Anyone can throw a baby shower for someone. It is not exclusive to mom.
My daughter had 3 baby showers. Her MIL, a friend, and I threw her baby showers. I say yes, the mother throws one, but others can too. 
I didn’t know that was a rule. My mom did throw my first first one, and then our church threw me one. The second time around…idr lol and I didn’t have one for my 3rd.
Your first baby shower is your moms job but gender reveals can be your SIL
In my day it didnt happen. Presents for baby came after birth when visiting for the first time. Party was when baby was baptised
Why not together, they can do it together or just have two!
I’m 58, I always knew it as the mom and sisters threw the shower. Now is seems people throw their own or it’s not a surprise. I like the old days
In the olden days if I remember correctly no family was suppose to throw showers. That was like back in the 60’s can’t swear to it but that is what I remember hearing.
Wow, people are supposed to throw you one? I organised my own and it was crap.
My family on both sides all helped each other plan mine both of them 
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I didn’t have baby showers with either of my babies. Nobody was willing to throw me one and I didn’t want to look bad by planning one myself.
I never had one of these for any of my 6 babies get them to collaborate and bring it together. X
Check with Miss Manners. It’s considered tacky for family friends to host showers. Don’t you have any friends?
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My mom hosted a small one and my aunt hosted a bigger one
Anne landers says family members do not throw showers. This a pet leave of mine!
No rule that I’m aware of. It would be lovely if both moms cooperated
My sister was gunna throw mine but canceled thanks to the beginning of COVID-19 first and probably only baby I’ll have and missed out on most of the good stuff because of bad timing
Anyone can, weather it be your mom, sil, sisters or bestfriend. My sisters threw mine.
apparently the rules have changed, any friend or family can do it, even co-host
Why the need for baby showers…they were never heard of until recent years…
No rule… its whom ever comes to you first to do so
How about letting each one throw a shower for you on different days, everyone wins that way
For my baby shower my friends planned it and my mom helped but nobody’s feelings were hurt either way
I think anyone who wants to throw it, can throw it… in fact I arranged my own, but mum hosted it at her house and my sister ran the games. I arranged a gender reveal for my sister. Anyone who wants to throw it can. No rule to say Mums do it? 
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there’s no law that says that you can’t have two showers
I don’t think your mother is supposed to.
Why don’t they work together to throw the shower?
My cousins/aunts always throw them for the women on my mom’s side.
There is nothing wrong with more than one shower
My mother said it was up to my sister’s and friends 
Etiquette (aka Emily Post) says the mother should never be the one to throw a baby or bridal shower, because it makes it look like they are begging for gifts from their kid. But, it is 2021, so. . . Do what works for you!
Don’t see why the mother couldn’t make the shower with help from anyone who wants to help.
I was under the impression it was the godparents that through the baby shower
You can have multiple baby showers 
friends and family separate if you have a lot of friends. Sometimes two family ones if each side has big families. OR WORK TOGETHER LIKE REAL ADULTS ON ONE BIG ONE lol
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Famimy does NOT throw your shower . LOok in any etiquette book. Considered bad taste.
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I mean I threw my own. My mum helped with my 1st but overall I threw them both and was involved throughout.
I’ve heard it’s either your mom’s doing or if you belong to a church its the church ladies doing.
I always thought it was friends of the expectant mother… whether friends or family
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No unspoken rules regarding who orchestrates the shower.
Okay - so, it all depends on the family dynamics - there has been times, in which the momma of the momma 2 be threw them, sometimes both grandmothers threw them and then there are times in which, if the bride got married the person standing in as her maid of honor threw it - Why not have a gentle talk with both your mother and SIL and see if they can combined their ideas and do a coshower … Congrats on the baby to be and wishes for the best!
Things have changed from back then.
My first was from my mom and her best friend. My second was by my best friends. I’ve taken the reigns and thrown multiple.
I always thought sister, SIL or best friend. Gives the mom a day to enjoy her becoming a GMA.
We never heard of them only in the past few years.
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I have never heard this either. I think a sister in law would be wonderful
A friend threw me a baby shower and my sister in law got me nothing.now my daughter is pregnant and I’m going to have her a baby shower
I always thought it would be the maid of honor
Your SIL did nothing wrong, mums just been over dramatic.
