If puberty has hit it’s time for the conversation. Also maybe try respecting his privacy a tiiiiny bit more by not searching through every tiny thing on his phone. I get it, parents worry. But it won’t make him trust you if you don’t show you trust him too. Try to leave open communication for tough topics. Bring things up that are uncomfortable casually to make it normal to discuss with you
Same thing happened with my daughter actually, and I sat her down and spoke with her. Asked if she had any questions and asked what she was looking for exactly and how she knew about it. The talk I feel went well and yes it is embarrassing on both ends! Lol
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You want to talk to him in a manner that doesn’t make him scared to talk to you in the future. Be honest and open.
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So, a lot of people don’t agree with my approach with my son… But it worked for us. I spoke with him about his feelings being normal and it’s okay to want to look at porn but I’d rather he looked at magazines and that I’d buy them if he was okay with it. I also explained that i was concerned with online porn because of the possibility of coming upon illegal sites and that some just isn’t realistic and I would never want him to feel bad about himself because of something he saw. I did buy him a couple magazines and he called my dad to talk to him a couple times (I’m a single mom). I’m not sure if he ever looked at the magazines but he never asked for more. He’s 23 now and we don’t talk about that stuff much but he knows if he has a question, I’m always open to talking. I never asked about him specifically during our conversation, I spoke in general how I felt about those sites and that I felt magazines were a better choice.
As a male and as someone who was a fan of it while I was younger I would say its normal. One thing you should understand the human body may be still something that weird for him. To try and understand a cartoon is something g familiar to him. You can have the talk but then you may lose the trust with him. If anything I would monitor what he is watching. As long as it is nothing violent or aggressive leave it be for now until your ready to talk to him without exposing you checked his history. Or until he is ready to talk to you. Its not unusual some cartoons are familiar to the person therefore their comfortable watching and expressing themselves.
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You should always communicate with your kids. My friend has a daughter way younger than your son. She refused to go through her phone because of “respecting her privacy” come to find out she was sending nude pictures of herself to boys. I’ve had issues with my teenager as well. Kids get curious but you should keep the communication open. It isn’t something to just ignore. If you don’t talk to them their friends will and I’ve seen that lead to a lot of issues.
He’s 14 and you haven’t had “the talk” with him yet? I think at that age it’s pretty normal for him to be curious.
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Dont ignore it. Have a talk with him. Make sure he understands all about sex. And that it is not like the movies. I have the talk often with both my kiddos and have from a young age… they are 19 and 17 now… now is the time to open the door… make sure he is aware that he can talk to you or dad about anything…especially this.
Normal but talk to him. Even if it gets awkward, talk to him because it can become unhealthy. I am pretty sure there are resources you can look up online to help with this conversation. It is worth researching what experts say.
Talk! Dont punish my fiance made that mistake with our daughter now she refuses to talk to him about anything at all and it’s been over a yr. They talk like the usual hello how was ur day but if it’s anything other than that she comes to me. And he hates it. Before he punished her for looking something up they had the best relationship talked about everything now its not
definitely have a conversation with him and confirm to him its natural to be curious about such things. Lead him into healthy relationships and sex and behaving respectfully especially when it comes to intimate moments that discussing and understanding boundaries is paramount for himself and treatment of others. ADULT porn can lead to unhealthy addictions that is not respectful nor healthy. Educate and inform him so he can make the right choices for himself and also protect himself from predators. Reiterate the openess of communication of such subjects whilst may seem awkward are quite ok for him to approach you about
Just use this as a chance to have the talk. My oldest is only 9 but my only brother will be 14 in September (we are 15yrs and 3 days exactly apart). I’ve had to talk to my parents about this bc I feared he was heading to it and I didnt want him to feel shame. Curiosity is normal. Puberty and exploration are normal. I talked to them about this bc I was shamed a couple of times. They agree with me. Just check in. Make sure they know safety and honesty and openness is the best route for this topic. Luckily I was parents oldest so I’ve saved my siblings alot of garbage 
I would have a talk with him. I would let him know that his curiosity is okay. I would let him know that pornography is not a representation of true intimacy. I would open the lines of communication, so that he feels comfortable coming to you with any questions. My son is autistic, and I found some questionable content on his phone when he was 15. I broached the topic with him and asked him why he was searching these things. He told me that he had heard some things from his dad, we are divorced, and he was curious. We had a very open conversation. I did not judge; I just listened.
