I get so tired of husbands trying to treat their wife’s like a child. If you work and you like the shoes, and in your heart you just want to bless this little guy with the shoes…Do it. If his sister gets offended…apologize and tell her you just loved the shoes…tell her you love her and want to help.I am sure if she needed ANYTHING, you would be first in line to help: THATS ALL
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Im not “well off” and I love when someone is able to do something for my kids that Im not able to do, regardless if its a gift or an activity! It makes me happy that my kids are getting something great. That being said everyone handles things differently. He would probably know gis sister better and if he feels that way maybe there is a reason he would feel that way. I absolutely think you’re not wrong, but he would know her feelings better probably.
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Are they shoes she would buy for her son if she could afford them? Because if not, then don’t give them to him. Of she would, then go for it and give them to him.
It never bothered me when someone would give my kid something I couldn’t afford. It did bother me if it was something pointless or would cause me more work/issues, or it was something I’d never buy for my kid.
Personally, I’d never buy my kid name brand shoes like that, so that wouldn’t be a good gift for my kid. I’d figure out where they were from and return them or sell them.
If my kid can’t tie yet, but you’re buying my kid tie shoes, you’re wasting your time and money because that causes me to do more work. I didn’t allow my daughter to wear tie shoes until she could tie them herself.
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Your heart is in the right place and nothing wrong with tending to the kiddos. They are family. But make sure you spend time with her maybe a girls day to assure her that your there for all of them threw this difficult time. She wont take it personally with the right intents. But agree with the other ladies. Expensive Shoes for a child that young is a waste of money.
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Personally I would never want an expensive pair of shoes for a baby whether I was going through an expensive divorce or not. Kids outgrow clothes and shoes so fast it’s wasted money in my opinion. I am sure she would appreciate something more reasonably priced just the same and would be more practical.
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You can gift the shoes if you want but they won’t be worn for long because babies grow incredibly fast. If those were gifted to my child, I’d be appreciative but I wouldn’t be able to help thinking about all the other stuff that could have been bought with the money spent for 1 pair of baby shoes. I’d much rather the money spent on such shoes over having those shoes for my baby. All baby shoes are super cute because they are so small & well… cute. If you insist on gifting those shoes… provide a gift card or cash too so that she can buy what the baby needs as well.
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He’s crazy. Definitely give them to her. She would be really happy. If she can’t afford it that’s why she has family members that are there to help her
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I think it’s nice. With everything going on, I’m sure they would appreciate something nice being gifted to their child that they currently can’t afford. That being said, shoes for a baby, especially expensive shoes that they’ll grow out of in a matter of weeks isn’t practical…
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I just say don’t be mad if she ends up selling them. If she’s going through an expensive divorce don’t get offended if she sells them to make sure her kids needs are met instead of shoes that let’s face it on a one year old will be outgrown in a matter of months. 🤷
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Nothing wrong with wanting to spoil your niece/nephew. Maybe get Mama a nice relaxing self Care gifts as well (Couple Bath bombs, maybe a bottle of wine, face masks) Divorces are emotionally hard on both parties. And maybe just showing a little bit of love that way will make her day 
I say give her the gifts. Or take the shoes back and just give her the cash. Because “Family should help one another, and it takes a village to raise a child”
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It depends on the person, my sister was a bit better off financially than I was and she used to get my kids things I couldn’t afford to get them. It made me so happy that my kids have these gifts no matter where they came from.
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I’d ask the mom first. Only because you know there are those people out there that are going to mouth her if they see it. People can be so judgemental like “oh she can afford Gucci shoes, but wants child support” etc. (Even though they know nothing about the situation)
She may not want that kind of attention/negativity right now. Then again, she may have thick skin and not care.
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I think if the mom loves her brother and her child she would understand that it’s a gift from love not showing them up
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I’ve always been the type to gift, especially when someone is going through tough times. I’ve never had someone be upset or refuse. Maybe make sure she wouldn’t be offended but I don’t see why anyone would unless there were more children and you were choosing to shower one and not another with gifts.
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I always ask my siblings before I buy for their kids. Sometimes it yes and when it’s no they give me alternative ideas.
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I say gift the mom some Gucci shoes. She could actually where them and it might make her feel good to have something nice if she is going through a hard time. Get the boy something else more appropriate for his age. A one year old doesn’t need Gucci shoes.
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Give the shoes, with a gift receipt and never speak of it again. If she likes the shoes, they show, if she needs funds funds for something else, she can take them back, no questions asked.
