He’s checked out and it will only get worse. Hitters hit and cheaters cheat. It’s time to do the hard work and rebuild a life for you and the kiddos that you all deserve. It CAN be done. Best wishes.
Loves him so much for what?
Do you pay the bills with a joint account ? You can be stuck but you can aldo choose to be unstuck i know women who have been in yhe same position and have gotten out of it with struggles yes but teally after 6 years can you imagine 20 or 30 probably not if you can do you see it changing ? I think in your heart of hearts it is dusaopointing to say the least dont know your age but i am sure you can forge ahead and love yourself better than he is . Or flip the script on him and dont do anything and show him what he looks like Thennif you are giving it up when he wants it but only caring about himself that should tell you something in itself
Create your own reality money may be an issue somake your own means depending on your education there is lots you can do online that takes minimal time he probably won’t even notice save all you can pkan for a long trip with your kids they say long trips take even longer to plan then when you are ready to take your trip when he is gone to work or at work have your ducks in a row and go on a vacation called the rest of your life being happy dont firget money for a lawyer and empty the accounts on your way out of town If he does not pay the attention now he wont until he gets home to the garbage and everything he did not have to bother with before you know what kind of person he is so take everything said and use it to your advantage and keep your safety in mind at all times
Get out now and are sure he pays child support
Id say you already answered yourself. Yes you need to leave
Run away as fast as you can
When you ask that question
You could have stopped typing after “he cheated and hit me”. Leave.
Look at the page. Its asked almost daily.
A person should know when to leave
3 words darl GET OUT NOW
Are you happy? Are they happy? Do you see a future? Do they see a future? Do you want to make it work? Do they want to make it work? If the fires out the fires out.
Should have left a long time ago, and def not had kids with him.
Leave asap
I think you know the answer
What does it take to open your eyes?
Get rid of him, why do women put up with this.
NEVER give cheaters 2nd chances because they will continue 2 cheat & will NEVER change.
Brah!!! U better tell that lazy Ass.
We either sink together or we keep swimming together?
Go to nursing school and get a career
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Get help to get out and get a lawyer to keep your kids!
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Girl…what else you are waiting for to leave that piece if shit good for nothing???
If you have to ask
You already know
If you have to ask it probably is.
What part of get rid of him don’t you understand?
He sounds like a creep
Speaking from experience. Get out while you still have time. I wasted 18 years. Loveless marriage. Forgave a serial cheater, drug addict, mentally and emotionally abusive husband. Over and over. Until he tried to kill me. Now I’m 39 and with a teenager. Alone and wishing i had left the first time. While I was still young and so was my kid. I know it’s not easy. I know it’s scary. There is help out there. You’re hurting your children more than you know or understand. As well as your well being and happiness.
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Staying together doesn’t make it a happy family. I’m sure they would rather see you separated than miserable. Life is too short to try and force something that isn’t working for either of you. Go be happy girl, you deserve it.
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Girl he put his hands on you! Run and don’t think about him ever again! Their are domestic violence shelters and they can help you get established. Get a job and put kids in daycare
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You should have left after he cheated the first time. He is absolutely telling you every day what he thinks your worth. Believe that’s truly how he feels.
NOW - trust and believe that he is wrong. You deserve a f*ck ton more than that. Even if that means being single.
Do you want your kids growing up thinking that’s how relationships should be?? They deserve better too!
TAKE THE TRASH OUT AND MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE.
It might be hard…but it might not be as hard as you think. Imagine him NOT being your problem. A “broken home” beats crushing bitterness and self doubt every time.
Time for your mental health n your esteem hon its over i think n your kids should not be observing him treat you this way they’ll see it as normal n grow up the same way start out baby steps till you have the means n the confidence to moved forward, You deserve to be happy n loved.
Ypur kids are young enough to probably not remember him living with you and then leaving, and you being so unhappy if he leaves now. Best to kick him out now and go it alone as you already have been doing. Youll feel happier and mentally better for it. Nothing worst than a 13stone dead weight of lump of uselessness around your neck xxx
There are resources to help women with children in your situation.
Physical and emotional abuse is a deal breaker.
When someone shows you who they are the first time,believe them.
This is only going to get worse.
Google social services and shelters .
You can get help in getting child care and a job for yourself.
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My kids completely understood why we were no longer live together. They were young Nd still knew. Better to live apart then let the kids learn bad habits for there partner to come. Good luck. It was dark days back then but we both found our own much happier paths.
