End it. There is nothing left to salvage once the trust is gone.
It sounds like you know to me 
10 years!!! Not living together, never reciprocates sweet gestures? Sounds to me like you’ve been a part time Girlfriend for far too long baby. He’s either committed to someone else or honestly he’s just not that into you. I don’t mean to be so frank, but after 10 years a man knows what he wants. He’s just pulling your leg. I’m so sorry.
When you’re asking a bunch of fb strangers…
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Make pros and con. Believe everyone deserves chances after chances. Believe in forgiveness over and over.
when you gotta ask that question
Sounds like you know you deserve better babe.
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Move on- take his car and your kids and go ! After all someone else will surely appreciate him ans you were looking for a man when you found this one. pS: you work? You are a grown woman go buy a damn car and pay for it and leave him home
When you start to question if it is time to end it.
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If you are asking such a question you should seriously consider ending this relationship
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I’m thinking that you answered your own question. Doesn’t sound like he really cares about you. Sounds very controlling and high and mighty. You only get treated how you let someone treat you😊
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It’s time to go hun, you can love someone very much but not be compatible. Or you can grow apart, especially if y’all were very young when you got together. There’s no failure here, it’s merely time to turn the page.
I know it’s hard, I stayed with my ex for 25 yrs (hs sweethearts) cuz even tho I had been done since our 3rd child was born, I didn’t know how to let go. I wanted the kids to have their daddy, even though I knew he never really wanted the kids to begin with. He acted like I trapped him with every pregnancy, even tho we were married.
You’re so young still, I have so much advice for you but no spoons to help more atm
Good luck 
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As a relationship ages those it in become who they are and are content to be that person. This is not about him. This is whether your needs are being met and if not, if you are willing to accept the kind of relationship he is offering. You are so very young to be going through this. Remember everything you accept in your relationship is what you children will believe is normal in a relationship and seek out one the same. If your child what in your position would you be okay knowing they were modelling your behaviour? Or his behaviour? Needing certain behaviours in a relationship is not wrong. As individuals we all want things, and that’s okay. It’s not okay to accept less because we do t want the other person to be hurt. Most people move on once a relationship goes south. They may even learn to be a better partner in the future because a prior relationship has ended. If you can’t make the decision for yourself look at your children and know each decision you make affects them long term. It’s better to have 2 homes filled with love than 1 filled with angst.
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Do you even show or say anything appreciative to him, and does he do the same to him? Sounds like you guys got comfortable with each other and forgot to keep working on the relationship, yourself, and keeping up on hopes and dreams. Both of you need to talk about just talking and treating each other with positive words and actions. This is the next stage in your relationship that can make it or break it. Relationships are working.
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Can I ask how you know he doesn’t have depression? Because that’s what alot of this sounds like. And if you want to fix it, go to counseling,they even have in home counseling.
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Make sure it’s really what you want and don’t turn back 
I wish you the best!
A man truly concerned would find a way to help you get the car fixed, knowing you need to get to work, grocery store, etc. I don’t like the way you’re being treated, it’s not ok and you deserve better. Hopefully, he would be willing to try counseling and do the work to improve the relationship. If not, it may be time to go your separate ways.
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In my humble opinion, it sounds fixable but with help, like a single counselor for you. To either help you fix it or help you find your way. Then maybe couples counseling.
You guys sound as if you have grown up together and are still so very young. As a couple grows up together they change unintentionally. Sometimes they grow apart a bit, sometimes they go through a season of personal change, sometimes they get down about life and pushing 30. The stress of this last year has been so horrible to so many that it affects deeply into what was once normal and where do we fit into a normal life again. I don’t mean you need a counselor and not him, but you need help dealing with this and he may choose to not work on things and that will be hard on you and you don’t want to fall into a depression yourself.
Your first question is your answer deary, if you are questioning it then leave because the problems will just pile up, piece by piece until someone blows and it sounds like you don’t want fighting and such so I’d leave and start fresh and just be civil and respectful as much as you can towards each other because it’s what’s best for the kids 
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Proper communication is the key in a marriage…
The way we speak to our spouses says alott.
U both are still very young
As a couple grows together time changes an so does there personality it can be a good or bad …
Marriage requires alott of work an communicating together its a give an take…
A counselar will be of great help firstly for u most men dont like counseling some may attend the sessions an some men may not…
But it will help u alott on how to cope with ur marriage…
Make ur marriage work u have 2 daughters an kids loves there dad also…
Firstly recommend sitting with ur husband over a nice romantic dinner an chatting with him easy easy an ask about ur car…
Most husband loves attention an pampering…
Men do not like nagging or quarelling …
All best in ur marriage .
