I think your “best friend” should run as far away as he can from you…you dropped him how many times? And ur bf is just gonna cheat again
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Let that man go. If your friend keeps coming back after being cut off, he’s obviously loyal and cares about you. Your cheating boyfriend doesn’t.
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Get rid if your BF hes an asshole. Thats it. Period. You’re better off without him.
Guilty conscience is why he doesn’t want your friend around because he cheats he thinks you will
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Oh so your best friend made him cheat and lie? The best friend that he didn’t want around so he could play you, cause best friends would definitely of picked up on shnizzle like that, your now ex sounds good like that, your ex! If someone really into just you, they wouldn’t need to question your friendship with anyone, and they wouldn’t.
So beautiful, it’s time to leave his a**e on the side of the road he layed down on in protest of you wanting your own thing/ support system. Good luck 
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Hell no you aren’t! Let him stay gone!
Lol women are messed up guarantee your cheating , no girls guys are “best friends” lol
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Keep the best friend. Lose the boyfriend
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It sounds like your boyfriend has both trust and insecurity issues. Cheating is a non-starter for me. He would be out the door, no coming back. That’s me.
Anyone worth your emotional energy is going to respect you and your relationships. (You also need to respect a partners boundaries when it comes to those relationships, but that shouldn’t mean dropping friends.) Overall it sounds like he has a lot of work to do and it’s best to move forward and work on yourself.
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I’ve been in this same situation, my best friend passed away last May. Life’s to short! You’ll find somebody better that will trust you!
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He’s using your best friend as an excuse to stray. He’s a coward. You’ve been cutting the wrong guy off the whole time.
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There is an asshole on this story…and it is not you or your long term friend or your baby…
I’m sorry but he is projecting his guilt onto you… by convincing himself that your best friend likes you romantically it makes him feel like he has a free pass to cheat on you… and he is probably doing it again. Sounds like a classic narcissist. RUN girl, don’t walk… free yourself. Your allowed to have friends of the opposite sex and the right one for you will be secure enough in your relationship to not interfere! 
I’ve been with my husband for 17 years and had a childhood male best friend for 19 years. He’s like my brother and nothing has ever happened. My husband has never made accusations, ever, because nothing has ever happened nor would anything happen. A good, faithful man should be able to see this.
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I had a boyfriend from 30 years ago (been looking for him for about 16 years). 6 months or less ago I finally found him. I was so happy as he was my best friend not only an old boyfriend. My parents loved him and how sweet he is when we were together. 17 years ago my current boyfriend/fiancé has no problem with him and I talking all the time. I also have several male friends he doesn’t care I talk to even if it’s sexual teasing them with words. I don’t always see these guys but nothing would ever happen if I ever got to see them. 17 years ago I left an abusive relationship with 4 kids in tow. And never looked back at him. A few fights a year over stupid stuff with the current one (disagreements) but other than that he’s been great to me and very supportive. I got sick 3-4 years after him and I got together and he stayed by my side and has done all he can for me. I cannot drive do to my health issues so he makes sure I get to all my appointments. But I wouldn’t trade him in. But again if he doesn’t like your friends but he can have friends that’s not right. Pretty much all I talk to and hang with are men and usually mine is right there next to me and they are friends of both of us.
You are only the asshole if you get back with this guy
Pick your friend over the husband, especially with how he’s acting and what he’s doing
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If he was cheating, sounds to me like he was using you and your best friend as leverage to cover his own ass…
Narcissist
Controlling jealous man
Please don’t let him back
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You have a right to be friends with whoever you want. That’s not his choice. The fact that he thinks he can dictate who you talk to is laughable. He cheated on you. His decision. I’d let him go.
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You are not an a-hole. Keep the friend.
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Nope, you are NOT the a-hole. You are SMART, you are setting healthy boundaries. Let him go girl. Lock the door behind him and move on with your beautiful life without that hot mess of a man. He don’t deserve you.
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You’re definitely not the asshole and your bf sounds like a pos… I can tell you right now if it were me I’d dump his ass permanently. I don’t wanna hear the whole speal about how yall have kids together You’re not doing them any favors by staying together. Your relationship is toxic mostly from him and unless he can get tf over himself and actually act like a decent human he needs to go. By the sound of it he hasn’t changed he “changed” long enough to get you back but as soon as you told him no this is how its going to be he took off again because he isn’t actually changed. It’s a cycle and no matter how many times he tells you he’s gonna change and he will change unless he actually shows he’s changed and that means actually accepting your BFF and not running off he will not actually be changed. Trust me I’ve been there before it’s a never ending cycle.
