Please do not stop calling the police. She needs help and it is not easy to just leave. My friend was murdered just over a month ago due to domestic violence. When the police showed up her two year old was there and witnessed it as he had blood splatter on him…
Please, I beg you, do not ignore it and continue calling the police every time you hear something.
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Please keep calling. You just may save that ladies life 
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Keep calling the police. Wish my neighbors would’ve tbh but they didn’t and it almost cost me my life. Contacting cps could get the child removed but that may need to happen for her to open her eyes to leave tho also.
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I have the same thing happening. At a house near mine. We heard stuff all the time and I was scared for the kids too so I called for a well check. I didn’t know what to do but I didn’t wanna do nothing. Found out the man is a cop. So cops came and did nothing. After that they were quiet for a while. Now it’s starting again. 
I mean, what can you do?
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She has to make that decision on her own but she could probably use a friend like you to be there for her let her know your there for her
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Stephanie Wright do not call as of yet talk to the girl first then if she doesn’t get rid of him then call
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Keep calling cops. Do not call cps. They do more harm than good. That’s prob a big reason she hasnt left because she cant provide for the baby. Dont add that to her. I agree the child shouldnt be around it. But I’d wait on that call.
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From someone who dealt with DV for 18 yrs CPS does NOT help! They blamed me for staying and took my son! As for calling the police you are making worse on the woman! STOP it! You’ve appatently NEVER been in a abusive relationship but its hard as hell to leave especially with NO $ or NO job or NO car!
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If you’ve called the cops that many times then cps has been there. The cops have to send a report and they can say whether they feel cps should investigate or not. So if cops and cps have been multiple times and notning happens… Any chance may be you’re not hearing what you think you are ? A lot of ppls relationships are strained atm. Do they have a dog ? may be the dogs jumping on her when they argue to protect her. Next time go knock and they’ll likely stop. Then reach out. Obv if u. Know for certain someone is being abused then call. Eavesdropping isn’t for sure .
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I say try getting in contact with the landlord while it’s happening? if you see her at the park try talking to her, and asking if she wants secret help? thank you for being so caring. definitely record it when you hear it, play it for the landlord and the cops, tbh.
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Coming from someone who’s neighbor was murdered by her husband years ago, keep calling. Keep reaching out to her.
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So your not seeing none of this as physical abuse. Hell i scream get off me to my hubby and slam doors and have cried. None of it is domestic abuse. Couples have arguments. All the time they wouldnt be normal if they didnt. Until you actually see physical abuse keep your nose on your face.
These comments are ridiculous. The poster including you dont know if its actually domestic abuse. Your all assuming. Couples argue all the time some do it louder than others doesn’t mean its domestic abuse. This sticking your noses in other people business is cuz ya have nothing better to do. Look at your own lives because no one has a perfect life. Eventhough in FB world people pretend that it is.
So basically you be calling on noise disturbance. Stop assuming get actual facts to something before embarrassing a couple over having a disagreement.
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Keep calling but try to record so the police can hear what is going on and they don’t think your just a crazy neighbour!
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From someone who’s been in an abusive relationship the girl is probably covering her boyfriends ass because she “loves” him, she will not reach out for help sometimes if it means getting that person in trouble, it’s hard when you’re so madly in love with someone, you’ll lie to the police or anyone to be honest, she will only get help when she wants to, honestly if I hadn’t kicked out my ex & let shit happen the way they did id probably still be in that horrific spot with that person, you can warn them & tell them to leave, but they won’t until they’re ready… as sad as that is it’s true…
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Please whatever you do DO NOT call cps! The whole system is messed up. She will lose her kid ):
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Call the cops but do not call cps! They are allowed to do a lot more than you think.
