The best pay back you can do is just leave. Without a word. If you’re able to leave do it. Everything else isn’t worth it.
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Me personally I’d go there and start a wwe smackdown without thinking twice because I act first then think BUT that’s not good advice lol 
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I’m so sorry this is happening to you . I’d drive over there and sort it out then and there . So they are both aware of you knowing . I’m sorry but if you don’t confront this now it will eat you alive and if you get them not together they will make up stories as to what’s going on ( won’t be the truth) !
I wasted so much of my life with a lying cheater please don’t do the same !
I messaged the chick off my husbands phone and arranged for her to come over to our place making out I wasn’t going to be there . Then they were both there and had no idea I new . I got the closure and threw them both out
Uhm throw his shit on the front lawn and lock the doors, put a note on the door that said cheaters not allowed.
Before you pack his stuff cut all the buttons and zippers out of his clothes and then pack it up and put it all on the front porch or stoop, etc. Then either leave the house or lock it up with you inside and wait for him to come home. Before you do that.,contact an attorney and leave his name and number on the boxes. Refuse to talk to him have him call the lawyer.
When I found out my ex hubby was cheating I tossed my ring, said I was leaving the next day and was gone
Freeze every account, play dumb and serve him with divorce papers. Shes not your friend and he’s not worthy of your love.
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Pack his shit. Take what is yours and walk peacefully and graciously 
block him change the locks and pack all his stuff
he don’t deserve a single second of your time and as for her if he cheated for her what makes her think he won’t do the same to her
cut them both off, silence is golden xxxxx
sending hugs this will take u a while to get over, thank u for the pain u made me raise my game
cry scream eat ice cream let it all out then work on u 
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Collect evidence make him pay
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Oh heck no … girl they deserve eachother two losers … u get out of there and quick … don’t even say anything just leave …
Gather all the evidence you can!
and then show up at that dam door step!
1.) Save messages for court
2.) Drain ALL joint accounts
3.) Pack his necessities
4.) Deliver to her doorstep
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Pack his stuff and threw out. My friend (supposedly ) had me babysit her kids so she could have a affair with my husband
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Take the money out of the checking account and drop his stuff off at the curb next to his vehicle.
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first of all calm down because you are PISSED…and then handle it…
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I’ve watched way too many episodes of snapped to help with this…
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Take all the money out of all the bank accounts that you can take it off the credit cards absolutely everything and leave
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Wow so sad to hear this. I hope God brings you piece and guides your steps in this difficult time
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Fb would kick me off for eternity if I told you what I’d do
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Evidence for alimony, baby girl 
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Sit down take a deep breath and think about your actions! No man is worth sitting behind bars 
Capture all the evidence you need, screen shot texts ect for divorce proceedings. Get footage of him leaving your friends place. Then divorce him, get alimony and let her have him.
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Change the locks would be a good idea though lol
This shouldNever happin divorce him he’s garbage
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First of all I’m sorry girl.
2nd take a breath.
Now, watch the movie the other woman. Get your ideas and have fun with it.
Then take them down.
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If you have children, think carefully about your next move. Anything you do will have a direct effect on them. Their safety, security, and peace of mind needs to be the MOST important thing going forward. If you don’t have kids, then leave or make him leave. But whatever you do, Don’t do anything in haste. Don’t talk to him about it until you have ample proof and have copies and backups of any proof. Get your affairs in order, find a lawyer. Decide if you want the house or will give it up, have that situation in order, especially if you have children. Get yourself a good support system, because as angry as you are, the hurt emotion is sure to follow.
I’m so sorry! This is an awful thing to deal with. You will have a better off without his lying, cheating, and deceit.
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I’d take his clothes over to her house right now and toss them in her yard then drive off
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Honestly, my petty ass would call the police department to do a welfare check on her. Say you haven’t seen her and your husband went to check on her and you haven’t heard anything from either of them so you’re panicking 
then he literally can’t lie because law enforcement will tell you if they found them both there
Find the best divorce lawyer and part ways. Bye bye asshole!