Nope, love is suppose to add, open doors to your life; NOT take away, diminish, or close doors.
Your boyfriend is more than likely cheating. Stop dumping your friend. It isn’t cool.
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If you know there’s nothing going on, then the insecurity is your child’s father. Sounds like he uses that as an excuse and that’ll never stop
Your ex-Boyfriend is an insecure di**head. He’s the one who destroyed the trust in the relationship by cheating. You’ve dropped him like the bad habit that he is, let him remain dropped. Narcissistic men are never happy unless they get to call the shots and be in control.
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He cheated because he THINKS someone else likes you. Throw the whole man away.
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Not the asshole. HE’S the one who cheated. Not you and your male bestie. Leave the boyfriend. He cheated and it probably won’t be the last time.
Yes, you’re the a$$hole. For taking your ex back in the first place and even considering taking him back now. For ever putting up with him telling you who you can and can’t speak to. Grow some fuckin balls and fix your priorities. At this point, your best friend just needs to stay the hell away from you. You’re a shitty friend.
No. You’re doing nothing wrong. Your bf has probably been cheating for years. He’s projecting his own regressions onto you and your friend.
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Your not wrong for having a best friend. He’s wrong for cheating and blaming it on you basically. Leave his ass girl.
Drop the boyfriend. Dont let him choose your friends. Hes obviously a insecure, immature cheater. Cant you do better?
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You need to drop the boyfriend……
NTA. Your boyfriend sounds like a control freak and is projecting his insecurities/wrongdoings onto you and your best friend. Look up narcissistic tendencies. Your boyfriend sounds like he has them. He will say anything to get what he wants and to separate you from your friends. Next he’ll try to separate you from family by painting them as the villain of some sort. Once you fall into that cycle it is hard to get out.
No , don’t feel guilty
No let him go don’t look back. If your friend was making comments or passes then yes I would say for the sake of your relationship stop contact. If he is just a childhood friend never made any advance and you ex is flippin out then he is the problem. He cheated because he thought there was something going on with your friend., that is not someone you want in your life. Once a cheater always a cheater. Been there done that twice and I ended up being the idiot and the one hurt.
That’s it ladies,jump on the bandwagon. There is always two sides to every story. It’s not that I’m condoning he actions but sometimes a person openly flirts or gets a little to cuddly ( touching ect) done on purpose to get a reaction. Like I said there’s always two sides to every story. So let’s get off the " he’s the bad guy " until you hear both sides.
Sigh, this is why I always about creating beautiful, small humans without a husband. I think that you are right to elimate the boyfriend. But it is not just you creating a new life for yourself, but your son has to learn how to live without his. Boy, talk about sending away your best friend when you have done nothing wrong.
NO. don’t drop that friend for him. He’s being childish and insecure. I have a best male friend (of 15years too!) We tried dating 15 yrs ago, realized we are more like brother n sister then relationship and have been best friends since, every guy I’ve been with since I tell from day one, he’s my best friend, if I have to choose between the 2 I’ll choose him every time, they all have always accepted and a few even hangout with us all together, my partner now of 7months gets insecure about him from time to time. And each time we sit down and talk, he admits he’s just projecting past experiences and that its not fair for me to cut a friend who’s always been there for me out because his insecurities. If your s.o can’t respect your friendship then its time to move on. Its not being a ahole if anyone is in this situation its him. Keep your boundaries best friends get those titles for a reason and if your partner had any respect for you he would trust and respect your friendship.
NO! You gave him the right answer this time!
The boyfriend is too posissive, get rid of him.
The reason he wanted your friend gone is because he was cheating and gas lighting you. When people are guilty, they accuse you of doing things. Get rid of the boyfriend. Keep the friend. My best friend was a guy that I met when I was a freshman in high school. I lost touch with him when I was in my early thirties. I have been trying to find him and I am 61 now. Don’t ever let your good friends go. They are rare and they don’t come around every day.