If you are truly doing well, maybe the shoes and grocery store gift card?
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Couldn’t you purchase a few things she needs for the same amount as those shoes? Babies grow so fast, they won’t fit him long enough to justify the cost…
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I always had a rough time when my kids we’re little, and even though it made me a little jealous that I couldn’t do more for them, I would never begrudge them a gift from someone, and was happy they got more than just I could provide.
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I personally don’t mind any gift someone feels like giving my child. But that is just me. I don’t know your sister in law.
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My SIL gifts my children things that we couldn’t afford and I couldn’t be more grateful for it 
my kids don’t really know the prices of things as they’re 5 and 6 months but my 5 year old is always more than thankful also and it doesn’t seem to have any impact on what he thinks when it comes to cheaper things
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My daughter REGULARLY gets gifts from family members that we cannot afford.
*being that he’s 1… unfortunately he will out grow very quickly…
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The best gift I received from my in laws when my son was born was 10 cases of diapers, not packs but cases. They’re expensive! As he grew, I was able to exchange them at the grocery store for a larger size. Best and most useful gift ever.
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Me personally would ask his sister say hey I got these shoes and would love for lil man to have them. But if not I will return them
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I wouldn’t say it’s “not right” but to me personally the idea of buying Gucci shoes for a baby seems like a huge waste of money. I’m sure your SIL would prefer something more useful that will last longer than a couple of months.
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It sounds lovely though kids that age grow out of shoes and clothes so fast. Maybe consider a gift voucher of the equivalent amount so she could buy loads of stuff 
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Definitely be better to put it to something more practical. What you spent on those could be used on something he’ll actually wear
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That’s the type of gift that although well-intended really could backfire because if she is stressed out about $ already, her baby son receiving a lavish gift that she cannot afford (a lifestyle she can no longer afford) may bring her focus on that grim reality – making the gift more of a non-gift.
I really don’t want be the meanie chastising you for having to explain something, someone else has already explained, but if you need to collect a bunch of it’s really OK before you go ahead and do what you obviously already intend to do, let us all know how thrilled she is w/her 1 year old son’s gucci shoes – he will wear once or twice at best.
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I would totally gift them if you can! I’m sure they would be super appreciative of any gift you gave!
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I have 4 kiddos so times weren’t always smooth. I NEVER minded if someone wanted to get my kids stuff whether I would have bought that item or not. It’s a gift. Go for it. She will appreciate it.
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Girl as the mother of 3 boys I can say that you should do it! I am ALWAYS grateful when my kids get gifted with nice things cuz they deserve it and it helps me out as well!!! I love my kids enough to appreciate people that want to buy them nice things and spend time with them! I think she will be grateful to you! Go for it!
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I loved when my son received gifts no matter the cost. Some of the most expensive items my son has have come from other people. Give the baby the shoes!
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Why does a baby need that for one and two gift him something he will enjoy! He’s 1
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It’s a super cute gift BUT a better gift would be buying the child classes to a baby group or a gift certificate to a fun place for babies. It would be thoughtful towards the mom as well.
I loved when people did that for me! I was out there affording wal mart and goodwill. And then BOOM, something brand name. It was great. But do consider maybe asking if there’s anything they need for the family!
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I think it is nice you want to spoil your nephew but a 1 yr old will outgrow them quickly give her a gift card for him to use on something more useful
My daughter grew out of shoes quickly. At that age I was lucky if her shoes lasted 3 months. If you want to help your sister-in-law I would see if she would be ok with it or need something different that would be more useful. She probably wouldn’t be able to resell them for anywhere near what was paid when the child outgrows them.
Personally, I always got expensive gifts from my grandparents because my parents couldn’t afford as much. I don’t think my parents ever minded and my best friend does the same thing for my daughter, she’s a nurse and makes good money and gets to save a lot living with roommates so she gets the nice things I can’t afford to get right now. My daughter is too young to know the difference of who got it for her, but I don’t think I’ll mind when she’s older either. As long as my daughter appreciates it and knows it was bought with love, that’s all that matters to me. But that’s just me, I would definitely at least talk to the mom first and make sure it’s okay. And make it clear that you won’t be offended if she wants you to return them.