Divorce but before you do get your ducks in a row. Trust me. Get evidence of everything. All of it. Do not confront him or her right now. Act like you don’t know. Make yourself an account with just your name or if you have a parent you trust make it in your and their name. Move money so he has no access to it and so that he can’t get any of it in the divorce and you have a good amount to get on your feet. If you have a vehicle with him on it get it put in just your name. If you want the place you’re currently in don’t leave and put it in the divorce papers that you want it. File for divorce and get yourself a lawyer ASAP. Most need a retainer and that will be a couple grand. The lawyer will write up everything for you. File first and have them serve him. Do not destroy or sell his stuff as much as you probably want too. Lastly I’m so sorry. I’ve been there and it beyond sucks. Sending you hugs
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KEEP RECEIPTS. Document EVERYTHING. When you have all the evidence you want tell him you’re taking all you can. Fuck him legally, and then let the streets have him
Then, be happy asf bc that’s the best revenge
Throw the whole man away🤷🏻♀️
Why is this even a question? 
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Screen shots.
Then breathe.
Nothing good comes from reacting.
Years?!
I’m sorry this happened to you.
I’d be going straight over there so sorry your going through this 
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I’d be gone, or have the locks changed, before he got home.
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Pack his belongings neatly, set them on the porch, and change the locks. Don’t even explain why, neither of them give a shit Don’t waste your time yelling or telling them how you feel. Don’t be petty or violent even though you want to, it’ll look bad on you in court. Screen shot all of it. File for divorce and give him parenting time if kids are involved, you don’t want to drag anything out if at all possible. Dragging it out will make it harder on you.
Take a deep breath and go for a drive. Collect all evidence.
Keep the phone, empty your accounts, put all of his belongings on the curb and change the locks. File for divorce and custody and have no contact until court. He’ll know what he did he doesn’t need an explanation.
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Go draw money out of your account. Pack everything you and your kids own. Don’t be there when he gets back. File for divorce, child custody and support. Don’t speak to him unless it’s through your lawyer. He’s made his choice. Now you make yours.
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#1. She is not your friend.
#2. He does not respect you or the sanctity of your marriage. Run away as fast as you can!
I forgave my last husband numerous times. He had a mistress for 6 years of our 10 year marriage. He is playing you for a fool. Cut your losses and start over.
-Been There, Done That!
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First take a deap breath. The go with drawel the money from your accounts or freeze them so he has no access. So that he can’t do this to you. Then go find an attorney. Change the locks on your door and pack his shit and take it to your friends house or just outside the front door. Be done, cry let it all out. The get up straighten your crown and go on like the queen that you are.
I’d be getting a locksmith put asap and changing the locks so he can’t get in and dump his stuff on the porch 
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I can’t say what I’m thinking 
last time I did that a lovely lady was going through so much…my reply got me in Facebook jail for a week…she private messaged me and she is out the situation she was in …apparently my opinion was inciting violence anyway she is safe…good luck sweetheart…go with your heart 
Get your ducks in a row, and then divorce him.
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Print the messages and leave them on the counter. Then send them to his parents. But just leave.
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Think rationally. Go straight to a lawyer and save the proof. I know it’s easier said than done. You deserve better 
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Change the locks and tell him not to come home
Go to the house and fuck them up ! That’s what I would do !
Keep all the messages, print them all out. Take him to court for divorce, get as much money as possible and let her have his broke butt
I would be at her house 
SURPRISE
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Go over there and raise hell! 
Pack his s*** take it to her house and leave it in her front yard and then change your locks
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Save all messages!!!
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Don’t do anything just yet. Call your lawyer.
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Take your behind over there and witness him leaving and end that ish! Make sure you record it so there’s proof and take his behind to court.
Go catch them! Get him for adultery 
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Good riddance… Nobody should have to go through this.
He WILL CHEAT on her too!!
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Goodbye!! Nothing more needs to be said. You have one life to live and absolutely don’t deserve that!!!