Personally I wouldn’t take his phone away so he he is just genuinely curious. I’d sit down and talk with him or if he has his dad or a father figure (since he might he more comfortable talking with a man) talk with him about safe sex,boundaries, what questions he has, and let him know porn is really unrealistic. So he knows he can come to you when he has questions or wants to talk about sex.
You do certainly need to talk to him about it, let him know you understand and that if he has any questions you can answer them the more he sees you comfortable talking about it the more comfortable he will be coming to you with any concerns
Honestly at that age and watching that he probably knows more about sex than you and I together but I’d definitely explain to him how important it is to be safe and make smart decisions when he becomes active
I think talking with him is best. Let him know it’s a healthy part of a living adult relationship and if he has questions you’ll answer them the best you can. There are some books that are directed towards kids his age. And mom, always knock and wait for an answer before you go in his room.
Have the talk. My nephew is 15 and our whole family has made it an open discussion. He can go to whoever he feels comfortable with. Knowledge is power.
Just a chat. He’s at that age and is curious. Be honest and if he is uncomfortable, make an appointment with a doc he likes and reassure him that his answers and questions are private when speaking with his Dr.
If he’s almost 15 he probably already knows about “the talk” and it’s a cartoon at least that lol not real humans. I’m a conservative mom and I have already had that talk with my 13 year old daughter and she has heard an earful at school too. From students and sex Ed. It’s just life
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It’s time for the talk!!!
Don’t embarrass(probably impossible, but still try) or reprimand him. I know it’s hard and scary, but it is natural!! Just press that it’s ok to be curious, but don’t rush.
Goodluck momma!
Have the “talk” with him, tell him about a women’s body, make sure he knows “NO” means “NO”. Also tell him not to be embarrassed about asking you questions. No questions is a silly question. A Young Man needs to know how a woman would feel about something. Also let him know there are time a Young Lady will say NO for certain reasons. Take her NO…It shows Respect. You Respect Me. Mom, Respect Her. Treat her, like you would like me treated. Just a suggestion.
You should’ve already been having a talk with him… But at this age it’s normal my daughter is 14 and they did an an Anonymous survey a couple years ago when they were going into seventh grade and the number one thing they watched on the Internet on their phones was porn hub and then she showed me how I can watch it on the privacy setting and you’ll never know she says…
communicate communicate communicate
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I am not experienced in these kind of matters but i would advice if u r friendly to ur son, talk to him or take somebodies help whom he is closed. A balanced conversation will be good. I knw 15 is an age with many hormonal rushes and the age when they normally tend to bounce when it comes to parent-kid talk. But it is neccessary to talk with taking all other things in consideration. Be calm and keep trying… Parenting is all about keep on trying to do things for ur baby which u feel is right.
I would let him know that you don’t approve of it. It may be normal curiosity but it is still inappropriate and that the depictions he will see in these kinds of material in no way represent a healthy, loving relationship. It only shows fantasy. And then I would kick in that if you catch him with those kinds of things either in his phone, computer, or any other device that he will lose his phone until you feel that he is going to be more appropriate with the material he is looking at.
Is he going to do it? Probably. But you don’t have to endorse it.
Have you talked to him at all aboit sex. Its definitely important to talk to them before they are even thinking about doing it. Talk about the pros and cons, how to be safe and consent. That he shouldn’t feel pressured to do something he isn’t ready for and to always ask permission and not pressure the other person. If you’ve talked about those things… you’re okay. If not, bring it up but don’t make it about what you found on the phone.
Don’t talk to him about the porn it will embarrass him. But do sit down with him and talk to him about relationships and when they get serious and when having sex to realize it’s not just a physical act but also a emotional one more so for the girl. He should show her respect and not to expect her to do things shes not comfortable with. Also tell him that you are there if and when he has questions and you will answer them the best you can. And mom don’t be embarrassed or self conscious when talking keep it lite so he knows you are comfortable with the idea he is getting older and more independent .
I always talked to mine about anything , I think it’d normal part of growing up but without saying you saw it, maybe just show him a few of them as if your just making sure he knows what’s appropriate and open a conversation.
I’d definitely have “the talk” but I wouldn’t take his phone away. Honestly, I think being as open and honest as possible about sex and not making it seem like such a taboo issue will help him come to you when he’s thinking about actually doing it himself.