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There’s no rule… whoever wants to can give you a baby shower and you can have as many as you want
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Um, no. My church threw both of mine. My mom was more than happy for them to do it 
There are no rules! My best friend threw me the best baby shower ever!!
Always sister thrown it in our family
Mine was a joint effort between my mom, mother in law, and sister in law
My sister in law done mine but involved my mum and step mum
I always heard family doesn’t do it
A friend and a lady at church hosted my baby showers.
Hmm… For my first born, my mom threw one, my best friend threw another, and my assistant threw one at work. For my second born, I didn’t have a shower.
My best friend and ex MIL threw my party but my mom was 3000 miles away
My husband did my baby shower with the help of close friends.
You can have more than one. Work and family
I don’t think there is any rule about who hosts the baby shower. My best friend hosted mine
That’s easy enough. One shower on each side of the family.
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I threw my own both times 
My sister in law doing it 
Let your mom throw the shower. Who cares what is right or wrong
I thought it wasn’t to be close family members.
I always thought sisters or close friends threw the shower
Have your mom throw one for family etc. Have SIL do one for your friends, co- workers etc. Problem solved.
Mom and/or sister, after that I hAve no clue!
I threw my own with help from my bestie and mom
Our DIL had 3 kids and 3 baby showers
Awwwwwwww bullshit. Anyone can throw it. In fact in throwing one for a co worker next Saturday
My sister throw mine and my other sisters baby shower
I never heard that before
Do 2. A diaper one and another general one.
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In my family was always a friend for baby showers.
The mom usually but anyone that cares
My mom and sister threw mine, it can be done by both.
I’ve never even heard that, why not both do it
In my area multiple showers are done🤷♀️
I dont think there is any rules. I had 2. One was a Co-ed bbq/shower with my bf and all of our mutual friends thrown by a good friend of both of ours and then I had a more “traditional” one thrown by my godmother with women only. My mom passed 5 years before I got pregnant though or she probably would have put the second one together. Edited to add that my grandmother and his mother were in attendance at both.
I threw my sisters shower with my nephew, so tbh i think depends on the people and friends/family
I never had one…cause my Mother said it was for friends to throw.
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Let them both host one or let them host one together.
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I’ve always wanted one but no one stepped in to give me one. I’ve had 4 children, my newest came 10 years after my youngest. I don’t know who would be “the one” who takes the reins because I kinda got the vibe that I should’ve threw my own and invite everyone if I wanted one…
Have them both get together and throw it 
NO. I have NEVER heard any RULE about WHO is expected to throw a baby shower. Usually it’s a good friend(s) or any family member. If someone gets upset, then it’s likely bc they are a control freak & also want attention. I suggest having several (maybe no more than 3-4 people) collectively throwing one for her. It’s ridiculous that someone would say that…
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I wanted to throw my own baby shower and everyone had an ass attack about it
Do wat is best for u
Not wat everyone else (society ) wants u to do
It is ur baby
Ur body and ur mindset
If u are comfortable having ur sil throw it thn thts fine
If ur comfortable with ur mom throwing it
Thts also fine…
Again wat ever makes u happy …
Don’t let no one ruin ur day
Lucky for me my daughters hate them.
They should do it together!
As many as you want for baby #1
I planned all mine and my cousin helped me host it.
Somebody needs to read about etiquitte.
I think anyone can throw the baby shower. Sometimes its easier for one person over another.
I did not want one and my mother, behind my back, contacted my old friend thinking we were still close and set one up. 
There is no end to etiquette guidelines when it comes to throwing a party and, in particular, hosting a baby shower. Close friends, cousins, aunts, sisters-in-law, and coworkers of the mother-to-be have traditionally been the appropriate parties to host a baby shower. Additionally, you can have multiple baby showers!
My mom and sis gave me two showers. It would have been 3 but my twins were 3 months early.
Why can’t they do it together? I’ve never heard of this “rule”.
I had two. My friend threw me one and my mom threw me one. I say it’s different for everyone and why not throw two.
No anyone can throw the shower if need be have 2 with 2 sets of different friends