There are so many steps before you separate from your husband and a whole lot more before you divorce. In a nutshell, do not get divorced, yet. First off, a man is not easily found and definitely not born to fit your needs. You two are very young and you need to think about how many transitions you’ve gone through. In my experience, people usually evolve at around age 28. Usually people evolve and mature into better versions of themselves. Their life view becomes a bit clearer and new goals are set in place that must be met. In a relationship, this is a good age to choose a mate as they also probably have evolved and made it to this stage. Mind you, I said most, not all. You need to work on being a better version of yourself. Look at your husband and see him for who he really is. Accept him for who he is. A lot of the problems we women have can be prevented by timing and attitude. How do you come to your husband with what you need. Is it when you are frustrated? Is it demanding or with attitude? Have you tried to resolve yourself? Sit down with him and write a list of what you expect of your husband. Let him tell you what he is willing to do and what he is not willing to do. Listen to him and accept what he is saying. Have this conversation when you two are alone and discuss your marriage. If what he says he won’t budge on that expectation list, ask yourself, is it a reasonable reason to leave. The idea is that you live alongside your husband, not for him and vise versa. I’m taking into account that you said you absolutely love him. Don’t leave your marriage, change it and since you can’t control him, take it upon yourself to change and be proactive for yourself. When I ask my husband to Don something and he doesn’t do it days later, I begin to do it myself. Not rolling my eyes and not with an attitude. 8 times out of 10 my husband will join in and then take over. Only you know if your marriage is salvageable. All I’m saying is it is our responsibility to make ourselves happy. If we can’t make ourselves happy, we can’t expect our husbands to do it for us.
Why can’t you buy your own car so you can get around? Seems like that would solve a lot.
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Sounds like you’ve both changed and grown into other people . Which is common when you settle down very young . I’ve been there , and I can tell you that it’s time to go . 
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I might be the odd one out. But, Before calling it quits. Have you tried a counselor? It’s not a fix all, and if you both love each so much like you say then its not time to leave. It’s time to fix things. People will have their moments of unhappiness. Marriage takes a ton of work, its not all sunshine and rainbows where there is constant laughter. It’s alot of work. Just my two cents.
Nothing gets done unless you both are willing to work on it.
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It sounds like you aren’t in charge of fixing him anymore than he has been your car. Leave. Take your girls and leave. They shouldn’t see that it’s okay to be treated that way. It sounds like you’ve done everything you could. Don’t destroy yourself anymore by continuing it. I may be wrong on this, but it sounds like you don’t remember YOU. I’ve made some really bad decisions that my kids have seen. They’ve seen me survive them, but it’s taken a toll. I’m not proud of my “survivor badge”, but I’m thankful I finally remembered who I was and missed that girl. Turns out, so did everyone that loved her 
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Nobody will love your kids like their Dad never again will they have a family with both their mom and Dad
It is at least worth counselling
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You answer you own question “I don’t feel ready to be done.”. Maybe see about counseling, start with individual and then go into couples. You may be out of sync and need someone to help you through. You are not ready to be done, so there is something you feel is worth saving… good luck
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You seem very grown and mature about the situation love, I think if you have to ask the question then it’s probably time. If you’ve tried to work on it and you’re still not satisfied then you don’t deserve to be stuck in a endless cycle. Do what you’re heart tells you and you’ll make the right decision best wishes
I wrote the pros and cons suggestion but I would like to add something from someone old and married for 50 years. Marriage is a partnership that goes awry sometimes due to stress, taking one for granted or every day life. You must set aside time to just sit and talk and treat each other special. Sounds as this might be some of your problems. Both are working so lots of stress and caring for kids is another stress. Do you feel unappreciated? Does he feel he is unappreciated as well. Get a sitter or grandma’s house one night, set up his favorite small dinner with wine. Then talk and let him know he is appreciated and how grateful you are then let him know you don’t like he feels the same.
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It’s hard, when you get on that place. First, I think some call clear and non judge mental conversation is in order. Second, I think doing some things for yourself abs by yourself will not only give you a sense of independence and contentment, it also gives you things to talk and communicate over when you are home. It’s also probably he can’t see your side of it at all. So taking a spa weekend with the girls, while he gets stuck at home with the kids having to do and be the parent that you are most if the time might be eye opening, but he also needs times for himself too, especially if he’s working hard. Encourage a fishing trip or sports event with the guys. Then you can also plan date nights once or twice a month, set up well in advance, so he knows they are coming, and is prepared. Having hobbies, taking some enrichment classes at the college, whatever, is good for you, again because it gives you your sense of self and gives you something interesting to talk about.