I would be more practical. Kid’s wear shoes for such a short period before they out grow them. I recently bought baby presents for some of my son’s friends having children. Being a pharmacist a bought a vaporizer, baby Tylenol , baby Motrin, baby gas drops, some other necessities. One of the young ladies said “I’m so glad it wasn’t clothes. I couldn’t fake being happy about clothes again”.
So I’m sure she will love them right who wouldn’t but maybe she can use the money buy many things her baby may need with a gift card!
First of all does a 1 yr old really need GUCCI shoes?
Second yes, your husband is absolutely right! When you have your own baby do what you want with your money. Third, if she is struggling and your able to spend money on GUCCI baby shoes why don’t you gift her a gift card for groceries or other essentials. Give her a spa day and take the baby overnight. There are tons of things you could do to help.
I highly doubt a 1 year old needs Gucci shoes. I don’t think anyone does. He will out grow them I. 2 mo anyways. Get him a toy he’ll love and get her a gift card she can use when she knows what she needs for the both of them. Gucci shoes for a 1 year old…
Gucci shoes for a kid are silly. You may want to buy them something useful. That being said, friends and family typically buy things parents don’t need because they are cute. Maybe…give them the shoes but purchase diapers too. Something that says you were thinking if them, but also, you were really thinking if what they may need.
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Go to the source, ask SIL. She may or may not be offended but you should definitely make sure first. You’re not trying to step on toes just put some cute shoes on the babies toes. but like some have said, it could hurt feelings or be considered rude, mom might feel like you don’t care about the baby’s needs and just wanna play dress up… not my opinion, just trying to think of the different ways it could be interpreted by mom.
I bought children expensive gifts myself , even my stepson’s baby brother expensive gifts … If we have we have it not our fault that the parents can’t supply , the children shouldn’t suffer … a gift is a gift
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If she is going through an expense divorce and is perhaps struggling a little…i think Gucci shoes for a baby who can barely walk is a bit of a silly gift. Gucci shoes are literally the last thing needed…if you care I would literally hand her some money or a gift card to a supermarket. The baby will be out of those shoes in a few months. Its a bit insensitive to buy something so frivolous when she is going through a rough time.
At $350 for a pair of shoes for a 1 year old, you are wasting your money. Start a college fund for the child, buying the shoes that will likely fit him for a couple of months is like flushing it down the toilet. Give the education bond and a $20 toy and your done. Use money wisely!
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I think it’s more of a matter that Gucci shoes on a kid that either doesn’t walk or hardly can is a total waste of money. I’m sure she’d rather sensible shoes and maybe a donation to their college fund or something practical for their family. Even if I had the money to spend, I would rather donate it in their name than put Gucci shoes on an infant. That’s super tacky to me and just a way to say you have money. Buy then a museum membership, or something that will add to their life.
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Omg What is so wrong with giving a special gift to a special baby? That’s how I feel about it. I mean we should all be grateful when we get any gift for ourselves and especially our children. If she is a person that is grateful for what she has, then she shouldn’t care. I think your husband needs to relax and so does this world. What is wrong with just sharing with others how you want to. Not how you are told to period. You go with your heart on this one sweety and give that baby them shoes. Lol love and prayers. I think that if that’s what you want to give to the baby then why would you ask the mother if it’s okay? That’s crazy to me. I mean regardless about the divorce, this isn’t about that. This is about you giving the baby something because you love the baby and you want to. I mean, should we ask the mother to be at a shower if it’s to much to buy this or that? No we shouldn’t it’s a gift and it’s coming with love. So we shouldn’t question it. Good luck!! Do what is on your heart, not anyone elses.
Seems like a lot of money for a pair of shoes he’s not going to wear very long. Maybe put that towards something he would get more use out of?
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When I was going through my separation from my sons dad, I appreciated when my family gave my son things I could not afford. When my sister was going through stuff I was able to help her out. It all comes full circle.
Umm no 1 year old needs shoes that expensive when they will out grow them quick… and if he isn’t walking why would you put shoes on them?? Only for the parents benefit of looking good. Kids just learning to walk need to be with out shoes for proper balance… and yes its the truth a family memeber is a dr
I would say go for it!! Obviously she loves the baby to want to get him something nice, I would be happy if somebody got my kids a nice gift like that. I’m sure the mom would give her recognition if somebody asks about the shoes!
it is a nice gesture. I wouldnt be offended at all for my son to get a gift I personally couldn’t afford…but like so many pointed out they wouldnt be worn/last long with a 1 year old. Heck my son is 4 years old and I’m already shopping size small in the boys department.
