My bf gets angry so easily over things he can’t control. He slams things down. Slams doors. Throws objects through walls. Punches holes in walls. Etc… I’ve told him when he does that it scares me And I want him to get help and he just refuses to believe he has a problem. He flipped out on me for not answering my phone right away Bc I ran into the gas station and left my phone in the car … I was gone maybe 10 min if that. Any time he is mad I feel like I have to walk on eggshells just to avoid making him more mad. I just feel like I deserve better. I have absolutely nowhere to go…
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Why does my boyfriend get mad over everything?
That is literally domestic abuse.
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You’ll make a way for yourself if you really want to. Sounds harsh, but true. He sounds abusive, and it will only get worse unfortunately.
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Get a bank account he doesn’t know about & start putting money away if you don’t have anywhere else to go.
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You’ll find your way… there is ALWAYS A WAY.
LEAVE!
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That’s abuse. Please create a safe exit strategy and do not tell him your plans.
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Don’t let him impregnant you.
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Leave before he starts hitting you! Please! Call domestic violence shelters, anywhere but there. It only gets worse
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Speaking from experience the more you put up with the more he will do so yes I will get worse and yes it is domestic abuse
I would find somewhere to stay and get away from him
Before you end up a bunching bag
Xx
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He needs to grow up and you need to leave
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Get out now. You can’t fix him. It won’t get any better.
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I’d get outta there as soon as possible. I used be with someone who always got mad at me for no reason at all. Get out before it becomes physically abusive!
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If he’s not willing to accept or acknowledge his behaviour then the only option you have is to decide weather this is something you’re willing to put up with or not. His behaviour is very immature and kinda abusive in the sense. If you stay be prepared that his anger may turn on you one day. Men like this can be dangerous.
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Leave…you will thank yourself later
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There is always a way…do you want to end up on forensic files…know your worth
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Beware of a controller!
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Google a crisis line or shelter 24 hour hotline in your area and call when you have a safe moment to do so. Talk with those counsellors to get some info, support, for a safe space to talk, and then you can make informed decisions about what to do. Delete your internet search history and call history after.
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Be sure your in a abusive relationship and there is nothing you can do
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Ok so if he doesn’t want to acknowledge he has a problem and seek help. I mean proper ongoing help without stopping and no second chances then leave.
No warning no nothing if he can’t help himself then don’t try let him take you down with him. Run!
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Definitely not boyfriend material😪
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Contact your local domestic violence shelter and get the hell away from him ASAP.
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If you are too frightened to run. Add me as a friend and inbox me your address when in need. I will call the police for you.
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Run as fast as you can
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Him getting mad because you didn’t answer your phone is abuse and control. It won’t get better believe me!
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Prayers and positive vibes your way❤
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Is his name Kyle? No but seriously you need to get out asap that is not a good environment
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This will not get better. You’re in an abusive relationship. Go now.
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When people show you who they are… BELIEVE THEM sweetie!! Men who love you are KIND, RESPECTFUL, LOVING! Do you honestly want that type of relationship till death do you part? I thought my husband would change over time but it just got worse & more abusive. We divorced after 10 years & now he is 58 years old & STILL MISERABLY MEAN where our kids & grandchildren rarely see him. Our son has literally disowned him. It’s very sad so think long & hard if it’s behavior you’re willing to live with forever. Good luck honey 
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Time to break up with him. He could abuse you.
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Please leave before you get hurt.
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Where’s your Family?
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Leave now before you’re 16 years in like my dumb a$$. I waited too long. Don’t waste half your life with this person. You can NOT change him. This is his personality.
And you deserve better!
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He sounds like a nut, it’s only going to get worse if he’s that angry. Especially if you have kids get out of there!!!
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You ways have somewhere to go. There are shelters and friends and family. Look to your cousins if not to your parents. It’s ok to go back to better yourself. They would be heartbroken if they knew you were being abused. Mentally or otherwise. He’s too immature to have a relationship. He’s so a narcissist. It’s his way of controlling you. Leave now before you have children and be linked forever. God bless.
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You DO deserve better! Things will not get better. They will only get worse. He could start hitting you. You’ve told him how it makes you feel and he still does it. You asked him to get help and he doesn’t see he has a serious problem. You did your part. Leave and don’t look back! And since you’re posting on a mama’s group I assume you have children…this is something they shouldn’t be seeing. They will learn this behavior and think it’s okay.
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He is a narcissists…run run run run
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Please please leave! This will never get better. It’ll be good for a while, and then bam! It’ll be worse than right now. Please don’t think you can change him. Please don’t think you provoked it. Please do not make excuses. Just pack a bag and leave everything else if you need to. Don’t let him catch you packing. Just go go go!
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He likes to have control because he is insecure about what you do. Been in the same boat. It gets worse and possibly physical. Won’t change at all, sorry babes.
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Call a local domestic violence agency. You don’t have to figure things out alone. Most have resources and educational tools to help you. Most can safety plan with you.
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you were lookin for a man when you found that one - I suggest if you have nowhere to go, keep lookin.
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Narcissist- get out while you can
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I was in a relationship with a guy exactly like that. Was never physically violent toward me, it was always towards stuff… I decided I wanted out after years of the same shit, he’d had a few drinks and when I went to leave I copped one hit and it knocked me unconscious and broke my jaw in 3 places.
The problem with people with anger issues even if u think “oh he’s never hit me” is usually it’s just a matter of time or bad timing. I don’t believe the person who did it to me wanted to hurt me but I do believe he snapped and had no control. Either way it’s still very very bad and I still got extremely hurt. If I had a do over I would have left so much sooner and done the leaving part differently
Hes a sensitive p*ssy
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Red 
flags . Better get out now…
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Really? Cant u see he has issues? Leave!
