I would have called the cops and kicked them all out lol . 
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Not at all! If this was not planned, its on a work day, kids need sleep. And you have slaved all day already, your body is screaming for rest bc it is BEYOND EXHAUSTED. So yeah, your not wrong at all. You are wrong for not kicking his ass out sooner though and allowing him to get drunk and yelling at you. No real man yells at a woman. Im sorry, thats not ok. My husband of of 10 years has never gotten drunk nor yells at me or anyone.
No he is the ASSHOLE!..
No girl, you are right. He sounds like he was too immature to be married.
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No, you are not wrong! He should have shown more respect for you and the fact that you had to put two little ones down for the night with all the noise they were making, I would have gone in and asked all of them to leave because you had to go to work early the next day and the children couldn’t go to sleep with them there. With due respect to you, they should all have left. Your husband was totally out of line to allow anyone in your bedroom!!! at any time!
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Absolutely not! He has no respect for you or his children.
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Not 
at my house:clap: I would have been done kicked then all out…
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I don’t think you are the asshole.
yea…my husband knows better than to pull that BS
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Absolutely not. He’s lucky you stayed quiet! If my 1yr old was trying to sleep and they were being loud I absolutely would have marched my butt downstairs and kicked everyone out.
Get even and do the same to him!!! Let him take care of the kiddos then get up early to go to work!!! All’s fair in 
and war!!! Maybe he will have a change of mind on the next drunkin office gathering!!! 
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I would have yelled my lungs out and locked them out. People need to grow up. There’s a reason there’s different tittle for different parts of life. You can’t act single in a relationship where there others to be considered. Sorry you have to live with that shit.
bad hubby…help the wife and be on her side
No you aren’t. He is.
No you are not wrong
Oh fuck no. I would loose it!
I would have went down and screamed and yelled (I am not as reamer or yelled). but this may have set me off)
and Send them all home to their other halfs and tell them ’ not to come back. My house also. There is and no respect for you or your children. If he continues, leave and go to closest women’s shelter where you are safe from this abuse.
He needs to go and get a life!!!
Alcoholism does not get better it only gets worse!!!
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Sound like he needs some free time to himself, maybe a weekend. What can go wrong just saying that’s what it sounds like he really needs 
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Yea too immature to be married. Period. I would of called the cops. Im that petty. Oh well. You’re not the ahole at all. I wouldnt have yelled and screamed but I would of hurt some feelings
You spelt ex husband wrong Hun.
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Nope hes in the wrong
I would be very mad and do the same.
He has no respect for you or your children. Get out or get counseling.
No he should respect you and your kids
You know damn well your husband is the ass.
It’s his home too. Allow him to be spontaneous. To me it sounds like you’re a bit up tight. PS. Not so cool to forget the other friends but that doesn’t sound like your issue here.
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You definitely spelled ex husband wrong…
People need to mind their business…
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My son who’s 11 runs around in his boxers even if we have company… in my opinion they are still shorts and he’s fully covered… if he wants to be comfortable at home then that’s his choice… plus you said it didn’t bother anybody except for a family member 🤷 it could be worst though… at least it wasn’t a thong speedo or something
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My daughter is 4. When she wore diapers, that’s all she had on at home. She didn’t and still doesn’t like it. Now that she wears panties it’s kind of a different story. Shirt I don’t care about. And when it’s just me and her it doesn’t matter. Shoot, I’ll be in my undies too lol but when dad and brother who’s 11 she has to put pants/shorts on. Kids move in all kinds of ways and clothes move around. I think it’s inappropriate for the kids to play without bottoms that will cover them when they decide to do cartwheels and handstands. They need to lighten up about it. No shirt is the pettiest thing.
They need to mind their business… just take what that family member said with a grain of salt… your life, your family, they don’t live their and they are entitled to their opinion… but you don’t have to like it. & if they don’t like it, don’t stop in unannounced! 
your friends don’t mind because they probably live the same way… y’all mesh & they know how y’all live and don’t mind… so no worries. 
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Sounds like a pesky family member needs to mind their own business!
