Of course I would it’s not their fault that they got a lousy son or a lousy family member
Yes, because it really takes a village, the grandparents are not the dad and should not be punished as such, And the lord Love your baby gets and feels will make that child a lovey human being!
Unless there’s reasons not to relatives should and you might find support there.
Wow SMH!!! It’s not about u hun
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I’m having a hard time understanding this post. First it said something about family seeing them if dad isn’t providing. Then said “even if he’s on child support” then you said something about why would I let the dad see them if they aren’t providing. So I’m confused on who it’s about maybe it’s my comprehension… is it about dad being on child support, dad not being on child support, dad seeing the baby or dad’s family seeing the baby?? If you talking about not allowing your child to have family over money that’s ridiculous asf. Like imagine having to explain that to them when they’re grown that the only reason you kept them from their dad or other family is bc of money?? Years of their life not knowing their family, their own blood, over a dollar. Nah not a good look and a good way to have bad blood with your child if it’s just about money. I have a few friends who cut their mom out of their lives over this exact reason. Doesn’t matter if he’s paying child support to you if he wants to be there for his child, and his family, let them! In the end family is all we have and some don’t even have that so
You sound like a bitter baby mama who uses her kid as a pawn. If the family has done nothing to you, there’s no reason they shouldn’t be allowed to be apart of the kids life. You sound extremely selfish and childish.
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My son loves seeing his father’s parents when he can(they live states away). I still talk to his parents few times a month…havent seen or spoken to the said’father’ in years but no reason my son can’t or shouldn’t have a relationship with his grandparents
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I think there’s a lot that would depend on the answer. Does he have a job? Is he trying to help provide for the baby? Does he treat the baby right? Does he respect you? Does his family respect you? I’d definitely ask myself these questions before saying yes.
Absolutely. Any family who wants to be in the babies life should most definitely be able to. The more love the better.
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Yes I would, they are still family and have nothing to do with you and him not working out or for anything he does or doesnt do as a father. They are not responsible for his actions so why punish them. It’s great for a child to have family around as long as those people are healthy for the child and the child has a positive relationship with them. It seems petty and selfish to not let his family see the baby without a good reason. Put your kid needs first
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Wow 
so punish the child and the family for the father’s issues? If they are capable and fit of course.
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Umm yeah of course I’d let them see the baby. They have nothing to do with his actions. They are still the baby’s family
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Do not keep the baby from seeing his/her fathers family! That is wrong on so many levels.
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Because you never know the “baby daddy family” may provide or be there for your child better than the “baby daddy”
Just because baby daddy is a pos doesn’t mean the while family is. 
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Child support and child visitation are seperate issues, also yes I would because it’s not their fault he isn’t stepping up and I would never deny my child family and love, unless there is serious concerns of neglect/abuse money should never determine a child’s relationship with a parent or the parents family
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why would you deprive your child of possible loving extended family because his or her dad is not mature enough to be responsible. My personal opinion is that’s not fair to your child and your child is who you’re going to answer to when the time comes. Let the bitterness go and do what’s in your child’s best interest and not your egos.
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In my opinion ur only hurting the child … unless the child is in danger . I promise the child will grow up with issues trust me, i was one of those children.
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You sound super childish. I hope for your child’s sake you grow as a person.
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My childs father is not in the picture and I still make sure my 3yo keeps relationships with HER family. It’s not just his family
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I’m literally terrified of my son having kids with someone like you one day. TERRIFIED. Don’t give a damn whats going on between the two of them, I will ALWAYS want to be involved in my grandchildren lives. This makes me sick
An opportunity, supervised, sure. Unless I had reason to believe their involvement would be harmful, they’d have a chance.
Stop making it about money!!! Shame on you. A child deserves to know both sides as long as there is no physical or mental abuse.
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I would let me child go with his dad side of the family if they’ve never given me a reason to not let him go… it’s not about you it’s about what’s best for the child… who cares what the other parent doesn’t do if the family is safe for the child to be around let the child know the dads family to
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If the family loves that baby than absolutely. If they are just doing it so dad can see the baby nahhh.
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yes!!! children are not weapons and sometime family members may not like how a man acts but they have no control over it so grow the #$%& up and put you childs needs before your petty vindictiveness
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The more people who love your children the better. If they are healthy adults, please don’t deny them access to your child out of spite. My daughter’s best friend is her dad’s mom (dad is non existent atm). If I did what you did, my daughter would be missing out on one of the most important relationships of her life. Good luck in your life, I hope you truly do what’s best for your child. 
