didnāt have an issue, she did say my lungs sounded a lot better . Also my daughter is 18 I caught her smoking cigarettes and stealing them from me, she came home with a vape and switched to vaping, she doesnāt use anything anymore but I have bought her disposable ones, I would rather her smoke that than a cigarette, I bought the ones with the lowest nicotine content
Education & knowledge is key.
First of Or is very dangerous to her lungs, but less offensive to others because there is no second hand smoke. Explain to her that you appreciate her confiding in you but you will sit down with her and her Dad to discuss the pros and cons. This gives her an out with her friends and she will know that you have her back. Win Win
Nah they not dangerous
eh let her be but let her know you donāt approve. the trend will go away soon enough
Its also illegal. Jfc. My child has a vape what do i do? TAKE IT AWAY. Jfc. Some people just shouldnt have kids
if you tell on her she wonāt come to you again so freely
Iād rather her feel safe enough to tell me these things then have her hide them from me because either way sheās gonna do it. Atleast sheāll have someone to come to and you wonāt be in the dark.
What kind of vape? Need more info to make a proper judgment. Are we talking the ones with the nicotine juice or the kind of vape for cannabis flower?
Either way, I wouldnāt be comfortable with my 15 yr old smoking either of them. Vaping cannabis is safer than smoking a joint though - better on the lungs. Vaping nicotine juice is not much different than smoking a cigarette really, maybe a bit milder. Either way, I wouldnāt be ok with my kid using that (until theyāre a legal adult and can choose to do what they want)
I would tell her hell no. She is 15. Not only is it dangerous but itās illegal. Thatās just how I see it anyways.
She, the 15 yr old child, tells YOU to let it beā¦.? Wtf? I would say something to her, and also let her know that you will talking to her parents and fronting her off about this. If her parents donāt give a shit then I guess you can ālet it beā
Sounds like a shitty situation, and the beginning of troubled times ahead with that kid.
Vaping is no better than cigarettes they are still an addiction and still cause lung cancer and COPD I know because I have multiple family that also made that stupid mistake of thinking it was no big deal and for you to have to question what to do makes you just as much of an idiot. God are you the parent or the teenager! Put some knowledge into that childās head she needs guidance not a pushover as a parent.
I would let her know that you want to always keep her secrets, but you canāt keep the ones that might harm her. If she gives you the vape, you will dispose of it and never mention it again. If it is something she is curious about, you would like to bring her dad in on the discussion so he can help answer any questions she has.
Depends a lot on what is being vaped and if it is under regulationā¦ lots of unregulated/tested vapes going around for thc etc that can cause a lot of problems, but for the most part the vapes for nicotine are legally sold and okay inasmuch as you want your kid ingesting nicotine. Better for you than smoking a cigarette but still not good for you at all 
Iām not sure what the school can do. No itās not healthy. Iām just glad your child is comfortable telling you. I would just educate yourself so you can have that information for your child.
Sheās not your child so you donāt say anything to her. Let her father know, step back and let him handle it.
This is happening with my 13 year old. She keeps coming home with them from school. I started doing bag checks when she came home. I talked to the school about it, and they said that this is actually a huge problem, and they canāt seem to keep up with it. I also talked to the school officer and he said they have no clue how these young kids are getting their hands on them, but they have seen vapes all the way down to elementary school children. I just keep taking them away from her, but regardless she comes home with more everyday. Vaping in kids has had serious effects including some deaths. They arenāt as bad as cigarettes but they are still unhealthy, plus its illegal. Take the vape away. And keep taking it away.
They are dangerous and addictive. You also have to be at least 18 just like cigarettes to buy them. (Some states 21)
First of all is is a nicotine vape or a weed vape either way her āfriendā and her need to know that 1 itās not ok to steal from adults (assuming thatās where her friend got it from) and 2 they are way to young to be putting poison in their bodies and if and when sheās of legal age she can choose what she wants to do but I wouldnāt allow it in my house and Iād demand the friends name so I could reach out to their parents and limit time with that friend whoās clearly a terrible influence
Nicotine is nicotine; doesnāt matter if itās from a cig or a vape. Iād definitely be communicating with her dad, but I would make it a point to make sure sheās not in trouble, after all she came to you with honesty.
Umm BE THE FUCKING PARENT
They are illegal at her age and bad for her health
Okay well first, thereās very few vapes that are nicotine or cannabis free. They do exist, but itās uncommon and generally used for people quitting smoking. But second, do some research into the dangers of both for a 15 year old and talk to her about it. Easy peasy
Omg these spell of a thing really works like magic.
Thanks to you Dr Amala for bringing back my husband to me.
Ask her if she is aware of the dangers of vaping. If she doesnāt, then educate her. Or research together.
If you take it from Her shes just going to get another one. Theres really no point from what ive learnedā¦you say NO she will rebel. Do what you have to do but dont lash out at her if she does just that.
I vaped since i was 14 or 15 and grew out of it within a few yearsā¦
I would talk to her about the dangers of vapingā¦ At lease shes not hiding it from uā¦
Make a Dr appointment. Let the Dr talk to her about the effects vapor and nicotine can have on the lungs. God bless.
Talk to her straight up! Tell her she shouldnāt be vaping at her ageā¦ search popcorn lungs on google. Show her how dangerous it is.
Also Iād tell her she should warn her friend that itās harmful, especially to young lungs, and if she gets addicted to vapes or cigarettes it can get very expensive (and wouldnāt she rather spend her money on having fun & new clothes?) & itās bad for your skin (which might resonate at this age better than anything else).