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When you start asking other people when it’s time to leave your relationship…honey its past time. Secondly, it sounds like your husband is depressed and that is beyond hard/rough. Before you make any permanent changes/decisions about the fate of your relationship some time apart might do you both some good. Also I would suggest couples counseling. If he won’t go ,go alone for yourself. Good luck.
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If you feel like you can’t handle any additional stress because you are already barely keeping your head above water (stress-wise) it’s time to leave.
It’s soooo easy living with my second husband. It’s important you find someone for you
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HOW are you talking to him? Are you nagging? Are you whining? I’m not saying you are. But maybe, try joyfully letting him know, “hey, Baby, I’m going to run to the store with the kiddos. Be back shortly. Love you.” And just go. Maybe when he sees you’re happy and not totally dependent upon him, it won’t seem like a chore to him. Personally, I don’t think it’s time to leave the relationship simply because you’re feeling this way. Love is not an emotion. It’s a decision. Emotions change and often. Decisions do not. Make the decision to roll up your sleeves and give it all you got! Do what you did in the beginning.
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I have learned that you can’t rely on your spouse or anyone for happiness. Once I had this mentality, things got easier…its not as stressful! You need to show your girls how to be independent too. I hate how ppl find it so easy to end a marriage just like that bc things aren’t perfect. Marriage ain’t rainbows and butterflies
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I think you need to get your car situation resolved before you can even contemplate such a big decision in your relationship.
Having the ability to grab your keys and go is a basic necessity… especially when you have children. Having to rely on someone else for transportation can make you feel insecure, depressed, needy, dependent, confined, and inferior. You are 25. You need the ability to get up and go whenever and wherever you feel inclined to, without having to run anything by anyone or having to have a discussion over it. You shouldn’t need permission or time constraints. Any communication about where you are going and when you’ll be back should only be a matter of basic courtesy, not a contingency or a request.
Whether you even realize it or not, I think your unhappiness could be hugely in part to feeling trapped and sedentary when he’s got the car.
I’d say you should do whatever you have to do to get a car. Take an Uber to the dealership and go take a loan out on a used car and then work an extra shift to pay for it. Mobility is a basic freedom and a necessity of parenting. I’d go insane if I didn’t have a vehicle! If he hasn’t acknowledged this need and taken steps to resolve this, you need to do it for yourself.
I think once you do, you’ll feel happier and more empowered.
It’s a small feat, but a critical one! You’ll feel more confident, capable and better prepared to identify your personal needs and tackle them, one at a time.
You may realize that although your relationship may not be perfect, your frustrations were compounded by other issues that you have resolved. And I think you’ll be a lot happier. And if not, at least you’ll be able to drive yourself away!
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When you say enough is enough and you have had enough of the games, lies but you just have to do what the heart says or pray to the good LORD and let him get you through it all. He answers prayers 
Go out without him, take his car or call a mechanic and get yours fixed. Don’t wait for him to do it for you do it yourself. It sounds like you’re very dependent and that could be part of the problem. Move forward with your life and let him stay home. You showing him you’re independent could be exactly what he needs to snap out of it.
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Step 1. Get that car fixed yourself. Call a tow company and pay them to tow it to a shop. Then pay to get it fixed.
Step 2. If he doesn’t want to go out, go by yourself. He obviously has control over you and that needs to stop.
These days men love a woman that is a go- getter and get things done by themselves. Once you are reliant on a man, they start taking advantage of it. Its just the ego in them. Ive seen it even happen with the most caring men.
If you don’t have access to the money, that is a HUGE issue and another control he has over you. That would be the first change you need to sit down and talk about.
Marriage is hard work and when someone starts taking it for granted, it starts to fall apart. That doesnt mean it can’t be fixed though. We all fall into grooves and are human; so remind him what a strong woman you are and try thinking of the qualities in yourself that are different from when he married you. It sounds like you still think there’s a good man in there, you just need to slap some sense back into him. You can also try doing something weekly or biweekly together like a fun datenight. And if all else fails and you both are still unhappy, your still both young and can find a way to coparent seperately so the kids don’t suffer. Just remember when you got married Im sure your vows went something like through thick and thin and in sickness and in health. That didn’t just mean the good times, it means you were willing to do ANYTHING to make it work. People have flaws and its easy to focus in on them when youve been with them for so long. Alot of people will say leave him but they didnt make the vow, you did. This isnt an unfixable issue and honestly, if you found another relationship most likely it would happen again anyway if your not showing them your an independent, self reliant woman. And believe me you can do that while being a SAHM too.