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Document everything. Get a lawyer. Get your finances in order
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Just leave, deep heat in his boxers and drain the joint bank account 
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Take a breath and play it calm! You’re married not dating. So firstly send all of the proof to your phone or someone that you can trust, then print it out for court.
Secondly I would go to the place where he is and take photos of his car being there for proof, again for court.
You can either play it smooth for now and get all the evidence you can to file for alimony or go crazy which is what I know you want to do but wait, you’ll have your chance for that!
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Take a camera and record the encounter, you might want to have people with you so that they can hold the camera. Get it all on tape!
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Oh heck no. I’d show up and pay them a little surprise
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Get the proof off his phone and any other proof I’d ride by and take pictures myself and walk in or knock and record the conversation I know it’s hard to stay calm but Karma is a bitch take pictures then send them to your email or to someone else’s so you have backup proof and I wouldn’t leave if yall own unless you have somewhere to go until assets are settled depending on your state Contact a lawyer about separation and divorce along with infedility and a alienation of affection law suit if your state allows it on her yes her for that and him for infedility depending on your state some allow it some don’t you reap what u sow
Nothing. Call a lawyer and pack his stuff and deliver them to her house
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Keep the evidence. Stay calm, kick him out. Start over there are good man out there that would not do this.
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Go over there and ask him if he got lost and needs a ride home
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Save all evidence of the affair and call a divorce lawyer is my advice
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Coming a woman that has taken this crap from men for 30 plus years he ain’t worth your energy to react especially going over there if you show your emotions you’ll being showing your weakness and he will find a way to prey on that and slither back in JUST TO DO IT AGAIN …… don’t be foolish my husband came home after 25 years of marriage and had to disclose to me he had a disease you can’t get rid of PRAISE GOD I DONT HAVE IT… rest assured you’re better off raising your children alone than with a liar and a cheater PRAYERS AND BLESSINGS
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Show him the door!!!
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Being honest you have to do what you feel is right for your situation I learned that anyone on a group can tell you to find a lawyer change the locks pack his things turn yourself inside out when in fact you need to be an adult and tactful not allowing anyone to break your morals or character if you think it’s time to call it quits and move on …. Do so if you feel the relationship is salvageable then do so! Best of luck 
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Revenge is a dish best served cold. Cool off. THEN figure out the best way to get back at him. It will be much sweeter. Example: A friend of a friend sold his record collection (that he had been cultivating since the late 60’s) to a flea market vender for roughly 3cents on the dollar.
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Catch him and film it
Go visit your friend but take some one with you so you won’t do nothing stupid
Just pack his necessities and drop them off to him at the friends house since he will be staying there. No words needed. Should be self explanatory for him. Your better than him move on and don’t give him the time of day
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You don’t say where you are but you can’t change the locks if he’s on the deeds/mortgage/rent as it’s his home too and he’s entitled to get in but he needs to let you know if he’s coming for stuff so you can be out. Open another account, move money across and work out what he needs to pay if you’re staying there. Do you have kids? Stay calm and civil no matter how much it hurts, save the screams for when they’re not there and make plans now , but without his bit involved as she has no business with them, for his access. It’s not their fault. Don’t use them. If no kids and if your job allows, see about taking over the house or sell, get lodgers etc to keep it going financially. Take anything you’ve paid for and that is yours out of the house when he collects HIS stuff so when doesn’t take something he shouldn’t. In all fairness if she has her own place, he only needs his clothes and personal items ?!
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Keep the evidence and get rid of him!
Record you catching him. Become viral. Make money off his stupidity.
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Do. Not. Act. A. Fool. I repeat, DO NOT ACT A FOOL SIS. You calmly screenshot & document everything you’ve found, send it to your email for back up. If it’s your bank account shared with him, you call and take him off of it. Cancel all credit/debit cards that are shared. If it’s his account, clear him out sis. Take all that cash & put it in your own account or a security deposit box, do not keep it on your person.
Contact the attorney. Begin the proceedings for a divorce. It will look best if you do this quickly & calmly, don’t wait around.
Don’t confront him in some dramatic show down. Nothing will change. He won’t stop. And you’ll just make yourself look weak & crazy. You’ve obviously been a joke to them for a while, do not make yourself more of one.
