GIIIIIIRLLLL, he is NOT on birth certificate nor the state. I would end ALL communication. If he wanted his son or be apart he will take you to court for visitation rights you can get child support etc. if he doesn’t that you have the chance to make your and your son a happy drama free life. I’m thankful my first doesn’t have her Bio on birth certificate we live in the same state and 15 min away. (I keep tabs on him) HE HAS NEVER REACH OUT IN ALMOST 9 years. Only because I told his ass “you will not disrespect me or my child and you will not be in and out her life”. And he just stopped. He got 4-5 kids different baby moms and I live in peace.
Line been drawn he want to be in the child life pay child support call and FaceTime tell him no and get it in writing
Change the number and live your life, he abandoned you so why do you have to report to him…
You do not owe him an explanation…
Sorry to put it bluntly tell him to get f***ed he has no rights nor does he have any input in the child so he can’t demand you put him on a plane and expect him to be waiting at the end especially being shy of 2 years old
Make him pay to prove paternity pay child support and come see him in your state supervised. If he is willing to do all that take him to see the hubs family yourself. They may really want to forge a relationship with him. Your rules your game plan I would not send him anywhere if the x does not agree tell him to piss if he’s not his anyway until he can prove it
See a lawyer so u know what to say to him! #2 Mom will have to know that u and son exist some day soon!
What a nerve! If he wants to be a part of his kid’s life he needs to move his @$$. If not, tell him F off.
Ummm if he’s so demanding, HE can come see him!!! Dont put your son on a plane and send him to people you dont know! Draw that line now!!!
Not on birth certificate or court documents ? He doesn’t have any rights what so ever. Ignore him and live on with life.
sorry but i wouldnot do it you owe him nothing why is his son a secret maybe he needs to tell his gf and him making demands that you inform his family about his son yeah not gonna happen he has no rights to his son unless he signed the birth certificate
He ain’t on birth cert u don’t have to do anything I would of drawn the line already TBH, his choice to f off he deals with not knowing the kid, why is it ur responsibility to inform his family.
Bahaha. The line gets drawn when my child is a secret. I don’t play those games either.
If he is a secret than how does he plan on explaining him to his wife when he comes home from the airport?
Yeah… no
Send pictures
If his parents are kind, you can strike up a friendship there. Maybe they also find their son to be incredibly immature.
Change your # or don’t answer his calls but before all that find out how to get ahold of his new wife & let her know.
And if he does want right he will have to start paying for those rights! Maybe even back pay depending on where you live. Then those rights will have to be in the same state as you.
He does not pay child support? Case closed!
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And your listening to a man who walked out on u and a child at 3 months utero why???
Without a court order he doesnt have to give him back you both have rights
If he’s not on the birth certificate he has no say what so ever. None. Your golden honey. Change your number and move on.
He left , not on birth certificate. Not his concern about any part of his life
Sever everything. Trust me when I tell you it’s a trap . Talk to a lawyer or someone in Law. And the first thing is change your phone number and lose all contact. F__k Him and his family.
You don’t have to do a damn thing. Change your number and relocate if possible. A jerk like that who abandon you during your pregnancy, does not pay child support and has only seen YOUR son only twice can not make any demands. Don’t set your son up for heartbreaks and disappointments in the future. MOVE ON make a better choice next times, some step dads are better fathers. Unless YOU still want the SPERM DONOR in your life. Don’t kid yourself. Unless you’re 16 this shouldn’t be too difficult. Love your child first and above everything, protect him from emotional pain growing up. The sooner you move on it will be better for your son.
Children under 5 can’t travel without a parent or guardian.
At this time you are under no obligation at all. He would have to prove paternity.
Tell his trifling ass to kick rocks. He didn’t want anything to do with the kid before, he dont get to now. If he cared he would make an effort not demand it from you
Draw the line he has no rights to the child
How would he have a visit with him (put him on a plane to visit) and still be a secret from his new baby mama?
sorry that is not acceptable, he is not a father and don’t do anything for him. When your son is 18 and wants to contact the bio person then so be it. If the grand parents don’t make any attempt to see him or help you with him then don’t waste your time. Just my opinion. I have raised my children by myself with no help from the dad or his family.
It takes two to tango so you are doing your part as a mother and it’s his responsibility to do his part as a dad if he doesn’t then that’s on him
As long as that man is not on the birth certificate you dont have to do a damn thing he says that dudes not a dad hes friend u let ur son see some times
This should even be a question…the line should have already been drawn
U draw the line now! He ain’t a dad he’s a sperm doner! If his family wants to know bout your baby make it so they can contact you! Don’t send your baby there 2 see any1 he will be there alone without the 1 person he knows! U just carry on doing the great job that your doing! And if he has a problem then let him stew on it. He made his bed tell him 2 go lay in it
tell him he owes back pay and if he wants to see his son he can hop on a plane
Nope… those that don’t contribute shouldn’t criticize or make demands. The nerve…
Why now after 2 years he camels and ask to see him there is something wrong
Change your number and cut ties
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Why are you even wasting air on this loser? Change your number and move on. Your son is best off without daddy dearest.