I was there at one point. Last year. Nothing seemed to work. I tried and tried so hard and I just feel like I failed and couldn’t keep him or myself happy. At one point I resorted to drinking to drown out my pain for that one quick moment. I bowed out last September. We have two beautiful girls together. We were together 18 years and married very young. We are now legally divorced and both in new relationships and happy. I think him and I get along better now than when we were married. I think it may be time for you to make a run for it. I wish you nothing but the best!! 
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You are teaching your children what a relationship should be. They see more, and hear all
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My husband only does this when he/we gets so stressed about bills financially wise and he becomes a whole butt whole and I talk to him and make him talk to me which I don’t have to most of the time he just opens up. After he talks he changes into the person he is. It’s just a part of him hed learning to control. On his off days (,4 days)he doesn’t wanna leave the house unless were going fishing,he will but he doesnt like it and he has to have one day on the off days where we dont go anywhere or do anything and stay home. now if we had a vehicle like that hed just sell it because he knows he doesnt have time or resources to fix it and even if he did hed still sell it. theres alot of stuff we argue about so I ask others if we need to leave or not because when we fight we fight but when we love we LOVE and fights are little things we disagree on certain stuff but learn to come to a compromise. However were difficult so for you it sounds like you need to seat down have a conversation with him and remind him how yall use to be and figure the problem out what has made him like this and try to fix it and if it gets worse than leave but until than fight for what you want. life has fights,arguments,hard times,and beautiful and joyus times. If yall truly love each other than yall will talk and itll work out,if not than its time to leave. Yall sound like my husband and I but we’d never leave each other. We go everywhere together and were together 24/7 other than his work and we talk all the time when he’s at work on his breaks the whole breaks. We will never leave until one of us was to cheat or abuse which will never happened and hasn’t happened in the last 7 years. I couldn’t live without him and he couldn’t live without me. We dont fight as much anymore because we had a talk about that and hes put the effort in working on his flaws just like i have. It takes a team in marriage or relationship regardless. Both had to have communication,trust,love and be willing to put in same amount of effort and willing to work on both flaws. Seat down and have a conversation with him and don’t get frustrated unless he does or their won’t be a conversation. I dont think its the end for yall because we us to be this same way but we fought for each other and worked on ourselves and got better and still getting better. If a conversation and any of this doesn’t work or it doesn’t get better after giving him time to work on himself than leave.
Respect yourself and trust your gut instinct. If it feels wrong then it probably is.
Don’t show your girls it’s ok to settle dad or not, move on and find yourself, fix or sale your own car and get you a new cash car . You are a young couple in need of a break. Try co parenting and doing you until you find your happiness and self worth who knows the separation may bring the two of you back together as one or friends apart.
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I’m confused why u can’t just get up and go? Sounds like there is more going on than this little episode. If the car and him are home grab the keys and go?! Even when my hubs and I are home we take each others car without asking. If Mine is broke,I’m taking his. lol.
You mention he said “someone else would appreciate him”. Does he think ur being ungrateful for something?! Why is a car debating the marriage. 
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You have to picture your life without them and see how you feel I mean really picture your life without them forever then you will know if it’s time
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I think U have answered your own question. U know in your heart U have given it your all and he isn’t going to. Yes U may still love him but if U stay U will start to resent him.
The fact that he knows U can’t just get up and go but still tells U to do it is like gaslighting, and the not fixing the car and him having a take it or leave it attitude and thinking U will never leave him is super controlling.
Start making plans to leave, save your money get a mechanic out to fix the car or if it’s his car just save up and buy your own. U can do it without him, and once U do and realise how much stress he was putting on U and your freedom in that U can just get up and do things without having to have a huge fight about it… U just can’t describe that sense of relief.
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I don’t understand why taking his car and just going to do what you gotta do without him is such a big deal, you said yourself he does a lot so… why do you need him to go with you or get your car fixed for you or sell it for you?
I’m so confused.
The moment to end a relationship is when you have to ask a bunch of strangers on social media if its time…
Speak to him, communication is so so important, if nothing changes then its time.