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what you have is a grown assed man acting like a toddler. Throw the whole man out ASAP.
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Prayers you find someplace to go. Prayers you gather the strength to leave (before it may be too late).
He has an explosive & toxic personality. Unfortunately it will only get worse.
No one deserves to be treated harshly (EVER).
Find a church & or an outreach program & please get help.
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Red flags
Leave now, go to family, friends, or DV shelter; but leave.
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because he a beeeeeeeeeeetch.
He got issues. Issues and trauma that he can only help himself with. Get out of there before he hurts you. That behaviour is never okay. Put yourself and your safety first.
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He shows signs of being very unstable! You need to get away before he gets more violent. Seriously.
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Before he hits you… he hits near you… 
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i dont like saying this but if hes like this and wont go get help sad to say hes gonna end up killing you so run go as far as you can
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He’s going to end up hitting you you dont need to answer his every call nor should have to feel that way I’d leave you don’t need a man to survive
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RUN & don’t look back
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Run before you end up like me.
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Live him. - so many red flags. You deserve so much better Get out quick. He needs help and probably will not get it!! Wake up sweetheart
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contact womens aid. they will help you.
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He’s hitting the walls to show you it could be you. Please leave, he will not change and domestic violence keeps escalating.
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I lived through that for 6yrs, trust me you do not want to stay.
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Dump him. Next time it won’t be the wall
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Abuse. End of story.
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You need to tell him that he doesn’t straighten up you are going to leave him he doesn’t need to put you through that you can do better
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You gotta bail. It will only get worse. Save yourself/mentality asap
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You need to leave. Not only does he have an uncontrollable temper but he’s controlling over you. Expecting you to answer him at any given moment is a serious control issue and mentally abusive. He hits walls, he breaks things, he tries to control what you do, you’ll be the next thing he hits. Please, please leave. Find a shelter, reach out to someone, some place, something. Please leave before he places his anger onto you instead of an object.
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Leave before he hurts you more.
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Sounds like Shawn my ex. I left his house and left most of my big furniture items and took my clothes and things that I could get in one pickup load and left. I may still not be on my feet but I’m working on it. It’s rough starting over after losing so much but it is possible. Prayers to you and hope you get out as soon as you can.
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He’s bipolar the anger was my tell tale sign of bipolar
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Leave if he wont take anger management.
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Oh gurl….
Who’s gonna tell her?
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ANXIETY. It can cause major irritability… Sudden outbursts that are pretty irrational… So… How can we help this? Idk … Ask him if he stressed by anything at the moment… If he worries a lot… If he won’t answer you… Don’t be with him. He needs to communicate his emotions better.
Don’t let him speak to you with his I’ll rarely attitude. He wouldn’t think about it if he knew your brother or dad was with you.
Sounds very much like bullying to me.
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He needs some coping skills.
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Thats abuse… get out of that toxic relationship…
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Get out now that anger will just get worse there is no help you just have to stop being mad anger management will say count to ten before you react
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Sounds like my friend over ciggs n lil.things I told him grow up n stop acting like a ss
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Get out now lovely. It starts with a wall.
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Yes, there are places you can go if you don’t have family or close friends you can go with, you can go to a woman’s shelter. Run because if you don’t you’re next. Don’t look back get out. Not worth it.
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leave him behind and get out
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You where somewhere before you met this hot head…I’d pitch a tent in the park to get away from this man…and do it quickly…
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Narcassist, my ex did this blamed me for things and got mad whenever I didnt answer phones or txt. Get out before its too late
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This guy is a bully! Bet he doesn’t go off like that in public, only in private, right? His next step will be to physically hurt you! Go to a shelter if you have to,there are good people that will help you ,trust me you don’t need to be dependent on this hot head!God bless you and keep you safe!
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Its time to go…period.
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That’s 100% narcissistic behavior. Gaslighting will follow. Been there. Was there for 3 years. It turned to abuse and before I knew it I was diagnosed with ptsd. I found myself standing in my closet one night with him going thru a rage… breaking everything, spitting in my face, pushing me in to walls etc…i grabbed my gun and told him it was either him or me but that it ended right there. Before i knew it i had my shot gun directly aimed at his gut…he said i was crazy…he got in his truck and he never came back. I called the police. He went to jail and i went to therapy. Do not ever think you can change him. You can’t. Do not ever think its your fault. It’s not. Leave before it gets worse… because it will.
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Just save up some money and look for places/rooms for rent because it tears your soul apart living like that. It takes a long time to heal from this type of relationship in my experience and the sooner you get out the better. You’d be surprised how much better life can be without the constant fight or flight alarms going off all the time 
there’s a ton of great guys out there.
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Hope you are working
…and can stand on your own. if not, get a job.
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Abusive behavior is never ok. Run.
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he is emotianal abusive to jou. ring police next time it might give him a warning.
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If leaving is not an option google the grey rock method.
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He is abusing you. Even if he hasn’t physically hurt you, yet. Please reach out to the domestic violence hotline to see what they have on your area to help you. You do deserve better. His behavior is NOT your fault. You are worthy of love and you are loved.
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Sounds like bipolar…maybe
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You need to leave now.
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Girl, you need to run. Far away and fast.
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Sounds like adhd to me i hsve this and before I was treated I was exactly the same
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Get out now before he throws you through a wall… you might not be lucky enough to tell about it!
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When someone loves you, they stop doing the behaviors that you told them bothered you. You told him those behaviors scare you and yet he keeps doing it. Do you really want to stick around to see what he will do next? It’s time to go love. Get as far away as possible and don’t look back.
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Why do you have nowhere to go? You don’t have a job?
He’s in desperate need of anger management. Also, sometimes his actions are signs of double dealing. He’s hiding something you need to know
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