Really? If you want to cut ties with people over something so rediculous then your bf needs to run now. Stop making everything about you and your daughter.
It stings, but let it go.
No. Itβs not worth a good relationship if that is what you have.
If the relationship isnβt good then itβs not a good/real reason to call it quits.
He ainβt the father. So no u shouldnβt be upset.
I wouldnβt worry about itβ¦
Whatβs your problem? Heβs just your boyfriend.
Why are you making s=an isdue over something do petty?
ur bf should be the one to speak up and say something.
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Your a girlfriend not even married. Get over yourself.
HE should address this with his family!!!
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Toxic people mate walk away and never look back
Point blank ask them Communication will get you answers
Ignore them, they are not there for you.
Noβ¦not entitled. Quit being a gold digger. Thats shameful. Walk away so you dont embarrass yourself.
Probably an oversight
So someone died and youβre worried about money?
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No, heβs just a boyfriend and your just her momma.
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Typically and traditionally obituaries only include legally adopted or biological children in them.
Really? Youβre being selfish, the family is in morning, its not about you
Yβall crack me up. Iβve seen numerous obituaries with the girlfriend or boyfriend listed with the family.
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No
Itβs not his child
You guys are not married
You are taking this too personally.
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No because your a gf but even if they added the girlfriends of the other family membersβ¦your daughter is not blood related to him so they didnβt list yallβ¦those other girlfriends probably had biological kids with the family members so maybe that is why they were even listed. You are being childish and petty
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Dearly are you sick or insane to bring such issue out?
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Why? Heβs stepped up to act as her bio dad when he is not and the fact remains that there is no blood tie to the grandfather. The obituary is normally for listing family members who are considered blood ties through marriage and birth. Let the family grieve as they wish and respect their terminology, it has absolutely nothing to do with you. You obviously have a wonderful man in your life, there is no reason to turn this into a family battle where all will be hurt.
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It sounds like this was not the first instance of them alienating you both. I have BEEN THERE (my Ex-husbandβs family was awful to me and my daughter). Does your boyfriend stand up for you when his family pulls this nonsense? If not, you may have plenty more to think about.
Perhaps it was an oversight. Move past it.
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My question. Is he her father or just a place holder? Because the way youβre making it sound is like she doesnβt have a dad unless you say she does sooo a bit confused as to why youβre making him disposable if you claim that he raised her from 4 months and thatβs her dad. Pretty fucked up to pull the plug now in my opinion.
The obituary and funeral isnβt about you-you arenβt married and your daughter isnβt his. Move on and be supportive to your boyfriend.
This day and age, you and your daughter should have been mentioned in the obit!
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Youβre not related
You shouldnβt have been in the remembrance.
Nor should the others have been.
If your not happy with a boyfriend (or his family)
I suggest you not get married.
Cause that wouldnβt change a thing.
Well it seems alot of people on here missed the part that there was more to this than just this slight so i say if thereβs other things going on pay attention to how they treat you and your daughter and if it continues then move on.
If you do stay, lay down some law. Disrespect towards any child is not acceptable. They must and WILL treat a 4 year old that loved him the way she deserves to be treated.
People just look for a reason to be made at others in order to justify their actions. If you wish to wash your hands of his family be prepared for him to wash his hands if you. You seem childish and bit even they gave you love. Seems to me you think youβre more important than you really are.
I think itβs selfish. They prolly didnβt include her cause sheβs not their bloodline.
Hereβs a hint. : grow up get your own family ( boy friends grandpa not your daughters) boy friend is the problem which you created.
My opinion your his girlfriend not wife. Also pretty petty to be worried about being in his grandpaβs obituary. He just lost his grandpa. If I was him ide break up with you for asking the question
It might have been wrong for them to exclude. However, the real question should be, does your boyfriend love you and treat you and your daughter like family. Did he write the obit or who did? Find out why you were left off, if you must but why leave the man for something someone else did?
If theyβre including girlfriends Iβd be hurt but usually itβs only the actual married people who show up on the obit. Plus they charge for every person they add to that darn thing. Even if your close to a family member.
No, if youβve been treated like family to this point, let it go. Share feelings with your boyfriend. Remember heβs grieving so timing is important. If youβve always felt part of the family then chalk up to omission, it happens. Good luck 
Itβs not leukemia !!! Itβs an obituary , for Christβs sake !!! Who cares ? If you and the man youβre shacking with get married then you can be in the obituary . Until then put a sock in it β¦ Itβs his family β¦do you really want to 'cut ties β ??
Perhaps if you were an actual family and not just playing house year after year this wouldnβt have occurred. You act like youβre temporary. So you are.
Your daughter is only 4 years old she doesnβt even know anything about a obituary.
as long as they treat her well thatβs all that should matter.