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His parents didn’t wrong you…your child needs to know their family. You’re being selfish unless there is a legit concern for your child’s wellbeing. Don’t be a bitter mother who gives all single mothers a bad rap.
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Matter fact my youngest sons father passed away and didnt have much do with him anyhow was always tryin get me back instead of talk to our son anyhow my mom and oldest son will be takin him to Arkansas to visit said fathers dad and wife also my oldest is goin to arkansas to visit his fathers dad his said father has never been in the picture but since my oldest was 3 he spent everyother weekend with his fathers dad so its not the familys fault childs father is 
if they want too be part of kids life and are good people best too have them in the kids lives
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Uhmm yes…I would still let them see the baby. Chances are it’s not their fault the father is the way he is. Not letting them see the baby because the father is not responsible is just petty.
My brothers baby mama says things Like this. But pretty much says that If he won’t be with her then none of us including him can be apart of babies life.
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I didn’t read past the title, but yes. If they are safe and loving.
One person does not reflect the entire family. If you’re still uncomfortable with it than have them over to your house to let them see your little one until you do feel comfortable. But do not keep a child from the rest of their family solely based off the poor decisions of one person.
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Girls like you really shouldn’t have children. I haven’t received $1 of support in the whole 10 years but I would never stop her from seeing family because of $$$. Safety concerns yes, abuse or neglect, yes. But I’m not about to hold a child hostage over some damn money get the f*** over yourself. That child is gonna go up to hate you. And you would deserve it.
you cant take out on the grandparents for wut the father does the grandparents deserves to see the child or children unless u have good reason to not let them
Absolutely! If they love my child, then yes. If they show no interest, then I’m not going to make them see my child.
Y deprive the child of family even if his father doesnt care or isnt around…family is family. Personally the way I think about it is if something were unfortunate happened they would be able to be there for him and help ur baby daddy or even take the child if ur ex didn’t want to. Itd be an easier transition for everyone and especially for the child if they knew or could trust the person than the alternative
Relationships and child support are separate issues. The more people who love your child, the better for your child. And for you, it takes a village.
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Yes. As long as they stay civil.
It’s not about the “baby daddy” or money it’s about the kid. Why should he not have his family around if they are safe and loving? He deserves that
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I think more family to love them is a positive thing.
Why punish his family just because he’s not being a good dad…its not his family’s fault…to deprive his family and his child from all the love they have for each other is petty and wrong…i know I’ve lived through this and it’s not fair or right to keep the baby away from his family…its heartbreaking for all involved…i hope you understand Love…
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Yes I would let my child still see and spend time with his family. Just because he isn’t being there it’s not right to make them pay for his mistakes. It doesn’t seem like they did anything wrong.
Relationships with your child’s other family, has nothing to do with money…if they want to be in his life…let them…xx
Children are not pawns… just because the father does not want anything to do with the baby why punish the rest of the family ?.. if the family are decent people and bubba is safe with them and they want to support you and bubs why are you being so vindictive… Drop your ego and power tripping, that bubba has your family and the fathers family…
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Your child deserves to know both sides of the family. My daughter’s father has never been active in her life and never paid CS. But I have always tried to include his side of the family and him. However I am the only one who ever tried involving them. My daughter has still only saw them a handful of times in the last 6 years, but atleast I know I’ve done my part in trying to include them in her life. I would never want my daughter to grow up and think I kept them away from her and have her resent me for it. I’ve done my part. The rest falls on them.
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It takes a village, and if they are willing to be part of that village I would let them see the kid. Maybe they would be more open to helping when the kids needs something.
Me and my 2nd baby daddy’s mom are cool. She checks his ass too…I might be mad at him but my daughter still gonna see her momo ( gma). One time I got sick with covid, she took me to hospital kicked my bd out of his room and got me better.
The child deserves to know the family unles they are a danger to the baby
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What does his family have to do with him not paying child support? I’ll just say this… The more people to love your baby the better! You should absolutely let them be involved if they want to be! You’re only hurting your baby if you forbid it. Shoot you’d be hurting yourself too! The vibe I get from this post is pure selfishness. Be the bigger person.