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Domestic abuse survivor here. I stayed for 7 years. Got my arse handed to me 3x a week. I was stuck. More than likely she feels stuck. No friends and no family that can help. Careful how you tread here. Stop by and ask if she wants to do play dates with the kiddos. Don’t push to hard, Be a friend she can go to. But I’ll for-warn you. Depending how controlled she is, If you are to pushy she will pull back. Be an outlet. Yes keep calling the cops. Don’t tell her you are the one calling. She WILL pull away from you and she will tell him you are the one calling. Honestly getting kicked out won’t make her situation better. She won’t leave until she is ready. When she is ready to talk and deal with it, Have OFP papers ready to go. If they are not married, may need to go for a restraining order. Depending on your state laws. Completely filled out so all she needs to do is date them. I’ll say from experience it’s only a piece of paper and won’t stop him. But that piece of paper gives the police the ability to do something. Do not put yourself in harms way. Look up the laws of your state. My state allowed him to do whatever he wanted until I had the OFP. (Gotta protect their rights). Thank you for having the balls to keep pushing for her. These things are usually ignored. Seek out info from her, family. Sisters or brothers. Parents. Get this info and save it. So when the time comes you have a plan. More than likely she won’t have a plan and don’t tell her about it. On the good days a victim will reveal things without knowing they are revealing things. The day I left. I left with my two boys and all their possessions, in my little car. I took nothing. When she is there, she will be able to leave. If she leaves before she is ready, she will go back and it will only give him more power. He will know parts of the plan if she isn’t ready to stick to the plan. He will also block you out as a friend of hers if he knows you are a point of strength. Don’t give him that. And my goodness make sure you have (I utilize my 2nd amendment) protection at your door. Bear spray or wasp spray can reach 20’. And these items can be set on a shelf high up where your kiddo can’t reach them. And no permit required. I carry my firearm everywhere with me. Checking mail, grocery shopping, mowing lawn. I am no longer a victim or an enabler, I behave as a past victim, I am prepared. My process took me four years, and 16 OFP violations which became felonies after he violated 3 times. He spent three more years in prison for these violations. And to this day if I let the OFP expire, he would show up at my door. He has buried two women since me. As recently as a month and a half ago. He will never be charged, he will never pay for what he did. And I know that one day we will find out how good I am with my sidearm. But I now have 165lb English Mastiff and a 65lb Pitbull to slow him down, while I take the safety off my firearm. She needs to be mentally ready to do what she needs to do, or it won’t get done.
Don’t stop calling!!!
Pls keep calling you might save the lives of them
You can keep calling but it’s all in the hands of the couple. If she is getting abused, she’s going to have to be the one to press charges in order for the police to actually step in and help otherwise they can’t do anything.
My down stairs neighbor saved my life. I was getting beat up by my ex on the regular. One day she heard it and called the cops. They showed up right after the fight and I still had finger marks around my neck from him choking me. I actually tried to lie and cover for him. They didn’t believe me. He went to jail. I escaped. Moved and never had contact again. He’s currently serving 15 years for a similar situation with another female. PLEASE KEEP CALLING. 
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I dealt with that while back, I couldn’t call the cops because my building only has 2 apartments, one up one down(used to be a huge house) but laying in our bed at night I knew the girl was getting beat on, if I called the cops the neighbor would come flashing a gun and we were petrified. The guys used to threaten to throw the girl off the top balcony and it used to sound like wwe up there I felt so bad but was terrified and couldn’t help
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Don’t call cps. They don’t help and only make things worse on the victim and the children. Normally they will take the child(s) away. She needs help, she doesn’t need to lose more like a child in the process. Reach out to her. Become friends with her. Help her.
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Offer her and her son sanctuary if you can until she gets on her feet if money is an issue for her? Honestly that goes a long way trust me and try to be a friend to her
Coming from someone who was victim of domestic violence, please keep calling the cops, although they can’t do anything if both partners say there is nothing wrong, it shows their behaviour is drawing attention, als if police did see or hear something, they will call child services, if the child looked to be hurt or in danger id call child services, but if hes out at the park happy to play, with no obvious injuries or issues, I wouldn’t be calling child services, as that can make a horrible situation alot worse, reach out to her, offer her over for a coffee, or both of them while your hubby is home, she may just need a friend and a bit of help.