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My boys are always in boxers. Always. If people are uncomfortable that is their issue, not that of your child (who was at HOME around family and friends that are as close as family.) People who sexualize children worry me, and are kept away from our kids. You are definitely NOT the AH, the person giving unsolicited directions on how to run YOUR house is the AH.
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if they don’t like it it they shouldn’t come to YOUR HOUSE. tell them to fuck off.
If people stopped sexualizing 8 year Olds this wouldn’t even be an issue. He was at home where it’s COMPLETELY NORMAL to be in bare minimum. If he was stripping in public, it would be an issue. People need to mind their business. My son is 8, he strips down to his boxers THE SECOND we walk in the door. When his older sisters or their mom come over…they expect no less🤣 when outsiders come he will put actual clothes on. But all in all, it’s no one else’s business. It’s MY (our) house, MY (our) rules. Period.
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If you wouldn’t let your little girl do it then don’t let your little boy do it just because you say it’s okay doesn’t mean when he gets older the next person is.
WTF has it got to do with the visitor…don’t like what you see, don’t look! Your house, your rules.
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You are 100% in the right… as long as there is no abuse going on in your home (which there obviously isn’t) people can mind their business regarding how you and hubby choose to run your household… if people don’t like it they can mind their own business, or stay away from your home and wait for you to visit them… simple as that… it’s completely out of line for whoever to want/expect your family to be uncomfortable, especially children, in YOUR home… if others don’t like it, they know where the door is… hang in there mama, you’re doing great
Your house, your rules. Your family shouldn’t give their input if not asked. I’m the same way. I let them walk around how they’re comfortable. Getting fully dressed when visitors are here. If they don’t like it, they don’t have to visit.
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I can understand wanting him to wear underwear at the store or out in public, but not in this situation. She has no right, and if you ask me, she’s the one one making it something weird when your son is just a kid. She needs to back off and mind her own business.
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How’s it any different than a bathing suit. People just like to tell others how to live their lives.
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We’ve always ran around comfortable at home …It’s home and anyone who doesn’t agree can eff off…
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Sounds like that family member wants to no longer be allowed around at all then
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My 7 yr old grandson sleeps in his underwear and sometimes doesn’t get dressed at all. At home and at my house.
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Its your home and your family and if people don’t like the way you all live your lives, relatives or not, then they don’t have to visit. You have done nothing wrong.
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Tell them they can do what they want in their own home but this is your house and you will do what you feel is best. End of story
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Your house your rules also your kids your rule tell them of mind their own busines
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Tell them to say it to your face and then tell them they’re pathetic and should mind their own business and people should be comfortable in their own home and there are people wearing a lot less and if it bothers them then don’t come back
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Your house your child. None of their business. Just as well they don’t visit me.
It’s no different than wearing swimwear
If you can’t lounge around in your undies in your own home then where…MYOB
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Yes, it’s YOUR home!
my 14 year old brother wanders my mom’s house in underwear after school or on weekends when there is no company it’s home so why tf not family member can shove it
Just say thanks for letting me know leve it there
Today , he could wear underwear to the store. His underwear identifies as shorts.
Why does he need to call her twice a day and how did you get assistance with the father working and in the home?
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I definitely think you are in the wrong. If he’s a good father, he should be able to see his child on weekends weather he calls daily or not!!
Him having her EVERY weekend is CONSISTANCY!!!
Calling twice a day is crazy expectations. Let the kiddo spend time with her father on weekends and stop being bitter and controlling!!
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Yes you are wrong. Sounds like he was taking her every other weekend. He doesn’t have to call every day to talk to her. Stop trying to control everything.
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What electric company lets you get $14,000 behind is my first question ?
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How did a power bill get to be 14,000 ? That’s crazy !
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the more you push someone and try to control them they’re going to back away. you’re in the wrong in my opinion, you’re only hurting your child.
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You don’t get to dictate how often he should call her etc. I think you’re in the wrong. I understand it’s because you want your daughter to have consistency but leave room for error. He’s only human.
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My kids see their dad every week Fri-Sun.
He calls them maybe once in between but usually not at all, and he’s still a great dad.
I don’t call them on weekends either. His time is his, mine is mine🤷🏻♀️ they’re 11, 9, and 3.
If he’s consistent seeing her then who cares about a phone call….
