I just found OUT MY HUSBAND CHEATED. Literally he is at the girls house right at this very second. I pinged his phone after finding messages on his “broken phone”. His other phone is still connected to it and I’m seeing allllll their texts. Apparently this has been going on for YEARS AND SHES MY FRIEND. I’m not thinking rational… but what should I do!?!?! Help me. I’m soooooo pissed and upset.
Sorry Cheating is zero tolerance at this house. He would get home to his shit in the yard and the locks changed. The next week he would be served with divorce papers. For me it is just something I cannot forgive no matter how much I love him. My husband and I also discussed this while dating so he is aware it is not something I am willing to live with in a marriage. It would be bad for all involved. I can forgive and move on but I cant forget and live with it… Just not who I am. That being said only you can make that choice. I know people who forgive indescresions over and over again and seem fine with it. not for me. My mom taught me once a cheater, always a cheater… It only gets easier after the first time. Good luck and I am sorry you are going through this.
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. What would you do if you found out your husband cheated?
I’d leave. Byeeeeeee
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I’d pack my bags and be out 
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Go there! Rational? Ehhh idk but he can’t deny it if you show up lol
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Do you provide also or is he sole provider?
Confront both of them about their phone texts etc. Sadly she’s not a friend.
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I’d pack and go -
Remember there is no such thing a home wrecker - your husband let the woman in his life.
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Calm and quick as you can - make a plan to leave and LEAVE.
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Throw all his stuff out the door
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First she’s not your friend second get ready for anything and confront him
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While he’s gone, pack your stuff & leave. OR have his stuff sitting out side 
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I would call her up and act normal then have his bags packed when he got home
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Be gone when he gets home.
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when my ex-husband cheated, he got hit with divorce paperwork 
. cheaters don’t deserve second chances
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My ex husband cheated so if my current husband cheated I’d change the locks, transfer his mail to his mother’s and file for a divorce.
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I’d personally show up if shes your friend but that’s me & I’d leave his ass so fast.
Change the locks and put his stuff outside
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I’d be packing his stuff and change locks. His shit would be on the porch.
or I’d leave
Go to her house and drop off his clothes and leave and change your locks on your house while he’s gone. Send her a congratulations on her new relationship.
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I threw mine out and got a divorce. No regrets.
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Put his stuff outside waiting for him when he gets home! He can go live with her✌️ETA-She was NEVER your friend, BOTH of them are at fault, him for letting her think she had a chance and her for being with him knowing that he was married! Sorry, I don’t just blame one in this situation🤷🏻♀️
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Show up where he is and prove it with video 
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Leave, also don’t do anything you’ll regret later on. Pack and on your way.
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Put his stuff outside and change the locks and all the codes and cut his debit card and credit cards off.
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Document everything!!!
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Kick his ass to the curb
Walk away. You deserve better.
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I’d take his stuff to her house and leave it on the front step
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I would pack all his stuff and drop if off at her house
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First, take the phone with the proof for that divorce. Second, pack his shit and place it in the car. Third, drive to her house and leave it in her yard. Fourth, go home change the locks and have some wine. Be grateful you dodged the bullet of being with a piece of garbage forever 
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Have all of his shit waiting on the front door for him with a note -Hope she was worth it …
Get rid. Broken trust from both husband and friend.
Take copies of all that evidence and nail his a$$ to the wall
That would be the end for me. I would box up what he needs for the next few days and contact a lawyer immediately. He wouldn’t spend another night under my roof.
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Knock Knock! Surprise!
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SHOW UP so they both can’t deny it. Collect evidence while he is gone to have in court.
Keep all the evidence if you’re married and just leave or make him leave… It isn’t worth it to fight… He’ll be the sorry one in the end!
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Honey you feel everything you need to and you leave. You deserve more.
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Drive there and wait in the driveway for when he leaves
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I just filed for absolute divorce today 
Take pictures of the messages. Then pack his shit while he’s there.
I’d pack HIM and settle in by myself. I’m so sorry for you, what a kick in the guts 
Don’t do anything hunny it’s hurtful but you need to stack money and set yourself up to where you aren’t going to be without just in case. Empty y’all’s account if you have one if you are gonna end up moving or simply take his stuff and tell him your filling for a divorce.
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Contact an attorney now, and call all the local ones because they won’t take him as a client if you’ve contacted them because it’s conflict of interest… Been there done that
Id be putting the cunts collar and lead on nice and firm and tying him too her letterbox,
I’d show up and record for proof.
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If you need to set stuff up first to get assest or money do that first and play it cool. Then leave or kick his ass out.
If no kids - leave, print the messages and leave em on the counter and be gone
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Screenshot everything for court
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Take all his stuff to her house and change the locks. Hes gotta go!