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I always say when in doubt, reach out. Those in a domestic violence situation wont open up so if u see something concerning or something u feel is off or different or the fighting persists downstairs call. Call and request a welfare check based on the loud disturbances and fear domestic violence is occurring.
Video the sounds and call the cops.
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Please continue to call. Every single time!
Don’t ever stop calling…you may end up being her saving grace. No matter how discouraged you may become please just keep calling.
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CPS IS NOT A FRIENDLY FACE IN SOMEONES LIFE. Next time u hear shit, RECORD IT! Even if its just audio, at least u will have the proof of what u been calling about.
And my ex once told me that there is a big difference between being a snitch and calling the cops and doing their job for them and being a victim and being scared for your fucking life. I’m not going to lie I have been aggressor in the past. But I’ve also been that victim where I was so scared to close my eyes I didn’t know if I would ever open them again. It’s a very very sticky situation which could be looked at both ways. But at the end of the day NOBODY has the right to or should be making someone fear for their life. Next time you see this woman find a way to slip her a note let her know that if she needs help you’re right upstairs. I say keep calling, she may not be able to get to the phone to save herself. BUT FOR THE LOVE OF EVERYTHING…DO NOT CALL CPS
Don’t call cps!!! That’s more harm than needed… I would reach out to the landlord not as a complaint but a concern!!! Maybe the landlord can talk with her to see what’s going on and see if shes needing any help to get away from him!!! At this point calling the cops isn’t doing anything but wasting their time!!! If she getting abused the only one that can fix it is her… If she stays thats on her… You can’t force someone who doesn’t want help to get help if that makes sense… But definitely speak with your landlord be sure to let her know it’s not a complaint just a concern for her and her child…
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OMG you realize this could make it so much worse for her… honey. Please do research on this. There’s a right way to do it. DON’T call cps, call cops each time. Ask them to come to your house when you’re hearing it for extended times that way they hear it too. Record things but keep them safe. Literally women get killed when people try to pull them out of unknown DV situations.
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Keep calling the cops.
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Keep calling 911.You may save her and her kid.
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Being through that myself. Calling cps or cops isn’t going to change anything. Until SHE IS READY TO LEAVE HIM. And calling the cops and cps will just make the issue worse. I can’t speak for her. But I know it made it worse for me
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Keep calling the cops. Just tell them that you’ve called multiple times before and you’re concerned. Tell them to try listening at the door before knocking to see if they can actually hear something. Also write a slip of paper that says your name, phone number and simply “I’m here to help or text me anytime, I’m here” and slip it to her at one point. She will make the decision to do it if she feels it’s safe. I’ve been there and it’s scary and very hard to reach out
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As someone who also went through domestic violence, don’t stop calling. One day she’ll realize her worth and she will tell them what’s going on.
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Cops aren’t there to protect us anymore find a domestic violence center nearest you and contact them.
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How about you ask her for a park date.
Maybe it’s not domestic and mental health instead. We never really know what happens behind closed doors
But good for you for having a heart and caring not many would
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I was like that woman. My X would insist on getting his way andcwhen I think said, no, foughtvwith me because telling him,no, meant, to him, that Ibwantedvto play rough and fight. No one called the cops or ever did anything to try to help. I had to deal with his abuse in my own. I finally had enough and moved out but not until he became so abusuve I Nd my children lived 2 months without enough food in the house and he ate outv3 to 4 times a day and came home yellingbhexwas starving and for me to fix him a meal after bragging about how much hevhad just eaten.
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Record it and call the cops.
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Next time you see her ask for a talk. Move out of ear reach and ask. Don’t make small talk, just ask nicely. Don’t call CPS until you know for sure the kids are in danger. You might cause more harm than good.
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You need to try to make friends with her and build up her trusted in you then you can get her to talk to you about what is going on
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How about mind your own business.