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Yes you are in the wrong you absolute control freak!! That is absurd …look into parental alienation before you do your child some serious long term damage!!!
You don’t get to dictate their relationship unless he is causing the child harm… Being inconsistent isn’t not calling everyday! Wow! Give your head a damn good shake and grow TF up!
Do you call her twice a day when she’s there?
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You. Are. Wrong.
Set up proper parenting time with dad. You don’t get to control it. Jesus 
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My husband has a kid from before. He tried to call/check in on kiddo while with other parent/ grandparent but then it got to be kiddo was too busy to talk back or it wasn’t a good time for them and then he started working more so it wasn’t a good time for him when it was for them. However he made it a point to be 1000% present when he was with kiddo. Not every parent can be able to be able to contact daily. If he’s at least making an effort I would let him. There’s so many moms out there that have to fight to even get the support that is ordered. Let alone a father that wants to spend time with their kid.
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Coming from a broken home…let them have whatever relationship they have. Your daughter may choose not to be consistent with him or they at least will have a relationship which is good for her.
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Leave him alone and he will come back around, absence makes the heart grow fonder.
Consult an attorney. Is he paying child support?? Get things straightened out~~~~
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That’s kinda petty and controlling honestly. If her safety at her father’s was in question, I’d understand but not contacting her daily is not a reason to keep her from him.
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For one, electric would be shut off way before $14,000 and for two he’s the father and he has his own rights. Keeping a child away from the other parent can look very bad in court. Unless harm/abuse is involved. Calling every day is pretty excessive. I usually message my children’s dad if something is important or if it’s just something I want to share with them. You can also message him giving him updates about the child. It does not always have to be him. Some parents want nothing to do with their kids so I’d be thankful of the efforts already made.
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I have questions
- how old is the child?
- how you living with no job?
- when dad does call, can the child actually talk to him? Or does he have to talk to you?
If the child is still an infant & still non-verbal, why the hell does he need to call you every day? If she is verbal, & can actually carry on a conversation, that’s different. I still think you are wrong bc you are trying to control the relationship between the child & the baby in my opinion
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Who are you to say he has to call EVERY SINGLE DAY in order to even see his child?!!! You are wrong! At first you said twice a day and u are upset it went down to once a day
Be happy he wants to be involved as much as he does!! You are making a toxic environment for him to be in his child’s life.
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Sounds like you both need to grow up, and put your child first instead of playing petty games.
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Sounds like you want the daily contact and control to me not been nasty that’s how I’m reading it xx
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If he doesn’t care to see his kid than no you aren’t wrong. You tried now it’s his turn. I never would have pushed phone calls though.
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So you never thought maybe I need to get in 2 years.
Yes u r wrong if he took it court got weekend like my husband did his bm got weekend since she didn’t ask for phone call tho week and we didn’t ask for call on weekend …she could go all week w out calling or asking about him get her weekend , ur child is baby right so calling daily is him actually him talking to u ( maybe that what u really bad about u don’t know what he doing now he not calling u )… been 2 weeks bc maybe he don’t want deal w petty shit hoping planing take u court for visit
He doesn’t call twice a day, so you’re upset? My kids only hear from their dad if they call or message him…he has visitation rights but doesn’t try to see them…hasn’t seen them in years. If he made the slightest effort to have a relationship with them I would be ecstatic…
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You’re being a control freak, he doesnt have to call twice day to see his child on the weekend. You’re being petty lol
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I’m going through this right now. We couldn’t agree on a parenting plan at mediation. We finally sat down just us two and decided on something. I don’t like the in and out thing. If you’re going to be there, then be there, but don’t confuse a child with wanting to be a parent whenever you feel like it. Keep a log of every time he sees her. Every weekend is okay, but sometimes every other weekend works best. You guys need to come to an agreement and remember, it’s not about you. It’s about what is in the best interest of the child. If he chooses to be absent, then that’s on him and you need to make sure your child understands just that much and leave it alone. You either want to be a parent or you don’t. It confuses a child to be in and out and inconsistent. He also doesn’t need to contact her on a daily basis. As long he makes time and effort to see her and reach out to her is enough for her to see that he’s actively trying
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My advice would be to stop telling him what to do. You need a parenting plan in place and as far as daily contact leave that up to him. You can’t force a bond.