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If your guy friend is genuinely just that and has never done anything to you or made inappropriate comments to make your boyfriend uncomfortable, you’re right to keep him as a friend. If your boyfriend is just insecure/feels threatened for no reason, don’t lose a good friend over a guy who is quick to get mad/leave at the drop of a hat. He may be doing the work to prove he’s better, but it doesn’t seem that trait has stopped and it’s toxic to fear for your relationship in that manner every time you turn around. He should at least choose to stay and talk things through with you. Him being quick to leave gives me red flag vibes
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He was accusing you because he was guilty. My best friend is a guy, has been for 29 years. He comes to family parties and funerals and whatever else. My husband has zero issue with him. I know most other comments probably say guys and girls can’t be best friends blah blah. Someone who’s been there your whole life shouldn’t have to be cut off especially for a cheater
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I feel like you should ask him if he’s sure it wasn’t actually because of the fact he was cheating on you for so long and projecting his own guilty conscience onto you.
You’re not the asshole, he is and not to be a dick but it’d be best for you and your baby that you don’t get back with him.
I know people think kids have no idea what’s going on but kids are much more perceptive than they’re credited and what they see as children is oftentimes how they grow up to be.
The answer is obvious you’ve known this for the last few years you’ve been with her boyfriend
No you’re not I have a guy best friend and thankfully my boyfriend and my best friend are like best friends. My thing was that if my best boyfriend didn’t like a boyfriend that I had I wouldn’t date them because his opinion matters a lot to me hes like my older brother that I need what hes a year younger than meHe’s a very honest person so he tell me if he liked him or not. But I’m never gonna be in a relationship where my relationship feels threatened because of my best friend who’s a guy that does not like me whatsoever and I don’t like him
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Ditch your boyfriend…your relationship does not serve you anymore and hasn’t for a very long time …move forward and onwards …unless you want to keep dragging it on …but it’s not in either of your best interests …he cheated while accusing your best friend cause he was guilty…he sounds like the emotional ability of a child …you can’t have an adult relationship with a child …don’t you think it’s time you do for you ? You are worth it … brightest blessings 
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So basically he justified his cheating by pretending you were cheating on him.
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No. Your bf is a piece of work. Tell him you’re ok with being lazy because that work is not yours.
You didn’t have a man you had a narcissistic asshole. Don’t look back move on
How do’s the child feel an what do you tell him, there is more in this than to guys, an a women, you think!
he cheated and gas lit u, u allowed it by accepting him back.
ur now upset he is doing it again.
not sure what ur wanting from this post.
but i can give you some clarity.
your relationship with your bf, isn’t working.
it won’t work. he doesn’t respect you enough, or care about you enough to keep it in his pants.
he also doesn’t respect your values, your friends, your word.
so unless you enjoy fighting and the drama and being made to feel worthless, walk away and focus on building up your self worth again.
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Get rid of the boyfriend. He’s nuts.
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Never get back together with a cheater.
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A best friend is for ever. Men will come and go and your best friend will always be there for you.
Ya, he sounds like he needs to fix things within himself before taking on a relationship with you … again… leave girl. He is no good for you!
It seems like the problem is actually your boyfriend’s insecurities. And he proved that even more by feeling the need to cheat on you. Not once, but for an extended period of time. Which means massive amounts of lies and hiding things from you, all the while making you feel like crap over a platonic life-long friendship. This relationship is not going to last, and if you stay in it, you will never be happy. Boyfriend will keep lying, and even if he doesn’t, you will always wonder if he is. Life is too short to let someone screw you over for years and years. Leave him and hope he works on himself, and maybe do some work on yourself as well to figure out why you allowed him to control who you could be friends with, and why you took him back knowing he lied to you probably hundreds of times. You deserve someone who treats you with dignity and respect, and who is honest with you. YOU deserve to be happy and fulfilled and you deserve a partner who wants that for you.
nah you got all wrong your best friend was once a ex n the new bf tells facts which means no boy Best friends for the lady n goes for the same for the guy no girl best friends either , cause that’s respect n loyalty for the relationship if that doesn’t work out den the both won’t ever find love 
, Yu gotta respect the relationship. So there for both build together n if not together n using each other doesn’t work at all it’s either be with the person or quit using them n there heart cause if they do they some cold hearted ppl n ain’t welcome in this world we call life
Stick to your guns and keep your childhood friend!
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Why take him back? He cheated. Dump him.
