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My mother in law had mine 
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My mother had nothing to do with any of my baby shower’s
I dunt think there’s really a “rule.”
They can get together and do it
I wouldn’t care who did it but…. Nobody did.
Why don’t they join together to throw the baby shower… egos as usual get in the way
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Screw the “rule” ask mom if SIL and she can co-host …it’s supposed to be a joyous occasion, not a dang contest.
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Never heard of such a rule. My daughter in law’s friend held a baby shower with her first born. Didn’t upset me in the slightest. Or when my daughter’s best friend did one for her.
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I had multiple showers. One for my family, one for my husband’s family, one for members of my church, and one for our best friends.
NONE of them were done by my Mom OR my husband’s mom.
I have never in my life known a mother to throw one.It’s usually the sister/in law,friend etc
Guess I haven’t read that book on etiquette for baby showers. Can’t they be happy for the honor or doing the shower and maybe both share the shower!
In my family it’s the moms aunts that throw the showers
Maybe they can plan it together? I bet it would be amazing and so creative!
at one time in the far past, it was usually the mother of the girl who is pregnant
I didnt know that, my foster family held my first for my my daughter.
Bank showers are a bit American
I had to throw my own baby shower:woman_shrugging:t2:
Dang … you get 2 showers then .
Best friends usually do this for you
Let YOUR mama/family do it‼️ if his family wanna HELP, that’s fine
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My opinion it don’t matter
Just get in the shower w/ baby . Open gifts later
My 2 best friends threw mine. my mom and MIL helped with the cost of the venue.
How blessed you are so many friends care
I threw my sister a surprise baby shower 2 days ago
Why can’t they do it together
Nobody should. It’s a silly American contrived farce.
My friend organised mine 
No one , u buy yur own baby stuff 
Anyone can throw you a shower 
Carrissa Perrone cousins throw the best baby showers
Its whoever wants too… It’s usually a team effort
Anyone we who wants to throw one can.
I had 3 for each child…(2 children)
Was fun…
I’ve given many baby n wedding showers…
CAKE!!?
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Anyone whom wants to should. The more the merrier.
I thought anyone could help with it. A close friend.?
Stop nameless network. Quit!!
I prefer no one to throw them, they’re cringey AF 
Easy let both of them do it
My best friend threw mine.
Anyone can throw a shower. Have 2
I didn’t have one. made it easier
My mom did my first one and SIL did the second
You can always have 2
You can even have more than one,
Anyone can do a shower!!!
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Who makes these rules 
Have the shower 
together
I don’t think it matter’s or does it??
My best friend did mine lol
20th centuary… WHOEVER WILL.
My sisters did mine x
Anyone can host a shower there are no rules about that.
Why can’t they work together
Anyone can throw your shower
Why can’t they work together on it?
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Tiffany Melissa McClure
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My sisters threw mine. Maybe they can work together?
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My mother n best friend threw mine xx
Anyone who wishes to
I always just thought it was whoever offers to throw it. My MIL and best friend did mine.
My aunts thew me one
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I didn’t think it mattered
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My sister threw me one
Let them do it together they’re going to be family forever now 
My mother in law and her sister threw mine.
Where I grew up, any friend or relative would do it.
I didnt throw my daughter’s because she was living with me and I felt it’d be looked upon as being self serving.
They should both do it together. Depending on what type of baby shower it could run into a lot of work and money.
I never knew it was a thing, tell them to get over it and do it together.
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My SIL threw my baby shower when I was pregnant with my 10 year old and I threw my best friend her baby shower
My best friend did mine. If it hadn’t been for her i probably wouldnt have had one. Both my parents are deceased and my MIL definitely had no plans on doing one cuz she didnt like me at the time…
I threw my own baby shower I don’t see no reason y ur sister can’t do it or even help ur mom
The moms should get first crack at it. Anyone else that wants to help should reach out to the moms of the soon to be parents
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Why can’t everyone just work together? I think it’s a great way to bond, celebrate and eliminate stress! Any baby shower I’ve been to / helped with was a group effort and they were lovely!
No it’s usually not the mother or in-laws place it’s usually a best friend aunt or church member etc most usually wasnt even family member years ago . Was rather rude to be a member of your immediate family or to do it yourself ……… but now anything goes and only the old school notice lol
You are given a baby shower by the women in your life that love you, the women in your life that you can see holding your newborn and having them at all the birthdays and important events.
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I planned my daughter’s with some help from her bridal party. I am not aware of any rules- the point is to shower the parents to be & welcome the new baby.
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I think anyone can throw you one! My Mother passed before I had my son so my two Aunts co had one for me and my husbands Aunt threw one for me. My mother in law didn’t but she did purchase several big items that we needed.
I’ve never heard about this unspoken rule. But my moms did first baby shower, My sisters always threw the rest of mine.
My mom is doing her side of the families shower after my baby gets here (her and my dad was never married) my friend planned my dads side and my in laws did one for their side of the family
Your lucky anyone wants to do it…
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My first baby shower was a surprise. It was planned between both sides of the fam. I didn’t want one, but it was planned either way and we all had fun. I didn’t even ask who “planned” it specifically.
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Normally your friends throw you a baby shower.
I planned my own with my moms help
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Why is it “threw” not have
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These days it’s whomever offers. I’m in a lot of mom groups and from what I’ve seen it’s usually best friends, a close cousin and aunt, or the MIL offering and hosting.
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I always did it for my kids because I wanted to not because it was my job. I always welcomed any help that was offered.
My cousin and my best friend planned mine. They did get a hold of my sister and mom but they pretty much did it all. We are all close so my mom wasn’t offended but I’ve honestly never heard the whole mother of the expectant mother throwing it until reading this 
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My sisters and sister-in-law did mine
I planned a close friends
Friends have planned other friends
It just all depends
There’s no unspoken rule to my knowledge. I think it’s literally whoever wants to do it. Maybe your sister in law and your mom could host it together.
Theres no unspoken rule… your mom is just being sensitive. She probably feels like she isnt included. Ask your SIL to include your mom.
Had 4 baby’s and no showers. If someone wants to throw you one let them have as many as you can!!!
How about they both throw it? Party plan together. There are no rules.
My sister did both of mine.
Whomever offers. No need to get emotional cos everyone plays a big role.
Actually I was always under the impression etiquette states that a close family member should not throw it! I googled to see if that still stands and this was the first article that came up.
Why not ask if they can both plan it together?
My cousin threw my first shower, and 3 of my friends threw my second shower. No unspoken rule that I know of
I had to throw my own shower. Felt like I was asking for charity. Not fun planning 7 months pregnant. I think it all depends on everyone’s individual situation. Not an unspoken thing.