The only person who will take care of you is you. Give her a two week notice and if she gets upset, so be it.
Give her notice like a week or two to find someone else tell her the doctor said that you are really high risk and that you no longer lift babies nothing over the size of milk (that’s what I was told when I was high risk) but I was also told that I had to stay in bed and bc I refused and still worked the dr admitted me and i was in the hospital the full last month of my pregnancy. But anyone you could tell her some kind of story like that and that way your blaming it on the dr and she really cant get mad…
Give her a week or 2 to find someone else. After that it’s no longer your problem!
The reality is she’s going to get her nose out of joint but you have to do it. Give her 2 weeks notice.
Time to put your foot down girl. Friends and family never want to hear when it’s time to make a change. She has to know it’s coming.
I think you should tell her she not paid you you feeding them she taking advantage if you don’t say something you could end up ill with the stress she being selfish they her kids let her sort it
Give her 2 weeks notice “firm”! You are not the bad guy. Shame on her for not thinking of you and your high risk pregnancy.
It seems like you are being taken advantage of…
Tell her you need to step back give her 2 weeks to make new arrangements. Then your done
If it is your husband’s sister, tell him to tell her. If it is your brother’s wife, tell him what is going on and ask him to support you when you say something to her.
Not right u have yr own responsibility with yr kids and pregnancy.
Sounds like shes taking advantage of you would she qualify for daycare assistance?
Your family,your health and ur unborn child come first. Simple as that!
If I may: your baby is your first priority, if you think about it all you have to do is get a letter from your doctor (no need to lie just tell him you need a letter stating “high risk pregnancy”), then have your husband step up, with the letter and end it. I personally would tell the doctor the truth and why you
Need a letter (just to make the situation easier to back out of since it is family)
It’s hard, but better than regret if God forbid the exertion and stress hurt your child. The effects on your marriage, your baby, your mental health. Do matter, and to be honest SHES THE ONE BEING THE BAD FAMILY MEMBER FOR NOT
CARING ABOUT YOUR BABY! Not to mention the financial struggle. That would be difficult on anyone much less pregnant and high risk, she knows and she doesn’t care. I hate to be blunt but I’ve been done the same way. Get your husband to speak up with you. Doctors orders and husband concerns.
Be well, and congrats on your pregnancy.
May want to suggest birth control to her while your at it. 
Your husband needs to tell her you just cant do it anymore. He shouldve already done this instead of telling you to tell her.
Yes let your husband tell her. To be honest my sister In laws hate me but it’s cos I’m not a mug. Shes taking you for one.
I’d tell her Friday is the last day and you’ve done all you can.
Its like a job, give her 2 weeks notice. Tell her your doc mandated this decision for your health.
I would give her a 30 day notice even thow its family she taking advantage of you
Give her a 2 week notice to find someone and thats it. You got your hands full on top of being pregnant!
I feel as thou your husband should step in and help you in this situation. It is his family after all.
You should tell her you can’t do it anymore. It almost sounds like she is taking advantage of you.
You have to tell her that you can not take care of the kids anymore that it is to much own you.
It’s clearly evident she has no consideration for you and your family.
always take care of your family first, especially you being pregnant.
Her babies…her responsibility. Period
You have your own family to worry about and they come FIRST
Tell her to please make other arrangements for child care… period
If this is your husband’s sister, then he needs to tell her and protect his wife and kids.
Always speak your truth, even if your voice wobbles a bit. Good luck x
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Tell your husband to tell her he said no more and let him deal with her it’s his sister and she will get over it , if it’s coming from him
Stop allowing this! You and yours come first! You need assertiveness lessons.
Tell Her … If She Cant Handle The Truth Leave That To Her To Deal With, Its Not Your Problem
You gotta put your health and situation first before hers!
No! Is she concerned about you as a person, family, financially? Not at all.
You wouldn’t be a bad guy, youd be an honest guy.
Sister in law… tell your husband/brother about it and talk it out with SIL.
Maybe your husband needs to step up and defend you… it’s his sister, right?
It seems your sil is taking advantage of you
Can’t your husband tell her and talk to her instead of you? Then there is no problems
Absolutely not. You have to put your children first. What about your brother? Where is he?
You are not obligated to baby sit anyone’s children
This is an easy decision. Your sister and her children OR your own unborn baby.
If it’s your partners sister he should be the one telling her not you xx
Where’s the grandparents? Their mom n dad??
Your husband should do something about it!!!
Then your husband should tell her.
Its not your issue.its her … your pregnant with your own kids.give her like 2 weeks notice…
Honestly u just need to tell her cos sounds like shes taking advantage sorry to say
Tell her to apply for welfare. They will help with food, medical, day care, etc…
I know what exactly what you’re going through. I had to finally say no more. No more babysitter. Sorry!
Just be truthful. Tell her straight up. Give her a little time to find help.
You have been taken for granted tell her one week tops to find daycare
Believe me she will be able to find daycare…but she will have to pay them…she is taking advantage.
