I wouldn’t let my kid go alone. Especially knowing their is a sibling that’s on the wild side (yes I know boys will be boys lol). Trust your gut and either go with him or keep him home. 
4 Likes
Yep my 6 yr old wouldn’t be going alone to someone’s house with a pool
2 Likes
Here is an opportunity to teach him how to swim.
1 Like
I wouldn’t let him go alone
Make your son the fall guy (in the nicest possible way!)… tell her that he wants to come but he’s said he won’t go without you. Tell her that you’re just running it past her to check she’s ok with you tagging along. Soften it by suggesting it would be nice to have a fellow adult to have a coffee and biscuits with. Make sure you take biscuits or cake! Enjoy. X
7 Likes
Go! Maybe you can make a new friend too!!!
6 Likes
I would contact the other parents and let them know I would be attending too, just so there’s an extra pair of eyes on the pool and the kids wouldn’t be alone in the water
2 Likes
It’s not rude at all. She is a mother and she should understand. Just let her know when she invites him again " I can come over with him of you dont mind) if she says that’s ok I can handle it , go with your gut and maybe just take him to a pool or buy one for him yourself. If something happens you’ll never forgive yourself. It’s our job to think the worst when it comes to our kids and most of the time thats what keeps them alive.
2 Likes
I wouldn’t let my kid go with out me so if I can’t go…
Do go with him. The mother should have said that. They won’t be able to watch all the children at the same time. If she says no dont let your child go a lone!
1 Like
Go with him ,he is your under age son… he needs his mom.
My son is 7. I would definitely stay!
I would absolutely not send him alone. And if that mom has a problem with you staying there with your son, then that’s not okay. I honestly find it more rude that she didn’t invite you to stay with him. To me it’s common sense to invite a parent along with a child that young.
Safety takes precedent over any sort of proper etiquette. I would thank her for the invite and just say that you’re more comfortable being with him when he’s around a pool. She will probably be fine with it.
4 Likes
I wouldn’t send my child alone to anyone house that I barley know with her without a swimming pool. She’s a mother and she should understand.
2 Likes
Definitely voice your concerns and go with your son. Also you don’t know the other mom so you are being rightly cautious.
1 Like
You’re doing the right thing. I wouldn’t let my 6 year old go alone anywhere.
2 Likes
Be honest with mum. Just explain your sons very excited but nervous been left alone at people houses yet. Does she mind if you tag along to help his nerves. This give you good excuse to go but not that your inviting yourself either
1 Like
Go! Bring a fruit tray or something 
get to know her!
5 Likes
Heck yes you should go! This has actually happened to me! My son was invited to swim with one of his buddies and I was just brutally honest and said “water scares the crap out of me and I’m not very trusting of his swimming skills. Is it alright if I tag along? Otherwise I don’t think my anxiety would be okay letting him come” Mom was totally fine with it, we went and had a great time!
4 Likes
Yes because God forbid something happened to your son you’d never forgive yourself. It’s called a mother’s instinct and if she doesn’t want you to go then apologize and say he’s too scared to go alone. If she is a mother she should understand and if not then he doesn’t need to be around her anyway.
2 Likes
You don’t know the mom there is nothing wrong with that. I’d be honest and let her know. I’d say I’d feel more comfortable coming to the first couple of playdates with my son. I want to get to know you.
Me personally if I needed to use the bathroom I’d have all the children out of the pool and tell them they need to stand inside by the door for minute.its safer. So maybe she’s the same way. But I would definitely just be honest.
Oh God please don’t let your son go,please dont.Unless you go too.Hes only 6yrs old.Its your gut instinct as a Mama trying to warn you
2 Likes
Not rude at all and not paranoid at all.
1 Like
Just tell her you’re not comfortable leaving him to swim because he can’t and you would like to be there when he’s in the pool. It’s that simple
For sure I would go too
Nope, I don’t let my kids swim with anyone. Only when I am around
Thats your baby… I would go!
1 Like
U should definitely go, he’s your baby n the other kids are older, I’m sure the mum will be fine about u tagging along, follow your instincts x
I would definitely let her know and ask her if she would mind if you stayed due to you being uncomfortable with him not being a great swimmer. It’s your son but it’s her house. If she is a true caring mother, she will understand and say no problem at all. And if she says no, then your son doesn’t go. Simple.
3 Likes
If I were the mom I would feel so much better if you did come. Having to worry about your own kids plus someone else’s when you aren’t sure of their swimming skills would be stressful. I don’t think its rude at all
7 Likes
Go with your instincts mama, but I just wanna say that I’m that mom. My kids are excellent swimmers because we’ve always had a pool, but when my youngest has friends over, regardless of their ability to swim, I watch them like a hawk. I’m in the pool and keep eyes on them all the time. Because I would never, ever want to be responsible for something happening to that child.