Calmly pack his things if your name is on the deed/lease & put them outside on the curb, not next to the door, not on the porch. On. The. Curb. Next to the garbage sis.
After & ONLY after all this you can message him 1 very short sentence. Your things are on the curb & I’ve filed for a divorce. Then block him. Don’t answer calls. Don’t answer texts. He knows what he’s done & making you have to respond to him just degrades you more.
Have class & keep it simple. Cut ties. If it’s isn’t your home & his name is on everything then calmly pack your things & go to a hotel or family members house. Again do this with grace. Not for him. For you. I know you’re hurt, shocked, & angry. You want to hurt him the way he has hurt you but the only way to do that now is by completely cutting him off. Denying him ANY access to you. No way for him to try to “explain” his side. There is no excuses for what he’s done. No acceptable reason. You take him for all he has & leave him with a grace that’ll burn in his mind much longer than any scene.
You know what to do. Don’t go off half cocked, make yourself look nuts, & give them another reason to laugh. He is her problem now, you exit stage left with your class & dignity in tact. Don’t let him take that from you. Good luck & I’m truly sorry you’re going through this. 
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Girl I made the mistake of trying to workit out… he did it with my “friend” he said a total of 5 times 1 of which was a year prior to me finding out and the rest were just in that week… 3 whole disgustingly ugly awful years later… I hate him and he’s an asshole and the trust never came back!! Get on with your life trust me!!!
Don’t leave the house! If you leave that entitles him to stay in the home. Stay calm and collect evidence, everything you can. Make an appointment with locksmith to change every lock and put your husband’s belongings out of house.
Go there and confront them both
Best thing to do is put his clothes and stuff out on the porch, lock the door and call and tell him to come get his stuff and don’t unlock the door or open it when he comes and don’t listen to any excuse he has. He will do it again! Contact a lawyer and divorce him.
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Get your finances and plan in order, then go file divorce papers.
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Pull tf up on the tails and cut tf up. U got some bail money cause everybody can get those hands. Clean him out first though!! The petty in me would transfer all his vehicles in my name and leave him high and dry in a empty house after I mollywop them both!!!
Just gather up ALL the evidence you can get, play along and treat him normal. THEN get an attorney and serve him the divorce papers randomly🙂
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I turned into someone I didn’t like!!!
I’d do screenshots of literally everything - pinged location and all of their messages. Save it and use that allll when you go to court. I’d act absolutely clueless and not even hint at knowing any information. I would immediately file for divorce and let him be surprised when he’s served with divorce papers. Then when he is served with them and mentions it to you, either he will have put two and two together OR bring it up to you. If he brings it up, I’d just say “call my friend… oh wait actually your mistress to help you collect your items”. I’d also schedule an appointment to go have STI/STD testing done to protect yourself! 
Honestly, I’m sorry you are being put through this. This is totally unfair. I’m sorry about the person who you thought was your friend. Any person that even remotely plays into anything with your spouse is not a friend. Keep your head held high because he’s the one that’s missing out. Try to hang in there…
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I would lose my shit and after I was done losing my shit I would lose it again.
Drop his stuff off in her yard.
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Put a golfball in his/her gastank
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Call a lawyer right now 
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Send all of this evidence to a lawyer, file for divorce.
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Save everything. File for divorce. Cheating is bad enough, but a years long affair is a whole other ballgame. Use the evidence against him to get exactly what you want in the divorce especially if you are in a at fault state.
Other than that, don’t even acknowledge their affair to them, let them have each other, cut ties. Acting crazy will get you nowhere.
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Say nothing. Save the evidence & call a divorce lawyer. Right now & leave.
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Take screen shots of all the messages .
Move in silence! Make an exit plan for yourself and bounce. Don’t do what I did… it landed me in jail!
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Call a lock smith, put a bag with his essentials at the front door and start making sure you over your bases
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Get all your finances in order, record all of the evidence, call a laywer and file… then put ittching powder on the crotch of all his underware and pants.
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