Show up to her house with his clothes drop them off (do NOT FIGHT ANYONE) and send him a screenshot of it so that way he knows whats up keep everything in evidence and get a divorce!!!
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Divorce his ass cut them both out of your life
I think you should go on Facebook and ask a shit ton of strangers what to do 
Pack his stuff and put it on the porch.
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Change your locks, take screenshots of everything, go to the bank and get some money out and DO NOT let him back in!
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Let her have him. They deserve each other.
I’d be taking a surprise visit to my "friends " house.
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Post it all online 
they can find out you know from everyone else. Wait until everything is set though then let them fly. Also, you don’t want them writing the narrative. Tell everyone the truth before they make up the truth.
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Nothing you pack his shit and be done
Do not say anything to him start saving your money make him think you do not know anything but get your ducks in a row but I would not move till you are completely ready mentally and financially do not dwell on start doing things for you then by the time you have your ducks in a row if you can afford to pay him half the equity good if not then let him do the moving and you start looking
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Please make every effort to keep your wits about you. They are not worth you getting into trouble by committing a “crime of passion.” You are hurting, but one day you will be grateful he’s out of your life. Lean on your family/friends and don’t do anything impulsive. Once you are calm enough, consult an attorney and get your ducks in a row. Good luck. Hugs 
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its always the friends, i dont understand why more women are not loyal to their friends, go find your own man “friends”!!
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I’d be over there whooping some ass!
Ugh that’s terrible I’m sorry your having to go threw this it’s truly the worst most betraying feeling in the world can make everything you thought were doing right all feel wrong. Take some time for yourself. It’s going to be hard for awhile unti you come to terms with what you’re going to do. 
Take a deep breath, calm down and then make your plans.
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PRINT OUT ALL THOSE TEXT MESSAGES!! Use them in court against him. Change the locks, pull out money from the bank. And also drop off his stuff at the girls house. Let that be her problem
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Lock the door and tell him you’ll forward his mail to her address 
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Pack up all your shit, kids shit, move away without saying a word, take him to court for EVERYTHING.
First pack then go there
Speak to a lawyer before you do anything
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Empty his account 
then put his shit out
Get your ducks in a row before you confront him. Move money out of joint bank accounts into a new account in your name only. Change the beneficiary on any insurance plans from him to a child or sibling. Screenhot or save to YOUR phone any and all texts between them and print them out, you’ll need at least 2 copies. Consult a lawyer for further advice. Ask me how I know…
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Show up and show out at her house. Bring a bag of his shit and tell her she can have them them lawyer up and divorce
First off, act like you don’t know anything. Get yourself some money and get contacts with power to save your butt. Then prepare for the worst and get what you need to get a divorce and away from him. Make sure you have plenty of evidence to back you up in court. Good luck to you.
I packed up all mines stuff up and kept sending him links to apartments that I thought he could afford because none of his family would take him in until his sister finally broke down and let him live with her until he could find his own place. Took 3 months to get him out and her another 6 months.
Be the bigger person…let her have the cheating bastard. Pick yourself up and get a lawyer, don’t fight with them or argue. He’ll cheat on her too. Start a new life and find someone worthy of your time and love.
Get a lawyer. End of story.
Don’t even waste your breath. Just go. Silence says a lot more than words sometimes. Let them have each other’s nasty selves.
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Don’t say anything, consult a lawyer!
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I’d show up at the “friends” house
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Pack his crap sit it outside and change all locks .
Get an attorney tomorrow morning make sure it’s one of the best and he can’t use them
Take all you’re money out of bank ( if y’all have a joint account do that now . )
Cancel credit cards debit cards that have both names on them
Then go by her house like you’re going to go visit and take pics of his car being there .
I would talk to her see what her story is . And tell her she’s not a good friend at all
If y’all have kids together file for full custody . I went through this for 15 years they never change and it gets worse they tell you they will but they don’t .