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Record it all so there’s proof it’s happening
It’s not cool calling the law with what you think may be going on…my ex neighbor called the cops 3 times about domestic violence at my place… Thing is there was no kind of violence at all and caused a lot of unnecessary stuff to happen for no reason at all but her not minding her own business… Stay out of it…
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She desperately needs help i wish I lived there so I could do what the police should have done multiple times!
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I would try to talk to her, be her friend.
You’ll be able to find out what’s really happening, she’ll have a good support friend if something is happening, and you could gain a life long friend
I wouldn’t keep calling at this point, if it becomes too much then if contact your local DV support group and see what you should do as a by-stander
It’s like a circle of people watching in on a bully picking on the small person in the class - are you gonna stand there cowardly or are you going to do something about it? People who tell you to mind your own business were clearly the cowards during the bully circle. We don’t teach our kids to be quiet when they see something going on, we need to be role models about it too.
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As a Domestic Violence Abuse Survivor that almost died, I appreciate you calling the cops but please stop. This is a dangerous situation for her and you calling the cops makes it even more dangerous… Go knock on her door during the day and speak with her with resources. Help her escape. She will either choose to leave or stay with him and leave when she’s ready or dead. Hate to put it that way but we are brainwashed and have low self esteem and confidence plus scared.
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My sister has been in an abusive relationship for 20+ years and nothing we say or do to help her does anything. She refuses to leave him. I commend you for wanting to help but honestly I wouldn’t waste my time. Please don’t come for me this is just based on my personal experience with dealing with my sister. It’s sad but true. 
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Cps will just remove the child I would get women shelter information and resources from them in paper form and give them to her when you know he’s not around as well as DV phone numbers 
law enforcement can’t do anything unless they can prove DV happens with proof ! Other wise she can’t just choose not to press charges …. And no one goes to jail 
either way it’s a crap spot to be in for you because their isn’t a lot of help or resources cps isn’t a good road either they have been sued millions of times for placing children in foster care ect that’s worse then where they removed them from they have been known to place children with register sex offers and then after multiple report of that it took over a year for them to remove the child !! While parents lost contact to even protect or help their child !!
This is very well know for them to do more harm then good !!!
They will turn on you…that is what happen to me…when i tried to help a neighbor…They protect there abuser…Just help the child call cps…Stay safe…
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Slip her a hand written note … but find resources to help get out
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please read my reply to Lindsey Briones
“Minding your own business” is exactly why so many crimes happen. You are heartless
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Cps? Dude u don’t even know what’s going on and u wanna call cps?
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Wow what a tough situation…some women/men are just too scared to reach for help
Befriend her! I wouldn’t call the cops out of fear that it could complicate things more for her. Be her safe space, she could probably use one and help her understand that what’s going on is not normal no matter what he tells her. Find a women’s resource center and give her the information for it. You can’t make her leave but if she has support it could greatly help her make the right choice.
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Just plz be her friend and let her know that you care about her and have her back any time that she needs it.
And then don’t say anything more about it unless she brings it up.
I was in an abusive relationship for about 4 years.
I didn’t tell anyone about it bc I didn’t want my (then) husband to go to jail or to even have ppl look at him differently.
I truly did believe that I deserved it a lot of the time.
The cops were called a few times by neighbors but I always told them that there was no abuse. Mostly bc I knew that admitting to the abuse would lead to CPS showing up at my house. And I didn’t want to risk losing my children.
I also never admitted to the abuse bc I knew that that would just be one more reason for him to beat me.
I considered leaving many times but could never do it bc I knew that legally I couldn’t take my step kids with me and I just wasn’t willing to leave them behind.
But I also didn’t have any friends that I felt like I could talk to about it.
I’m sure that if I had had that it would’ve helped a lot.
So… Just be that friend for her.