If she truly was appreciative she would be supplying her children’s food and sending extra snacks for all of them since she is virtually paying you nothing even with the $50 ÷ every 2 weeks.
If you could watch the…if things changed…you could always put a plan in place that works for you and her.
Here is what I would do seriously:
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She supplies her children’s breakfast and lunch meals.
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Every week she supplies a large box…of snacks such as : fishies, vanilla wafers, fruit snacks, etc.
She needs to pay you $50 per week ( or $100.00 each payday)
That is cheap daycare…my daughter pays almost 900 per month for her 2 kids for 5.days a week and has to supply everything for.them as infants. Starting as toddlers they take a packed lunch from home…she donates 2 snack boxes every 2 months as all other Mom’s do.
$100.00 has to be pre-paid for the 2 WKS or you will have cared for them and too easy not to pay for a service already received.
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Give her a list.of the dates of your doctor appts to show her.boss. Explain to them her.daycare is pregnant and she.pays very little but makes it.ip in trade.
She would need to ask for that( hour and half?-2 hours?) off while you go to your appts.
I know alot of employers that understand about childcare and would be accommodating and happy to work with her if she is a reliable.valuable.employee not wanting to.lose her. -
I would even consider arranging for her to keep your children at.least once a month for an afternoon or evening to give you a few hours to rest,.prepare for baby, spend time with hubby even if to lay and watch a movie.
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There needs to be compensation for you in this arrangement. I know a friend who must could.not.get.off work to sit for daycare provider to take.her child to.his monthly special needs program. They inquired around and found a person who only needed daycare for 1.day week and exchanged having priveledge of having care for.ner son in exchange for.watching.over daycare during doctor appts plus a designated time for.my friend to.have.off.to catch.up on her stuff. It worked out very well.
My girlfriend ended.up needing surgery and they had become close enough she came and managed children’s care during.my friends hospital stay an.a couple days recovery time at home.
It will not be anything but Taking advantage if you do.not find a way.it.benefits and.you.feel there is something you are gaining from the arrangement.
You will get.in deeper and deeper only get harder and harder.
Put some demands on her and if she makes excuses why she can’t meet them stand firm. She cannot find a better deal and she.knows it!
Think she proper cheeky not helping out or paying
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Give her a weeks notice then done. She’s taking advantage! Jesus!
Nope go ahead and tell her you cant even your husband has your back on it
You gotta look out for yalls best interests
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oh my I would say you are getting taken advantage of big time , Time to end this NIP IT NIP IT ,If you don’t it will never end .And maybe its time your husband steps in to help you out with this .
I would tell her you can no longer watch them and offer to help her find a sitter for her kids
Tell her and give her a date. I think shes taking advantage.
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Husband needs to stand up!
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No u need to let her know u can’t do it anymore don’t u feel bad I bet she’s taking advanced of u
No is a complete sentence. Don’t place a bunch of reasons. They don’t matter. You said no.
No. You’re not the bad guy you and your family come first.
She’s taking advantage of you. Maybe put in on your husband. 
. Say he told you no more extra kids .
Your hands are full. Give her two week notice.
Your husband should tell her. It’s his sister…
Give her a week to find a new sitter after that not your problem
nope. jist say you cant anymore and let it be at that. Not your kids not your problem
She can call social services. They are paying day care for a lot of people unroll everything opens up.
Girl take care of yourself and your babies. I know it’s Family but her kids are not your problem
If it’s your husband’s sister he needs to tell her.
You have to take care of yourself and your kids first!!
I give her notice so she can make other arrangements
She’s taking advantage of you. Have your doctor write you an order to rest and relax
She got options she is taking advantage of you.
Tell your husband to tell her. If something happens to you who is going to help him with your children.
She’s taking advantage of you.
So you don’t want to leave her hanging, but she can give less than 2 fucks about you… oh ok! 
Be honest tell her. She will figure it out
You’re in the right. Your well being, the well being of your children, are more important.
Is this your brother’s wife or on your husband’s side? Maybe presenting a united front together and giving her a timeline (saying you can do it for however many more weeks) is appropriate. Best of luck, that’s not an easy situation to be in!
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Honestly he should be the one to talk to her because it’s his sister
I would give notice that I’m no longer available.
if she dont understand then she is a selfish person
Tell your husband to tell her. It’s her family and your carrying his baby. Let him be the bad guy.
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Just start charging by the day…
She is asking you to do more than you can handle
Tell her that you can’t. She should understand.
Blood or not she is taking advantage of you !!!
Oh hell no. 2 weeks notice.
He should tell her it’s his sister
I think your husband should have a private talk with his sister alone
Don’t let her gaslight you either after
Tell her 2 weeks 2 find some1 then give her the kids
Give her a two weeks notice.
Your husband needs to tell her!!
You’re not the bad guy, I would give her a few weeks notice and recommend telling her to make a care.com account or something
U did what u could u must think of u and your children now
Tell your husband to protect his wife and correct his sister. End of it.
No it would not be wrong
Drop her like a hot potato then charge her for your groceries