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Get your locks changed, empty your bank account of cash and stocks, and open a new one at a different bank, and by all means, get a lawyer. Sue her for alienation of affection. One lady did that, and won a large amount of money! I mention that bank account because my sisters ex did that before she filed for divorce after learning he had fathered a child with his minor girlfriend!
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I’m so sorry 
I’ve been through it myself. The other person was not my friend, but it hurt alot knowing alot of my friends and relatives knew and didn’t tell me. Change the locks on your home and leave a bag of his clothes outside. File for divorce and get child support and alimony. If you have a pastor you can talk to, go see him and get into therapy. You’ll be ok. Sending prayers.
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Don’t say anything. Start saving and get on your feet. When your ready change the locks and put his stuff out the front of her place.
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Have a plan before you do anything!!!
You can’t change the locks on him as the house is half his right now. So that’s out. Going and causing a scene won’t work either because she can call the law on you and that would cause you more problems in the end. Just stay as quiet as you can while you get your priorities in order for your and your kids future. Print your evidence and take to an attorney. It’s going to cost a pretty penny for a divorce. Put financing in place especially if you have kids together. Get out from under anything that is joint as quietly as you can or he will try and stick it to you (even in the divorce they still try) save your money and put in a different bank and send all private mail to a P.O. Box so he doesn’t know. Be prepared for a crap ton of excuses and apologies from both parties. (It’s a mental game to them) As much as it is hurting you right now, be the smarter person and PLAN what you are going to do.
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Change the locks and throw his shit on the lawn.
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First, please dont fo anything thst can get you hurt or in trouble with the law. Please. Gather your bearings, and honestly hun just let him go. Do not talk to him. And tell him, if anything needs to be duscussed tell him you’ll speak to him with a divorce attorney present.
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If you’re planning to divorce after this get yourself a good lawyer. Save all those text messages and proof you got. Sorry you are going through this.
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Let them have each other and walk away
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Don’t talk to either of them about it yet. Call a lawyer and get a case for divorce started. Make sure you have some money. Drain all the accounts you have access to before he does.
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Mine cheated after almost 27yrs. I left his sorry self
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Pretend you know nothing. Go to all the best attorneys in town for a consultation on divorce. Start pulling money from joint accounts and putting it in a completely different bank or keep the cash. Tell no one you know right now. Good luck
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I think you need to cut him some slack…mistaken identity…
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Lol I’d get banned if I said it.
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Honestly?? I told my husband from the start of our relationship that if he ever cheats or hits me, I’m gone! But I know he’d never do either of those things.
I’m so sorry this happened to you 
Definitely take your money from any joint accounts. End this marriage.
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Get pics, all the proof you can get. Start getting all your other affairs in order, hire a lawyer, file for custody/divorce, put him out (put his sh¡t in garbage bags & set outside/change locks).
You could even wait till he’s over there and after you’ve handled everything else (proof, lawyer, locks, etc) and drop the bags off on her lawn/porch then go home. Just be done and move on.
Neither are worth listening to the BS they’re going to spew.
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Take screenshots and save everything you have as proof and go get a lawyer!
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First, decide on if you are staying or going. I’m going to go with the obvious, & now you plan. I don’t know your personal situation (do you work or?) Either way, make copies of EVERYTHING before you confront so he don’t erase it. Hide any extra asset you can (transfer into trusted family if you need to.) Talk immediately with a lawyer. Follow your heart and file. But document everything prior so he can’t hide anything. I would start removing documents you may need: birth certificate, etc. Know what bills are in your name. Change your banking information if he knows it.
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She is not your friend. She was probably using you for your husband. I’d kick his ass out!
He doesn’t deserve you. Think of this as a chance to find your real true love 
Find a therapist and a family lawyer. If you tell us where you are, someone might be able to recommend someone.