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Your assuming a lot. You only know so much. Concern for the child is a real one. Don’t get overly involved. Do call if it continues or escallates
The best thing you can do is reach out to her and talk to her yourself, calling the cops or cps won’t change anything they’ll both act like nothing is happening. It’s a sad situation for her son, I remember my mom became friends with the neighbor at one of the apartments we lived at and everytime her and my stepdad would start screaming at eachother we would walk next door and they would turn on cartoons for us. Maybe just let her know you’ve got her back if she ever needs you, I’m sure she would feel somewhat relieved.
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Befriend her. Keep calling the cops. Gather some local information on women shelters and help out there for when she’s ready to leave u can hand it to her or help her. When she is ready she may reach out to u if she trusts you. If she’s not ready, she won’t leave no matter what u do. You both have children so that’s a good way to become closer to her when your kids play together.
Does the guy leave when the cops show up? I know in my case others calling them was the only break I had, even if I wouldn’t admit what was happening just them showing up was enough for him to run off for a day or two to avoid being questioned or arrested.
Even though I lived through this hell I truely think if someone had called cps on the situation id have left sooner, that’s just me the reasoning I had for staying is my kids weren’t being hit at the time so if cos showed up at my door I’d have been scared and left sooner… that’s just my situation but that’s how it was for me.
Know that if he’s hitting her chances are he’s either hurting the kid(s) or will in the future, I lied when he put a knife to my throat and a gun in my mouth I lied away the bruises and I get it. I would just start talking to her, casually like you would any other neighbor that your friendly with slowly get into asking her if she’s okay if things are okay tell her if anything ever happens she can always come upstairs and you won’t let anything happen to her or her kids. My neighbors saved me alot because I felt safe with them, but again this is my opinion and situation it’s not always the case obviously.
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Many women are afraid to leave and decide to stay on a abusive relationship because they feel they don’t have a support system to help them make it on their own. Collect as much info as you can about help for housing, financial help or counseling for abuse victims in your local area and if you have a chance to talk to her alone offer this to her. Unfortunately as much as you would love to help her get out of this situation at the end she will have to make this decision herself. I am a domestic violence survivor and I know first hand how difficult of a decision this is specially when there’s kids in the home but for them as well is the best thing to do, just pray for her to get strength to make it out if it.
There is definitely a specific way to go about this situation. Unfortunately, law can make it worse. Sounds like they know their rights hence not answering the door. I would not go to law enforcement but as others have said when you know she is absolutely alone with no one around especially possible abuser offer her resources but you have to be careful. I would look up specific ways to do so without leaving your footprint because if abuser come across a handwritten note or resources that are clearly for help that could also escalate a situation
Call for a wellness check next time it happens. She may be too terrified to try and hint to the police but with a wellness check, they won’t leave until they’ve talked to her alone and are satisfied shes really safe, especially if there’s a child involved
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Call CPS and ask for advice as far as the child welfare goes, you should continue calling the cops if you feel they are not doing their job. Ask to speak to the watch commander and let him know that what’s going on and how you’ve been calling with no results. They both need help so please keep calling.
I would befriend her to a limit! Don’t say any abt the situation because she may back and tell him. Don’t put yourself in harms way and continue to call the cops!! Don’t call CPS on her because you have seen nothing to prove this 100% and her child may be all she has to keep pushing…
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Try to record the screaming and commotion. But I would continue calling the cops until something is done.
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Keep calling. Try to be her friend… I been the person who was to scared to call and who couldn’t answer door. Keep calling
Calling CPS will cost her, her child. They view it as failure to protect. Even if we can’t protect ourselves 
Been there. They do not offer resources nor do they help at all.
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I think it’s a good thing that you want to help…but talking for someone who has been where she is …you might just be making things worse for her…As far as you trying to Be her friend…she might Not be aloud to have friends… Her child just might be the only reason she hasn’t killed herself yet…and If they take her child…
If you know anything about domestic abuse, the Most dangerous time is when you try to leave…
MOST of the time the Police can do NOTHING, they stand there and ask you if your being abused…If you say Yes, you will live to regret it, it will be 10 times worse…he may go to jail for a night but SOMEONE if not you will bail him out…There are No easy answears.