Personally I wouldn’t care if I was her…I’d be grateful…cuz the only way my kids would ever get gucci or coach anything is if someone else bought it…does seem a lil ridic for a 1 yr old tho
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I had kids several years before my Sister even got married. She made good money and loved to spoil her Nieces and Nephews. She always got them the best gifts. Still does! lol
I think it’s a hard call she might love getting shoes for him sense kids grow so fast and shoes are shoes who cares the brand or she will be hurt sense it may look like your showing off or she feels poorly.
Put the money of the Gucci shoes in 529 plan for the baby or giver her a gift card or the money.
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I received a Burberry coat for my daughter when she was a baby from her aunt and i thought it was great. Theres no way i would be able to afford that,i still appreciated the gift and the thought
Such a sweet thought but 1 year olds can’t really walk. You could always wait for him to get a bit older so they can actually be used. I don’t see it necessarily showing them up. You saw something and wanted to buy it. I see no harm. I wouldn’t feel bad if someone gifted me an expensive present for my future child. It’s totally up to the person and what they want to spend their money on.
Babies go through shoes in a matter of weeks to maybe 2 or 3 months. Plus as a mother of 5 shoes were always getting kicked off and lost. If she is going through a very costly divorce she might appreciate a bunch of smaller items in various sizes to keep her going a longer period of time. Maybe a little something for her to even.
Unpopular opinion… every time i put those shoes on my kid (which is prob like 5 before they outgrow them) I would think about how many diapers I could have bought with that money. I’d think they were awesome but those thoughts would still cross my mind. Now if they were old enough that the child himself got joy from them, different story. 
I’m cheap though.
I didn’t realize what kind of price Gucci shoes for toddlers are… $350? Really? That IS too much. If you want to spend $350, give her something that will be useful for years, not weeks. It still maybe uncomfortable for her, that’s a lot of money. Maybe spread it out across several holidays… I really wanted to side with you, but then I looked up the shoes… I’m sorry, I agree with your husband.
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I couldn’t afford much when my kids were little. It never offended me when friends or family bought my kids things that were over my budget. I was happy and grateful for my kids to have nice things.
I would ask the mama. If she is uncomfortable with such an expensive gift, then return them, but if she’s okay with it, go ahead and gift them.
Maybe since she is going through a tough time financially you could get him some clothing, diapers, wipes, ect, stuff that he can use and enjoy but also that would help her out right now.
*your nephew
I say do it. If she’s smart she will let him wear them a few times and then sell them second hand when he outgrows them in a few months 
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I say give her the shoes you bought . you didnt do it to "show off " or “show them up” you did it because you thought they are adorable. Tell her i see the cutest shoes and i had to get them for the baby and bring them to her .
I buy stuff for friends babies because its freaking adorable and i cant help it !
Just give her the shoes
I don’t see why she would be offended, she probably feels a bit lonely going though a divorce it’s a lovely gesture, why not get her some flowers or something too, sort of shows her you thinking of them both, sometimes people concentrate on kids and forget about their mamma’s x
I would wait till he is older so he can appreciate the shoes. Things are going to be tough for mom and maybe would appreciate a more practical gift for that age
I would love someone to spoil my kiddos like that especially if I can not do it for them
I would be so appreciative… Not offended or upset
Shoes that expensive for a one year old would maybe be worn once or twice. Is it really worth the money? Why not gift the money you would have spent on the shoes to your sister-in-law to help her through the chaotic time she’s going through right now?
He’s a year old and will grow out of them in mere months. What a waste of money. Maybe put that money in a education fund that you could add a little bit to every holiday and birthday- or even every month. I feel that would be more appreciated than a pair of designer shoes. Just a thought.
I brought my girls name brand items and son for pictures and special occasion that’s what I work for and also now my Grand daughters too. Get a gift receipt and family is there too help that’s a nice gift when there too small she can sell them or pass the shoes on also keep them as a memory.
for heaven’s sake…it’s a pair of shoes for a baby that she thinks are cute and he’d look good in…buy the damn shoes and move on…we make too much of little things…
If she’s struggling… paying a light bill… or taking her grocery shopping… or a gift cards would be better bcuz at such a young age that baby will grow out of those shoes fast. You mean well but gucci shoes don’t pay for food, electricity, or water.
You can buy whatever gift you want. You are the Aunt gifts dont have to be practical.