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Don’t use a child as punishment …go to court get child support if he’s not helping but you should never keep a child form visiting the other parent unless there are abuse issues…don’t punish you child trying to punish him
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If the child is so young… who is the satisfaction of daily contact actually for? It seems your wanting to be excessively controlling.
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I don’t think your wrong. Children need consistency, especially from parents. If he can’t even pick up the phone once a day or once every two days to call his children he’s being extremely slack and not putting them as a priority at all
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Yes you’re wrong. If you were only concerned about him contacting her and being a good father, you wouldn’t have mentioned any of the relationship problems. You’re mad at him, you want to control him and you’re pushing him away. He will call when he calls. Now if he went months without seeing your child then wanted weekends, did two weekends and disappeared for a month thats a different story. If I was him I would be backing off because to me it sounds like you’re making it harder on your child then it has to be. Him backing off means your kid isn’t in the middle of it. Plus you sound exhausting
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He is her father. Allow him to have a relationship with his child.
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Wow . Just because a parent fails to pay you can not with hold the child from the parent. You are in the wrong. Nothing is about you both anymore it’s about your child. Grow up and try and compromise… Wow on so many levels…
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Who do you think you are, you’re trying to control him and the entire situation - let go FFS. He does not have to contact her when it suits you. Who are you to stop his contact with his daughter - really sad, such a big mistake on your part - you will eventually suffer the consequences. Really can’t stand it when women do this to men unnecessarily, and this situation is unnecessary, big time ! And yours and your exes bills has nothing to do with any form of child access - you sound like a piece of work to me! Sorry to sound harsh but bloody hell you appear to have no control over your emotions - stop taking it out on your child or the dad for that matter!!!
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You have 0 right to keep a child from the other parent unless you feel like the child is in danger.
That’s it.
You aren’t wrong for leaving him, but you are wrong to keep her from him. He hasn’t been gone for months, he didn’t call for a couple of days. That’s not that big of a deal. I understand it might be to YOU, but technically, a court will not agree with it.
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Sound like a baby mama from hell , put the shoe on the other foot . See how you like that feeling . Smh real immature all the way around . Sounds like kids having kids .
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Wow… you are wrong.
You cannot stop your child seeing their father because he doesn’t call everyday.
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There are a few things I am confused about. I do know one thing though, my ex walked out on us and we have a special needs child. He left us because I kept telling him to help and be a part of our sons life more. I asked him to stop lying all the time and telling people fabricated stories. I asked him to put his phone down more and spend quality time with us. He was going out all night and oftentimes not coming home and I told him we missed him and stop leaving us out. I was tired of going 24/7 while he did him and being cold and distant. So he left because I bickered and caught on to his shady behavior. He’s been gone a month and a half and he’s showed up to see our son for 20 minutes and says he has to go to the gym. He comes at his own convenience and makes plans with his friends on his days off. Our son got 2 hours and 45 min and he was ready to leave. He lied to his son and didn’t show up a couple times. He goes a week with out even calling or checking on him but is posting pics of himself at the gym. That’s inconsistent and my son needs that and structure. He has began regressing and not using his words, his therapist is adding more therapy only for me to have to take it away as I now will have to work full time plus and still find a way to get him to his specialist appointments. This is not structure. These are real reasons why I think my sons father just needs to walk away. My sons father chose to leave when he was very much loved all because he didn’t want responsibility. So when you are speaking of inconsistency I still see a dad who was trying but pulling away towards the end of your story. You should communicate with him and ask him why he’s pulling away or set a schedule you both can stick by for visitations and call times. Yes we work and parent with more responsibility but if the dad actually wants to be there then give him some responsibility to. Hope this helps.
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You’re definitely in the wrong. Just because he doesn’t call twice a day doesn’t mean he should get to see HIS kid?? Didn’t you say he works?
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You’re wrong. It’s a child, a human, not a pawn. Be mature and get a parenting plan.
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He is doing what many guys and gals do. When you love someone it is painful to have contact and then act like they are not present. It is easier on the adult emotionally. Not right for the kid but adults dont want to hurt either.