I would leave his ass
Get your money banking in order all the paper work you will need screen shot of the conversations secure your home change the locks reprogram your security system collect all your vehicle keys and be prepared because he is going to loose it stay safe make sure to get a lawyer
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Change the locks. Move all the money. Call a lawyer… don’t go crazy. He doesn’t deserve your energy
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Remove everything from y’all’s joint accounts (if you have them). Act as if you don’t know anything. Continue living your day to day life while also getting everything together for him to either move out or for you to. Personally, he’d be moving out. You have proof of him cheating. Adultery is a crime and both parties can be charged. I’d go to my lawyer asap and start drawing up divorce papers with my wants in them as well as starting the petition to sue both parties. Also, don’t damage any of his property he can charge you with damage to personal property 
If you do have kids go to the magistrates office ASAP & file for an emergency custody order.
I’m praying everything goes well for you. You deserve so much better than them to be in your life.
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Show up, call them out then get rid of him and never look back
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Just don’t take a 2x4 to the front door glass window…
Oops, did I do that? 
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Change the locks while he’s gone, throw all his stuff on the lawn and go to bed.
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Save everything.
Confront.
LEAVE.
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Change the locks on all the doors so he can’t get back in.screen shot all the messages and everything you can even take photos and videos of his vehicle at her house with dates for everything. Pack all his things up asap hire a moving truck and ship it all to her place. That should be the last thing you ever pay for anything to be done for him. After all that contact a lawyer asap find your rights and explain everything and file for alimony also he stepped out on you not you on him.
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Take pictures of the texts (or a video that you can pause and read) and email them to yourself or someone you trust as a back up incase something happens to your phone or account.
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Pack his things, pack some in the car, the rest on the porch.
Show up and bring a spare key to his car.
Set off the alarm to get their attention, then unlock and put stuff in his car.
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Pack your sh¡t and leave without saying a word… nothong to either one of them and move on… file for divorce… you owe no one an explanation and you deserve better…
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Screen shot a bunch of them. Its been going on for years id file for divorce. A person who loves you doesn’t just cheat for years. Id change the locks he can go stay with her.
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Take screenshots of everything!! Start packing his crap and drop it off at her house if he’s still there when you finish.
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Never react out of anger because you might end up regretting it and nothing good ever comes from it. Shes obviously not a friend we need to be careful these days. Go somewhere where you can have time to think, relax and calm down. Either you leave the house, or he leaves but not a good idea to be around each other with all that anger built up. Take a break to think things through if he has been unfaithful before and overtime still then maybe it’s time to end the relationship and move forward. Seek Godly and wise counsel if your married someone you trust to give you the right advise as to dealing with the situation at hand. It’s not worth going to jail for so with that being said go somewhere where you can clear your mind for the moment.
Oh I’d pull up for sure
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I’m so sorry this has happened to you sending you hugs 
praying for you I know you are very hurt right now but don’t do anything stupid confront him and her
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Correction. Your now ex husband cheated.
You were a badass who used all the womanly rage to gather ALL his shit.
You were SO KIND to bring it to her house and leave it in her front yard for him to collect.
Even so thoughtful to knock and tell them to kindly F off.
Then you went and got new locks for your house, took majority of the money in any joint bank account and hired a divorce lawyer.
Since that’s where he wants to lay down, drop his stuff off at her house? 
In all seriousness:
Screenshot everything.
Deep breaths.
He’s not worth any added attorney / court fees for assault, save for YOUR divorce attorney.
You’re gonna make it through this. 
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I’d pack him a bag with with a few clothes and his toiletries, drop them off at her house! Put the rest of his things up for sale and continue on! The grass isn’t always greener on the other side of the fence. Good ride s to the both of them.
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I’d pack him a bag and go drop them off at your friends house while he’s there
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Remove all the money NOW. lol. Then yep change the locks. Although since yall are married not much you can legally do to keep him out. If you have the car title, take that too
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Pack his stuff, put it all outside and text her saying he can stay indefinitely and to come and collect his things tonight or it’s off with the scrap man tomorrow. If he comes back tail between his legs tell him he’s had years to sort things with you and hasn’t attempted to do he clearly had no intention and you also gave no intention to be taken for a mug any longer. Divorce papers will be along shortly. Goodbye.