3 Likes
I wouldn’t say to invite yourself over but explain the situation and ask if she minds you sticking around. If for some reason a very young child’s parent being there is an issue… I probably wouldn’t trust leaving your son there.
I would be super uncomfortable if someone told me I couldn’t stick around with my son to ensure he’s happy and safe. And if the roles were revered I would have no issue with a parent hanging out until they felt they could trust me.
3 Likes
I would stay at least the first few times until you can see how your son makes out in the pool. Kids can play rough in the water, and it sounds like it’s a very deep pool
He’s 6, if I invited your 6yo to my pool, especially the first time, if you DIDN’T make damn sure you were with him I’d have concerns about you! Trust your gut and go have some fun too!
1 Like
It’s a red flag if she said no after your explanation
1 Like
Yes go it’s your child and you would never forgive yourself if anything happened to your child. 
I would feel the same. X
2 Likes
I’ve been in this situation and ended up getting to know my neighbor with the pool from just being there when my son would swim I think it was just a given from the start that if he was swimming I was going to be there to watch she didn’t mind. It’s one of those universal feelings as a mom
1 Like
Not rude" so never think that. You let the mom know your boundaries from the jump. Hey fyi" my son can’t go without me, he can’t swim & I don’t take any chances.
Your the parent sweetheart not them. How others parent is on them. But you definitely need to let people know your boundaries from the jump.
Go! Listen to you gut. And get your kid in swimming lessons!
2 Likes
Go, any mother that wants to go to make sure their kid is safe and doesnt know the other person very well…gives you the opportunity to get to know them. She should understand
I would def go, but a 6 year old should know how to swim, especially if you DO NOT have a pool. This keeps your kid safe.
Don’t let ur child go by himself. No one watches your child like u do
Definitely go. I never just drop off an leave. It seems nowadays mom’s entrust their children to strangers.
I never let my kid go with other parents alone unless they are family or close friends that I trust. Too many weirdos in the world! But I would think as a mom she’d be totally understanding if you came along and if she wasn’t ok with it that would raise some red flags for me. I would just explain your concerns and ask if she minds if you come along to keep an eye on him since he’s not a strong swimmer. Better safe than sorry!
Hell no. If my kid is swimming in your pool, I have every right to be there. Or just in general. If you invite my child, you also invited me.
3 Likes
Not rude at all. The safety of your child should always come first
1 Like
I would just explain that if she didn’t mind you could make it like a play date kind of thing and you two could get to know each other too!
2 Likes
Well, if you don’t trust the mother or the son, why are you letting your son go over their house and go swimming?
1 Like
I would let her know he is more than welcome to join as long as you are allowed to be there as well. No need to be rude about it but firm is a good thing. When your son was invited there should have been an invite extended to you as well. Either way, go with your gut. I personally would be attending or my son wouldn’t be going.
1 Like
I would ask. " can I come to HELP watch, and take some photos too !"
5 Likes
Go, get to know your neighbor better. It’ll be a good thing. Enjoy all the “mom, watch what I can do”'s. Thats every kids favorite part of swimming anyways, having mom watch all their tricks.
2 Likes
Go as he is only 6 and he isn’t the best swimmer. Accidents happen. Just take a big snack/treat for everyone 
2 Likes
If my kid is invited, I’m invited too, I don’t trust anyone with my kids.
2 Likes
id be going as well! i don’t usually comment on these, but this particular one gave me major anxiety! either you go or him not
2 Likes
I would go, your child doesn’t swim well and you do not know the mother, her children can obviously swim well. You child is only 6, I would be there to make sure my child was safe!!!
Not rude at all!!!
I would go if I were you and I would love you to come if I were her!
Call her up and offer to bring some snacks, let her know how your little feels, make friends!
3 Likes
Safety first. Above all else
Above politeness, above society rules, ABOVE ALL.
If you have fears for your child’s safety, either he doesn’t go…or you go with. No exceptions.
4 Likes
your kid, your rules. Tell the mom, due to the fact that he cannot swim well, he cannot come without a parent with him, and ask if that’s ok. If it’s not ok, he stays home. Don’t apologize for caring about the safety of your child.
3 Likes
Meet up with her in public AFTER COVID get to know her then decide from there
2 Likes
Instead of inviting your self make your self clear to the other mother that you have concerns and would appreciate being there whe your baby is over there swimming
Your not being to paranoid
You have every right to feel that way
And maybe you can become friends with the other mother
1 Like
I’d go too can’t be too careful ha d a pool once my grandson who was 2 just jumped in I jumped in and got him scarry but just took seconds
Just go. Until you feel comfortable with the situation. No explanation needed . You’re his mother. If someting happens it’d be your fault for not being there. Go.