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Honestly . take shoes back get the child clothes and teddy bear . kids grow way to fast …and yes get something for mom
Why don’t you ask her what the baby needs as you want to get a gift that is useful, the baby may need something that the parents cannot afford. The Gucci shoes may look cute, but does he really need them?
Maybe something along the lines of a membership to the zoo, aquarium or even items she’ll continue to need. Sheets! Kids always need sheets.
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I say give the gift!!! Thats exactly what it is. A gift! I thought of you and wanted to give these to you. Nothing more nothing less. If you ask and make it about money thats what it will be. Its not about about!!! Give the gift!
Just because its not something I could afford, I would never be upset if someone got my kids something nice. I would never want to take away from my kids because I couldn’t personally give it to them. I dont think it makes anyone look bad. I think its a nice gesture and thats all. I would absolutely let my kids have something, especially if it was something they would like or could use. No shame for me, I’d sit back thankful.
Ok so, a few points that need to be made here.
#1 Why would you buy a one year old child something very expensive? He will have outgrown them in six months.
#2 You two are married which means that it’s a joint decision where the money goes.
#3 She could take it either way. But your husband probably does not want to risk making her feel less than adequate.
#4 If you want to spend money on that child, buy them something they will get real use out of. I promise you that the shoes will not be worth it.
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Strong Tia speak to your Sister in law take her out for a girl girl day.
Nails Hair and toes and lunch treat her. Then talk about what you want to get your Nephew
I always bought my god child things her parents could nkt afford and parents were always grateful. Go with your gut and spoil the child.
As a parent I loved it when I was gifted things I couldn’t afford , especially if they were not practical. I was always able to pass them down to others
If the child is young, I wouldn’t spend a lot of money on shoes. If you can afford it buy the child some clothes and clothes in a bigger size. That would probably be most helpful.
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As an aunt I would be grateful to receive a thoughtful and practical gift during a time of potential hardship and heartache.
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Damn girl! You can buy my kids Gucci shoes whenever you want! Whether I can afford it or not irrelevant!
On a serious note, buy the baby the shoes! 1st birthdays a sentimental and the shoes are going to be keepsakes, which are priceless. I’m sure she knows you well enough to know your intention!
Well the kid only 1 right? I wouldn’t get him something so expensive unless is something he really needs like a bed or cloths. Shoes aren’t that important for babies that age
In my opinion, it’s pointless to get a kid such expensive shoes because he isn’t going to fit them in 3 months. And yes, it can bring up bad feelings. I was a mother that had a hard time affording things when my kids were little. I did what I could and even tho I was appreciative of those who did buy the more expensive items, all it did was remind me of what I couldn’t afford. I wouldn’t do it.
Honestly I think expensive shoes for a 1 yr old, or any kid who’s feet are still growing is rediculous! If his mom is going thru an expensive divorce, she would most likely appreciate a gift card rather than expensive shoes he’ll outgrow in 6 months.
I was thrilled when my friend bought my daughter a pair of beautiful boots outside of my price range. We kept them and she wore holes in them. Keep in mind though that if they’re poor enough they may sell them and you’ll have to accept that possible outcome because food is more important than shoes.
A one year old doesn’t care about name brands. I wouldn’t, respect her struggle and buy a toy. Nice gesture, just my opinion.
its a great gift but i feel this kind of gift for a 1 year old that wont last very long in them and not even wear them all the time. if you have that kind of money … put it towards a fun kinds game system of some kind or something that he can enjoy right away or a fun toy … or … maybe she would appreciate a small amount of upcoming seasonal clothes if they are short on money?? … if I was short on money, would appreciate things that i could really use vs an expensive pair of shoes
Check with the mom, but gifting something they can’t afford is part of the gift. Honestly I think Gucci shoes is a little silly in my opinion because a one year old has no idea what’s on his feet and doesn’t give a damn how much they cost. So it’s kind of a waste of an expensive gift when you could get him something he will use for a longer period of time like toys or something else more long lasting than shoes or clothing.
Honestly I think you should listen to your husband on this one because he most likely knows his sister better than you. You could just talk to your sister in law and ask her what the baby needs right now. Once you get a list from her then go crazy. Or you could ask your husband for some other ideas.
I only wish my son had aunts and uncles that cared enough about him to give him a gift, no matter the cost😄
I never had a problem with people giving my kids gifts that I can’t afford myself. I actually liked it!
I would think that she would like it because it’s something for her child she cannot afford her self , I would appreciate something like that for my kids