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Yes. Why are you punishing the grandparents? They do have legal rights
Ur sick in the head, toxic females should be put down.
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The dad needs to go to court and get visitation rights. So his family doesn’t have to wait til she “let’s” him see the child. The time to decide he might be a shitty dad was before you got pregnant.
If the family wants to know about the baby, the other parent should get their child and take their child to their family so they can be around him. 
It’s not the family’s fault the father is irresponsible. As long as they want to be in the child’s life and they don’t cause any issues or are a danger to the child then why not? The child has a right to know their fathers side of the family even if their father isn’t around.
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I think it depends on the relationship & circumstances. If they are respectful of you & your child, bring him over there. You never know. You could end up with a better relationship with them then the father. Regardless, the father’s family is still part of your child’s family
The more love for your child the better, if they aren’t bashing you and causing problems and just want to know the child then why stop it? Honestly be thankful they even want to, some don’t, be the bigger person and put your feelings ga aside for your child because your child deserves to know all his family regardless!
My 4 year old sons dad has never been in my sons life. He’s too busy worrying about drugs and dang sure doesn’t help by paying child support but everybody else on my sons dad side of the family are absolutely amazing! They are as much my family as my sons and I don’t think I could go thru being a single mom without them. It’s not the family’s fault that dad doesn’t do what he should and they shouldn’t suffer because of dad. As long as the family follows any rules you set regarding dad then yes absolutely let them be a part of the child’s life. In my case the only rule I have with my sons dad’s side of the family is that my son is not allowed to go anywhere alone with his dad and they completely respect my wishes. My sons dad knows he has to follow this rule as well when he does decide to come around. Honestly when my son was first born I felt the same way you do. As in why would I bring these people into my life if the dad isn’t going to do what he’s supposed to but it kept eating at me. Eating at me that lI was depriving my son of people that only want to know him and love him. When my son was right at a year old I took him over to his aunties house for Christmas for the first time and it was the best decision I ever made!
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It’s not his family’s fault that he chose to be a horrible dad. As long as they remain civil, I would let them. I have full custody of my kids and I let my ex husband’s family see his kids any time they want as long as they remain civil.
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Are they a danger to the safety of the child? If not then there shouldn’t be a problem. Just because he’s a crappy dad doesn’t mean he’s got a crappy family.
What do they have to do with his shitty parenting?
Why are you being so petty… They are still your babies family and they are not your baby daddy. Shame on you
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It’s not your child’s fault or the fathers family’s fault. Every child deserves to be able to know their family.
Wtf… why would you keep a baby from THEIR FAMILY. why would you shut out an entire family because you’re bitter?!
It’s not YOUR CHOICE to keep people from a babies life.
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My daughter’s father left when she was 8 months old. She’s now 4 years old and sees all of his family. Always has. It’s not the families fault and they deserve to know the child regardless of the situation with the dad.
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Yah why wouldn’t you want your child to have a relationship with their own family? Your child’s father sucks but sounds like there are still family members who care so yes I’d absolutely let them be involved
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How does keeping the child away from family solve anything? If the family is loving, caring, responsible and respectful, than why keep them away? It’s not their fault that he’s not in the picture, or taking responsibility. You’re not only punishing them, but punishing your child as well.
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Is it a court order that he has visitation with y’all’s baby ? You don’t have the right to keep baby away from Father n his family unless the baby is in danger
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First of all ,well the he’ll is he and the more love the better
Yes, grandparents, aunts and uncIes, cousin still have a right to know these kids if they make an effort.
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Wow. It’s completely selfish to deprive your kids against other family because of the father. My sons grandma is a big blessing and his side of the family. He engages with all cousins. Don’t punish the grandparents or family and son because of one person the father. And by law even if he doesn’t pay he is still entitled to see the his child. It’s not about money it clearly what your papers states as much as we hate it.
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Because it’s about doing what is best for the child not anyone’s ego
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It’s not your child’s or his family’s fault that your child’s father is not providing. Don’t punish them for HIS f*** up.
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If they’re decent and responsible people, why would you keep the child from them?