You need to talk to him about it and find out if itβs just an oversight. And you need to talk to others in the family to know for sure what happened. Donβt decide before you have all the facts.
NO matter whatβ¦
If you decide to cut ties?
Be prepared for ties to you to be cut also.
Donβt worry about the name, party, picnics or coffee.
Know who you are and move on.
If they ever decide to include you?
Feelings are going to get hurt. Will you be mentioning your boyfriend in your families obituaries?
So donβt be to quick to end things.
You never know when something might change 
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Unless sheβs reading obituaries how would she know she was left out at 4 years old
Nowhere did you mention speaking to your boyfriend about it or speaking to the grandmother about it shouldnβt that be the first step
Sounds like youβre being dramatic. If you grossly overreact to all the small things like this I can understand why your name was left off.
And its bc you donβt have kids yet sound like
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Uhm we canβt really get mad here, the obituary should have blood or step children that were taken care of for decades
Thatβs ridiculous. If youβre that petty, I bet the boyfriend hopes you cut ties with him too.
People forget. . It is a hard time emotionally.
Youβre not married you wonβt go on the obituary
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NO. Absolutely not. Hang in there, remember the love.
Find a different hill. You are cutting off you nose to spite your face.
Stop it . Respect the family
Forgive and let it go.
Hahaha, karobandikaβ¦
Let it go , get over it
My goodnessβ¦petty. let it be.
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Look, they are in a very stressful, heartbreaking situation. Donβt take it personally
Hmmmmmmmmmmmmm
Are you real
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I mean my cunt of aunt didnβt add my sister (half) because my pa and nana denied until a few years ago that she was my dads even though she looks and acts just like him. So I mean have a conversation with your boyfriend on how and why it hurt you and that you donβt want that toxic crap in your life.
God said we MUST forgive to be forgiven.
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This is so stupidβ¦
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Key word here is " boyfriend "
Get rid of the meanness and the bullshit right now or youβll deal wit it the rest of your life. Please take my word for it.
Talk to your boyfriend.
Maybe you all should sit down and talk, ask whyβ¦ Donβt just throw everything away with your boyfriends family because you are upset, without finding out why first.
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When my mom died I didnt put my step kids in there but when my step niece was killed they listed me but not my husband no one was mad about it
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Itβs too much drama. I understand your feelings. But funerals and times like this bring out the worst in people. If you make an issue of it, itβs just going to create undue hard feelings. My pastors wife used to tell me to just be sweet. I never mastered that quality. But I understand what she wanted for me. Peace. Peace is a wonderful thing.
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I wouldnβt cut ties but I would definitely talk to the boyfriend and let him deal with it. Itβs not really your place to address his family unless your on that base with them. Sounds like your not and there maybe be friction there. I would most definitely be hurt if other girlfriends were added. If it was just marital family, no I wouldnβt care.
Why donβt you make a memorial for her. Post it on Facebook. Pics of her and him together. Say something sweet like memories made with poppa are the best memories.
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Say something. That was a direct cut and snack in the face. First talk to your boyfriend. Tell him how hurt you are , and maybe come up together with just the right words to say and express to them. I would definitely guard and protect my daughter from getti g any closer to them if they are going to continue their kuniving ways that hurt so badly!
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I understand how hurtful that can be. It feels like they view you as separate instead of part of the family or one big family. When my husbands Nana passed away he was very hurt when he read her obituary. His family added my name and our bio daughters name, but not my 2 bio sons who he adopted. It can really make the kids feel that separation that they probably already do feel a sense of. Fortunately we donβt have to deal with his family as he cut ties with them years ago. Chances are there will be another instance that you could use to bring this up to them and let them know how hurtful it is and they you and your husband strive to make all of your kids feel important and like part of the family and their support in that would be appreciated.
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love please donβt get upset over this! Donβt let it bother you. You canβt force people to include you. Your child doesnβt mean anything less to her poppy. Its not worth it. Some people get bitter over stuff like this and it doesnβt bother those people one bit. In fact that was more than likely the reason you were left out. Someone wanted you to speak out over it. Me personally Iβd hold a big memorial for poppyβs friends and all of his family including the buttholes who left you out. Host a dinner, share pictures, and let your daughter talk about her poppy. You can get bitter or better. And this is probably one of the worst places to ask a question like this. These women are ASKHoles! I have the biggest softest heart and I use to get so upset when I felt left out. But I realized getting out of my character or getting upset did nothing. Bring something positive about it
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Why would you just cancel them out of your life? Ask why you were left out. If you feel like it is too awkward to ask then you have your answer. Have you ever planned a funeral? It is hard and emotionally exhausting and they were grieving. Cut them some slack and let the BF handle it, if he chooses to do so. If he doesnβt want to, then that may be the real problem.
