I don’t think so. He knows about the previous relationship & how it affected you… he should be more respectful about how you feel
YOU have ptsd. Not him. YOU are responsible for your own healing not him. Why in the world did you marry someone when you aren’t healed. Your last relationship is not his issue. These sound like YOU problems. Not him problems. You are overreacting 100%.
You do need to work on your issues honestly. It is human nature to look/notice other people. I do it, more often than my partner of 11 years but I absolutely don’t have eyes for anyone else. I point out beautiful men and women! I hate cheaters, this absolutely doesn’t mean he wants someone else!!! But I personally don’t think this is abnormal behavior. I’ve been in some horrible relationships and I worked on myself before getting into another one. This is the healthiest, happiest I’ve ever been and part of that is me being able to be 100% myself and him as well.