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Not the childs family that is wrong here
The father is at fault, but there are parents out there who use their children as weapons against their childrens grandparents aunties unclea cousins, punish the father but don’t deprive the child of families cause you decided to have a child to their son
Adult up
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I feel as long as the fathers family respects you as an individual and the said child’s mother, there’s nothing wrong with the family seeing the baby. However, if you as a mother lose that respect or ever feel your child is unsafe, you do what you think is best. At the end of the day, it is our job to protect our babies and have a voice for them until they can do so for themselves. Selfish or not, if someone doesn’t respect me as a mother when I am the main provider, you don’t get to see my baby. Period.
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Yes absolutely…. Just because sperm donor is a jack ass doesn’t mean my kids shouldn’t know their family
It’s his fault not the familys. Yes I would let him
The baby shouldn’t have to suffer and not have half his family because the dads wrong doings. Is that what you honestly want for your child?
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If that side of the family want nothing but to love and support the child alongside you, then why tf not? Why deprive a child of all the love and support they can get? Smh.
I would but I also believe that if said family is talking shit about you to your kid or disrespectful to you then it would be a hard no.
Not the families fault he’s not around or doing anything if that’s the case… Shouldn’t take it out on the family unless they’re toxic other wise let them be involved
Even if the dad is not providing financially, he should still be allowed to see the child 
otherwise you’re hurting the child too!
Dad’s family shouldn’t even be a question as long as they aren’t a harm to the baby.
Yes you let the dad’s family see the baby. My daughter has a great relationship with her dad’s side of the family because when he wasn’t an active father his family is still my daughter’s family. Why would you not won’t the child to have a relationship with his family?
So… You are keeping the child from his family because dad doesn’t pay child support? His family has nothing to do with that…
It’s not the family’s fault the at this guy isn’t responsible. They could be a big help in the child’s life. As long as they are good to the child why wouldn’t you want them to have more family in its life.
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My daughters dad pays child support. But is not allowed to see her at all. She goes to his parents every other weekend but he’s not allowed there if she is there.
Nope. Been there with my grandson. Definitely a different situation than yours though. We have a protective order and the dad can’t be around the child. I allowed the parents to see the baby at my house as long as the safety of the child was first. They didn’t follow the rules so they haven’t seen my grandson in 5 years. They have no tights unless you allow it
Can a child ever have too many people love them?
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Coming from a similar situation, I was the child deprived, not only did it make me angry I missed out on years with an entire other family, I also do not have a bond with either my mother’s or father’s side of my family so I missed out on both in the end. So yes you should absolutely let any family member to see the baby that wants to even the father, because in the end your child will grow to resent you over it and it would only be your fault.
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I don’t normally respond to these ?? but its not his parents fault he’s an ass. My daughter is going through this. They should not be held responsible for his actions and if they want to see the child be allowed to.
My kids dad up and disappeared for 2yrs, his family still spent tons of time with our child. Grandparents go too soon, don’t take that away from your child
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Child support has nothing to do with visitation in most states. Check your laws. You need to get visitation and child support ordered and it’s up to him to follow it or fight it.
If the parents are good people they should be allowed in the baby’s life. Good for the baby as well.
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I would. That’s your babies family regardless. As long as they aren’t harming your baby, I would let the baby spend time with them. I would supervise the visits while the baby is young though.
Why should a child be withheld from seeing the father’s family because he’s irresponsible. Child support shouldn’t even be in this thought process what does that have to do with his family.
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Becuz child support and visitation aren’t the same. Don’t y’all get tired of alienating the dad just cause y’all are mad? He was good enough to have a kid with but by your determination he’s a bad parent? And yeah let the family see the kid those kids deserve all the love in the world that you can’t provide alone
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Yes! They haven’t done anything to warrant not getting to see the child, and UNTIL they did they would be able to have a relationship
It’s against the law to withhold a child from visitation with the dad because you’re not receiving child support. Also he is responsible for his child and not his family. One of the greatest gifts you can give a child is a strong sense of family. They need aunts, cousins, grandparents, etc to have a good self esteem and strong family roots and sense of self.
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I wish my son’s dad wanted to see my son. I even told him I wouldn’t even file if he at least tried but of course he chose the latter. My son doesn’t know who he is at all. He stopped coming around when my son was 3 and he’s 10 now. He’s paid child support but is completely absent. I would choose time spent rather than money.
Don’t blame his family for his mistakes. Some people just can’t be helped but that baby is still his blood. If his relatives are asking…babies can’t be too loved.
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