Does your son have your name or his fathers?
Seriously get real! Tell this scum to disappear, hes no father to your son. Do not send him to see this man, all i can sense is danger to your child, keep away from this man. Surely you know deep in your heart that this man is simply out to cause trouble. Take advice, keep away and stay safe. He is not on birth certificate therefore he has no way of making you give contact. Think of your son, cut contact now. I just sense danger.
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Since he isn’t on the birth certificate and seems like a dead beat, just block him from your phone and move on with your life. He’s rude and nasty and you don’t want your son around someone like that. He is a grown man if he really wanted to be a part of his sons life he’d either go and put himself on child support to have set rights or communicate with you and help as a responsible parent should. He seems like a miserable human being who just wants to make you miserable. He chose to not be around so he needs to understand it’s his fault things are this way and not your fault at all. As for his family, you could always talk to them if you’d like and work with them on seeing your son if they are more mature than your ex, otherwise don’t worry about them as well. Don’t let someone guilt you or torture you like he seems to be doing. I went through arguments with my ex when we split but I had to learn his hateful words were coming from his anger toward me so I ignored him until he learned to talk to me with respect and understand the only person he should have any feelings for is our daughter, so if he really cared about her he would stop being rude and hateful to me and just reach out about seeing our daughter and nothing else.
Well if she can’t know about him then that’s not gonna work. Wow some people amaze me not you. Him more like.
F that! He doesn’t deserve your sons love. That’s what I call dead beat and worse. I’m so sorry for you
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Sound like he’s feeling pretty damm entitled for a deadbeat dad. You don’t have to take crap like that
You owe him NOTHING. Don’t do anything you don’t want to do or isn’t in the best interest of your child
Bahahahaha! You dont owe him nothing. Keep your child away from him it already sounds like trouble.
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You owe the jerk absolutely nothing cut him off completely.
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I say it sucks to be him. Your son doesn’t need hurt in his young life. Don’t give in mama…
That’s what my response would be to him.
2 yrs he has no rights!
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Cut ties he has no rights.
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sorry that is just not acceptable. He is not a father, just a sperm
Get a good lawyer and protect yourself!
Cut him out of your son’s life
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Get over it his my son peace out that’s what I would tell him
I would start first with child support.
F that … He isn’t in control you are … You owe him nothing. … cut him off
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Let him set it up legally with support.
Change you phone # and be done with it! Cut all contact and save your sanity! Good luck
DRAW THE LINE NOW. Claim child support. He is not father material.
All I heard was sperm donor . Forget him he has no rights
Quit answering. Block him, actually.
And if he takes you to court, he will have to pay! So tell him to get lost.
That would be one message that didnt get a response.
I cant imagine he meant literally to send him by himself. No airline would even allow it.
Block the number and move on with your life.
This would be my response.
Tell him to want in one hand and sh/t in the other and see which one gets filled first… oh and tell him see ya in court …nuff said
He was only a sperm donor. It takes more than that to be a Dad.
Don’t let him see them. He has no rights!!
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Tell him to kick rocks, if he dosent like it he can try to take you to court
Tell him to leave and don’t bother you again!
Nope. He won’t take it to court. I’d block him.
Be sure to save All the text that you get from him.
No, No and nope. You out.
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He should put his own ass on a plane and update his own damn family.
He is testing you no donot listen to him cut him off you do not need him
He’s a dead beat dad, I sure wouldn’t put my child on a plane.
Dont waste your Time with him its a control thing…
Cut all ties and change your contact info, block him if you have to. No rights at all and that counts for child abandonment by him anyways. Line was drawn when he left while you were expecting.
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Let it go. Block him. From life. He left, don’t do that to that baby. It will only hurt him.
You could send laugh emojis and block him. Move if you have to but he can f himself
Hysterical. He thinks you should update his family and send him on a plane?!
No way to all of this!
Make him pay child support
Line drawn already. Let him take you to court if he wants to see him that badly. He isn’t helping you or making an effort to be in his life. If he wants to see him he should come to you since his son doesn’t even know him. And it isn’t your responsibility to have to communicate with his family. I used to have to do that with my kids dad and it was awful. Now when I won’t do what my kids dad asks his mother texts me and tries to manipulate me into doing what they want. It’s gotten better since she moved away but now he doesn’t even see the kids. He plays xbox daily with my son with headphones and mice but never calls our daughter and hasn’t seen either of them since May.
I would tell him that you will see him in court and get a lawyer
Noane on birth certificate equals no rights.
Change your number and forget he exists
Nope, wouldn’t do it.
I agree 
you should move on and forget him!!
Tell his ass to go to court and get his rights if not change ur number and move on.
Tell him to kick rocks.
Nope never send him to his sperm donor. He doesnt care about him at all
Ignore him let the court take the charge.
Block. His. Number. End of all the issues
Change your phone number
Draw the line and don’t look back
I agree with everyone here.
He’s not even on the BC.
Now!! He really doesn’t need that guy in his life!!
Block him, don’t have any contact with him,