Time to start teaching about safe sex
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I would put parental locks on his phone and tablets. It’s definitely normal for him to have feelings like that around that age, but you can still monitor and talk to him about it! Totally normal, just be open and inform him about the birds and the bees
At 14 “the talk” should have happened already. I would definitely talk to him about it. Let him know it’s normal to be curious 
I had to boys I have always be honest with them and them with me. They are grown men with families of their own they still come talk to me about everything in their lives. My daughter in laws come to me also. You just have to make sure you explain it’s natural and not a dirty thing
Talk to him about it ! Explain everything even down to when he is ready to use protection blah blah blah …i know it seems early to do it but its safer for kids to be informed kids now a days are doing stuff way early…and as of cartoon porn its normal everyone hass their prefance
I would suggest a good talk about morals and becoming the right kind of Adult. It is normal for this age but what you teach him is what matters.
It’s normal for that age. If you haven’t had “ the talk” with him YES HAVE IT! The talk should be many talks from the time they are born so neither of you are embarrassed and the lines are always open… and it is never TOO late to start!
They are going to say they already know everything but just say you know but you just want to make sure they have the facts.
It’s much easier usually if neither of you have to look each other in the eye. If there are bunk beds… great place! In the car… with you driving. Fishing… Anywhere…
Also, don’t forget to explain to them some things about the opposite sex! They need to understand how their bodies work too and not just the snide remarks people make!
Oh the porn, if your son knows you check his phone then you can mention it but not in a punishing way… But regardless you need to take about porn to both the guys and girls and explain how unrealistic it is… Bodies don’t look or work like that…
Dont say anything at all. My daughter who is 17 now was doing that on her phone at 11. I chose to not embarrass her by talking about it. She knew i knew and that waa that. I believe that more times than not without us parents meaning to we do inevitably embarrass or shame our.kids even if that isnt what we set out to do. He may just grow out of it like my daughter did
I would personally talk to him about it. It is natural to be loke that but it also to be aware that taking things don’t help. Also, talk to him about sex and the meaning of sex. To respect a girl’s decision about sex.
I explained that porn is not reality and can be very disrespectful to both sexes. It’s a fantasy world like movies. I did random checks. After that I stopped. My son comes to me if he has questions and so far respects girls. I gave him his personal space
He’s at the age, all my boys did the same thing. Sounds like it’s time to have a really big talk and hand him a box of condoms too. Not that you approve him being active just let him know you want him to be protective and responsible.
Def don’t take his phone u want him to be comfortable enough to come to you with any situation he is put in. Just have that talk with him!!! He is getting to that age!!!
Open up and talk. Kids will be curious I have found open communication is the best. I check my kids devices too but they know I do it to protect them not to invade their privacy. They dont mind they understand why becouse we talked about why I check and what I’m looking for.
Don’t overreact. Or he will never want to open up to you about anything important like that. Just have a sit down talk about the birds and the bees. And let him know it’s normal to feel the way he is.
You should talk to him. It’s completely normal for him to be curious buts it’s important he get real facts. Learning respect at a you g age is important and he needs to know that he is normal
Do the talk anyways, especially about porn, let him know it’s not healthy to do it too much (literally what my brother made me promise to tell my boys) and to know it’s healthy to have certain likes and dislikes, to be careful safe. Teach him about consent so he doesn’t turn into “one of those guys” teach him to respect his body and his future girl or boy interest (and that you’ll support him no matter what) lol teach him how to clear his search history (he needs privacy too) especially at this age.
Comfortably bringing up ‘the talk’ is a good choice. Not sure you should mention it’s bc of what you saw on the phone. Wouldn’t want him to think he has to hide things or be ashamed. Also- I personally think looking that up is normal. Good luck!
Found that my son searched the word porn last night on his tablet. We had the “porn talk”. It’s definitely hard as a mother, where his father isn’t really a stable figure in his life, to have this kind of talk with him. If anything, I would find a trusted male that you both are very comfortable with to talk with both of you about it. Whether it be his father, an uncle, etc. Boys get curious when they begin to govthriugh puberty and notice a lot of different changes with their body. Just know I am going through the same thing as you momma, only difference is your son is 14 and mine is 9 and is already in stage 2 of puberty. It’s a lot to take in, but you can do this!
Its Normal!! Time to talk to him i have a 15 soon to be 16 yrs old son and at that age I walked in the bathroom and he was well you know!! Lol its normal talk to him so he knows its normal!!
Very typical for that age lol. Warn him of the dangers of what you search(sometimes they don’t know better or if something might be illegal) warn him about sending and receiving nudes (again legal reasons plus you don’t won’t those out there lol). N of course the talk is always important!