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The only reason he was tripping in the first place was because he had a guilty conscience because he was being unfaithful. In this situation you’re going to do what you want anyways and you have a kid with him so I know it’s hard but he CHEATED… You didn’t do anything wrong. An ultimatum never ends well.
I’m sorry but no amount of your socialization is gonna make your boyfriends private areas invade another woman.
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Naw. He is manipulative and a douche. You are not wrong or TA
Your BF is childish immature . How do you really feel . Do you want to be back with him ? You don’t say your age but you have a 5 year old. If your friends is truly supportive and you value that relationship what does he say ? Have the conversation
and move on. You are not an a**hole . Why beat yourself up about this childish behavior .
Let that man go ur boyfriend is a pos
I gave up a best friend for a relationship once and I have regretted it LITERALLY every single day since. It’s been 10 years. I still get sad when I see him out and about with his family and realize I don’t even know them when we used to know EVERYTHING about each other. The significant other is (and has been) gone but, had I not been so foolish, the best friend would have still been part of my life. If there’s absolutely no reason for your significant other to be uncomfortable with your best friend, don’t let the friend go.
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Do you and your husband share the same lifestyle?
People who mind don’t matter and people who matter don’t mind.
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Your family, your rules period
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Nope they can mind their own business.
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Nope it’s none of their business what so ever
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I would never walk around in underwear, or allow my son (12) to hangout in his boxers. My husband doesn’t either. However your house, your rules, none of their business. If company is uncomfortable, then don’t have that company over.
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My oldest is 7. He likes to walk around in underwear and sometimes a shirt. It’s his house and he has a right to feel comfortable in it.
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Um no you are not… we live in undies at my house… if someone comes over obviously we put appropriate clothing on but It’s your house who cares what your wearing
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it’s not for them to tell you want to do
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That’s what I’d say! And tell them to not bother stopping by again!
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U need to be fully dress around children and adults
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Your house go as naked as u want …idiots
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I have simular experiences myself with family, I say worry about your own household. I
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I have all boys, they walk around in underwear constantly. No matter what I say 
they will get pants and shirts on for dinner though 
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They should be allowed to be comfortable in their own home
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We dont do walk in undies at our house, but its your house.
Not wrong at all. Let kids be kids
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Family is right…AND IT STARTS WITH YOU !!!
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Look, if someone says wearing pants is mandatory that person is NOT mandatory. Pants suck, everyone knows that pants sucks, the ideal life is one where pants are unnecessary and the best days are the ones where you never even touch a pair of pants, you don’t need that kind of negativity in your life, shun the pants believer
So it’s just my 3 year old son and I ok and if nobody else is here I’m in just my underwear and him in a diaper or having naked time because he is potty training. If a close friend shows up before calling or texting then that’s on them. I’m also a nudist but because my son is super young and learning about body parts I keep my underwear on now
Your house your rules. If people don’t like what you do in your house then they shouldn’t visit x
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Nope, not wrong! They should be able to be comfortable at home. If people don’t like it, then I guess they don’t need to stop by 
the fact that the girls didn’t mind, nor the other parents, everyone else can mind their own.
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NTA. It’s your home and it’s not weird unless someone chooses to make it weird.
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Both of my kids are always just in a diaper or with a long shirt on as well as I am. Your house your rules
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You should not be walking around in just a shirt and undies in front of your 8 year old that can open you up to CPS investigation and before anybody comes at me saying no it can’t yes it can my ex-mother-in-law almost lost her kid over it.
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Lmao I’m 35 have 3 girls 10,6,3. I’m plus sized def dont have a nice body anymore and I’m always in a shirt,no pants. We came into this world naked I think its stranger telling people to wear them. Who cares and if they dont like it they shouldn’t stop by unannounced that’s the rudest thing of all.
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Your home your rules if others don’t like it they should stay at home with their own rules
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We all wear pants in my house🤷🏻♀️
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First off hrs 8 and had a rash on his waist that had to hurt and be uncomfortable. Secondly it’s his house not theirs so it is none of their business. They are the AH.
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Good thing I have daughters, but I walk around naked all of the time! When we were kids my brothers were always in their underwear! As long as their isn’t anything inappropriate going on people just need to mind their own business!
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I’m sorry so this person who doesn’t live there thinks they have a say in what you do in your own home on your own time? Toxiiiiic
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