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Throw his ass out or leave or deal with him doing it
Either pack his stuff or yours. Be done with both of them. They will both try to come back saying it’s a misunderstanding or try to gaslight you into keeping them in their lives but you have to be strong bc when they do it once they will do it again.
Yeah once a cheater always one. I’d quickly start planning my exit strategy and follow through.
I would show up there lol…and save all those texts for when you divorce.
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Walk away - take your things and stuff you don’t want destroyed while you take time for yourself figure things out.
Leave…? File for divorce…? 
either he leaves or you do… closure isn’t real. Pack your stuff and leave while he is still over there. Leave a note “tell (friend name) I said hey” 
I’d send him a text with some pictures of those texts and tell him that he can just stay where he’s at she’ll be taking care of him from now on.
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He’s hers now. She can have his non faithful ass!! Move on with your life and show that MF what he’s missing!!
First of all she’s not your friend
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Pack his stuff sit it outside or drop it off outside her house even better and change your locks while he’s gone sorry you’re going through it
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Or I’d pack all his stuff up and randomly throw the clothes in her yard.
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Keep on going like all is fine and dandy, go see an attorney in secrecy and keep all the proof, depending on where you live, you can probably get everything and you can likely sue your friend for alienation of affection. Rock their world sis….
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Pack his shit and put it outside
I’d be purchasing the tomb stones.
He’d have divorce papers being the only thing left in the house when he got back 
Transfer all joint funds into a separate account in your name alone. Keep the phone with proof. And get an attorney. You deserve better
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Get his stuff and knock her door and leave it there. Send urself screenshots of the convo so u have proof. Good luck xx
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I’d have all of his stuff in bags out on the front porch waiting for him when he got home
Pack his stuff or pack your stuff and wash your hands of it. I’m so sorry that happened to you I would be losing it
If possible act oblivious while you gather evidence but above all get tested for (you know whats), sorry
Change the locks and block them on everything…you’re better off without either of them. You got this girl!!
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You still consider her your friend? Smh
Confront them both just so they’re aware that you know.
Take pictures, lots of pictures & screenshots of their messages.
Divorce will hit him hard!
Show up there right now
Go knock on her door
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Do you have a job? If so, pack up and leave. Don’t say a word. If not, still don’t say anything and secretly save up some money and leave when you have enough money.
Unfortunately I’m irrational I’d show up to where they are and lay on the horn out front… however rationally document everything and leave. Let him have all the reminders of the home you built and feel guilty while you find better for yourself.
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Keep copies of all the evidence so you can take him for all he’s got. Call a locksmith and get the locks changed, Then, pack his shit up and drop it at her door.
I’d send a text right now with the screenshots and tell him to come pack his shit
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Text him telling said “friend” you said Hello and just LEAVE.
Document everything. Don’t delete or get rid of that. Get a divorce make him pay for it get what you can’t out that is of value you to you and dip. Leave run. Don’t let him waste anymore of your life
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Ok listen hind sight is 20/20 so my advice. Don’t do anything, but start moving slowly and pay all your deposits and get your own place set up before you end your marriage I messed up and I lost everything by flipping out Stay calm I know it’s hard. Make your moves slowly and quietly and when you are set up then let him know you know. Also print out those text messages before they disappear.
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Pack his shit and change the locks before he gets home.
Whatever you do, do not let anything get physical. You want to look good in court when it comes to divorce, and especially custody if you have kids. So don’t give him any ammunition by getting violent with him or the girl, ok?
I’m very sorry. I know you’re hurting and your world is spinning, but contact an attorney immediately, find out what you need to do, and do it. Good luck. 
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Nothing. Don’t do, say, act until you’re calm and rational.
I’m so sorry.
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Leave and take his pos ass for everything u can get
Throw his shit out sis and burn your bridges with them both 
you got this babe 
I’d burn all his stuff in her garden leave him.only with the clothes on his back.
Take screenshots/pics for your own phone, and leave
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Save the texts and file for divorce
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Gather as much proof as you can for your divorce and then split
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Start packing his shit and have it on the porch for him when he gets back
Be smart and gather yourself
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First and foremost…. She is not your friend. !!! Pack his belongings and let him go.
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It happened to me don’t do anything stupid. Take a deep breath. If you still love them discuss it with him and let him know it cannot go on if you were to stay together. You can forgive him for this I know it’s hard but if you really love them marriages can be saved
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Throw the whole ass man away and leave.
Divorce f him, I wouldn’t even let him get the best of you. If he did that he don’t love you or have respect. Just be done , walk away be strong 
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If you don’t have kids together. I’d pack my stuff and just leave. If you do, then I’d pack his things and leave them by the door. He can go stay at her house while you get things in order for a divorce and such. If this has been going on for that long, there is no going back. If it was a one time thing mayyybee I would consider working through it. He obviously doesn’t care that he cheated since he has been doing it for so long.
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Screenshot everything!!!
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