You do not want him to grow up believing that the porn is presented should be his expectations, the way he should treat a woman or that sex without consequences and responsibility should be his goal. Talk to him now and often. Let him know his curiosity is normal and leave the door open for him. When you have the sex talk include birth control, diseases, feelings, pregnancy and respect for women. Often left out are breakups and abuse, dont leave them out.
I think every child should be told. If I get you a phone I will keep a check on everything you do on it. Nothing should ever be sneaky. Let them know straight up. It’s normal for him to be curious. If it were my son, I would ignore it. But if he doesn’t already know that you check it, then tell him you do. I bet he will delete it.
Don’t do anything. Don’t mention anything. Keep the door open for ongoing great conversations. I never had “the talk” with my parents. Nothing taboo about this subject either.
Honestly porn and exploration of sexual preferences are completely normal. I would let him know that it is not representative of what his real life experience with sexuality may be. To keep that in mind, and have the regular talk about being safe when he does decide to explore it with another person.
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Just have “the talk”
Be sure that he knows the dangers of sexual content and the internet (not just girls get kidnapped and trafficked)
Let him know your available for any questions, no matter how silly he may think it may be
Trust your instincts above all
I remember when life was simple. It was a magazine a short talk and that was it. But when my son started looking at porn on his phone I almost had a heart attack. It was what if he ended up looking at porn that was girls his age…it would be child porn. It was traumatic for me. We thankfully made it through it.
Give him a break hes at that age now where he is old enough to know who he should and should not be talking to and at that age I am sure a lot his age watch that!!
The talk about respecting women and their bodies and rights needs to start. Porn is acting and needs to be addressed as such so his conception of a real woman does not get confused.
Honestly just laugh and say “so, I saw a video in your search”
Make a joke about it.
N yes have a convo but a very relaxed one, and only if he is comfortable.
At that age Id assume 15+ yrs ago it would be a magazine and not on the phone. I was horrified to find similar pics of Megan Fox on my sons phone at that age. I tried to talk with him and he stopped me and said they covered everything in school. Lol so my husband chatted with him instead.
Definitely don’t say ur looking at his phone cause as a teenager hes getting to the age where he needs his own privacy but i totally get the safety part.
The sex talk is definitely important at this age, i can tell u that i was sexually active maybe a little to young but because of my moms guidance i made the right choices and actually told her when it happened and went to the doctor to make sure medically i knew the risks and the proper actions to take from that moment forward. It was embarrassing as all hell but because i knew my mother would be there for me really made it easier.
I would have the talk but also tactfully let him know it’s normal to be curious and he probably already knows more than you realize…he has friends…I am sure they all talk. Most important is to remind him of phone issues…its one thing to “look” up stuff…just let him know never take any ‘questionable’ pictures of himself or others…that stays on the web…
I would have the talk. I have girls, so I’m sure it’s different, but with them I’ve always tried to keep things open, even if I’m internally cringing at the conversation. They are now 21 and 17, but they will come to me with anything and comfortably ask me questions that I would have been terrified to ask when I was their age.
A man role model needs to guide him and talk to him with you about it. Reassure him that he’s not wrong for feeling sexual feelings. Let him know porn is a tool for adults to use as educational purposes. Tell him the dangers of sex/porn addiction is what can happen if it’s used as self pleasure and how it can long term effect his viewpoint of women. Let him know he’s not wrong for feeling urges but needs to not go to that as a source of pleasure.
My son is 15 and will be a junior in high school, I give him privacy- a lot goes into these phones, kind of like a diary. If u “check” I suggest to just scan through it each time… if u see something like porn. Then maybe give him the phone back, and then discuss it later… if u get on him too much, he may start deleting stuff and you’ll never know.
I wouldn’t punish because then he will just hide things better next time. Take the opportunity to talk and start an open dialogue with Hume on the subject.
Approach it calmly. No one should be punished for being curious about sex. Be honest and open. Give him reading materials. I promise if you don’t want to do this, he will get information from ppl who don’t know,what they’re talking about.
Have the talk with him. But also, make sure he knows NEVER to share this stuff with other teens or send links to it with his phone. It can mean serious trouble for him. I would be a little concerned about how or where he got access to it as well. Heck, my 13 year old finds stuff and we have had to block it from his phone.