Why can’t you sell your own car? Or trade it in for a newer car? Just curious as to why you’re waiting on him.
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Sometimes you have to get up and just go just like he tells u and if he comes back to u then it’s meant to be and if he doesn’t come back to u and fight for his family And try to fix what’s broken then it’s what he’s really wanted all along as u are getting older priorities change for both and maybe u both do want different things now but the only way to truly know that is if you take a break go visit family for a couple weeks or a month if u have any that will let u stay because sometimes distance makes the heart grow fonder or you could both see that ur not meant to be and that’s ok because then that’s your answer
Do something for you- enroll in college, set some goals, get your car fixed.
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When you have to ask that question honey it’s over, just leave
Get the car fixed. Don’t wait for him. Just do it.
Start doing things for you. Only you.
Get your hair done. Go out with your friends. Do something once a week that is just for you.
Do not let him dictate what goes on. Just like the car - if it needs to be done get it done. Don’t wait for him.
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These comments are so sad! Marriage is hard sometimes. You’ve got to work at it to make it work. First, you have to communicate with each other. Have a heart to heart. Second, you might want to seek out a counselor. If he was 17 and you’re both 25 now you’ve hit that 7 year itch. You’ve grown & changed. You’ll regret it if you don’t fight for your relationship.
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If you have to ask then it must be time
When there’s more unhappy than happy it’s time to leave
A lot of people are saying end it but tbh I don’t agree with that. Relationships are not always happiness and good times sometimes stress gets the best of us. I can’t tell you how many times I thought my relationship was done for and wouldn’t improve and instead I decided to step back and find a way. After doing that I realized with just simple communication and time for just us made a HUGE difference. I would at least try more one on one time and possibly even conconceling but either way I wish you both the best. 
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Since you asked you already know the answer. But is there a reason you can’t get yourself transportation? If I want something and he has no desire to help me, then I help myself. Refuse to be dependent on anyone. That could be a part of the problem here. And I’m sorry to say that. But having someone rely on you for every need can be draining.
What is stopping you from just getting the car fixed or putting an ad out to sell it yourself?
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Tell him. Sometimes you just need space to miss eachother
While it sounds like he is depressed, you need to focus on your own mental health as well. I would end things. Depression is rough, yes. I’d suggest him seeking medical intervention. If he refuses, I would leave. It will wear you down as well.
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Start by getting your car fixed. He doesn’t have to do it for you. Just tell him your getting the car fixed and he needs to help how ever that is, I don’t understand the “why” of him needing to do it and not you so I’m guessing there is something there, call somewhere and make an appointment to get it fixed and find out how to get it there. Then just start living life. Either he will come along or he will leave. But stop waiting for him to do it with you.
With any decision go for a pen & paper, divide in half then label each side , PRO & CON. Now think hard and write down all pros and cons, then put check mark or x by what you can and cannot deal with or change. This seems to really put it all into perception.
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But why don’t you get a car or get it fixed?
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Leave for a few days after the next fight. Tell him why you left.
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Later gator. I’m out.
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It just may be he is indeed depressed.
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It sounds like he has depression…
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What you get now is what you get. Don’t expect him to change later on. Your better off cutting your loses cause this certainly wont end well. You sound like you both are with each other cause your bored.
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Have a chat about it.
Will you be happy with not having another child? Will you regret not having one? I think it’s completely your choice. If you’ll regret not having another child I’d leave
If that question comes to mind, it’s time to move on. Don’t hesitate it will only get worse.
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I guess it depends on whats more important a relationship with him or having another kid. Is it possible that his feelings over time changed to not wanting one. Maybe he originally wanted to wait for a certain time but then realized when that time came that he doesn’t want anymore kids. You could talk about it but you can’t make him change his mind.
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If you really want another child and he doesnt then it is probably better to cut ties. Because either way things happen someone will probably end up resenting the other one.
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Why did his feelings change? Have you asked him that?
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Is it worth splitting your whole family over? Something only you can answer doll
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If having a baby is that important to you, and he absolutely doesn’t want any more kids if you stay you will end up resenting him later. It’s definitely something to talk about and figure out what you really want.