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I wasnβt Included in my brothers why the fuck would you and your daughter be included in HIS grandfathers obituary? ( btw I should have been but it wasnβt written by family- it was written by the sheriffs or whomever writes suicide obituaries)
You sound like an entitled spoiled brat.
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I would discuss with your boyfriend. It may have been intentional in which you may need to find out why or it could have been an honest mistake. If it was an accident, it doesnβt make it ok but it may not be worth losing βfamilyβ over. Emotions run high at these times and the most obvious people and memories are overlooked.
I would talk to them. It may not have been intentional. Sometimes when people pass especially unexpectedly itβs hard to gather your thoughts. They may feel bad about it also. Iβm sorry this happened to you and your daughter
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My grandpa just passed tho he wasnt biologically my grandpa he had been in my life since I was 12, when my βgrandmaβ and βauntsβ made his obit my sister and I and my kids were left out but my cousins step kids were added. It hurt it hurt a lot so I understand where your coming from. They choose not to associate with us now and I couldnβt tell you why. What Iβve learned is to just move on you cant make people feel bad they knew what they were doing and nothing you say will change whatβs been done.my kids amd your daughter arenβt old enough to even understand the obit but they do know that they were loved by said person and thatβs all that mattersβ¦its honestly just us thats hurt because we are old enough to understand but we can heal and move on
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Nothing like making a family loss all about you. I would never add a βgirlfriendβ to an obit but would add survived by # of grandkids. I say get over it. Support your partner, Let the family mourn their loved one peacefully without adding unnecessary drama. Make your own tribute to honor him and your child.
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Donβt add drama on top of death
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Do not make this about you.
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Personally I would just be curious as to what the reasoning was especially if you all had a great relationshipβ¦but now is certainly NOT the time.
But I wouldnβt be upset about itβ¦like at allβ¦Iβd be more upset at the loss of my loved one.And concerned about how my child is hurting. 
last thing crossing my mind would be my name in the paper.
β¦ maybe it couldve been was an honest mistake due to grief and such β¦or maybe they flat out donβt like youβ¦
but that should be resolved as a family during more appropriate circumstances.
And absolutely you should not leave your boyfriend or his family for not being mentioned in an obituaryβ¦ seems petty. You even said your kid is so upset about losing βpoppyβ how would she feel if half her family was randomly gone too.
You need to let them know you were hurt and go from thereβ¦but not now. Itβs not the time.
Sorry for your lossβ¦and Goodluck w everything
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This is a teaching moment for you to teach your daughter to be the bigger person and let it go.
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Those of you saying the op is making this all about her have never been the brunt of this type of slight before. My kid and I have been the object of stuff like this and I witnessed it happen to others. It was done to be hurtful and mean. You donβt list every other person in the family and purposefully leave out certain names.
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You arenβt married. Your daughter isnβt your boyfriendβs bio daughter. As much as it hurts you arenβt βofficialβ family, so no reason for you to be included in obit. If you were married I could see you being upsetβ¦ but you donβt really have a leg to stand on even if they included the others. Are the otherβs engaged?
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I would be upset, but just remember that theyβre grieving. Itβs honestly not the right time to make arguments as they just lost a loved one. Maybe you can address your hurt feelings once theyβre doing better with the loss. Just have an honest conversation with them. Since the man who passed was really close to your daughter, it seems like they had a good relationship. Donβt take that away from your daughter.
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This isnβt about you or your daughterβ¦Adding drama to death, will just make more drama.
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Atleast ur daughter should be mentioned
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Should you cut ties with family because youβre butthurt? No.
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Why are you making it about you? Itβs about the person they knew decades before you came alongβ¦ get off your high horse.
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They knew what they were doing, they knew exactly how it would effect you probably a reflection on how theyβve always felt about you in my opinion. Have the balls to stand up to them but chances are once you call them out theyβll do exactly what half these comments are doing, blaming the victim
Let it go. Resentment letβs them live rent free in ur head.
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Honestly itβs not that big of a deal. I wouldnβt bring it up cus they and you are mourning. I wouldnβt make it about you. Your bf knows how yβall feel but itβs nothing he can actually fix
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I would speak my mind about it and let them know how it hurt your feelings and Anyone saying your making a big deal is wrong. Girlfriend or not doesnβt matter. Yβall are still family and shouldβve been included. Especially after being together so long. Now a days people donβt even get married anymore. So a Piece of paper shouldnβt define you as being family or not to them
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Itβs typically only the biological family and usually only immediate family is listed(depending on how the family wants the obit). Iβm assuming the other children were listed because they are his children. I wouldnβt take offense to it. You arenβt marriedβ¦
You guys are missing the fact she said every other Girlfriend and child is mentioned.
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