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Sue her for alimony honey rip them from everything and live your best life
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Yooo, posting this again so it doesn’t get lost in the 500+ comments. OP, I hope you see it.
Can y’all please not give her any advice about getting violent/property damage! It would hurt her more than it hurt them long term, especially if she has kids! Thank you!
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Drop his shit off at her house while he’s there.
Change the locks and pack his shit! Send the screenshots to his phone and never speak to him again.
I remember going with you to a girls trailer and found you know who. I remember going and finding TC twice with different girls. So glad that is long gone
Take screen shots of everything. Open anew back account and start moving money. Consult with a lawyer ASAP
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Girl why are you in Facebook? Go to her house with his stuff and tell him to stay there then come home and change the locks!
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Let her have him, he’ll cheat on her eventually!
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Go catch them. Mine lied and lied.
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And screenshot everything. Take pictures of the messages. Go drop his shit off at her house. And tell him not to come back!
For yearss ? Your friend??? No ma’am and no sir. I’m not going to say what I’ll do cause you’ll end up in jail so I’ll just say since you know exactly where he’s at pack his bags go ring her bell and give him his shi.
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Just let her have him. That what I wished I had done. But I wasted over 10 years trying to get back what we had. Couldn’t do it.
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Kick down her door and snatch her tracks…or whatever Monica said! But yeah…he gots to go!!
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Girl, DONT DO ANYTHING RIGHT NOW! Try to calm down. Go for a coffee or something. Then have a party and invite mutual friends. And then mirror screening on your tv and show them all the msgs. Try to sneak and see if you can get pictures or something. Put one of those recording pens on his car. So babe, that mf don’t come try to bullshit you. Neither that bitch!
Pack all his shit up and dump it outside her house. Change the locks.
Say nothing….Act oblivious.
And be methodical and blindside this pond scum and take him for everything he is worth.
Start slowly taking money out. Selling things he won’t miss of his!!! 
And get all of the evidence you need by either a private investigator or by your own camera and recordings of him coming and going.
You pack his shit and set it outside her house with a note that says “enjoy your new home”
Move all the money to a separate account . Sell anything worth selling . Put his clothes in bin bags and drop them off on her front door . Change the locks on all doors . If it’s been going on for years he chose her over you . Don’t say a word , you’re worth more than the pair of them put together . Walk away with your head held high . You are worth more/deserve more than he could ever fathom . You’ve lost nothing - you’ve gained your life back .
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I need to learn how to do this! And move money fast and get out of there.
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Go to the hardware store and get new locks.
Take pics on your phone first before he destroys the evidence. Then, pull out some money and then roll up with a bag of his stuff and leave. At that moment I’d be a married woman getting a divorce.
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Why do y’all keep saying she’s the one who needs to leave? If their married it’s their house. She can stay. He can get the fuck outtt!
Drop his shit off at the address his phone is pinged at, leave it on the porch with a note that says “I hope you enjoy”. Ring the door bell, and leave before they answer. Go home, change the locks, and move on.
Screen shot everything. Go talk to a lawyer and leave. Take a good breath
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I’m about to sound like an echo, but here goes. Keep all evidence. Pictures, videos, hell, record phone conversations (depending on your state law), send everything to a secret email, print out and put in a binder to show the attorney that you should be hiring. Also, hire a PI if your able. Make no mention of this to him, her, your children, family, anyone. Keep your head down and do what you need to do for your own sanity and well-being. Don’t get physical, don’t confront while you have a hot head. Act normal. Go see a doctor for STI possibility.
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Hunny if it’s been going on for years he has no intentions of fixing things so don’t fall for that. I think you should move on at this point. You deserve better. You can find a guy who will admire you and be loyal and faithful to only you.