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If it’s your deal breaker start packing up and leave. He knew what you wanted and he’s going back on it
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If it’s something you really want, then it’s time to move on unfortunately, if you can be happy together without another one then stay… only you can make that choice
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Set them down and tell him it’s either a baby or bye-bye I did the same thing I got pregnant at 15 had both of my kids by at 19 they’re 2 years apart boy girl and I never thought about ever wanting any more kids I ended up with a 50-year-old he couldn’t have kids he had a vasectomy but I let his stupid ass talked me into getting my tubes tied a year later me and him broke up I married someone else very happy that I never had a baby with him but there has been a couple of people that I’ve seen since I divorced in 2010 that I would have liked to had a baby with and I never can again I guess it’s okay though I did get grandchildren I have my daughter has girl girl boy girl and my son had stepchildren boy girl girl and then they had their son a boy the oldest step child is 15 which is the oldest of all the grandkids and seven is the youngest which he’ll be seven in August but it still just ain’t the same as having something your own that you can take care of and do things with whenever they get older and something I guess I never had before I can’t tell you whether I would really leave or stay because you have to look at it like this do you love him enough to spend the rest of your life with him if he don’t want to have kids anymore or if it’s a deal breaker that you just can’t deal with life’s too short if you want another baby he don’t want to then you’re getting older every day so I would go out and get rid of him find someone else that you can be in a relationship that wants kids that would probably be the best thing to do I wish you luck
If it’s that important to you then yes it is a deal breaker. You’ll spend the rest of your relationship blaming him for missing out on something you wanted. And if it doesn’t last and you break up years from now, you’ll feel it’s to late to start a new relationship and have a child with that person. Cut your ties while you’re young and not married. Life’s to short to be unhappy and always wonder what if. Plus if you accidentally get pregnant he’ll think you did it on purpose, treat you different and ruin your whole pregnancy experience.
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It is a deal breaker if you want another and he dose not i would give him a ultimatum either you guys have a child in this set time or your walking and explain how he told you that you guys would but now he changed his mind…
Nope, time to go. If you have to force it, it will end anyway, only a lot harder on everybody.
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Rather sounds like you want to enjoy “the pregnancy” and he, not getting the sensation of being pregnant is maybe thinking more about the subsequent 18 years, people change over time and not to use a prison analogy the youngest child is 7 so with time served you could be looking at freedom to do more travel, and other adult activities in ten years, another child pushes that down the road another ten years if you get started immediately, so if your dug in about another child and he’s wanting to finish the current projects without taking on any new ones I’d say you guys are circling the drain
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The trust is gone. You should be, too.
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When you ask an online relationship page when you know when its time to end a relationship.
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I dont think he lied i think maybe his feelings about having kids changed over the years. If having another child is something you are set on and its a “deal breaker” then i think its time to leave. Its not far to you if its something you really want and its not far to him to try to force him into having another child that he doesnt want
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Evaluate which is more important to you. Which do you want more. Are you willing to give up having more kids to be with this man for the rest of your life? Will you be at peace with everything you have now? Or is it worth it to leave this man, to fulfill something that your heart is still yearning for? Either way, you will have to give up something that will be hard to give up. Perhaps sit down with him and discuss that this is something you want, and something that you 2 had previously agreed upon. Let him know that when you entered a relationship with him, something very important to you was in your future. Ask him what is more important to him and stick to your guns. If not having another child is as important to him as having another child is to you, then it sounds like it may be time to pursue your future elsewhere.
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I would say leave. Y’all now realize you want different things for your futures and that okay but keeping it going can cause resentment on both ends. You wanting a child and not getting it or him not wanting one and giving into your want to make you happy.
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If you’re asking how to know when it’s time to end a relationship then you’ve already passed the point
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People do change their mind about things, even about how many kids they want. This does not mean he lied or deceived you.
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If my fiance wanted another child I would leave. I don’t want anymore kids and I will not be forced to have one just to keep my relationship alive
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As people get older and grow they do start to feel differently about things they want and don’t want. Just because 2 or 3 years ago he wanted more kids doesn’t mean he lied. It may just mean that he now has those kids and feels fulfilled no longer desiring another baby.
I would ask myself what is important having a baby or the relationship and bonus child u currently have?
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i would talk to hin about everything and go from there. as for the car. id sell it myself and get a new one myself if hes not willing to do it or help🤷🏻♀️
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Sometimes love is not enough! Sounds controlling, I’d be planning my exit. Save money, get your car, etc.
You can try counseling, to help you to decide.
If he’s working hard has three kids, with or without a mental illness like depression, he’s probably exhausted. He probably doesn’t want to cart you around on a whim. I think if you had your own car it would solve a lot of your problems. It seems like you want to just get up and go places and he’s tired. I don’t think this is all on him.
IMO you both need to communicate more and you need to put in the work to get your own car, too. Good luck!
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