They are very bad for you. I would find it and throw it away. At least let her know how bad it is for you. She probably wont listen though. I know someone that vapes and now she has tumors in her lungs. But that wont stop her. She just keeps on doing it
Ask her to give it to you so you can dispose of it?
Does it have nicotine in it?
I personally am using them to quit smoking and in my country (Australia) nicotine ones are illegal to even be sold
Is she planning on using it?
Iād ask for it. Just to get it away from her.
Right now she needs you to confide in. You need to be the parent in this circumstance and advise her the best thing to do. Get some information on the effects of vaping and what it can do to your lungs. Hope that that is enough to steer her in the right direction. If it doesnāt and she continues to vape yes you will have to tell your partner.
Talk to her and tell her why theyāre bad for her.
This needs to be discussed with her father.It is his place to talk with her.
Vaping has zero dangers. But at her age no she should not have one
my first thing would be to take the one the friend gave her away and educated her and take her to get her own so you know where it came from and whatās in it and if you just take it away sheās going to do it anyway
Just because she has one doesnāt necessarily mean sheās using it. Just remind her thatās itās illegal for a reason, itās dangerous, causes health issues, and itās illegal
I would talk to her about the dangers. Seriously. At 30 I tried to switch from cigs to vape to quit and 3 weeks after making the switch my lung collapsed. Spent 4 days in hospital with a tube in my chest. Iām overall healthy and had no reason for a lung collapse. They called it āspontaneous numathoraxā. Iām not 100% on the spelling
Itās weed or nicotiene. Either one she can do without at that age. I wouldnāt allow my daughter to get away with that. Addiction also runs full force in the family and I have 8 years sober. Weed is one thing as an adult- another as a teen when the brain is still forming.
Hubby vapes and it gets a bad rap. Not all are the awful horror stories you hear about where kids are dying from ingesting chemicals. The ones where people are getting sick is generally from using illegal vape thc products you buy on the street. Legal products are usually the nicotine oil but they do have cbd oil and thc if itās legal in the state and from a reputable source. The illegal ones are these cheap cartridges made in China. So yes potentially very dangerous depending on the original source but your step daughter doesnāt know that information and possibly the person she got it from doesnāt know either which is truly the problem. I would talk to her about it and let her know how serious this can be and that she needs to be honest about it and itās not safe for her to do it. Iād tell her you love your relationship but you love her enough to keep her safe too. So one she needs to stop but either she talks about it or you will her choice.
People post on this sight and never comment to clarify. Almost feel like we are being played
Tell her youāre an adult and that you gotta draw the line somewhere. The vape is a no go. If she aināt old enough to go into a store and buy one herself then she has no business using one. Vaping is so bad for you and sheās still too young.
Sounds like she wants you to be her friend while that may seem cool itās not youāre a parent figure youāre not her friend , thereās a fine line between parental figure and friend . Sheās underage , once sheās an adult she can do what she wants until then she has to listen and respect all parents in her life .
Vaping is killing people.
Vaping with just flavours is ok and actually quite normal for highschool students, BUT if they are using it with actual nicotine different story
Be careful sheās confiding in you and being responsible about it. If you break her trust by humiliating her by making a scene with that student youāre going to subject her to bullying and trust me when I say she will never confide in you again. Work it out between you two. Itās not illegal everywhere. I never heard of it being illegal but regardless teach her it can cause breathing problems.
I get that you dont want a 15 year old to smoke a vape because yeah they are dangerous, but if you go it the wrong way she might just smoke it anyway, maybe try explain they have no research and the dangers of smoking them etc and they have given young kids popcorn lung and show a photo of it and explain what will happen to her, scare her a little maybe
Tell her that you are happy she is comfortable enough to come to you and tell you. Admit to her that you are unsure how safe vaping is and would like to look up the good and bad of it. See if she can explain it to you as to why she did it. Was it peer pressure, did she want to do it to try it and does she think she will do it again. If she says yes, ask her to atleast wait until you look up the good and bad first so you can show her.
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There is something in liquid form that the teenagers use in e cigs these days called THC its like weed but also very dangerous
Maybe talk to her about the dangers they can cause and that it is addictive because itās nicotine. Itās brilliant that sheās able to talk openly with you so maybe just an honest conversation with her may do it. Even though shes only 15 unfortunately they do start with experimentation around then.
hi! i vape!
warn her about the liquids that can be inside them - THC can get you high, nicotine is addictive and bad for your health. if itās just flavoured, with no nicotine, itās presumed to be fine but there isnāt a study of long-term effects. vapes in the US have been linked to popcorn lung but not in europe. even if itās just flavour itās illegal to purchase and use if you are under 18.
teenagers will do illegal stuff now and then. they just will. make sure they know the risks involved
To be fair I started smoking much younger than that and itās probably better she is vaping rather than smokingā¦ however, I wish I never started and it was very hard to put down permanently.
No matter what anyone else said I didnāt listen though. So as far as experimentation goes at least itās potentially the least harmfulā¦ but itās still not great. My two bob, tell her itās easier to stop now rather than going on for too longā¦ itās something that even smokers would tell me but it was something I had to learn for myself. I wish I wasnāt so stubborn.
Iām guessing itās one of the new flavoured vapes - they contain no nicotine and itās just flavoured steam basically. You still have to be over 18 to purchase and use though - so maybe just let her know about law and that you donāt want her to get in any trouble.
does she even smoke? if not then there should be no reason for her to have one. i would explain the dangers and addictiveāness