1 Like
Im sure she would not mind. Who wouldn’t want help watching kids especially in a pool.
1 Like
Go… trust your gut… he’s your baby and swimming pools are dangerous and you’ll be worried the whole time anyways!
I’m definitely going
You will never forgive yourself if you don’t go and something happens. You really csnt be too careful around water.
1 Like
I’d go an explain he doesn’t swim well, take a cooler and snacks for all ,it will work out ! An plz put water wings on your child !! Safty first.
I would reply with “WE would love to come spend a few hours! Thank you! Is there anything WE need to bring along?”
That will get the WE point across without a big question attached. And if you being there is an issue, they can cancel our reschedule.
1 Like
I would thank the mom for the invitation, but let her know your boundaries for acceptance. If she agrees, go with your son.
who invites a 6 yr old to anything without a parent–of course you should go! Don’t assume you are invited to swim of course but be there for your son
Just tell her. I wouldn’t let him go if u can’t go…there is something wrong if he can go but u can’t
Just ask hey would it be ok if I stayed with him it never hurts to ask
Not rude at all! I put my kids and their safety before all else. If she finds it rude then I personally think she’s the rude one!
rather be safe than sorry
GRAB YA BATHING SUIT AND ASK IF YOU CAN COME TOO {yummie mummy alerts}
I think the mom would be very understanding!
Seems like she should have invited you both. By all means,go and bring snacks, and don’t feel bad if you can’t stay long.
1 Like
It’s not rude at all, and I bet she’d enjoy some mom company! Your child is always #1, above anyone’s feelings.
3 Likes
I think it might be a bit rude, I would say be mature about it and just communicate with the other mom 
1 Like
Ask if you could come to watch him if she says no then just don’t send him. I’m sure she wouldn’t care but don’t just be like “I’m staying”
1 Like
Go thrre with your son. Get to know your neighbor and watch your own kid and the others
1 Like
And get him a vest float
And definitely tell her he can’t swim well
My daughter definitely wouldn’t be going by herself. I would just explain to the mom that I’m not comfortable with her being in the water without me there as she isn’t a strong swimmer. I don’t care who is offended that I don’t trust them with my kid if I don’t know them well enough lol. Either I go… or she doesn’t unfortunately.
14 Likes
Lady that’s your kid. You go where he goes if you feel uncomfortable. And if she has a problem with you going then maybe your son shouldn’t go either. But honestly I don’t think she would mind. Your son is 6 he’s not a teenager and you don’t know his mom
3 Likes
My child wouldn’t be going if I wasn’t there…the whole time. You just said you don’t know the mom that well. So why would you leave your child somewhere where you don’t know the people you’re leaving him with? And there’s water involved? And he can’t swim that well? And there are older kids who you don’t know. And your son said he wanted you there. That in itself would be enough for me. No way in hell I wouldn’t be right there.
2 Likes
Talk to her about him not swimming very well. Most people would understand and be fine with you being there
2 Likes
Why don’t you just be an adult and have an actual conversation with the mom, instead of being immature?
4 Likes
Talk to her about I’m sure she won’t have a problem in my opinion I if I had a pool and my son wanted to invite friends swimming I would prefer the mom to be there too one just never know anything can happen I would rather a mom that says I can join you all rather than only drops him off but I know some have to work so if they can’t I understand
1 Like
I don’t send my kid to someone’s place to go swimming unless I’m there watching. No way. Either I go or nobody goes.
2 Likes
Not rude at all. I would trust no one to keep a close eye on my kid who couldn’t swim. Accidents happen all
the time. I’m sure if the tables were turned, the other mom would feel the same way
1 Like
I would say “hey, I’m not busy today, I would love to stick around, help you out with the kids and get to know you if that’s alright”. I bet she would appreciate it. I know I probably would!
5 Likes
He’s not going to learn anything if you helicopter him his whole life 
just make sure you communicate the fact that he can’t swim and needs to stay in the shallow end
1 Like
It should be assumed that you’d be accompanying. Quite the opposite, you should clear it with the host if you were planning on NOT accompanying your son.
1 Like
The fact you “don’t know the mum at all” has me wondering why you would allow your 6 year old to go alone?
6 Likes
You go with your child. Your child cannot swim well, I’d much rather risk someone possibly being “offended” I don’t trust them than risk the life of my child. All it takes is seconds for a child to drown.
5 Likes
Go with your son or don’t let him go at all. Sounds sketchy to me.
2 Likes
If she has an issue with it, I wouldn’t let your son go.
4 Likes