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DO NOT keep calling the cops. Don’t keep call cps!.
May cause more harm. Record it. Keep records of it. Have a cop come to YOU!. When you hear it. So they can listen to it all. Then go over if needed to. If she lies. He’d know already she is.
Or safest thing would be a domestic volience place for women near you!!. Cops make things worse. Stir things up.
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I would just reach out to her. You’re making a lot of assumptions here, but as someone who went through years in a DV relationship, I wish someone would have cared. Even a little. I was alone and trapped.
Honestly? Reach out. Just be her friend. It could be nothing, it could be something she needs help out of. You will never truly know just speculating as a neighbor
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I am speechless at the moment because I became completely disabled from DV.
My MRI shows a lot of permanent damage to my body.
Although I am against DCFS getting involved!
I had family to protect my child.
It’s up to you love. Please be safe and do not ever forget that you are beautiful and amazing!
Do not cheat yourself with less?
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Hey, i get ehy ppl are saying dont call the cops or CPS HOWEVER there is a child suffering and seeing and hearing things that he shouldnt. he is literally a baby. do what is right for that baby. He needs to br in a safe and stable environment. The mom also needs a wake up call and a reason to grt away from that man. its not about the parents anymore, its about thr child. Try to help the litte boy, because that is traumatic and extremely toxic and harmful enviroment tynat he is in.
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If I were you I would move. Get as far away as you can and keep your new address private. DV situations are EXTREMELY dangerous. Once you are far away you can continue to advocate for her and her child but I do not think you should put yourself and soon to be child in the middle of this. If he chases her to your apt? If you hear something you shouldn’t have? If he views you as the only person alerting the cops or CPS? You can help her, but make yourself safe first please.
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Don’t call cps they will remove the child even if she is the victim… keep calling the cops whenever you hear it and hopefully soon she’ll get the help she needs… maybe try to catch her when he’s gone and ask if she needs help
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Options that come to mind:
- Physically stop in to the nearby police station and ask what resources they have available for you, you are also a victim of this.
- Contact local domestic violence center and see what can be done to intervene.
- We are ALL mandatory reporters when it comes to those who are too young to speak for themselves. An angry adult can lose all control and anything/anyone in his/her path will receive the brunt. If you don’t report and it is discovered you did nothing than you are held accountable.
Good luck!
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Call CPS if there up to the wee hours maybe there doing drugs also.
First, thank you for your compassion. You are absolutely doing the right thing by calling the police. It’s not fair to the child, the mother or you to be put in that situation. Do what you can, but be safe! I was also pregnant while hearing and seeing my neighbor beat his wife. It was traumatic for me as well. Keep calling, if nothing else you are stopping it at that moment and you don’t have to listen to it. I’m so sorry you are going through this.
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Call the police, remain anonymous! I am a domestic abuse survivor & I would have loved and wished the downstairs neighbors called the cops! Now as a published author who does advocacy work with victims/survivors, we ALL wished someone would call so we could be safe.
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I used to hear a man hitting his child because he wet the bed. It was horrible and here I am, 40 years later, remembering it like it was yesterday. I called the police each time I heard it and NOTHING was ever done. I often wonder how that poor child is today. Keep calling anyone and everyone. Someone needs to make sure the authorities are aware. I agree with a previous writer. It would be smart for you to leave. Find a safer place for you and your family.
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She has to have enough supports around her…be kind to her, try to find something in common…the more people around her may encourage her to ask for help…not a professional…just a man with opinion…
Maybe next time you see her say “Hey, I’m here for you anytime you need anything.” Tell her she’s beautiful and let her know she is not alone!!
There’s not much you can do if she is able to pretend it’s not happening. Until she is ready to leave, she won’t. But its ok to offer a safe place for her to come to if she ever decides to.
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I would try to get know the woman, invite her around for a cup of tea, get her to open up, and she will when she feels safe, then she might find the strength to make some serious desisions.