Well when you are young and in love, love is blind, there were signs, yet we have all ignored. In any case, get the hell outa there, people are who they are. Can never change anyone. You have to be the strong one, an now problably have to do things you don’t want to do, time for you to take control, and don’t put up with. there is always a way, you may not like what you need to do at first. But this will never change. don’t live on hope life is just too short.
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He will pay child support so let a advocate work for you.Ask your church or google groups who can help you. Good luck!!
I couldn’t even finish this whole thing before I decided to tell you get the hell out he’s a cheater he’s a beater abuser he brings nothing to the table you and your kids will be a lot better off on your own
He laid his hands on you and belittles you in front of the kids. That’s abuse. Staying with him will just show the kids that the behaviour he shows is acceptable and the way you accept it is normal. Stop it. You can rebuild. Leave him.
You are suffering the dilemma many women have suffered. If the man isn’t willing to marry and provide for you why in the world would you have kids with him? That’s water over the bridge but does answer your question. He doesn’t want to be tied down. He may have already cheated on you or at least looking to. You can’t keep a person by holding anything over their heads like kids. If he won’t go to counseling you simply need to ask yourself if you are willing to wait for him to leave you or do you want a better, more loving relationship? I’d personally would choose the second option but you surely understand the complications there. There is help for you and you should start by googling for marital help in your area. You aren’t married but may be considered married by your state. You should check that out. First thing is to confront him about his attitude and some of his behavior with other women. Perhaps if he is willing to talk you can find out whats going on and you can work it out. But you can’t stand still there are kids in the picture and they deserve a better life too.
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If you’re unhappy more often than you’re happy, it’s time to end it.
“should I leave my relationship of 6 1\2 years because I’m not happy?” He has cheated and abused you, what more do you need? Lol… unbelievable…
What’s the last straw?
The cheating and the physical abuse should have been the nail in the coffin, and could’ve been.
I think you need to look in the mirror and find where you draw the line.
Yea this is hard . People should really push not having kids until if you had to do it alone you would be capable. Financial abuse is really the worst Bc staying or leaving is a hard choice . If this woman has the means she should leave
If all is as you say, the question is why would you stay? And ask yourself, is this the role model I want for my children?
Get out. He put hands on you. That will never improve. It will only ever get worse
After the first time he cheated and yelled at you in front of the kids , there was your sign
Get a job and put up the money. Some states will pay for childcare if you need it. Take those kids and don’t look back.
Like I told my husband 20 years ago…“when you cause more problems than you solve…its time for you to go”
Do you really need to ask? You know you need to leave. Cheating and abuse? That’s reason enough. Your children need a mentally good mother, not this situation.
Does he lay around 7 days a week or does he go out on the weekends?
Why are you even still there? Run!
Go get a job and get out and hit him for child support plus help with child care
He put hands on you. That should be enough on its own
Istopped readin at he put his hands on me… U dont need that the kids dont need to learn this is okay… LEAVE
This is one side of the story.
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Get a good lawyer and file for support.
You need to take your kids and kick him to the curb
You answered your own question.
Sweetie, it’s beyond time to leave or ask him to leave.
Good lord, just go! You can find help and a way out, look at some resources… start working save some money and go, you only have 1 life, go live it. ⁸
It will get worst if you stay
So, you made babies with an immature, little boy who is essentially worthless? Good luck as a single mother.
Leave take the kids and move on
If your at the point your asking, it’s time
I saw this right after a scroll down from your post. Seek into this organization to see if they can help you your children. God bless you & the the little ones. 
I think you know that answer
If your asking that question its time
This shouldn’t even be a question. LEAVE AND DOCUMENT IT ALL
First no one should have to say Don’t have kids and you had two. You didn’t say how old you both are. But I say young. But both of you should have talk about protection. And not just let it happen It takes two it’s the same old story. Gis kept it happen think it will tie the guy to them. It doesn’t work that way and you both should know that .Him putting hands on you is a big no you tell him you will call the cops if he touches you again .AND DO IT. YOU NEED TO TAKE YOUR KIDS AND LEAVE…LET HIM WSTCH THE KIDS FOR 3 DAYS AND YOU GET OFF YOUR BUTT AND GET A JOB.YOU SAVE THAT MONEY F.OR YO U AND YOUR KIDS TO MOVE.THE YOU GO TO THEN you FILE for divorce and get money for the kids . AND DONT GET PREGNANT AGAIN YOUR KIDS DESERVE BETTER.