Dont punish. Ask if hes comfortable enough to talk about it and answer any questions. And warn to be careful what hes looking at so his phone doesnt get messed up with viruses
Definately talk to him about it. I had to do that with my son he did the same thing but at the age 11. This age he needs privacy though like other people said. Boys get curious at young age now im shocked too i know lol my 11 year old daughter started her period last month so i was freaking a little but know its a part of them growing up. Def talk to him about sex now and let him know you know about what you found let him express what he is going threw too. My son listened but i still caught him slipping up on his computer and his ps4 so i learned you cant stop it
Opportunity to talk. I talked about what was appropriate and what was not. How it can affect you mentally and in other ways. My son now has a better understanding.
He about to be 15 and you haven’t talked to him yet? You need to talk to him. Also I would take the phone. You pay for it, he knows you check it. Anything on My cell phones, is my business. My kids are just barrowing it. If they want to look at things, thats on them. Get a book, use someone elses 🤷 They better be better at getting away with it then i am at finding out.
That being said sex is a 100% open topic with my kids. If they have a question, I answer it age appropriate. My oldest is 17 and mt youngest is 5. So yes, age appropriate matters. They all know they can come to me anytime.
Have a open discussion with him involving sex and it is normal to look at that stuff but also let him be aware that sex isn’t like it is in the media and he shouldn’t think girls are going to look how they do in movies and what he sees online because watching porn can lead to those thoughts try to make it that he can come to you with any questions he may have in that area I mean he will feel a bit upset you went through his phone but you are paying the bill and he is too young to have freedom of the internet in his hands unsupervised but that’s my advice
Just be open and honest with him. Don’t make a big deal out of it this is all a natural curiosity for teenagers. It’s nothing to be ashamed of and make sure he understands what’s appropriate and what isn’t and that he can come to you with any questions he has.
My son did the same he said he didn’t know what it was but he def did as he messaged back but I blocked that person had long talk and I check more often and have a block on certain sites
Porn is perfectly normal. Dont take his phone but you or better another man needs to sit down and talk to him about it. It’s ok to look at and to experiment with his own body.
I literally JUST went through this EXACT same thing with my 13 year old son, (he’ll be 14 in November) I bit my tongue to prevent freaking out on him (everything in me wanted to take his phone away and ground him until he’s 18 … lol) what I did was have the talk, we discussed the reasons why his actions were inappropriate, he of course promised me it would not happen again and I explained that until I feel that he can handle the use of his phone appropriately that I would be placing parental controls on his device… 
the Internet can be a very scary place for a curious teenager and if he has questions I’d rather have him feel comfortable talking to me… I am also a single mom btw, so it just makes all of this even more difficult …
I would have a talk with him about what is appropriate and that it’s natural to be curious however looking at porn is not ok. Because you never had the talk or expectations you shouldn’t punish him but let him understand that the next time their will be consequences. You cannot buy porn until you are an adult for a reason. Developing teens especially boys do not have the tools to keep porn in check and unfortunately it’s easily accessible. There has been a significant rise in teen and adult porn addiction and trust me you don’t want that for your son. Honest and open communication even though uncomfortable really helps teen navigate this confusing time. You can have rules and boundaries without shaming him or making it seem likely sex is this taboo thing. We limit things all the time for our kids based on age and this is no different. Explaining why you don’t want him looking at porn is the first step and leave it open for him to question your reasons.
You shouldn’t take his phone because you’re basically punishing him for going through puberty. Also, his phone isn’t the last device on this earth. He will find another way to look at it. The best thing that you can do is talk to him. Educate him on sex. No need to be uncomfortable because it’s a normal and natural part of life. Explain that he should wait for the right person but also educate and provide protection for him just in case. I’ve never met a person who actually got permission from their parents to have sex. He’s going to do it whether you want him to or not. Warn him of the dangers and potential consequences he may face by choosing to engage in sexual activity. I completely understand what you’re going through because I have a son who is now 23 years old. You cannot be everywhere and see everything that your son does. Remember how it was at that age? You may not have been sexually active but you had friends or classmates who were. Several of mine were pregnant in middle school. Make it easy for your son to come to you about this so that he isn’t forced to lie or sneak around. Alot of the girls in school who ended up pregnant because they couldn’t openly discuss sex with their parents and couldn’t get protect for fear of their parents finding it. Educating him and giving him protection is the best way to handle it.
Talk straight forward as an one adult to another. Make sure you are not embarrassed yourself talking about this subject.