Call CPS. They will check it out
Call CPS. They will HAVE to do a welfare call. And if you’re afraid, dont worry its suppose to be anonymous.
if she is not willing to do anything. There is nothing anyone can do to help her. You can not force someone to get help. Maybe she grew up in a home where domestic violence was the norm so she doesn’t see herself in a domestic violence situation.
I would call the police or CPS. My past relationship was very toxic & he was abusive in every way. I would pray that somebody with authority would do something about it or at least scare him if that makes sense. He had made a threat to me & my son had over heard at the time. He was in Kindergarten or 1st grade. Regardless, he told this story to somebody at school the next day as a regular conversation. They called CPS anonymously. Idk who it is & I never cared anymore honestly. Of coarse this was sickening at first when I got the call saying they would have to do a check because they can’t tell you what it’s about. When they arrived at my home the next day for the meeting they informed me that he had shared the specific story & they were concerned for both of us. It was resolved in less then a weeks time & the lady had advised me that he should no longer be around me or my child. The meeting was very concerning to him since I had made previous police reports in the past. Shortly after he left the house one day & I never let him back in & ended our relationship after 11 years. It was a blessing in disguise & I’m thankful for whoever the person was who cared enough to know that was not normal stories coming from my 6 year old 
Now for all of you telling her to mind her own business. How would you feel if it was you and he ended up killing the wife and child and you could’ve done something to prevent it? Could you yourself live knowing that you could have tried but didnt and now they were dead… hmmm I don’t think so…
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Wait for the husband to leave and go knock on her door and tell her you don’t mean to pry or get in her business but you wanted her to know if she ever needs help that she can always knock on your door since you hear “everything”(she hopefully will understand what you mean by that) and just ask her if everything is ok or if she needs any help, if she says everything’s alright then leave it at that because she’s not gonna accept help till she’s ready to leave the relationship.
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shes probably awkward around you because you keep calling the cops on her. imagine every time you raise your voice the cops are at your door. youre in an apartment, they can probably hear you guys and your footsteps as well. if you feel that compelled to involve yourself, then like others have said introduce yourself, try to be friends and let her come to you. but quit calling the cops and cps. you have no idea what is actually going on. what if this woman is laying her hands on her husband? has that occurred to you? mind your business and if/when she asks you to, then you step in and do what you can to help.
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Maybe you could write her a note and tell her you are worried about her and you are willing to help if you can
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You may want to reach out to a local domestic violence resource center and tell them what is happening. They may be able to speak with this woman. Also, keep calling the police at least it establishes some sort of history.
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I wouldn’t call cps unless you think the child is being abused , because if by chance they remove the child things could spiral he could beat her badly or kill her, she could become so depressed she harms herself, and many other things. However if you have a woman’s shelter or woman’s outreach center in your city please reach out to them they will have resources and ideas and also if she needs out they can help with that to. They also have domestic violence counselors and classes for victims of domestic violence, I had a counselor and took the classes, and by going to the women’s shelter or women’s outreach there go is to keep the mother and children together and safe, while cfs does not care about anyone except the child and will remove the child and then make it very hard for the mother to get back. Or if you see her again you could try talk to her ask her if she’s OK tell her you don’t wanna overstep but if she needs help your willing to help her.
Being a women of an abusive past relationship stop calling the cops you might be making it worse for her. Try to build a friendship with her make her a dish to take or cookies build a safe bond and let her know your place is open to her and her son. Don’t get cps involved they will take her son and that might be the only reason he hasn’t killed her or hit her is because of the child. Try to help by being there when she asks for it. Calling the cops you may think you’re helping but it could be making it way worse for her than you know.
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I would try and build a relationship with her. Keep notes. Bless you for worrying.
I tried to help a woman once. All it got me was threatened by a pimp. And I promise cops and detectives are no help in this situation. It’s sad you have to hear all this going down while you’re pregnant but there are women who just don’t want help. If you must do something I’d look into the other things people are taking about like churches before calling the cops again.