Dear God, Let This Man Be Taken By The Geese
Ugly nerd to work on you, self found a job and see about getting housing
Maybe if you would have made him commitment and got married before you had kids you wouldn’t be a moron right now
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Dump him he’s a knob
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Leave him. You dont need him!
You know it’s time because you have to ask that question 
There is no hope, leave him.
Your a moron for even staying in these conditions. . Deadset. No sympathy for ya .
This is the stupidest sign
Get a job and leave his sorry ass!
Didn’t even finish reading this leave him his an asshole, do you want your kids growing up thinking it’s ok to belt women? GET OUT NOW.
Get a job … Move out …
U know the answer already
I’m in that situation now…
Leave his a#$% …he is abusive.
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Yes. Leave immediately.
My best advice would be what would you tell your two kids to do if they was struggling like this ?
I stayed too long and now the fall out on my kids mental health is showing. It’s hard and scary but there is always a way out. There’s lots of charities that will get you and the kids to a safe place and help financially to get you set up independent. I’m in the UK safe to speak is a good website to look at and get some information and help starting out. To me you’re suffering domestic abuse mental physical and financial.
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Leave. Trust me and just leave.
Communications is the key notifier on when to hit the nail
It has to be 50 /50 IF NOT IT DOESN’T WORK
Get up and get out.
I promise it will all work out for you. And be a whole lot easier for you by the sounds of it all. Good luck darling, please be kind to yourself 
The relationship that your children are seeing right now is what they will carry into their adult life. I never had a abuse in my marriage but there was no love there, I decided my children deserve more than that. I did not want my son to think this is how a man treats his wife, and I didn’t want my daughter to think this is how wife deserves to be treated. I was in a 20 years probably should get out sooner
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Wow some of these responses… way to shame her ladies 
just remember its so easy to pass judgement when you haven’t walked a day in her shoes…most people are doing the best they can with what they have, or how they know how.
It sounds like he has mental health things he needs to straighten out.
I have no advice, because other than the SAHM I could have written this. But i felt a strong need to tell you that you are not alone. You are resilient and will figure this out!
I guess if you think it can be saved get you, him and yourselves (together) into therapy. If you are done done or he won’t get help trying to save your family then try to find resources to leave… at the very least try to take a break away if you can…but be ready for outcomes you may not be ready for.
I know I’m a stranger, but if you want to talk feel free to PM me.
You’ve got this mama!
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‘‘He’s cheated several times, physically put his hands on me, calls me names in front of the children,’’ Girl, YOU NEED THERAPY! This shit should NOT be tolerated. Realize your self worth because it’s worth way more than that sack of shit! LEAVE
Honey your in a abusive relationship get out now before it gets worse and your children really see something horrible. Believe me I know first hand. There are organizations that can help you get out and back on your feet for domestic violence. Please do whatever you have to for those babies before it’s too late. He sounds like a narcissist and it only gets worse the longer you stay.
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Leave! And make sure you make him responsible for his children. Child support and visitation!!! Lead by example when it comes to your children. And show him what your made of!!! You got this! You are stronger that you think you are!!!
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Girl! Sign up for some assistance (go to your local county office) and get on a waiting list for housing IMMEDIATELY.
This will only remain the same if not get worse. I mean, can it get worse. Yeah I guess it could.
But it’s BAD ENOUGH as is.
You have to leave him.
I know you have no resources SO do what I am telling you.
They will help guide you on the rest. Insurance, child support, food, living, etc
Get out . Get out now.
Like seriously, go visit that office THIS WEEK!
Happy home, not what they’re experiencing 
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Now, now is the time. I stayed and it is my greatest regret for me and my children.
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Girl get the fuck out! I stopped reading at “he put hands on me”. Get the fuck out!!! You got kids to think about.
Leave… Your kids are very young they will be fine. This will be your life if you don’t get out.
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I’m sorry, but any man that lays hands on a woman, or anyone for that matter, is NOT worthy of love and respect. Get yourself and your kids out of that situation before something terrible happens, please. Call your local police department to ask for information on the nearest women’s shelter. They will help you get on your feet!
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The kids will not blame you for anything when they are old enough to understand. Cheating and putting hands on you is NOT love and they don’t need to learn that it is. Don’t stay for the kids….leave for the kids. They deserve a happy momma. There is help that you can receive to get on your feet. Check into all your options and make a plan. You will be soooo much happier momma and those kids will thank you for it.
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