Have the talk with him. Be open and honest but also be informative. When I caught my son I had the talk with him and also discussed legal porn (although not moral it was legal) and illegal porn (because what if he was to search for porn for his age group, not thinking anything about child porn and the laws). I also asked if he would prefer to read a book about puberty versus having the embarrassing talk with his mom. They do have age appropriate books on puberty. He preferred the books but i told him if he had any questions to ask me, not google.
It’s completely normal. Don’t mortify him into thinking it’s shameful. Be open. The tell should’ve been a while ago but it’s never too late
It’s definitely a teen boy thing to be curious about that. Even some teen girls are doing the same. I know my 16 yr old was curious about all that at the same age as well and probably still is. I don’t think taking his phone is a good thing. Then you are basically saying sex is bad. Instead, explain that porn gives people unrealistic expectations of sex, that what is shown in videos and what happens in real life isn’t the same. I’d also take the time to explain to him not to ever send inappropriate pics of himself or ask for them from someone else. Himself and or the other person could be charged with child porn since he is underage.
We are all curious thats why most people use google. Just talk to him, tell him everything he wants to know and probably a few things he doesnt. Let him know that you understand that he is getting older and other kids his age maybe younger are talking about sex and porn but he is his own person. He needs to know sex has responsible that he isnt ready for. Like birth control std and that now he has to think twice before just kissing a girl, i had this talk with my nephew (who is 19). If he does get with a girl, he needs to know that alot of things could go wrong even if she agreed when it was in the moment or when it was just them. She could regret the choice, he need to know that stuff. And thats why he can talk to you about this cause you want him to be safe and understand that sex is more than just sex… Its alot.
Please talk to him. It’s embarrassing, you don’t have to mention that you found it, but just have a generalized sex talk, realistic expectations for sex and that real sex isn’t always like porn, and this could be a great time to discuss female anatomy and talk about periods and contraceptives. Don’t make the talk heavy, make it light and educational and include ways to protect himself and others from STI’s.
Def have the talk with him. He is gonna act like he don’t know what you are talking about but still continue. Make sure he knows.
I would not bring up what you found I would ask him if he if he has any question about sex and if no let him you all are available for any questions he may have. I think bringing up what you found may be embarrassing for him. My son and I have a very open dialogue about sex.
Porn is normal. Give him privacy. Talk to him about safe sex and buy him condoms. And don’t check his phone anymore.
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Have the talk. In the car. He doesn’t have to look at you. Captive audience.
Yes, of course you should speak with him about it. I feel you should have had “the talk” already a few years ago.
I personally believe you should be talking with your kids about sex and life since they are young. Tell them what’s you believe and what’s you expect and always talk about how we grow. Don’t wait. And definitely talk to him by asking what he thinks and what’s going on with girls and also what appropriate internet viewing. Be open and non judgmental
To be honest you are 10 years to late to start having the talk. Like where the hell where you!
You now have to undo everything he has learned from his peer at school. Have fun with that. My advice is dont get angry at any suprises that happen in the future. Remember you where lazy and weren’t there to guide him.
I got a problem with you going thru the phone.unless reason to believe something is wrong.
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My son started when he was 10. I would just relax about it but definitely have “the talk” with him.
I freaked out when my son had it on his phone a couple years ago. It scared me but it was me holding on to “my baby” who is morphing into man hood. We talked about it and how it made him feel and what he was getting from it. I told him to come to me with any other questions or if he needed to express something. I want the dialogue to be open. I would rather he ask me question and give him privacy to do “the thing” than to have him get answers from stupid friends or get some girl pregnant.
My 3 year olds therapist said that it’s fine as long as you talk about it and it is not being used as a learning tool.
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Going through their phone is not respecting their privacy. Have the Talk and have regular talks about anonymous people and internet safety. My daughter is only 7, but she has an iPod and plays Roblox on it all the time. I know that there is a chat feature, so we regularly talk about online strangers and not to give out any personal information.
I wouldnt condone him watching porn. I would have talks with him. I’d explain that curiosity is natural but watching porn isnt even legal for him. You’d possibly be contributing to the delinquency of a minor if knowingly allowing it.
Don’t make it weird or he’ll never talk to you about things. Its a strange time in a young man’s life let it play out.
Talk to him. Be open and honest. Ask questions, but let him ask questions… no matter how embarrassing. Be a present parent, not someone stuck in the past or on past generational rules.
Talk to him. Make sure he knows to use contraception all the time.
I have 3 boys here, 19,17,16.
Believe me. Talking to them is better and they do cover it, no babies coming this way yet, anyway. Lol
Good luck